We’re alive 😅 promise.
In this update episode, we’re sharing an honest update on life behind the scenes of Honey We Need to Chat podcast: burnout, balance, and big changes ahead.
Between raising four kids, working in the not-for-profit world, and creating content we deeply believe in, we hit a wall. So we’re taking a much-needed season break before coming back refreshed, focused, and ready to level up everything we do.
In this episode:
💬 Why we decided to pause the podcast for a season
🧠 What burnout can look like when you love your work
💰 How we’re navigating creative passion when it’s not yet paying the bills
🎙️ Our hopes for 2025 and what’s next for Honey We Need to Chat
☕ Blair’s “Christmas coffee” cameo (proof of life included)
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The #1 Predictor of Health: Tiny Repairs That Make Relationships Last (Harvard Happiness Study)
We’re calling out the “funny” partner-bashing that social media rewards and replacing it with real repair. Backed by the Harvard Happiness Study and other research on wellbeing, we show why relationships are the #1 predictor of health and longevity, more powerful than diet, money, or exercise.In this episode, you’ll learn:• Why contempt in relationships is quietly toxic• How to replace complaints with micro-conversations that rebuild trust• Why weekly relationship check-ins prevent resentment and keep love alive• How to strengthen external friendships to combat loneliness and improve health• Practical couples communication tools you can use today to stop fighting and grow closerIf you want to move from “meh” to meaningful connection, this episode will give you clear next steps.
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Ever wondered why your relationship felt so exciting at the start, and how to bring some of that back now? In this episode of Honey We Need to Chat, Amy and Blair dive into the science of attraction (dopamine vs. oxytocin), why the honeymoon phase fades, and, most importantly, how to reignite the spark in your relationship today.
We’ll share:✅ Why the early days feel so different (and what’s happening in your brain)✅ How to use anchors and memories to reconnect with your partner✅ Questions that spark curiosity and deepen connection✅ Two simple, practical activities you can do THIS week to create fresh honeymoon vibes
Whether you’re dating, married, or somewhere in between, these tips will help you move past routine, shift out of “roommate mode,” and rediscover what makes your love fun, safe, and alive.
📌 Try the challenges in this episode and let us know how it goes, we’d love to hear your reflections!
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How to Reignite the Spark in Your Relationship | Fresh Honeymoon Vibes at Home
Your partner does something that bothers you… do you bring it up and risk an argument, or stay quiet and let it simmer? In this episode, we break down real Reddit relationship stories and give you practical tools to raise concerns without wrecking the moment.What we cover:- Baby talk, mismatched effort, and “the ick” 🤯- Why unmet expectations cause recurring fights- How curiosity changes everything in conflict- The role of love languages in feeling prioritised- Why yelling isn’t “just normal” and how to repair trust💡 This isn’t just theory, we share our own stories, mistakes, and what actually works when emotions run high.___________________________
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This isn’t just theory, it’s practical coaching you can apply in your next hard conversation.
Are you stuck in the same arguments with your partner? This episode of Honey, We Need to Chat reveals how one underrated skill, curiosity, can help you stop fighting and start connecting.
Amy walks through a real-life Reddit story about household chores and shows how judgment and defensiveness shut communication down, while curiosity opens the door to repair, empathy, and lasting connection.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why curiosity is the key to stop fighting with your partner
How your brain and body react differently when you’re reactive vs. curious
Practical sentence swaps to turn arguments into conversations
Tools for self-awareness so you can notice triggers before they escalate
If you want fewer fights and deeper connection, this episode will show you how to change the way you communicate for good.
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Becoming a parent can be an incredibly isolating experience, not just for mums, but for dads too. And yet, dads are often left out of the perinatal conversation. In this episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, Amy and Blair sit down with Tom and Kate Docking, founders of Dad’s Group and Man with a Pram, to explore why fatherhood support is a missing piece in family wellbeing, and how building community changes everything.
What we cover:
The surprising origins of Man with a Pram and how it’s grown into a global movement.
Why isolation hits dads just as hard as mums, and what helps.
The hidden impact of birth trauma and vicarious trauma on fathers.
How supporting dads strengthens the whole family.
Real talk about marriage, communication, and building a village that lasts.
