Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with sex educator, pleasure expert, and the Handjob Queen herself, Ashley Manta (@cannasexual), for the most comprehensive handjob episode ever recorded, all from the middle of the Ionian Sea aboard a Desire Cruise.
Together, they dive into Ashley’s entire sexual evolution, her journey into sex education, her non-monogamous love story, and her insanely detailed handjob techniques that go way beyond the basics. This episode is part sex education masterclass, part storytelling, part technique demonstration and entirely iconic.
We cover:
How Ashley de-centered penetration in her relationships and learned to prioritize warm-up, touch, and manual stimulation
Why she prefers clitoral stimulation with fingers over any vibrator / oral
Squirting vs orgasm: why they’re different experiences and how Ashley experiences both
Handjobs in cars, the “blowjobs for rides” era, and giving a handjob in a DHL truck
Working at a sex shop and learning techniques from experts like Reid Mihalko, Ducky Doolittle, Tristan Taormino, and more
Her decade of learning technique through sex parties, workshops, and hands-on practice
The “toxic tantra boyfriend” who was incredible at sex but emotionally manipulative
How handjobs became Ashley’s specialty and why she teaches them professionally
Using partners as “live demos” during workshops
Her handjob philosophy: connection, breathwork, presence, pressure, rhythm, and affirmation
How to handle soft cocks, why softness is normal, and how to help someone relax into arousal
Why lube is non-negotiable, why Ashley prefers silicone lube, and her love for the baby bottle warmer hack
Circumcised vs uncircumcised penis techniques and what adjustments matter
Full techniques breakdown
Why Ashley doesn’t enjoy giving blowjobs (TMJ + dislike of cum), and how she clearly makes up for it
Outsourcing BJ duties during group play thanks to her and Nick’s non-monogamous dynamic
Anal play safety and boundaries: how Nick discovered he loves anal, how they explored it safely, and hygiene must-knows
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