Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with Amanda Dames, the kink consultant and sex & relationship coach, for a deep dive into the world of kink — from power dynamics and negotiation to choking, bondage, chastity, and aftercare. Amanda, a former dominatrix and current coach for couples and individuals, breaks down how to safely explore desire, communicate boundaries, and find confidence in both dominance and submission.

We discuss:

• What a kink consultant actually does and how Amanda works with couples and individuals

• How to talk about kink and start negotiating scenes with a partner

• The concept of core desires: what drives your kinks on a deeper level

• Power exchange and why it’s one of the most common and misunderstood kinks

• How to safely practice choking and the difference between sides and trachea pressure

• How to create and close a scene, use safe words, and practice aftercare

• The difference between a kink and a fetish (and why fantasizing isn’t cheating)

• What to do when one partner is kinky and the other isn’t

• The importance of curiosity, consent, and mutual care in exploring desires

• Why choking porn shouldn’t be banned, it should be taught safely

• How to avoid nerve damage in bondage and the importance of safety scissors

• How to transition between dominance and submission when you’re a switch

• Why chastity for men is on the rise and what makes it exciting

• The realities of power play, punishment, and control

• What good aftercare looks like: from cuddling to next-day check-ins

• Why communication before, during, and after sex prevents harm and deepens connection

• The role of negotiation, consent, and enthusiasm in every scene

• Why more women should take control in bed and why more men should learn to be submissive

• How lingerie, pegging, and roleplay are more common (and fun) than people think

• Amanda’s fetish for being punished and how fantasy enhances orgasm

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@⁠sexwithalexa⁠)⁠ sits on the couch with Robyn Silber⁠ — a former Google software engineer who slept with 70 men in 10 months and then realized she’s asexual. Robyn opens up about her “slut era,” sexual health, discovering demisexuality, navigating autism and dating, and why she’s now working to help lonely men build real connection.

We talk about:

• Dating younger men and having 70 sexual partners in her first 10 months in NYC

• Sexual health: chlamydia, BV, yeast infections, UTIs, and learning to advocate for herself

• Why only ~5 of 70 partners made her orgasm and how she wasn’t asking for pleasure

• The difference between physical attraction and real sexual desire

• How asexuality doesn’t mean low libido or lack of masturbation

• Her current relationship: emotional connection, sensuality, and slow intimacy

• Why everyone should have a “slut era” and what to keep in mind

• Her idea to launch an online support group for men who aren’t getting laid

• The male loneliness crisis and how empathy can rebuild connection

• Why men should focus on friendship, hobbies, and social skills before dating

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with Haley Jakobson, author of Old Enough, bisexual Dream Girl, and OCD Princess, to talk about friendship, therapy, OCD, and sex. Haley opens up about how her OCD has shaped her relationships, sexuality, creative life and how vulnerability and repair have transformed her friendships and intimacy.

We discuss:

• The importance of friendship and why it can be even more transformative than romantic love

• Learning to fight and repair conflict with friends instead of avoiding it

• Friendship breakups, grief, and when to let go vs. when to repair

• How attachment styles (anxious vs. avoidant) affect friendships and conflict

• The parallels between romantic and platonic relationship skills

• Navigating OCD, intrusive thoughts, and relationship anxiety

• Sexual shame, low libido, and reconnecting with desire during recovery

• The impact of COVID on libido, self-pleasure, and intimacy

• How OCD and anxiety affect sexual intimacy and self-image

• Learning to find satisfaction without pressure to perform sexually

• Haley’s upcoming novel Cave Girl and the story behind its title

  
  

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with Nina Divina, Mama Muse and founder of Haus of Muse, for a powerful and playful conversation about confidence, burlesque, sensuality, and how to be the main character in your sex life.

