Hello, I'm psychologist and parenting expert Dr Maryhan and this is How Not To Screw Up Your Kids, the podcast for parents, grandparents, educators, and anyone else who wants to be part of a movement to raise confident children who grow up believing in themselves.
Follow now for twice weekly episodes - on Monday's you'll find shorter Bucket Emptying episodes, with longer episodes each Thursday.
The greatest gift we can give our children is self-belief. It will get them further in life than any qualification and is absolutely possible for each and every child; we just need the right information and support around us to teach them.
The old saying ‘it takes a village to raise a child” couldn’t be more true than now. Parenting has got a whole lot harder; not just because we are busier than ever but because our children are growing up in an ever changing, fast-paced world, which is so different to the one we grew up in. Our children have more pressure to be better, look better, do better, and in a world where lives are so publicly scrutinised and commented on through social media it’s really no wonder we’re seeing mental health problems sky rocketing amongst children, teens, and young adults. What you can expect from this podcast are honest conversations about parenting.
We’ll talk confidence resilience, anxiety, managing tech, and all the topics you’d expect as well blowing the lid off the widely help misconception that children are innately resilient. They’re not!
This podcast is for people who want to get real about parenting. You understand it can get messy sometimes and aren’t afraid to admit it. I have had more than my fair share of messy and I will no doubt share these with you along the way. I won’t dress things up but I will always give you something practical to take away and use in each and every episode. My guests and experts will be real people who have overcome their own adversities and bring with them a message to us as parents, as well as inspiring stories.
So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation...
We'd love to hear from you!
We want to hear what you love and what you don't love about the podcast, so we can keep making it better: https://podcastsurvey.typeform.com/to/SEyYrxGB
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Hello, I'm psychologist and parenting expert Dr Maryhan and this is How Not To Screw Up Your Kids, the podcast for parents, grandparents, educators, and anyone else who wants to be part of a movement to raise confident children who grow up believing in themselves.
Follow now for twice weekly episodes - on Monday's you'll find shorter Bucket Emptying episodes, with longer episodes each Thursday.
The greatest gift we can give our children is self-belief. It will get them further in life than any qualification and is absolutely possible for each and every child; we just need the right information and support around us to teach them.
The old saying ‘it takes a village to raise a child” couldn’t be more true than now. Parenting has got a whole lot harder; not just because we are busier than ever but because our children are growing up in an ever changing, fast-paced world, which is so different to the one we grew up in. Our children have more pressure to be better, look better, do better, and in a world where lives are so publicly scrutinised and commented on through social media it’s really no wonder we’re seeing mental health problems sky rocketing amongst children, teens, and young adults. What you can expect from this podcast are honest conversations about parenting.
We’ll talk confidence resilience, anxiety, managing tech, and all the topics you’d expect as well blowing the lid off the widely help misconception that children are innately resilient. They’re not!
This podcast is for people who want to get real about parenting. You understand it can get messy sometimes and aren’t afraid to admit it. I have had more than my fair share of messy and I will no doubt share these with you along the way. I won’t dress things up but I will always give you something practical to take away and use in each and every episode. My guests and experts will be real people who have overcome their own adversities and bring with them a message to us as parents, as well as inspiring stories.
So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation...
We'd love to hear from you!
We want to hear what you love and what you don't love about the podcast, so we can keep making it better: https://podcastsurvey.typeform.com/to/SEyYrxGB
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How do you get your children to cooperate with you, when they just don’t want to?
It’s a problem we all face - our kids will refuse to do something not because they don’t want to, but because we’re telling them to, and it’s so frustrating! So what’s the answer?
In this bucket emptying episode, I’m going to introduce you to the psychology of cooperation, and give you some simple, helpful, and practical tips you can use right away.
