We've made it to 50 episodes! One year of creation, musing, dedication and consistency and SO much learning. Today we're talking about the Law of Least Regret and what intentions I'm taking with me into 2026.   And with that, we're also taking a break! I don't know what's next for Kind [of a] B!tch, but I'm so glad you are here. See you next time.   

I used to be afraid of setting goals because missing one felt like a personal failure.    In this episode, I'm reflecting on how my relationship with goals has changed, what happens when life responds to your effort in unexpected ways, and why I'm learning to trust timing instead of forced outcomes.    This is a New Year conversation about ambition, self-trust, and holding big visions without turning them into rules.

I love discipline. I love effort. I do not love programs that promise confidence and grit through rigid rules and punishment for being human. In this episode, I explain why 75 Hard looks like mental toughness on the surface but actually trains compliance, not self-mastery. I talk about why control often gets mistaken for confidence, how shame gets baked into all-or-nothing challenges, and why these systems tend to backfire for high performers. If you have ever wondered why extreme discipline programs never seem to stick or why you feel worse instead of stronger when you fall off, this conversation is for you.

Manifesting and goal setting are often treated like opposite approaches to New Year resolutions, but they are meant to work together. In this episode, we explore why vision without action leads to frustration, why hard work without intention leads to burnout, and how identity-based action is what actually creates sustainable success. I share a personal story about investing, upgrades, and what really builds credibility over time, including why buying the symbol of success never replaces consistent, embodied action. This is a grounded approach to manifesting that actually works.   Follow along on Instagram: @liz.hake Work with me: www.lizhake.com

This episode is for the anxious ones. The people who like to over explain, justify, or provide additional PROOF when a simple "no" would suffice.    Today we'll talk about the pressure to perform when setting a boundary. That urge to educate and explain shows up fast, especially when we are concerned with perception. 

In this episode, we dig into a form of social anxiety most people never talk about. It is not fear of people...it's the fear of being misread. The fear of being seen as harsh, cold, intense, or unkind when we are simply being ourselves.   We'll explore why this type of anxiety shows up so often for women, how cultural expectations shape our communication patterns, and why so many of us feel responsible for other people’s interpretations. We also break down the research behind the spotlight effect, the real neurological response to anticipated judgment, and why clarity is often labeled differently depending on who delivers it.   This episode is for anyone who has ever second guessed their tone, softened their delivery to avoid judgment, or replayed a conversation long after it ended. It is an invitation to stop managing perception and start trusting your presence.

I'm making the case for why we should ditch the New Year resolutions and just start NOW.   In this episode, I'm unpacking the quiet trap of hesitation and why the New Year often convinces us to wait for a version of ourselves that feels more ready. After spending an entire weekend spiraling about a simple phone call that ended up going smoothly, I'm realizing that the hardest part was everything I imagined BEFORE taking action. This conversation explores how waiting increases pressure, how fear grows in the pause, and why clarity almost always comes from doing the thing instead of thinking about it. You will walk away with practical tools to take one small step now rather than postponing your life until January.

Everyone wants a village, but no one wants to be a villager.    This gauge is how I measure whether giving will burn me out, or build the village and I have been using it CONSTANTLY.    If you're an overgiver-turned-boundaries queen, feeling burnt out, or lonely, this one is for you.   

Do we need friction to feel joy?   This is an exploration today.. not a fully formed thought, but something that has been on my mind as I come out of the fog of my own tough season.   Today we'll explore how the contrast between hard seasons and moments of ease create big moments of joy. Part personal reflection and a bit of neuroscience thrown in for good measure, we'll process why struggle can reset our sense of joy, how dopamine and contrast actually work in the brain, and how to reframe life’s rough patches as part of the rhythm instead of proof that we're off track.

In this final episode of the Audacity series, we're tackling one of the hardest  things to do in a culture that celebrates hustle... REST. In the words of Tricia Hersey from The Nap Ministry: "Rest is an act of resistance."   This episode is a big reminder to myself that recovery is the true key to innovation, creativity, and connection. We’ll talk about why it feels uncomfortable to slow down, how rest can be a kind of trust, and why it matters more than most of us want to admit.   Thank you for being here!

What if changing our minds was viewed not as flakiness, but as paying attention to our intuition?   Today we'll discuss the courage it takes to pivot and to outgrow old plans or expectations. We'll unpack what the research says about growth mindset and why it’s so hard to let go of the identity you’ve worked to build.   This is our fourth episode in our Having the AUDACITY series.

