Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits on the couch with Robyn Silber — a former Google software engineer who slept with 70 men in 10 months and then realized she’s asexual. Robyn opens up about her “slut era,” sexual health, discovering demisexuality, navigating autism and dating, and why she’s now working to help lonely men build real connection.
We talk about:
Dating younger men and having 70 sexual partners in her first 10 months in NYC
Sexual health: chlamydia, BV, yeast infections, UTIs, and learning to advocate for herself
Why only ~5 of 70 partners made her orgasm and how she wasn’t asking for pleasure
The difference between physical attraction and real sexual desire
How asexuality doesn’t mean low libido or lack of masturbation
Her current relationship: emotional connection, sensuality, and slow intimacy
Why everyone should have a “slut era” and what to keep in mind
Her idea to launch an online support group for men who aren’t getting laid
The male loneliness crisis and how empathy can rebuild connection
Why men should focus on friendship, hobbies, and social skills before dating