We talk about:

• What “cunt is an energy” really means and how to embody it

• Overcoming body image struggles and learning to love your reflection

• How to be the main character in your sex life and in everyday life

• The power of adopting a persona to boost confidence

• Why teasing is the most underrated form of foreplay

• Teasing vs. flirting — and how anticipation makes everything hotter

• Building sexual confidence through self-love and self-touch

• Reconnecting with your sensuality after losing it

• The importance of breathing, eye contact, and connection before sex

• How “fake it till you make it” and “delulu is the solulu” actually work

• Stretching, sensual movement, and small daily rituals to feel sexy again

• Why confidence, play, and teasing make sex better for everyone

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with Jeff Perla, host of Oh Dear I’m Queer, for a candid, funny, and unfiltered conversation about queer sex, dating, and intimacy.

We discuss:

• Morning hookups, blowjob confessions, and the idea of “nut clarity”
• Seeing Jeff's nudes & live reactions
• Snapchat vs. Instagram, hookup apps, and why Jeff made hoe cards while Alexa makes hoe friendship bracelets
• Bold ways of flirting IRL
• Fire Island and Hamptons stories, including Jeff’s secret hookup with “Chad,” a DL late-blooming bi guy
• Sex toys, magic wands, vibrating cock rings, and why toys aren’t just for women
• Gay hookup culture, Grindr chats, and whether there’s really a “top shortage”
• Therapy insights: Jeff wants to settle down and went to therapy to see if he's the problem
• Bi men in gay spaces, biphobia, and the fear of being “left for a woman”
• Girls’ gays vs. gays’ gays, and the tension over women in gay bars
• Eating disorders, body image, intermittent fasting, and gay pool party pressures
• Open relationships, monogamy fears, and rules like “our bed is our bed”
• Family dynamics, supportive siblings, grandma’s vibrator advice, and parents learning about OnlyFans
• What makes a “pretty dick,” hygiene, cut vs. uncut, and why enthusiasm matters most in oral sex
• Grindr bios, faceless profiles, and navigating hookup app etiquette

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Ali Weiss, New York native, host of Tales of Taboo and unapologetic oversharer, for a raw conversation about rejection, vulnerability, and why we’re all obsessed with the forbidden.

A funny, honest, and deeply relatable episode on being human, craving connection, and owning your messy truth, why rejection stings less when you know yourself, and how vulnerability can be both a calling and a curse. Ali opens up about running her anonymous confessions podcast, burnout, parasocial relationships, and why taboos like sex work and drug dealing deserve compassion instead of judgment.

Other topics we cover:

• The complicated relationship with oversharing and boundaries

• Why rejection isn’t the end of the world, and how to approach people IRL

• The obsession with being a “clean girl” vs embracing messiness

• Why taboo fascinates us and how it secretly connects us all

• Friendships that go deeper than relationships

• Learning to accept yourself so you can handle rejection and find real connection

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is back in bed with Vee, co-host of Girls Gone Deep and almost-certified somatic sex and relationship coach, for a juicy conversation all about sexual fantasies.

We cover:

• Why fantasies are so important for a fulfilling sex life

• The difference between fantasies you should keep in your head vs. the ones you might want to bring to life

• Vee’s wildest fulfilled fantasies (from MFM threesomes to DVPs and even public play at Broadway)

• What it’s really like to plan a gangbang (and why you might not want to force it)

• How shame around our bodies, vulvas, and desires can hold us back — and how to push through it

• Fantasies that should stay fantasies (monster-fucking, Khaleesi worship scenes, etc.)

• The role of community and how to find people who will help make your fantasies a reality

• Fantasies that grow out of childhood wounds, trauma, or praise/degradation kinks

• How to actually ask for what you want and deal with rejection

• Tools for couples and individuals to explore fantasies safely (even if they never leave your imagination)

It’s raw, personal, and full of both funny and vulnerable stories — from getting DVPed on a cruise to being worshipped by multiple partners at once. If you’ve ever wondered where fantasies come from, how to share them without shame, or how to make them happen in real life, this is your guide.

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with certified sexologist and Wonderlust founder Natassia Miller for a deep dive into one of the most common struggles in relationships: mismatched desire.