Why is it that honoring our own "no" often makes us feel the most difficult. The most selfish. And the most AUDACIOUS?   Today we're discussing the audacity to say no and how redirecting that energy towards life's best "Yes's" is the only way to go.     

Taking up space isn’t necessarily about being louder... It’s about being rooted in who you are! In this episode I'm exploring what it really looks like to show up fully... without over-explaining, over-performing, or apologizing for it. It’s about learning to hold your own energy with confidence instead of waiting for permission to belong.

What if wanting more isn’t selfish — it’s honest? In this first episode of the Having the Audacity series, we unpack what it really means to let ourselves want more. More freedom, more peace, more choice — and yes, sometimes more money. We talk about the guilt and judgment that can come with ambition, and how giving ourselves permission to want more can open the door to everything else.  

Ever had someone test your patience so hard you almost lost it? This week, I found myself three days into a negotiation with an agent who left me hanging, only to come back with what I call a “fuck you counter.” I snapped — and typed, “You have GOT to be kidding me.” Not my most professional moment… but definitely a human one. In this episode, I’m breaking down what happened, the lessons I pulled from it, and why moments like this are universal. From spotting when someone isn’t engaging in good faith, to protecting your energy, to setting boundaries without apology — this is your reminder: you can’t control how people act, but you can control whether you let them steal your peace. If you’ve ever had a “you have got to be kidding me” moment, this one’s for you.   Email us at admin@lizhake.com. Book Liz for your next event or workshop: www.lizhake.com Follow on Instagram: @liz.hake   Want to get on the list for occasional newsletters and updates? Sign Up Here

Over the past four episodes of the Luck Laboratory, we’ve explored the mindset shifts, bold risks, and authentic connections that shape the way luck shows up in our lives.   In this final episode, we pull it all together into a practical framework — a Luck Blueprint you can actually use. We’ll dig into the science of serendipity, the psychology behind risk and resilience, and the surprising ways relationships expand our chances of lucky breaks.   You’ll leave with a simple weekly practice designed to make you more open, more prepared, and more resilient — because luck isn’t random. It’s something we can cultivate, one bold and intentional step at a time.   Email us at admin@lizhake.com. Book Liz for your next event or workshop: www.lizhake.com Follow on Instagram: @liz.hake   Want to get on the list for occasional newsletters and updates? Sign Up Here

We often think of luck as random, but so many of the ‘lucky breaks’ we admire happen through PEOPLE.   In this episode of the Luck Laboratory, we explore why authentic connection is a powerful magnet for opportunity. We’ll talk about how trust and real relationships create doors that hustle alone can’t open, why being genuinely yourself attracts the right kind of luck (and the right kind of people), and how to move beyond surface-level networking.   This is about cultivating connections that feel good, last long, and lead to serendipity you couldn’t plan if you tried.    

We’ve all heard the phrase ‘luck favors the bold,’ but what does that actually mean? In this episode, we dig into the psychology of risk-taking and the hidden role of survivorship bias—the way we only see the success stories, not the failures that paved the way.   We’ll talk about why stepping into uncertainty can expand our chances of getting ‘lucky,’ how to build psychological safety nets so risk doesn’t feel reckless, and why authenticity and genuine connection matter more than empty social climbing.   This episode is about learning to take smarter, braver leaps so that luck has a chance to meet us halfway.   Email us at admin@lizhake.com. Book Liz for your next event or workshop: www.lizhake.com Follow on Instagram: @liz.hake   Want to get on the list for occasional newsletters and updates? Sign Up Here  

Want to get luckier?   It starts with the way we think. In this episode, we'll dive into the mindset shifts that help us notice opportunities, make better decisions, and stay open to chance events.   Plus, we explore practical strategies to create more moments where luck can find us...because the right mindset isn’t just a mindset, it is how we start to cultivate more luck!   Email us at admin@lizhake.com. Book Liz for your next event or workshop: www.lizhake.com Follow on Instagram: @liz.hake   Want to get on the list for occasional newsletters and updates? Sign Up Here    

We’ve all been there — stuck in an anxiety spiral that feels impossible to escape.   In this episode, I share the story of one of my most ridiculous spirals, what science says about why our brains latch onto fear, and how to catch yourself before you spin out.   Email us at admin@lizhake.com. Book Liz for your next event or workshop: www.lizhake.com Follow on Instagram: @liz.hake   Want to get on the list for occasional newsletters and updates? Sign Up Here