So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…
Highlights from this episode:
01:12 - Cooperation is transactional
03:28 - Validate your children’s feelings
04:47 - Explain why
08:10 - Focus on effort and process
10:55 - Self Care
14:17 - Connecting actions to feelings
16:08 - Challenge just enough
19:18 - Offer choices where possible
💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together
💚 For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/
💚 For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library
💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025
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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.
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Does your child struggle with their confidence?
Do you wish you could help?
Well you’re in luck, because confidence is a learned skill, and there are many easy things you can do to help build self-confidence in your kids.
In this episode, I’m going to give you a 10 day plan, which you can start using right now, to help develop those skills and improve confidence. Remember: the brain is a muscle, and confidence is just about giving the right parts of the brain a workout - from taking the lead on tasks to positive reinforcement, it’s easy if you know how!
So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…
Highlights from this episode:
01:02 - One focus per day
03:16 - The Seven Cs
11:48 - Day 1: A wall of fame
14:55 - Day 2: Encourage self-talk to be more growth oriented
16:43 - Day 3: Ask for their help
19:28 - Day 4: Give descriptive praise
21:34 - Day 5: Reflective on 3 good things and 1 learning
22:56 - Day 6: Set aside time to play
25:46 - Day 7: Acknowledge their feelings
27:06 - Day 8: Ask them to do something
28:43 - Day 9: Stage appropriate choices
29:46 - Day 10: Reflect on the last 10 days
💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together
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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.
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Do your children resent you?
Do you resent your children?
How good are you at managing this?
Resentment is a funny thing. It feels like it comes out of nowhere, but actually, it can be the result of many small little events that build up and up until it overflows.
Then, you find yourself arguing with your children, or worse, that resentment just continues to simmer, and it becomes harder to resolve.
We’ve all heard that old saying that prevention is better than cure, so in this bucket emptying episode, I’m going to share some of the most effective ways you can avoid resentment, and give you some really useful tips to help you put these into practice.
So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…
Highlights from this episode:
02:50 - Communicate your needs
09:19 - Manage expectations
14:15 - Learn how to delegate
💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together
💚 For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/
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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.
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On Christmas Day in 1986, 30 million Brits were glued to their screens as Eastenders’ Dirty Den handed divorce papers to Angie Watts, in one of the most watched television episodes of all time.
As shocking as that was in 1986, the reality today is that separation is commonplace and 40% of marriages end in divorce. Many parents part ways, and often our children get caught in the crossfire, through no fault of their own.
With January approaching, when separations are at their highest, how do we make sure our kids don’t suffer from our actions?
And how do we ensure children grow up feeling happy, safe and loved when their parents divorce or separate?
On this episode I am joined by James Hayhurst, the founder of The Parents’ Promise, which is doing some incredible work to campaign for more awareness of separation, and the resources to support children who are experiencing a separation at home.
Whether you have separated, you are going through a divorce, or perhaps you experience this yourself as a child, this episode will really make a difference.
So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…
More about James:
The Parents’ Promise - https://theparentspromise.org.uk/
James on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/jameshayhurst1/
Mentioned in this episode:
17 Signs of Parental Alienation - https://www.parentingstyles.com/parenting/dynamics/parental-alienation/
Highlights from this episode:
02:49 - What is The Parents’ Promise?
05:31 - We can do better
09:05 - We need to talk about divorce
11:33 - What to be mindful of
15:23 - What do young people think?
19:21 - Long term goals
22:49 - Bad partner does not mean bad parent
27:01 - 17 signs of parental alienation
30:28 - Move fast and create things
37:02 - Get involved
💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together
💚 For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/
💚 For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library
💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025
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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.
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From Elf on a Shelf and advent calendars to the business of seeing the whole family in such a short period… Christmas can be stressful, and it can be super overwhelming, especially for us parents.
Santa doesn’t do organising for us, which means the holiday season is often wrought with so much pressure to get everything right, and so often we put that pressure on ourselves.
So in this bucket emptying episode, I’m going to share five top tips to help you manage the upcoming festive season, which you can start using right now to make your holiday planning easier, stress free and successful!