We break down why sex can get boring in long-term relationships, why the honeymoon phase always fades, and how to actually reignite passion with your partner. From exploring fantasies to reducing the mental load, this episode is a roadmap for couples who feel like they’re not having enough sex — or not the kind of sex they really want.

We talk about:

• Why desire always shifts after the honeymoon phase
• The role of new relationship energy and why it fades
• How mismatched desire shows up in nearly every couple
• Why foreplay is more than just sex — it’s in the daily details
• The importance of “I statements” vs. blaming your partner
• How mental load kills desire, especially for women
• The power of non-sexual touch and small moments of intimacy
• Why women get bored faster in monogamy — and what to do about it
• How to bring up bad or boring sex without crushing your partner’s ego
• The role of masturbation in keeping connection alive
• Introducing novelty, fantasy and kink safely with your partner
• Tools like intimacy card decks to make sexual communication easier
• When to see a professional and how one session can change everything

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Elle Chase (@theellechase), certified life coach, sexologist, sexuality educator, author, and one of the most respected voices in the body acceptance and body neutrality movement. Together, they unpack how body image affects intimacy, relationships, and the ability to feel sexy in your own skin.

In this episode, we dive into:

• The difference between body love and body neutrality

• Baby steps to start feeling sexy when you don’t love your body

• How body image influences desire and long-term passion

• Building connection through touch, intimacy, and skin hunger

• Why self-compassion and communication matter more than confidence

• How to reframe sex as connection, not performance

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with Laura Desirée — absolute stranger, intimacy coordinator and pleasure educator — for an unforgettable conversation about how sex, grief, and shame shape our identities.

In this episode, we dive into:

• What intimacy coordinators actually do on film sets and why they make sex scenes better, not worse

• Why Hollywood has failed at portraying female pleasure and how it should look instead

• The messy overlap of grief and sex and how pleasure can become healing

• The role of kink in teaching care, communication, and boundaries

• Laura’s experience as an identical twin and how sex became her path to self-discovery

• Owning shame, embracing vulnerability, and why our “messiest” moments can make us closer to others

• A hilariously human story of intimacy, trust, and… running out of toilet paper

Laura’s raw honesty and fearless approach to sex and pleasure will make you rethink how you see intimacy, on screen and in your own life.

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with Gabriella Scaringe, founder of Cherri, to explore sexuality and vulvas in the real world — pubic hair trends, labia diversity, harmful language we’ve internalized, and how better design (hello, wide-gusset underwear and swim) can change how we feel in our bodies. We get specific about what actually shows up in everyday life (the “bulge,” the “lip slip”), why that’s normal, and how to shop for pieces that fit and feel good.

What we cover:

• Pubic hair culture now vs. then: why the bush is back, personal preferences (including during oral), and how “cleanliness” isn’t about being hairless.

• Language that harms: the “pastrami vulva” era, innie/outie shame, and how those jokes warp body image.

• Vulva diversity 101: long inner labia are common; symmetry isn’t the standard; vulvas are supposed to be visible sometimes under clothes.

• The “bulge” discourse: when someone called out a “bulge” in a swimsuit pic and Gabriella’s clap-back — it was her vulva. Why visibility ≠ indecency.

• What “lip slip” really means and how design solves for it (without erasing your shape).

• Gusset realities: the industry’s average ~2.5" gusset vs. Cherri’s wider cuts (e.g., a 4" gusset on an XS G-string) and why width, placement, and size-inclusive fit matter.

• Behind the brand: insights from Cherri’s 5,000+-person survey of vulva owners, fit testing across sizes, and why styles take time to release.

• Hygiene myths we’re done with: hair does not equal dirty; vulvas have scent; how to care without over-stripping your skin.

• Body neutrality vs. “love your body”: moving from harm to comfort first, confidence as a practice, and giving yourself permission to pick what feels good.

• Shopping smarter: what to look for in undies and swim (gusset width, rise, fabric, coverage options) and letting comfort lead.

• Our own stories: growing up through the era of hairless ideals, changing tastes, and why embracing “real” bodies feels so freeing.