Whether you’re a new parent, a partner, or someone passionate about community, this conversation will inspire you to think differently about connection, fatherhood, and family support.
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If you were married to yourself, would it be a healthy, life-giving relationship, or a hard one? In this Relationship Reset Mini Series- episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, Amy and Blair ask the confronting but transformative question: What’s it like to be in a relationship with me?
We dive into self-reflection, ownership, and the power of curiosity in relationships. You’ll hear:
Why self-awareness is the foundation of emotional safety and trust.
How intention vs. impact shapes your partner’s experience of you.
The practical “mirror effect” tool to check your behaviour in real time.
Questions every partner should ask: Am I reliable? Am I approachable? Do I bring humour, warmth, and consistency?
This isn’t about blame. It’s about recognising what you bring to the table and creating a culture where love, trust, and connection can thrive. Whether you’re married, dating, or single, this episode will challenge and empower you to show up as the kind of partner you’d actually want to be with.
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62. Would You Want to Be Married to Yourself? How Self-Awareness Changes Relationships
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Ever made a New Year’s resolution, only to fall back into old habits by week two? The same thing happens in relationships, we set huge goals, dream of date nights every week, and promise big changes… but nothing sticks.In this episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, we’re breaking down why relationship goals fail and how to actually reset your relationship culture with practical tools that last. Whether you’re feeling disconnected, tired of trying things that don’t work, or just want to bring back curiosity and fun, this conversation is for you.This is Episode 2 in our Relationship Reset mini-series. Last week, we explored how to like your partner again and why curiosity is the secret to bringing relationships back to life. This week, we’re taking it further with the how-to side, the practical habits that make change actually stick.
We cover:✅ Why big relationship goals fail (and how your brain works against you)✅ How to avoid survival mode and build emotional safety✅ The “Half-Size It” Rule for habits that actually stick✅ Relationship reset hacks: micro-moments, habit stacking, celebrating small wins✅ Practical examples you can try TODAY to reconnect with your partner
This isn’t about adding more noise to your week. It’s about real, lasting change in your relationship, one brick at a time.
👉 If you’re ready to stop starting over and actually see progress, hit play, grab your partner, and let’s get practical.
💬 Comment below: What’s one small thing you’ll try this week in your relationship?
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61. How to Make Relationship Goals REALLY Stick | Why Big Promises Fail & What Actually Works
Ever caught yourself thinking, “I just don’t like my partner right now”? You’re not alone, and it doesn’t mean your relationship is doomed.
In this episode we unpack why couples lose the “like” factor, how it’s different from love, and practical ways to bring back the fun, curiosity, and lightness you once shared.
We’ll talk about:
Why you fall into “friend zone” or roommate mode
Cultural lies that make you think the spark is gone
How to spot and change unhelpful relationship rhythms
The surprising role of curiosity in reigniting connection
Small, risk-taking actions that shift your dynamic
This episode will give you the clarity, encouragement, and doable steps to enjoy each other again, even in the busiest, most stressful seasons.
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And join us over the next few weeks as we dive deeper into this Relationship Reset Mini-Series.
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60. How to Like Your Partner Again | Resetting the Culture of Your Relationship
Real love ONLY works when both people are owning their stuff.
If you’re tired of carrying the emotional load, walking on eggshells, or repeating the same arguments, this episode is for you.
In this raw and practical conversation, Amy and Blair unpack what accountability and integrity actually look like in healthy relationships. You’ll learn how to stop the blame cycle, rebuild emotional safety, and create the kind of trust that doesn’t need to be chased.
Whether your partner avoids hard conversations, you’re the one keeping quiet, or things just feel… off, this episode offers a better path forward. One built on honesty, ownership, and a shared commitment to growth.
🧠 What you'll learn:• Why emotional safety starts with self-responsibility• What to do when only one partner is doing the work• Everyday signs you’re avoiding accountability (even without realising it)• The difference between performative apologies and real ownership• How to create a relationship culture rooted in integrity, not resentment
❤️ Accountability isn’t about blame, it’s about becoming safe for each other again.
