Merry Christmas and welcome to this special holiday episode!
As we stand just one week away from the new year, millions of people are setting New Year's resolutions. But here's the hard truth: more than 80% won't make it past January. Many won't even make it to mid-February.
But what if this year could be different?
In this episode, I'm sharing a powerful technique from Dr. David Hawkins' book Letting Go that reveals the real reason your resolutions fail—and how to finally make them stick.
Here's what most people miss:
Every goal you set—whether it's making more money, finding a partner, losing weight, or growing your business—isn't actually about the practical outcome. It's about the emotional outcome you're seeking.
You don't want more money. You want freedom, security, or peace.You don't want a relationship. You want connection, worthiness, or to stop feeling alone.You don't want a new job. You want fulfillment, recognition, or to feel valued.
And here's the problem: When you try to solve emotional problems with practical solutions alone, you stay stuck in the same patterns—no matter how many strategies you try.
In this episode, you'll discover:
When you identify the TRUE emotional root of your goal, the path forward becomes clear. And more importantly, you stop chasing external achievements hoping they'll fix internal emotional wounds.
Why this matters for making resolutions stick:
Your subconscious runs 90-95% of your decisions. If you're setting goals from your conscious mind (strategies, plans, SMART goals) but your subconscious is running on unresolved emotional patterns (unworthiness, fear, lack), you'll self-sabotage every time.
This is why the same problems keep showing up.This is why different strategies don't work.This is why you give up by February.
The solution isn't another strategy. It's emotional resolution.
This episode is for you if:
Special announcement:
In January, I'm hosting a FREE workshop on Imposter Syndrome in collaboration with an amazing entrepreneur. If you struggle with feeling "not enough" despite your accomplishments, this is for you. Join the Insightful Success Facebook community to get access (link below).
Resources mentioned:
Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays, and here's to New Year's resolutions that actually last past February!
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Why Your Best Employees Are Quietly Quitting (And What Leaders Miss About People) | Dr. Michelle Griffin
What if the reason your high performers are burning out has nothing to do with workload—and everything to do with how they're being seen?
In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Michelle Griffin, PhD candidate in Industrial-Organizational Psychology and founder of Griffin Resources, to talk about what's really happening in today's workplace. Michelle shares her journey from feeling undervalued in corporate HR to building her own successful consulting firm—and what she learned about leadership, worth, and people along the way.
In this conversation, we explore:
Key moments:
Who this episode is for:
Dr. Michelle Griffin is an HR strategist, PhD in Industrial-Organizational Psychology, and founder of Griffin Resources, where she helps small to mid-size organizations build sustainable people practices. Learn more at griffin-resources.com
Connect with Michelle:Website: https://griffin-resources.com
Resources mentioned:
Keywords: employee retention, leadership development, imposter syndrome, workplace burnout, people-first leadership, HR strategy, organizational psychology, work-life balance, generational differences at work, high performer burnout, quiet quitting solutions
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Hit subscribe for more episodes of Insightful Success!You hit your goal. Made the money. Got the promotion. Launched the business.
So why don't you feel different?
Here's what most people don't realize: You're chasing goals when you should be chasing feelings.
You want the six figures because you think it'll make you feel confident. You want the promotion because you think it'll make you feel proud. You want the business because you think it'll make you feel free.
But here's the problem - if you wait until you achieve the goal to feel the emotion, you train your brain into a never-ending cycle. Goal. Achievement. Brief happiness. Next goal. Repeat.
In this episode:
You don't need another goal-setting framework. You need to feel what you're chasing before you achieve it.
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What if imposter syndrome isn't about not being good enough? What if it's actually about your inability to celebrate when you ARE good enough?
In this solo episode, I'm sharing a perspective on imposter syndrome that you've probably never heard before—and it's going to change how you see your success.
Here's what most people get wrong about imposter syndrome:
We think it's about lacking confidence or fearing we'll be "found out." But after 15+ years of clinical work with high-achieving women, I've seen the real pattern: Imposter syndrome is a rejection of joy.
It's not that you don't deserve success. It's that your nervous system literally cannot let you celebrate it.
In this episode, I break down:
The core insight:
If you can't celebrate the small, everyday wins, your nervous system won't suddenly know how to celebrate the big ones. The promotion, the milestone, the achievement you've been chasing—when you get there, you'll feel the same emptiness because you haven't built the capacity for joy.