  
  

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is back with another deep dive into the world of dating, this time with award-winning sex educator and ghostwriter Connie Collins (@thefirstdatediaries). We explore the state of relationships today and reveal what keeps people stuck in situationships and unhappy. It’s often not about your dating profile or messaging speed, but deeper issues like fear of vulnerability and emotional shutdowns.

We cover:

- Understanding sexuality and how to discover what you truly want in relationships.

- Recognizing emotional availability and its impact on your dating experience.

- The loneliness of pretending you're okay with casual dating when you’re not

- The concept of “pussy economics” and why your access is valuable

- Real red flags we ignore and green flags we mistake for red flags.

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is back in bed for another season and she’s kicking things off with adult film icon Small Hands (Aaron Thompson). From monogamy and marriage to aftercare and emotional intimacy on set, Aaron shares what it's really like to live a life of performance — and what happens when the cameras stop rolling. We get deep on female pleasure, working with Owen Gray, porn myths, and how to separate real connection from performative sex. If you’ve ever wondered what love looks like when sex is your job, this one’s for you.

In this episode, we talk about:

• how porn shaped Aaron’s real-life relationships

• what it's like to be monogamous while working in the adult industry

• the emotional aftermath of performing sex on camera

• whether it's really possible to have sex without catching feelings

• how to separate intimacy from performance

• Aaron’s recent divorce and what it taught him

• his take on aftercare and why it's necessary in porn

• how he advocates for female pleasure in a male-driven industry

• what it's like working with Owen Gray and the hype around him

• his thoughts on what sex acts are overrated vs underrated

• what porn gets right and wrong about real desire

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Beth Sparksfire — the Queen of Hacienda, New York’s legendary sex-positive community and party scene.

Together, we dive deep into how to be a thoughtful, respectful, and unforgettable sex party guest. Whether you’re a first-timer or looking to level up, Beth shares the real dos and don'ts from her years curating erotic experiences.

We cover:

• What to know before attending your first sex party

• How to navigate consent, conversation, and energy

• Why curiosity is sexy, but entitlement isn't

• What not to do when you're naked in public

• The importance of aftercare — even at play parties

• Creating safer, queerer, more intentional spaces

• How Hacienda became the gold standard for sex-positive events

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Birna Gustafsson, sex educator with a master's in public health and host of Explicit Studies, to talk about the sea of sexual misinformation we’re constantly swimming in—and how to get better at spotting it.

Together, they bust myths that still circulate widely online (even in sex-positive spaces) and explore how shame, purity culture, and bad science shape our sexual health beliefs.

Expect to learn:

• The actual failure rate of pulling out and why it’s riskier than you think

• Why douching is unnecessary—and can be harmful

• Whether you can get pregnant on your period (hint: you can)

• The truth about HPV, oral sex, and throat cancer

• Why orgasms aren’t the only marker of “good sex”

• The dangers of black-and-white sex advice on social media

• How kids are absorbing harmful beliefs from TikTok, porn & uninformed adults

• Why pegging can turn men into better lovers 👀

• Why we must improve sex ed for healthcare professionals

• How to know if your sex advice source is trustworthy

Birna also shares how she's helping train nurses and midwives to better support patients with inclusive, evidence-based sex education. Plus: her favorite sex ed resources, books, and where to go if you're ready to learn the truth.

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In this very juicy and educational episode, sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with Jamie Joy, a queer, trans certified sex educator and full-blown fisting aficionado. We dive deep (literally and figuratively) into the world of fisting, from how to prep and practice it safely to the surprising aftercare and emotional intensity it can carry.

We also discuss:

• How to prep for fisting (from hygiene to headspace)

• Differences between vaginal and anal fisting

• Safety tips, including glove use, nails, and douching

• Why fisting is more emotional and intimate than you’d think

• What to do if you're curious about trying it

• Debunking myths about poop, pain, and gay panic

• The role of breath, communication, and pleasure in anal play

• The stigma around anal play—especially for straight men

• Jamie's favorite techniques and their own mold of their fist (yes, really!