So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…
Highlights from this episode:
01:03 - The silly season
04:19 - Plan ahead
08:56 - Be realistic with yourself
16:02 - Always have a backup plan
18:50 - Don’t take things too seriously
22:52 - Have the difficult conversations in advance
💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together
💚 For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/
💚 For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library
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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.
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Whether it’s toppled block towers, disappointing test results, or missed goals on the sports field, setbacks are a daily occurrence for our children, and I want to show you how to transform them into powerful opportunities for growth.
This is about raising resilient kids who see mistakes not as failures, but as stepping stones.
In this episode, I will share a practical framework you can use at home, and explain how you can use the exposure ladder templates in my resource library to break down those setbacks into small, easy steps.
This is all about reframing challenges in a way that encourages confidence and curiosity, and helps your kids become the happiest, healthiest, and most successful version of themselves.
So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…
Highlights from this episode:
02:24 - The full body alarm
04:54 - Support, don’t solve
06:36 - Positive praise
10:29 - The power of yet
12:55 - Exposure ladders
16:06 - Creating a safe space to take risk
18:40 - Practice is reflective too
20:33 - Maryhan’s playbook
23:00 - Sport, performance, and neurodiversity
27:26 - Listener challenge
💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together
💚 For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/
💚 For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library
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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.
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As parents, we worry. It’s in our nature!
Are they safe?
Are they hungry?
Are they happy?
The list goes on…
But SPOILER ALERT: our kids worry too!
The world is a scary place, and the world around them is constantly changing, with new things to learn and new experiences to process all the time.
In this bucket emptying episode, I’m going to reveal the six most common things your children worry about AND I will share some super practical tips to help you deal with them. Because remember, your job as mum and dad is to support, and that means empowering our little ones to fix things themselves, so that they grow up to be confident, independent, and well-rounded adults.
So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…
Mentioned in this episode:
Becoming Me - https://drmaryhan.com/episode/becoming-me-the-school-years/
Breathing & Take 10 - https://drmaryhan.com/episode/breathing-techniques-for-anxious-children/
Highlights from this episode:
01:02 - Worry is an important emotion
02:25 - Worried about social relationships
06:21 - Worried about social media
08:52 - Worried about big life changes
11:09 - Worried about to-do lists
15:45 - Worried about inconsistency
19:14 - Worried about trauma
22:03 - Name it to tame it
23:46 - Deep breaths
25:39 - Maryhanisms
29:08 - A worry window
💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together
💚 For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/
💚 For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library
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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.
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Are your children currently revising for exams, working hard on an essay, or worrying about homework?
Academic stress is very real, and sometimes the things we do to help, only seem to create more anxiety and overwhelm. So what can you do as parents, to help your kids through homework and revision?
In this episode I’m going to talk through some of the things you must not do, and give you some super practical tips that you can start using right now.
So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…
Highlights from this episode:
01:43 - This is the end goal
03:57 - 3 things to avoid
08:24 - Don’t feed the comparison Gremilins
09:38 - Get the foundations right
12:12 - Don’t get caught up on revision timetables
14:55 - Where is the source of stress?
19:34 - Big tasks into bitesize chunks
22:40 - Break the procrastination cycle
22:51 - Connect the dots
💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together
💚 For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/
💚 For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library
💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025
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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.
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Do you know the difference between a tantrum and a meltdown?
Most parents think they’re the same, but they’re not!
That’s why in today’s bucket emptying episode, I’m going to talk you through the key differences between what they are and how to manage them, because mastering this might just be the difference between a quick win and a sleepless night!
So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…
Mentioned in this Episode:
You Child’s Bucket - https://drmaryhan.com/episode/help-your-child-with-emotional-regulation/
Highlights from this episode:
01:07 - I want versus I can’t
03:04 - Dealing with no
05:33 - The different responses to a tantrum and a meltdown
09:06 - Tantrums are for everyone
11:32 - Not all buckets are created equal
💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together
💚 For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/
💚 For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library
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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.