The solution isn't more accomplishments. It's a daily practice of welcoming joy.
This means:
Key topics covered:
This episode is for you if:
The truth is: You're not an imposter. You're just stuck in a pattern where your nervous system equates joy with danger. And that pattern? It can be changed.
Action steps from this episode:
Resources mentioned:
Remember: The antidote to imposter syndrome isn't achieving more. It's cultivating daily joy and building the capacity to celebrate the life you're already living.
Ready to stop rejecting your joy? Listen now.
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You've written in your gratitude journal. You've said the affirmations. You've posted the sticky notes. So why do you still feel stressed, anxious, and overwhelmed?
Here's what most people miss: gratitude practiced only at the mindset level won't rewire your nervous system. In this Thanksgiving week episode, I'm breaking down why traditional gratitude practices fall short—and how to practice gratitude at the emotional level where real transformation happens.
In this episode, you'll discover:
Key insight: If you're practicing gratitude but still experiencing stress, overwhelm, or control issues in other areas of your life, you're only working at the conscious level. True gratitude happens in the body, not just the mind.
The gratitude practice that actually works:Stop just saying "I'm grateful for..." and start asking: How does gratitude feel in my body? Where do I feel it? How long can I stay in that feeling? This is what rewires your nervous system from survival mode (I don't have) to thriving mode (I already have).
Who this episode is for:
Resources mentioned:
Happy Thanksgiving! May this episode help you practice gratitude in a way that actually transforms your nervous system and your life.
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Keywords: gratitude practice, emotional gratitude, nervous system regulation, scarcity mindset, stress relief, anxiety relief, receiving gratitude, mindset vs emotion, survival mode, gratitude affirmations not working
Hit subscribe - and if you're thinking about New Year's resolutions, my next episode will change how you approach them forever.You did it. You finally walked away from the hustle. The toxic job. The draining relationship. The constant grind.
So why do you feel so lost?
Here's what nobody tells you about leaving hustle culture: the hardest part isn't the decision - it's what comes after. That weird in-between phase where you don't know who you are without the constant doing.
Your old patterns will try to pull you back. Your nervous system will resist the slowdown. You'll question if you made the right choice.
This is normal. And this episode will help you navigate it.
In this episode:
You're not stuck. You're in transition. And transition is where transformation happens.
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You've achieved success. You've checked the boxes. But something still feels off.
Maybe you feel empty despite having "made it." Maybe you can't seem to enjoy what you've built. Maybe you're stuck in patterns—perfectionism, people-pleasing, control—that you know are holding you back, but positive thinking and willpower haven't been enough to change them.
Here's why: those patterns were encoded in your nervous system before you even had language. Before age 7, most of us experienced moments that taught us how to survive—and we've been running those same survival programs ever since.
But what if you could go back? Not to relive the trauma, but to intervene BEFORE the pattern formed?
In this episode, I share a powerful technique that uses the imagination to rewire neural pathways and rebuild trust in yourself. Instead of comforting your inner child after the wound, you go back 10 minutes before it happens—and give that younger version of you what she needed to stay grounded, safe, and loved.
In this episode, you'll learn:
This isn't about reliving painful memories. It's about providing the co-regulation that was missing—so your nervous system can finally stop running survival mode and let you actually live.
Resources mentioned:
If this episode resonates with you, please leave a review and share it with a woman who needs to hear this. Healing has a ripple effect—when one person heals, it spreads joy and safety throughout the world.
Timestamps:
0:59 - Why childhood patterns still affect successful women
9:22 - The power of imagination as a healing tool
15:14 - How this rewires neural pathways and rebuilds trust
15:56 - Why you need support for this work
16:41 - This isn't just for trauma survivors—it's for anyone feeling stuck
18:00 - How to connect and continue this work together
How survival-based habits disguised as personality traits keep high-achievers feeling stuck, burnt out, and unfulfilled.
You can have all the success in the world—and still feel like something’s missing.
In this episode, Roselyn Perez breaks down four survival-based personality profiles that high-performing individuals unconsciously develop to stay safe, seen, or in control.
These hidden patterns—The Controller, The People Pleaser, The Perfectionist, and The Invisible One—are not who you are. They’re coping strategies your nervous system built early in life to protect you.
The problem? When success is built on survival, it’s never enough.
