Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with NYC-based photographer, ethical slut, and reformed cheater Matthew Kayman for an honest, reflective, and hilarious conversation about evolving from messy dating patterns to intentional, kink-informed, and transparent relationships.

We unpack his shift from monogamy to polyamory, navigating play parties, unlearning toxic masculinity, and figuring out how to explore power dynamics while remaining ethical and emotionally available.

✨ In this episode, we talk about:

• How Matthew realized he wasn’t dating ethically—and what changed that
• His transition into ethical non-monogamy and what it taught him about himself
• Tips for flirting, FaceTime pre-dates, and dating apps that don’t suck
• Power dynamics in dating, and how kink helped him explore both dom & sub roles
• Group sex, queer curiosity, and learning how to communicate mid-orgy
• Slutty shame, hot guy privilege, and navigating softness in hookup culture
• Why it’s not just about consent, but context and care
• Lessons from play parties, switching, and setting expectations with new partners

This is an episode about dating better—not perfectly, but with curiosity, compassion, and accountability.

💌 Want more? On Patreon, you’ll get the unedited version of this episode, behind-the-scenes tea on my dating and sex life, and access to my Close Friends list on Instagram.

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