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How to Build Trust in Your Relationship Through Accountability & Integrity
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Welcome to our REWOUND RE-RELEASE Bonus Series. These are our TOP episodes ever, so we're bringing them back as bonus video episodes.
In one of our most-downloaded conversations, we dive into the heart of what’s really going wrong in so many relationships: uneven emotional labour, avoidant communication, and partners who shut down instead of stepping up. We explore Reddit stories and real listener write-ins that expose the silent struggles so many couples face — including weaponised incompetence, gaming addictions, messy house resentment, and painful mother-in-law dynamics.
💥 Inside this episode:• The real reason your partner shuts down — and what to do about it• Why “I'll try harder” isn’t enough (and how to hold them accountable without blame)• How to start hard conversations that actually lead to change• Mental load, stepfamily tensions, and feeling invisible in your own home• Is gaming harmless... or is it costing your connection?
This one’s honest, raw, and potentially life-changing — whether you're the one carrying the load, or the one ready to grow.
🔁 If you're new here: this is a rewind episode from the Honey, We Need to Chat archives — and it's worth every second.
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Welcome to our REWOUND RE-RELEASE Bonus Series. These are our TOP episodes ever, so we're bringing them back as bonus video episodes.
Does your partner shut down during conflict? Do conversations feel like hitting a brick wall, no matter how hard you try? You're not alone — and it's not hopeless.
In this powerful re-release of one of our most-shared episodes, we explore what’s really going on when one partner stonewalls, shuts down, or avoids hard conversations. We break down the psychology behind it, how to know if it's actually stonewalling (spoiler: it’s not always what you think), and what to do when the person you love just… won’t talk.
You'll hear:
An honest audio submission from a listener wrestling with this dynamic after 13 years of marriage
Real Reddit stories unpacking both sides of the silence
Personal stories from our own relationship (including a toilet disaster 🙈)
How to stop repeating this pattern — even if your partner won’t engage
We also cover Gottman’s Four Horsemen, healthy vs manipulative silence, and what actually helps you reconnect and repair. Whether you’re the one shutting down or the one left hanging, this episode will help you move forward with empathy, self-awareness, and actionable tools.
🛠️ Plus: Why defensiveness, shame, and stress might be the real culprits — and how to change the cycle before it breaks your bond.
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Ever thought, "But I am helping!" — and still ended up in a fight?
This episode is for every couple who’s ever tripped over the invisible burden of mental load.
In this top re-release from Honey, We Need to Chat, we dive into the subtle but powerful dynamics that can derail even well-intentioned partners. Amy shares what mental load actually looks like (hint: it’s not just housework), and Blair reflects on what it felt like to realise he was missing it — despite thinking he was doing the right thing.
We talk about:
Why mental load feels so heavy (and so unseen)
How good guys can still miss the mark
Real scripts for starting a conversation without shame or blame
The invisible work of parenting, household management, and emotional planning
How to share the load without turning it into a scoreboard
Whether you’re the one carrying too much or just starting to notice the weight, this one’s worth a listen — and a share with your partner.
👉 If you’ve ever heard “just let me know how to help”… this is the episode.
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Struggling with miscommunication, built-up resentment, or avoided conversations in your relationship?
In this episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, Amy and Blair unpack what it really means to future-proof your relationship, before emotional triggers, sarcasm, or misaligned expectations quietly wear it down.
We talk:💔 The subtle cracks that break couples, and how to spot them early🎯 Why strong couples still struggle with communication, tone, and emotional triggers🛠️ How to build a relationship that bends (not breaks) under stress
💬 What to do when you feel “off” but don’t know how to start the conversation
🔄 Tools like emotional check-ins, micro-repairs, and curiosity over assumption
Whether you’re the one noticing the cracks or just want to show up better in love, this is your relationship reset point.
Visit www.honeyweneedtochat for free check-in prompts, relationship reflection tools, and powerful starter phrases to reconnect with your partner.
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Ever blurted something out and instantly regretted it? Whether it's sarcasm, body image comments, or unspoken assumptions, clumsy conversations happen in every relationship. In this episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, Amy and Blair dive into the messy aftermath of words that land wrong, even when you didn’t mean it that way.