Roselyn explains how each profile operates, the emotional root behind it, and how to disrupt the thought-behavior cycle that keeps you trapped in stress and burnout.
You’ll also learn a powerful self-inquiry tool:
✨ “What would I rather feel instead?” — a question that begins the journey from striving to peace.
If you’re ready to build success that feels aligned, calm, and deeply fulfilling, this episode will help you remember who you are beneath the survival patterns.
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What if everything you've been told about manifestation is missing the most crucial piece?
In this raw and transformative conversation, Jessica Tellian shares how she went from believing she was "stupid" due to having been diagnosed with a learning disability to building a six-figure brand in six months, and why that wasn't actually the hard part.
This episode goes beyond vision boards and affirmations to explore the uncomfortable truth: you don't manifest what you want; you manifest what you are. And sometimes becoming who you need to be means saying no to Nike, leaving a stable career, and completely unidentifying with who you thought you were.
Jessica and host Roselyn Perez dig into:
Whether you're skeptical of manifestation or all-in, this conversation reveals why the real transformation happens in the shadows, in the emotional work nobody talks about. If you've tried manifestation and it didn't work, this episode explains why—and what you're actually missing.
Connect with us!
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"I'm fine."
You say it automatically. Even when you're exhausted. Even when you're overwhelmed. Even when you're barely holding on.
But every time you say "I'm fine" when you're not, you're teaching your brain that you don't matter.
In this episode, I'm exposing why high-achieving women default to "I'm fine"—and how this normalized survival mode is destroying your mental well-being, keeping you in unworthiness, and blocking you from actually enjoying your success.
TIMESTAMPS:
If you're tired of burning out while looking successful, this is for you.
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Let's build wealth without burnout—together.
You've done the work. You know your patterns. You understand why you overwork, why you can't say no, why you feel responsible for everyone's emotions. You've tried changing your behavior, setting boundaries, practicing better habits. And yet—the old patterns come creeping back.
Here's what's missing: identity work.
This episode explores the hidden connection between who you believe you are and why your nervous system refuses to let old patterns go. When your identity is still attached to being "the problem-solver," "the one who has it all figured out," or "the person everyone depends on," your brain will literally process information differently—keeping you stuck in overthinking, worrying, and survival mode.
In this conversation, we dive into:
If you've hit a ceiling with traditional coaching or self-help approaches, this episode names what's been missing—and gives you the missing piece.
This work doesn't happen in isolation. Join a community of leaders doing the real work of identity transformation.
Connect with Roselyn:
Because real change happens when you're willing to question who you think you are—and become who you're meant to be.
Episode DescriptionReady to Go Deeper?
You're building success. You're leading. You're achieving. So why do you still feel overwhelmed, tired, anxious, and apathetic?
Here's what I've seen with high-performing women: they think burnout and exhaustion are just part of the entrepreneurship journey. They normalize feeling drained as the "cost" of success. But what if I told you that's only true when you're building from survival mode?
The real issue isn't your workload or your schedule - it's your identity.
In this episode, I'm breaking down:
Here's the truth: You can achieve massive success from survival mode - many women do. But you'll never enjoy it. You'll always feel like you're running, proving, or escaping something. The identity shift moves you from building to avoid pain to building because you're aligned with your purpose.
This is the work that changes everything - not just your business results, but how success actually feels in your body.
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You've been focusing on anxiety, stress, and overwhelm - but what if those aren't the real problem?
Here's what I've seen with high-achieving women: they're managing their anxiety, doing the personal development work, and checking all the boxes. Yet they still feel like something's missing. That's because the real emotion keeping them stuck is one they've completely overlooked: apathy.
Apathy is the perfect facade. It makes you feel indifferent, nothing's-wrong-here, I'm-doing-fine - while secretly covering up the wounds driving your overachievement. It doesn't trigger alarms like anxiety does, which is exactly why it's so dangerous.
In this episode, I'm breaking down:
Here's the truth: underneath apathy are all the emotions you've been avoiding - and working through them (safely) is actually your pathway to genuine happiness, peace, and freedom.
This work requires safe space and self-regulation tools. That's why I created a 28-day program where you can do this work with support - and if you complete all the tasks, you get your money back: https://insightfulessence.com/from-chaos-to-calm-sales-page
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Are you satisfied with your life? Really, truly satisfied? If you're like most high-achieving women, the answer is probably no - even though you "should" be grateful for everything you have.
