Contact Helping.Mom (we don’t spam) Who to hire to help you?  The difference between men and women is seen clearly when asking this question: what is the most important thing when hiring a helper for your mother?  The woman will say things like “she must be kind and generous and gracious and patient and loving and sweet and so forth." The man will respond "nonsense.  Here is what she really must be: " Someone who can take an ass chewing, be criticized, micromanaged, told what to do, how to do it.  Someone who can endure long boring stories with no purposes or points or meanings.  Someone who forgets, with absolute confidentiality. There is a reason why the king would kill everyone of the servants after 12 months of service. Someone who can shift sights quickly & often.  Someone who does their duty. This is work. Do your job. You need them to do their duty. I don’t care if they love it, have a kind heart, or are generous, sweet and kind. These are nice, but not necessary.  You need him to do their job, quietly, against all sorts of negativity, and keep their mouth shut. Confidentiality is Key.   Someone who keeps head in chaos. Dependability, the ability to keep clear head clear in times of panic. For example, if your mom falls down at the shopping mall, what is next. If the oxygen machine breaks, How to change tanks of oxygen when your mother is semi comatose.  Someone who is CPR, willing to use it.  In Terms of pay—pay him/her so much they never leave and instead volunteer to help your mom in more ways than you can pay them to do.  Would I ever hire a male? Certainly.   But I will not hire a Liberal.  Share your thoughts to Info@Helping.Mom