As the year comes to a close, many of us feel the pressure to change—set goals, improve habits, and become “better” versions of ourselves. But what if the way we’ve been trying to grow is actually holding us back?

In this episode, we’re talking about why you can’t hate yourself better—and why punishment, shame, and harsh self-talk don’t create lasting change. Through a deeply personal story from my family’s health journey after cancer, along with honest reflections on weight, habits, and self-criticism, we unpack why so many of us believe being hard on ourselves is the key to progress.

You’ll learn why punishment may stop behavior short-term but never leads to real growth—and what actually does. We’ll explore the power of positive reinforcement, self-love, gratitude, and compassion, and how shifting your inner dialogue can help you build healthier habits without fear or shame.

If you’ve ever felt stuck in cycles of guilt, self-loathing, or “starting over,” this episode is your reminder: lasting transformation starts with kindness. You don’t need to be harder on yourself—you need a better foundation.

✨ You can’t hate yourself better.

✨ But you can love yourself into growth.

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