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What’s the difference between a tantrum and a meltdown?
When should you start worrying about behaviour?
And how do you regulate your kids’ screen time?
In this episode, the tables are being turned as I am the one being interviewed. Daniel Weisberg, Managing Director of CAYP Psychology, asks me about emotional regulation, tantrums, neurodivergence, and lots more.
So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…
Mentioned in this Episode:
CAYP - https://www.cayp-psychology.com/
Highlights from this episode:
01:46 - The last drop in the bucket
05:14 - Meet your child where they’re at
07:12 - Common meltdown triggers
09:57 - HALT
15:25 - When should you worry about behaviour?
17:02- The S word
22:12 - Why is it so hard to switch off?
25:20 - Neurodivergence and regulation
27:30 - Create tech free periods
33:18 - Next steps
38:20 - When is further intervention needed?
💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together
💚 For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/
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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.
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Nobody is a perfect mum, and none of us know everything… not even the experts.
That’s why I found my recent chat with Justine Roberts, founder of Mumsnet, so fascinating. She shared her own insights as a founder, an influencer to millions of parents, and a mum, and it blew my mind.
We covered everything from how to regulate our kids’ use of technology, to why there’s so much shame around weight loss drugs. It’s a conversation not to be missed!
That’s why, in today’s bucket emptying episode, I’m sharing the top five takeaways from that interview, and if you’re also interested in hearing more from Justine, listen to the full episode now - it’s just below this one in the podcast feed.
So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…
Mentioned in this Episode:
Listen to the full Justine Roberts interview: https://drmaryhan.com/episode/rage-against-the-screen-children-tech-social-media-with-mumsnet-founder-justine-roberts/
Mumsnet: https://www.mumsnet.com/
The Other phone: https://www.mumsnet.com/articles/the-other-phone
Highlights from this episode:
00:52 - Worry is a universal part of motherhood
02:39 - Community is crucial
04:54 - Power in numbers
07:37 - Technology & kids is a scary combo
10:11 - Taking the opportunity
💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together
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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.
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Would you give your eight year old a smartphone?
Should children be banned from social media?
How much screen time is too much?
As parents in a digital world, we ask ourselves these questions all the time, and there never seems to be a right answer. But in today’s episode I am joined by Justine Roberts CBE, the founder of Mumsnet, to discuss these very issues.
Justine shares her insights on the relationship between children and tech, what Mumsnet are doing it about it, and she makes a very exciting announcement - you heard it here first, and you do not want to miss this!
So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…
More About Justine & Mumsnet:
Mumsnet: https://www.mumsnet.com/
Rage Against the Screen: https://www.mumsnet.com/news/rage-against-the-screen
The Other phone: https://www.mumsnet.com/articles/the-other-phone
Highlights from this episode:
02:07 - Mums don’t get training
06:07 - The taboo of weight loss drugs
10:38 - Are parenting experts part of the problem?
14:18 - Rage Against the Screen
19:56 - AI’s impact on the brain
22:35 - The addictive algorithms of social media
26:21 - The Other phone
30:54 - More parents are taking their kids’ phone away
💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together
💚 For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/
💚 For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library
💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025
💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com
DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.
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Is your child friends with a bad influence?
Are they being bullied or treated poorly by someone they think is a friend?
Do they struggle to broaden their social circle?
If you relate to any of the above, then this episode is a must listen, because I am going to explain the how, the why, and the what you can do about those unhealthy friendships your children find themselves in.
It happens to everyone, even us parents! But knowing how to spot them and, importantly, knowing how to support your children to see it for themselves, is the real challenge. You might just learn a thing or two about your own relationships as well!
