Do you ever feel like your empathy is costing you your energy in marriage?
In this episode, we explore why women who’ve done the work- emotionally, relationally, and socially—- often slip into overgiving when they feel bad for their partners. We unpack how empathy can quietly turn into self-erasure, why this pattern is so common, and how it leads to resentment and disconnection.
You’ll hear relatable marriage scenarios, a powerful reframe on emotional labour, and an unexpected lesson from dogs on how to stay present without abandoning yourself.
If you’re a married dog mom longing for more aliveness, clarity, and empowerment in your relationship, this episode will speak to you.
Plus, learn about Untamed, my group coaching container for dog moms ready to reclaim their voice and energy - guided by their dogs.
Meeting new dogs doesn’t have to mean pushing past discomfort, rushing greetings, or aiming for “good behavior.” When we center nervous system safety, dog introductions can become calmer, clearer, and more respectful - for everyone involved.
In this episode, I share 5 nervous system truths that support safer dog-to-dog interactions, including:
This episode is for dog moms who want to move away from social pressure of "getting it right" and toward regulation, consent, and connection.
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You can understand co-regulation. You can follow all the right accounts. You can know exactly what’s happening in your dog’s nervous system.
And still feel stuck.
In this episode, we explore why co-regulation can’t be learned through scrolling - and why so many thoughtful, deeply caring dog moms find themselves trying harder without feeling any real shift in their relationship with their dog.
This conversation is for you if you:
understand co-regulation intellectually but struggle to embody it
feel pressure to “be regulated” for your dog
notice yourself monitoring, managing, or bracing in hard moments
want a more grounded, attuned relationship — without self-abandonment
This isn’t an episode about doing co-regulation right - it’s an invitation to stop performing safety and start inhabiting it.
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Inside Attune, we build the capacity to stay embodied, responsive, and connected with your dog, especially in the moments that feel hardest.
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How do we hold space for ourselves without shutting out the people, and dogs, we love?
In this episode, we dive deep into the ways our Empowered Guardian Archetypes™ - the Companion, the Steward, the Reclaimer, and the Protector - shape how we set boundaries, navigate love, and honour our energy.
We explore the patterns that show up in everyday life: from the way your dog senses your tension and leans in for comfort, to the ways you co-regulate energy with your partner, friends, or family.
You’ll hear relatable, sometimes humorous examples that will make you think, “Oh my god, that’s me!” while also uncovering the deeper emotional lessons about love, safety, and consequence that influence the way you connect.
This episode is not about “rules” or “shoulds.” It’s about seeing your own instincts, owning your relational patterns, and learning to hold boundaries from a place of love, attunement, and self-respect.
You’ll leave with a gentle, empowering understanding for creating space in your relationships without shrinking, over giving, or losing your wild, intuitive power.
Whether you’re snuggled on the couch with your dog, sitting across from your partner, or reflecting on the people who matter most, this episode invites you to explore how your archetype shapes your heart, your boundaries, and your connection to the world around you.
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In this episode, I explore the profound connection between humans and animals, and why being around dogs can awaken a deeper sense of aliveness for us dog moms.
We dive into how women, in particular, have often been conditioned to suppress their nervous systems, limiting their capacity to fully experience life, connection, and joy.
Through insights and practical guidance, we uncover how returning to “wildness” with the support of dogs can help regulate the nervous system, restore vitality, and transform the way you show up in life and relationships.
This is an invitation to reconnect with your body, your instincts, and the untamed energy that makes you feel truly alive 💜
There is a shift happening - quiet, almost imperceptible, beneath the surface of everyday life. Women everywhere are waking to the truth that their relationships no longer hold the fullness of who they are becoming.
In this episode, we explore how our dogs often become the first relationship to show us what’s truly possible: connection that doesn’t rely on performance, compliance, or shrinking. Through presence, honesty, and raw authenticity, they reveal a new standard of relational possibility - one that can transform marriage, partnership, and all human connection.