Using real Reddit stories, they explore what causes these misfires, how emotional baggage and burnout play a role, and what practical tools couples can use to repair and reconnect. From accidental “fat” comments to misreading your partner’s mood, this episode tackles the real-life communication traps couples fall into, and how to come out stronger.
🎙️ Inside the episode:
When your words don’t match your intention
How exhaustion & past experiences fuel misunderstandings
What to do when you’ve triggered your partner
Repair tools and reset scripts that actually work
Why tone, timing, and trauma all matter in conflict
Whether you're the one who said the wrong thing or the one who felt it, this episode will leave you encouraged, equipped, and just a little more self-aware.
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Ever find yourself saying, "That's not what I meant!" after a conversation spirals out of control? Or maybe your partner’s words always seem to come out wrong, sparking frustration instead of connection.
In this practical episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, we're tackling how to overcome clumsy communication, decode mixed messages, and finally say what you mean, clearly and constructively.
From navigating nervous system reactions and emotional overwhelm to mastering practical conversation starters, you’ll gain the tools you need to break unhealthy communication patterns and rebuild clarity and intimacy.
Perfect for anyone exhausted by misunderstanding, miscommunication, or constant relationship tension.
✨ In this episode, learn how to:
Understand why your nervous system sabotages clear communication
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Struggling with blunt comments, sarcastic jabs, or misunderstood intentions in your relationship?
This episode of Honey, We Need to Chat cuts straight to practical tools and honest insights to decode hidden messages, manage emotional triggers, and navigate tough conversations effectively.
Break negative patterns and reconnect with your partner. Perfect for couples ready for clear, constructive communication.
✨ In this episode:
How emotional triggers affect your reactions
Tips to decode hidden meanings behind harsh words
Tools to break negative communication cycles
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In this eye-opening episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, Amy and Blair dive deep into the other side of the mental load conversation, exploring what it might feel like to be the partner on the receiving end, from real life stories.
Are they really ignoring the invisible labour… or just overwhelmed in their own way?
Featuring real Reddit stories and brutally honest forum comments, this episode unpacks emotional labour, communication breakdowns, unspoken contracts, resentment, parenting stress, and gender dynamics in relationships.
Whether you're the one carrying the mental load or the one being asked to step up, this episode will stretch your understanding and help you navigate these tensions with more curiosity, compassion, and clarity.
📌 Topics Covered:
• What is mental load, really?
• Why your partner might shut down or seem defensive
• The myth of 50/50 mental labour
• “Optional martyrdom” and emotional overfunctioning
• How to build mental load literacy in your relationship
🔁 Don’t forget to listen to our original episode on Mental Load for foundational context!
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You finally brought up the mental load. You found the words. You mustered the courage. And then… nothing. Maybe they shut down. Maybe they pushed back. Maybe the conversation just fell flat.
In this powerful follow-up to our original Mental Load episode, we unpack what happens when that invisible labour finally gets named, but the conversation doesn’t land.
Whether you're met with defensiveness, silence, or a flat-out dismissal, this episode walks you through what to do when your partner isn’t ready to engage.
We cover:
What mental load really is (and how it differs from task load)
Why your partner might resist or shut down the conversation
How to zoom out and see the bigger system at play
Practical tools to move forward—even if you're carrying it alone for now
This isn’t about blame. It’s about building bridges, one small shift at a time. If you’ve ever said “I’ve tried to talk about it… but nothing changes,” this one’s for you.
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What’s the feeling you can’t even name, let alone share?
In this episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, we’re diving deep into the emotional undercurrents that silently shape our reactions, create disconnection, and quietly erode intimacy.
We explore the concept of unbearable feelings, those overwhelming emotions like shame, hyper-responsibility, fear of being too much or not enough, and how they manifest in relationships through bottling, numbing, stonewalling, over-functioning, and explosive reactions.
We get raw about their own patterns, childhood roots, and the real-life impact these invisible feelings have on communication, parenting, and connection.
With practical questions, examples, and a free downloadable resource to help you identify your own hidden emotional drivers, this is an episode you’ll want to reflect on, revisit, and share with your partner.
🎧 Whether you’re curious about emotional intimacy, want to communicate better, or just feel stuck in unhealthy patterns, this conversation will give you tools and language to move forward- together.
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