So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…
Mentioned in this episode:
Friendships: The Whole Nine Yards: https://drmaryhan.com/episode/helping-children-with-friendships/
Highlights from this episode:
01:24 - Toxic is toxic
03:43 - The warning signs of an unhealthy friendship
05:33 - Focus on the behavior, not the child
09:31 - Listen without judgment
13:43 - Red friend green friend
19:30 - Encourage them to broaden their social network
💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together
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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.
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Diagnoses of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, or OCD, are rising sharply.
But how do you know if you or your child might have it?
And what can you do about it?
It can be hard to find the right info about symptoms, causes, and treatment. So In this episode I’m going to talk through what OCD is, but also what it isn’t, and what the common early signs are.
Plus, I’ll give you some super easy, practical things you can do right away to support your children in the best way possible.
So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…
Mentioned in this episode:
Reports of OCD triple: https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cdr612zrl0no
The life event scale: https://www.simplypsychology.org/srrs.html
Highlights from this episode:
01:33 - Are we taking OCD seriously enough?
04:50 - Obsessions versus compulsions
07:54 - Why has there been an increase?
10:16 - Keep it in the family
11:39 - Life events and external triggers
14:51 - OCD early warning signs
18:33 - OCD or anxiety?
21:18 - How can we help our children?
24:42 - Challenge the intrusive thoughts
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Are you looking for fun and free or low cost family activities?
Have you considered reading?
Before you switch off, hear me out, because reading can be an incredibly relaxing and enjoyable activity, and I’m here to explain how you can encourage your children to want to read.
However, there’s been a huge decline in recent years of young people who enjoy reading, and it’s on us - the mums, the dads, the parents, the guardians and the teachers - to do something about this.
Reading a good book can be great for the soul, and help not just your kids, but also you, to empty your buckets. That’s why this topic is so important to me.
I will tell you the three main benefits of reading, and what you can do to make reading feel like less of a chore to your kids.
So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…
Mentioned in this episode:
Get Britain Reading by The Times: https://www.thetimes.com/uk/get-britain-reading?msockid=2f94feb8d57068851bbdebd1d476690b
Highlights from this episode:
00:41 - Get Britain reading again
04:55 - The numbers don’t lie
07:26 - The three benefits
10:52 - Paper beats screen
15:05 - Take the hard work out of reading
19:14 - Model reading for pleasure
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Are you getting in your child’s way?
Should you praise effort or results?
And are you strict enough with enforcing your own rules?
In today’s episode, I’m expanding on a recent episode (linked below), where we explored how your children build their sense of self, to answer the above questions and more.
I’m going to give you the five areas where I believe you can really help your children navigate their most critical stage of identity development. This usually happens around 7-8 years old, but every child is different, so no matter where you are in your parenting journey, this episode will definitely help you.
So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…
Mentioned in this episode:
Becoming Me: How Your Children Develop Their Sense of Identity
Highlights from this episode:
01:28 - Ages 7 to 8 are critical
06:00 - The 8 stages of identity development
09:03 - Do what you say you will
13:28 - Are you getting in your child’s way?
19:17 - Manage your expectations
22:27 - The benefits of praising effort
28:35 - The world is NOT school
31:57 - Episode cheat sheet
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What went wrong?
Have I failed my children?
That’s the question many parents ask themselves when contemplating home schooling. But in reality, the school system simply isn’t the best choice for some children.
In the second part of our discussion, we look closer at the process of choosing a home schooling option, what a good education really looks like, and when or why you might transition your kids back into a school environment.
To have this discussion I am joined by two very special guests…
Ruth Morgan is a mum to two children, one of whom is ASD. She shares her daughter’s story with us, and it will really resonate with any of you experiencing similar difficulties.
She is also an integrative psychotherapist who specialises in neurodivergent adults , especially late diagnosis and co-presenting mental health difficulties, and she also offers coaching to parents whose children are going through diagnosis or related challenges for the family. You can contact Ruth at https://ruthmorgan.co.uk/
Kate Shand is the founder and CEO of Enjoy Education, which provides bespoke educational services tailored to the unique needs of families and students globally. She is also a founding member and vice president of The Tutors’ Association, committed to raising tutoring standards across the industry and around the world. You can find out more at http://www.enjoyeducation.co.uk/
So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…
Highlights from this episode:
01:24 - What does good schooling look like?
