Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with certified sexologist and Wonderlust founder Natassia Miller for a deep dive into one of the most common struggles in relationships: mismatched desire.
We break down why sex can get boring in long-term relationships, why the honeymoon phase always fades, and how to actually reignite passion with your partner. From exploring fantasies to reducing the mental load, this episode is a roadmap for couples who feel like they’re not having enough sex — or not the kind of sex they really want.
We talk about:
- Why desire always shifts after the honeymoon phase
- The role of new relationship energy and why it fades
- How mismatched desire shows up in nearly every couple
- Why foreplay is more than just sex — it’s in the daily details
- The importance of “I statements” vs. blaming your partner
- How mental load kills desire, especially for women
- The power of non-sexual touch and small moments of intimacy
- Why women get bored faster in monogamy — and what to do about it
- How to bring up bad or boring sex without crushing your partner’s ego
- The role of masturbation in keeping connection alive
- Introducing novelty, fantasy and kink safely with your partner
- Tools like intimacy card decks to make sexual communication easier
- When to see a professional and how one session can change everything
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