Contact Helping.Mom (we don’t spam) 29 countries, 234 new cities now listening to helping.mom, including new friends below!    Mount Laurel, NJ Oakland, CA Helsinki, Finland  Kanasin, Yucatán  Rensselaer, IN (home of "Brian's Song"  movie, and Speaker of US House of Reps Charlie Halleck) West Lafayette, IN  My 6 goals of being caregiver for my mom:   Integrity--subjective, objective, character/competence/reliability  Context--part of whole, all of fabric, all must win for each to win  Balance--i wasnt born for this, but i am equipped for this. This tho real is not ultimate.   Courage--to learn, fail, say "i am sorry, serve without note, be honest in all directions, say "no," agree to "yes," seek best of all, tell truth, make hardest decisions possible in life  Perspective--kalidoscopic (HOW do you spell this word???) with view like fly  eyes.   Communications--intra, supra, external, to find one who will listen. 85% talk, they dont listen. Who am I a 15% to?