Join me as we journey into this new dawn of partnership, uncover the conditioning women have carried for generations, and discover how to step fully into authenticity, expansion, and the relational life you were meant to live.
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In this reflective episode, we explore the complex emotional landscape of guilt as it shows up in the lives of women who care for their dogs.
From feeling guilty about leaving their pets home alone, to questioning if they’re doing “enough,” this conversation delves into how guilt can quietly shape daily caregiving choices.
Rather than pushing the feeling away, the episode invites listeners to sit with their guilt - to notice its texture, its tone, and its message. What is your guilt trying to tell you?
Through gentle reflection and observations, this episode guides women toward transforming guilt from a burden into a teacher, deepening both their self-compassion and their bond with their dogs.
Want to know more about working with me? Check out Attune, my bespoke 1:1 coaching program for women dog guardians who are ready to transform their relationship with their dogs ♥️
EP06: When love meets injustice
In this tender and thought-provoking episode, Surabhi explores what unfolds when love meets injustice—particularly in the lives of women who are deconditioning from control-based paradigms and reclaiming relational ways of being with their dogs.
Rooted in personal reflection, somatic awareness, and attachment-informed practice, this episode invites listeners to notice how systems of patriarchy, capitalism, and dominance have shaped the way we relate—not only to our dogs but to ourselves. We name the subtle, often invisible ways control masquerades as care, and we begin to imagine what justice can look like in the space between us and our animals.
Together, we explore:
The internal conflict between deep love and inherited control
How injustice shows up in training, relationship, and self-talk
What relational justice looks and feels like in daily interactions
Five grounded practices for fostering attunement, co-regulation, and relational integrity
This episode is an invitation to pause, soften, and remember: we do not have to choose control to feel safe. We can choose connection. We can choose presence. We can walk the path of love—without conditions, without coercion, without domination.
For those longing for a different way—with your dogs, your body, and your world—this episode is a gentle companion on the journey.
I'm so excited to welcome all of you into my Telegram community, The Sanctum. This is a community of like-minded women who are braving the journey of embracing relational attunement and coregulation with their dogs and, rejecting control based paradigms.
☾ Episode 4: Secure attachment is the medicine ☽
In this heartfelt and reflective episode, Surabhi explores the concept of secure attachment as the foundation of healing—both in human relationships and in our bonds with dogs. This isn't just theory; it's nervous system-level medicine—a form of connection that reshapes how we and our animals relate, cope, and heal.
She also offers a special invitation to deepen your relationship with this medicine (details below ⬇️ )
In this episode, listeners will:
Hope you enjoy this episode! ❤️
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☾EP05: Relating Beyond Empire: Dogs, Liberation & the Undoing of Power ☽
In this episode of Kinship, Surabhi explores how dog-human relationships can serve as portals to decolonial, anti-capitalist, and relationally just ways of being. Moving beyond obedience and ownership, she asks: what happens when we choose connection over control? What does it mean to listen, not lead?
Through reflections on free-living dogs, ancestral relational wisdom, and everyday acts of consent and co-regulation, this episode invites you into a radically different kind of love—one that heals systems, not just behavior.
This is not training. This is unlearning. This is kinship.
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If you are ready to stop comparing yourself to other dog guardians and move into feeling more confident, empowered and fulfilled in how you care, then take the Empowered Guardian Archetype Quiz and reclaim your own unique and much needed care language.
☾ Episode 3: Balancing assertiveness and receptivity ☽
In this episode of Kinship, Surabhi gently unpacks one of the most essential questions in relational life with dogs: How do we hold boundaries with love while staying open to communication?
Through stories, nervous system wisdom, and practical guidance, we explore how blending clarity with curiosity can help us move beyond control—and into connection.