Here's what I've discovered: there's a massive difference between growth that comes from survival and growth that comes from thriving. One leaves you constantly chasing and never satisfied. The other brings ease, peace, and genuine fulfillment.
In this episode, I'm breaking down:
This isn't about having a "perfect" childhood or avoiding all struggle. It's about recognizing when you're running on survival programming and choosing to step into your natural state of creativity and love.
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Subscribe if you're tired of feeling numb while looking successful on the outside.
You lead meetings, manage your household, hit your goals - but inside, you feel nothing. You're going through the motions of your life instead of actually living it. This isn't burnout or depression. This is functional freeze.
In this video, you'll learn:
Functional freeze happens when your nervous system shuts down on the inside while you keep performing on the outside. You're not broken - you're stuck in a trauma response that once protected you but now keeps you from feeling alive.
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Which sign of functional freeze do you recognize most in yourself? Let me know in the comments.
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Think boundaries are for other people? Think again.
Here's what I see with my high-achieving clients: they're incredibly strong women who can handle anything life throws at them, but they struggle with one thing - setting boundaries. Why? Because they've been taught that boundaries are about controlling others, when really they're the ultimate expression of self-love.
In this episode, I'm breaking down:
Plus, I'm sharing 4 practical tools to rebuild healthy boundaries:
This isn't about being mean or selfish - it's about honoring what matters most to you and your wellbeing.
Ready to master the art of boundaries? Grab my free masterclass: https://insightfulessence.com/free-masterclass
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Subscribe if you're ready to discover whether you truly accept yourself or just think you do.
In this episode, I reveal the three signs that expose conditional self-acceptance - something most high-achieving women don't even realize they're doing. You might think you love yourself, but if you only feel good when you're winning, have impossible standards for everyone around you, and can never truly enjoy your successes, your self-acceptance has strings attached.
Here's what we cover:
This isn't about self-esteem or confidence - it's about recognizing the unconscious patterns that keep you trapped in a cycle of having to prove your worth over and over again.
If you're tired of feeling like you're never enough, even when you're successful, this episode will help you understand why - and what to do about it.
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What if I told you that anxiety isn't really about the future - it's about grief?
Here's what I've discovered: anxiety is anticipated grief. Your survival system is trying to protect you from a loss that hasn't happened yet, and it's keeping you stuck in patterns that no longer serve you.
In this episode, I break down:
This isn't just theory - these are the exact tools I use with high-achieving clients who look successful on the outside but feel anxious on the inside.
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What if AI is actually pushing us toward something we've been avoiding: emotional intelligence?
Here's what hit me: Throughout millions of years of catastrophic events on this planet, one thing consistently prevailed - intelligence was always favored for survival. We've mastered that part - we have food, shelter, safety. Yet so many high-achieving women are still feeling anxious, stressed, and emotionally exhausted.
Does this make sense to anyone else?
Here's what I think is happening... We're being called to our next evolutionary step. We've conquered the external world, but we're still running on survival-based programming internally.
And here's where it gets interesting - many of us are turning to AI for emotional support and guidance. I'm not against AI, but let me share what I've noticed: AI is missing something crucial that only humans can provide - mirror neurons.
These little guys are how we actually transmit emotions to each other and create real healing. It's why you can feel someone's energy when they walk into a room.
So while AI can give us information, it can't give us the emotional attunement that actually rewires our nervous system and helps us move from survival mode to truly thriving.
Here's the beautiful thing, though - we get to choose. Are we using technology as a bridge to deeper human connection, or as a way to avoid the vulnerability that real growth requires?
What do you think? Have you caught yourself reaching for AI when what you really needed was an authentic human connection?
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So why does it still feel like something’s missing?
In this episode, I’m opening up about a hidden truth high-achieving women rarely talk about: what happens when success looks good—but doesn’t feel good. We’ll explore how nervous system patterns and survival-mode conditioning shape the way we experience success, connection, and self-worth.
If you’re feeling pressure to keep it all together while quietly battling stress, disconnection, or guilt for not feeling “grateful enough,” this episode is for you.
You’ll learn:
The difference between survival-driven and trust-based success
3 simple techniques to shift your emotional state and build deeper inner peace
Why emotional boundaries and nervous system awareness are the keys to real, lasting fulfillment
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