  
  

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Thea Rose, host of Seggs Talk Radio and founder of a new STI testing startup, to talk about what it really takes to build a sex-positive business—from scratch, with heart, and without losing your mind.

Thea opens up about her messy, honest path as a multi-hyphenate creator, how she juggles podcasting, launching companies, and staying grounded through burnout, ADHD, OnlyFans, and entrepreneurship in a taboo space. If you've ever wondered what it actually takes to build something sustainable in the sexual wellness world—this one's for you.

We get into:

• How to actually niche down without losing your voice or creativity

• Why your “little business” deserves as much celebration as a wedding or baby

• How to recover when your audience isn't aligned (and why starting fresh matters)

• The role of risk-taking in entrepreneurship (and how it shows up in the bedroom)

• Launching an OnlyFans

• Why being passionate about your work matters more than the money

• Sex-positive branding, burnout, and building your dream audience

• The cost of being underestimated as a woman in business

• Choosing to celebrate yourself in your own way

• Craving more intimacy—even in a city full of people

• Why we have to break away from traditional life milestones

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Allie Hoffman, founder of Catch The Feels—a viral in-person dating experience helping people ditch dating apps and reconnect with their bodies, emotions, and intuition.

We dive deep into Allie’s groundbreaking “four systems of knowing” and how we can use the body, emotions, thoughts, and inner truth to date with more clarity and self-trust. Allie opens up about falling for poly men while being deeply monogamous, breaking her pattern of choosing emotionally unavailable partners, and how her body often speaks louder than her mind when it comes to sex and relationships.

We also discuss:

• How to spot the difference between ego and intuition

• Why we keep falling for unavailable people (and how to stop)

• Her practice of using orgasmic energy for sex magic

• The truth about dating apps and why they’re keeping us stuck

• How to “own your erotic map” and be okay with your identity—whether you’re queer, kinky, monogamous or none of the above

• How The Feels was born and what really happens at her IRL dating events

• Why being open to love is the bravest thing you can do

• Sex, breakups, and learning to hear your body say “no”

• How to break your patterns and stop ignoring red flags just because the sex is good

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined once again by photographer, ethical slut, and emotionally available king Matthew Kayman for a raw and wildly entertaining deep dive into threesomes, pegging, vasectomies, and how men can do better in sex and relationships.

We go deep about what it means to unlearn toxic masculinity and embrace a more present, consensual, and pleasure-focused approach to sex. Matt opens up about getting pegged for the first time, navigating group sex with intention, and why he chose to get a vasectomy—and how it’s impacted his confidence and partnerships.

We also unpack:

• Why pegging changed how he shows up as a top and partner

• Tips for navigating MFM threesomes with care and curiosity

• How to explore dominant and submissive roles without ego

• The mental and physical realities of getting a vasectomy (and why you should get one!)

• How to communicate during casual sex without killing the vibe

• Managing a sex-positive roster (with check-ins!)

• The difference between protective and possessive behavior

• Friendship with exes, emotional responsibility, and being a grown-ass slut

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with NYC-based photographer, ethical slut, and reformed cheater Matthew Kayman for an honest, reflective, and hilarious conversation about evolving from messy dating patterns to intentional, kink-informed, and transparent relationships.

We unpack his shift from monogamy to polyamory, navigating play parties, unlearning toxic masculinity, and figuring out how to explore power dynamics while remaining ethical and emotionally available.

✨ In this episode, we talk about:

• How Matthew realized he wasn’t dating ethically—and what changed that
• His transition into ethical non-monogamy and what it taught him about himself
• Tips for flirting, FaceTime pre-dates, and dating apps that don’t suck
• Power dynamics in dating, and how kink helped him explore both dom & sub roles
• Group sex, queer curiosity, and learning how to communicate mid-orgy
• Slutty shame, hot guy privilege, and navigating softness in hookup culture
• Why it’s not just about consent, but context and care
• Lessons from play parties, switching, and setting expectations with new partners

This is an episode about dating better—not perfectly, but with curiosity, compassion, and accountability.

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