Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Beth Sparksfire — the Queen of Hacienda, New York’s legendary sex-positive community and party scene.
Together, we dive deep into how to be a thoughtful, respectful, and unforgettable sex party guest. Whether you’re a first-timer or looking to level up, Beth shares the real dos and don'ts from her years curating erotic experiences.
We cover:
What to know before attending your first sex party
How to navigate consent, conversation, and energy
Why curiosity is sexy, but entitlement isn't
What not to do when you're naked in public
The importance of aftercare — even at play parties
Creating safer, queerer, more intentional spaces
How Hacienda became the gold standard for sex-positive events
✨ As always, the unedited version of this episode — plus more about my personal dating life, spicy stories, and access to my Close Friends on IG — is on Patreon!