In this eye-opening episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, Amy and Blair dive deep into the other side of the mental load conversation, exploring what it might feel like to be the partner on the receiving end, from real life stories.
Are they really ignoring the invisible labour… or just overwhelmed in their own way?
Featuring real Reddit stories and brutally honest forum comments, this episode unpacks emotional labour, communication breakdowns, unspoken contracts, resentment, parenting stress, and gender dynamics in relationships.
Whether you're the one carrying the mental load or the one being asked to step up, this episode will stretch your understanding and help you navigate these tensions with more curiosity, compassion, and clarity.
📌 Topics Covered:
• What is mental load, really?
• Why your partner might shut down or seem defensive
• The myth of 50/50 mental labour
• “Optional martyrdom” and emotional overfunctioning
• How to build mental load literacy in your relationship
🔁 Don’t forget to listen to our original episode on Mental Load for foundational context!
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