In this episode, listeners will explore:
𖤓 How to move beyond the binary of “firm or kind” toward relational leadership
𖤓 What healthy, grounded assertiveness looks and feels like in practice
𖤓 Why receptivity is not indulgence—but a vital form of listening and attunement
𖤓 A simple, step-by-step practice for integrating direction with compassion during moments of conflict
𖤓 How embodying both assertiveness and receptivity becomes an act of cultural and nervous system healing—for us and our dogs
Hope you enjoy this episode! ❤️
Ready to step into this reimagined relationship with your dog? 💕
Apply for my 1:1 coaching container where I guide women dog guardians on moving into deep and meaningful attunement with their dogs and themselves.
Take this free quiz and find out your Empowered Guardian Archetype ⬇️
If you are ready to stop comparing yourself to other dog guardians and move into feeling more confident, empowered and fulfilled in how you care, then take the Empowered Guardian Archetype Quiz and reclaim your own unique and much needed care language.
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☾ Episode 1: Softness is a praxis ☽
In this gentle, reflective episode of Kinship, Surabhi explores softness not as fragility, but as a radical, relational practice—one that invites deeper connection with our dogs and ourselves.
Together, we examine how choosing tenderness in moments of dysregulation can transform how we show up in relationship.
In this episode, you will explore:
𖤓 Why softness is a form of resistance—not weakness—in a culture obsessed with control
𖤓 How to meet canine behavior with curiosity instead of correction
𖤓 The link between fear, control, and our nervous system responses
𖤓 What it means to create safety through attunement rather than obedience
𖤓 Daily practices to reclaim tenderness as a path toward healing and connection
You can also engage with some inquiry after the episode:
🌹 where do yo feel the urge to control your dog? What might that urge be protecting or compensating for?
🌹 When you think about “softness,” what emotions or memories arise? Is there resistance? Grief? Relief?
🌹 what’s one small way you can practice softness this week—in how you respond, how you speak, or how you approach a situation?
Hope you enjoy this episode ❤️
Ready to step into this reimagined relationship with your dog? 💕
Apply for my 1:1 coaching container where I guide women dog guardians on moving into deep and meaningful attunement with their dogs and themselves.
Take this free quiz and find out your Empowered Guardian Archetype ⬇️
If you are ready to stop comparing yourself to other dog guardians and move into feeling more confident, empowered and fulfilled in how you care, then take the Empowered Guardian Archetype Quiz and reclaim your own unique and much needed care language.
Giveaway details 📣
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☾ Episode 2: The violence of obedience ☽
What if this expectation of obedience from dogs and ourselves is actually perpetuating a culture of violence?
In this vulnerable episode of Kinship, Surabhi introduces the idea that demanding obedience from our dogs is an act of violence. It sounds loaded, doesn't it? It is, it really is.
She supports this with personal stories and reflections and arrives at through multiple lenses - toxic systems, nervous system understanding and more.
In this episode you'll explore:
𖤓 The hidden costs of obedience
𖤓 Obedience as a tool of control and power
𖤓 What dogs teach us about consent and autonomy
𖤓 The nervous system and trauma of coercion
𖤓 Reframing the relationship beyond obedience
Through this episode, I invite you to reimagine dog companionship based on trust, co-regulation, and mutual respect—where saying “no” is honoured, and softness becomes a radical act of connection.
Ready to step into this reimagined relationship with your dog? 💕
Apply for my 1:1 coaching container where I guide women dog guardians on moving into deep and meaningful attunement with their dogs and themselves.
Take this free quiz and find out your Empowered Guardian Archetype ⬇️
If you are ready to stop comparing yourself to other dog guardians and move into feeling more confident, empowered and fulfilled in how you care, then take the Empowered Guardian Archetype Quiz and reclaim your own unique and much needed care language.
Giveaway details 📣
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I'm back after an 8 months hiatus. And I'm moving into a new season of this podcast called...KINSHIP 🐶 👩
Kinship is a grounded, relational podcast exploring attachment-rooted approaches to canine behaviour. Through personal reflections and gentle inquiry, we decondition from toxic dog culture, corporate capitalism, and patriarchal systems, reclaiming softness, attunement, and relational integrity with our dogs—and ourselves. Inspired by free-living dogs and interspecies kinship, this is a space for those who want to walk the path of connection over control.