08:49 - Neurodivergent burnout
12:31 - The journey back to school
18:50 - The growth option
21:38 - Breaking social moulds
23:55 - Give yourself the space to mess up
28:57 - Every parent has their own story
33:41 - Pushing over the cliff edge
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Has your child ever refused to go to school?
It’s a morning routine all parents dread, but for nearly one in five parents, this is a common occurrence.. But what do you do?
In the first of this special two part episode, I am going to explore the reasons why our kids might not want to go to school and the ways in which both parents and educators can identify and support this.
Because as absenteeism continues to rise, maybe it’s time to stop blaming our kids, and start considering that maybe school doesn’t work for them.
To have this discussion I am joined by two very special guests…
Ruth Morgan is a mum to two children, one of whom is ASD. She shares her daughter’s story with us, and it will really resonate with any of you experiencing similar difficulties.
She is also an integrative psychotherapist who specialises in neurodivergent adults , especially late diagnosis and co-presenting mental health difficulties, and she also offers coaching to parents whose children are going through diagnosis or related challenges for the family. You can contact Ruth at https://ruthmorgan.co.uk/
Kate Shand is the founder and CEO of Enjoy Education, which provides bespoke educational services tailored to the unique needs of families and students globally. She is also a founding member and vice president of The Tutors’ Association, committed to raising tutoring standards across the industry and around the world. You can find out more at http://www.enjoyeducation.co.uk/
So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…
Highlights from this episode:
01:20 - These stats might shock you
05:32 - School refusal
11:46 - How to manage school incapacity
15:23 - Home schooling doesn’t have to be plan z
18:55 - Why are the stats going up?
21:21 - Ruth’s story
29:00 - School support for neurodivergence
32:06 - Schools get a different version of your child
36:35 - A message to schools
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Does your child refuse to go to bed?
Is the nighttime routine a daily stress?
And why won’t your children sleep when they’re tired?
Today’s episode is a listener question, and one I’m sure affects most parents, because it’s all about how to make bedtime less of a battle and more of a breeze.
I am going to talk through the reasons why the sleep showdown happens, give you three things you can do, and give you the ultimate bedtime checklist to work through. There’s no perfect, instant solution because every child is different, but if you take the right approach with the right mindset, you’re halfway towards a peaceful evening!
So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…
Mentioned in this episode:
Parenting at Work: Can We Really Have it All? - https://drmaryhan.com/episode/parenting-at-work-can-we-really-have-it-all/
Highlights from this episode:
02:47 - Audit your shoulds
05:06 - Are we setting impossible standards?
08:28 - Find a moment to empty some of your bucket
12:21 - Download Mode
15:12 - How to set boundaries
17:37 - Where can your child have more autonomy?
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Are you more emotionally mature than your children?
Do you project your problems onto your kids?
Does your child feel like a burden or a failure?
These might be tough questions to think about but, according to a recent study, these are common things your teenagers might be thinking, but do not feel like they can tell you.
And don’t worry, you are not a bad parent, and this isn’t a generational thing. It doesn’t matter if you’re a boomer or a millennial, sometimes we can get so busy doing the day-to-day parenting, that we forget to pay attention and listen - truly listen - to what our kids are trying to tell us.
That’s why I’m doing today’s episode, which is all about helping you to understand what your teens really need from you, and giving you some practical advice which you can start using right away.
So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, take a deep breath, and enjoy the conversation…
Highlights from this episode:
01:21 - What do you wish you could tell your parents?
06:40 - 3 ways you’re not showing up for your teens
12:32 - Invest in self-awareness
15:53 - Reflect in whatever way works for you
18:01 - Start showing up
21:18 - Honest conversations
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