I invite you to join me in this journey of returning to safer, tender and more sacred ways to connect with dogs, ourselves and the world around us 🥹 ❤️
In this episode, I chat with Deepti Rao, founder of For the Love of Dog. Her brand is one of the first brands to introduce snuffle mats, long lines and more into the Indian dog household.
We talk about her journey of setting up a pet product business in a niche that was extremely new to the Indian dog parent consumer and her journey of navigating through the highs and lows. As a dog trainer herself, she brings great insight into balancing what both the dog needs but also what the dog parent looks for with products.
If you are small, women-led business, this is a great listen!
Check out the incredible products made by the For The Love of Dog here: https://fortheloveofdog.co.in/
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Welcome to episode 21 and what a fabulous episode this is. I'm so excited and honoured to have Sophie Gamand and Sindhoor Pangal join me for this lovely conversation.
We talk about approaching art keeping in mind the dog's autonomy and agency, how the "pet" industry has persistently commodified dogs and the influence that has on our relationship with them and how dogs are not just a window into the natural world.
I hope you enjoy this episode and are moved by it and left with lots of interesting thoughts and questions for your own journey.
Check out Sophie's work: https://www.sophiegamand.com/
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Welcome to episode 20 of The Luchi & Mutton's Podcast. I think this episode is a total banger because of 2 reasons:
I'm chatting with some of my favourite people, Sowjanya & Eva, both are BHARCS graduates, running their own consulting practice;
I'm talking about something I've wanted to for a really, really long time and there was no better platform this.
I hope you enjoy this episode and find lots of insights & nuggets of powerful self-reflection - we will be back with a few more episodes on similar themes. See you soon!
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To follow Sowjanya's work, check out Dog Pawmise on Instagram & Facebook; to follow Eva's work, check out Noiacanins on Instagram
In episdoe 19, I chat with UK based dog trainer Niki French on whether dogs are really important for all dogs. Niki has been working with dogs for the last 5 years and she's the author of the best selling book, STOP! Walking your dog - a guide to walking with nervous, reactive and over sensitive dogs. She's done such a fabulous job of pushing this awareness that the UK now celebrates a #dontwalkyourdogday.
If you have a nervous/reactive/oversensitive dog with whom walks are a struggle, this episode is for you.
Find out more about Niki French here: https://puptalk.co.uk/
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I chat with Jessica Hyams from Little and Large Dogs, a certified canine behaviourist based out of London with a special focus on bull breeds. We talk about some of the 'traps' bull breed training fall into, what their complex and horrific history about this breed tell us about their behavioural responses and what could a kinder approach to support them look like. It's an incredible episode and I hope you enjoy it.
About Jessica:
She has spent years in non destruct rescue work, rehabilitating bull breeds. As a behaviour consultant, she focuses on the relationship between pain & behaviour, emotional regulation through enrichment and offering a neurological and ethological perspective on these breeds. She can be found at @littlelargedogsldn on Instagram and her website, littleandlargedogs.com
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Tune into episode 17 where I chat with Helen Moore, a canine behaviour coach with 14 years of experience and based out of Canada. She specialises in anxiety and trauma related behaviours. She’s also a certified EFT Tapping practitioner which allows her to support human caregivers, who share share our lives with dogs who are struggling with day-to-day life.
You can follow her work on Instagram at @caninewellnessandeft and @wholesomecanine
Check out: https://wholesomecanine.ca/
To know more about EFT Tapping, check out the following links:
Brad Yates https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCiHZMZejDS4RIxDdBwoie9A
@tapwithbrad
https://www.thetappingsolution.com/
@thetappingsolution
Sacha Bryce
www.coresoulwork.com/welcome@sachabryce.eft
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