In this episode, I explain who you can coach and who you can use your coaching skills with as a leader, why some people are not coachable, and the top 6 groups of people you can use your coaching skills with, including your team and your boss.  As Coach-Leaders, it's important to be clear about who you can coach and why you would coach them — what's the upside for you and for them? And do you need their permission to coach them? I explain the difference between you coaching someone you work with and you using your coaching skills with anyone.  Coaching skills are fundamentally great conversation skills and people are attracted to leaders who can hold safe, non-judgmental and confidential thinking spaces for them to get their heads clear and be confident about what they need to do. There are smart strategic reasons to do this and it comes with a responsibility to act with integrity. Topics in this video ==== 00:00 Introduction 00:30 The coaching agreement and permission to coach 01:34 You need a formal agreement with your executive coach 02:36 You need explicit permission from your direct reports to coach them 03:25 Leaders Who Coach™ can use their coaching skills with anyone 04:47 You do not need permission to use your coaching skills 06:04 Not everyone in your team wants to be coached 07:00 When your direct report does not want to be coached by you 09:48 Some people are not coachable 11:38 Why I built Leaders Who Coach™ 14:22 Using coaching skills with your peers can increase your influence 15:58 Your boss will love the confidential thinking space you create for them 16:43 Transform your prospect and client conversations 17:44 Grow your supplier’s capability with your coaching skills 18:32 Friends and family love coaching conversations too   Mentioned in this episode ==== Building Trust in Every Conversation: The Who Energy Model™ for Coach-Leaders on Podbean and on Apple https://podcasts.apple.com/zw/podcast/005-building-trust-in-every-conversation-the-who/id1816989740?i=1000716202213   🙋🏻‍♀️ Like this? Let me know 👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼   🎙️🎥 LEADERS WHO COACH™ PODCAST ==== On Apple https://bit.ly/appleLWC On Podbean https://bit.ly/podLWC On Spotify https://spoti.fi/3FEamUc On YouTube https://bit.ly/YTLWC ...and other fine places.   LinkedIn EDITION https://bit.ly/454hgdv   💁🏻‍♀️ Follow me on social ==== YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@sehaamcyrene Substack https://substack.com/@sehaamcyrene  LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/sehaam/    Leaders Who Coach™ COURSE ★★★★★ CPD Certified ==== 🥇"Transformational!"🥇"Game-changer!"🥇"Secret sauce to high-performing businesses" 🎩 https://coachlead.co/leaders-who-coach/ 🎥 Watch my YouTube Playlist, Inside the Leaders Who Coach™ Course https://bit.ly/45M5lDA   📕 The Better Conversations RULEBOOK: Questions & Phrases Practised Daily by Leaders Who Coach™ ==== My Amazon #1 Best Seller in Business Management and Leadership ★★★★★ 🎁 https://a.co/d/dl0mndJ  🎁 VOLUME 15% DISCOUNT CODE ** TEAM15 ** https://bit.ly/BCRT15 🌍 Outside UK Orders https://coachlead.co/rulebook/

If I'm in a bad headspace and avoiding doing what feels like a boring or difficult task, what's it going to take for me to open up to you as my boss, considering I'm feeling low in confidence, a bit lost, I'm already judging myself negatively? I have no idea how I'm going to get the work done. And can I trust you to not write me off as incompetent? How are you going to help me, your direct report? Can I trust you? Can you help me shift to a positive headspace? I want to introduce you to the Who Energy Model that I teach in Leaders Who Coach™. This simple model is going to help you as a coach-leader build trust in every conversation you have. In a nutshell, this technique puts the person in front of you, the person you're talking with — which really could be anyone in your life — at the very centre of that. Why is that important? Key chapters in this episode are: 00:00 Introduction — I'm in a bad head space 00:37 Introducing the Who Energy Model™ 02:35 How our human nature distracts and derails us 04:18 Why our ego stops us listening deeply 05:33 Why we avoid big feelings 06:38 The pressure to find the quickest fix 08:21 We are just reacting and coping, not responding 09:51 Positive and negative states of mind in the Who Energy Model™ 11:55 What tips us into negative states of mind 13:43 Five tips for asking beautifully simple questions 16:33 Questions that build trust in conversations 18:19 Questions for more complicated conversations, more negative state of mind 21:51 You make the difference in conversations   🙋🏻‍♀️ Like this? Let me know 👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼   🎙️🎥 LEADERS WHO COACH™ PODCAST ==== On Apple https://bit.ly/appleLWC On Podbean https://bit.ly/podLWC On Spotify https://spoti.fi/3FEamUc On YouTube https://bit.ly/YTLWC ...and other fine places.   LinkedIn EDITION https://bit.ly/454hgdv   💁🏻‍♀️ Follow me on social ==== YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@sehaamcyrene Substack https://substack.com/@sehaamcyrene  LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/sehaam/    Leaders Who Coach™ COURSE ★★★★★ CPD Certified ==== 🥇"Transformational!"🥇"Game-changer!"🥇"Secret sauce to high-performing businesses" 🎩 https://coachlead.co/leaders-who-coach/ 🎥 Watch my YouTube Playlist, Inside the Leaders Who Coach™ Course https://bit.ly/45M5lDA   📕 The Better Conversations RULEBOOK: Questions & Phrases Practised Daily by Leaders Who Coach™ ==== My Amazon #1 Best Seller in Business Management and Leadership ★★★★★ 🎁 https://a.co/d/dl0mndJ  🎁 VOLUME 15% DISCOUNT CODE ** TEAM15 ** https://bit.ly/BCRT15 🌍 Outside UK Orders https://coachlead.co/rulebook/

You're joining me on the Leaders Who Coach™ Podcast today to master the Coach-Leadership Conversation Arc.    This is going to take the boredom, the frustration, the confusion, the wasted energy, the lack of outcome or painfully slow decision-making... basically the drag out of your conversations.    And when you start to apply this Leaders Who Coach™ conversation arc consistently to more and more of your meetings, you'll be thanking me and wondering why no-one ever told you about it before now.  Key chapters in this episode are:   00:00 Introduction01:16 The purpose of the coach-leadership conversation arc02:01 The 3 parts of the conversation arc — the beginning, middle and end03:38 The BEGINNING of the coach-leadership conversation arc05:02 Agreeing the meeting agenda06:32 Contracting the outcome of the conversation08:26 The MIDDLE of the coach-leadership conversation arc — exploration09:27 What to listen out for in conversations09:52 Hold back on ‘solutioning’, create ownership instead12:18 The Who Energy Model™ for Leaders Who Coach™ 13:16 Your Leaders Who Coach™ Conversation Challenge15:04 Questions ask during exploration17:36 Questions — the most powerful tool in leadership and the most underused18:43 Socrates and critical thinking skills20:24 The END in the conversation arc — designing actions21:01 Questions to ask during designing actions22:09 Nuances like giving advice or sharing additional information24:36 Banish boredom and confusion in one-to-one conversations   LINKS & RESOURCES I mention in this episode: ==== Coaching Techniques for People Managers and Leaders   🙋🏻‍♀️ Like this? Let me know 👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼   🎙️🎥 LEADERS WHO COACH™ PODCAST ==== On Apple https://bit.ly/appleLWC  On Podbean https://bit.ly/podLWC  On Spotify https://spoti.fi/3FEamUc  On YouTube https://bit.ly/YTLWC  ...and other fine places.   LinkedIn EDITION https://bit.ly/454hgdv    💁🏻‍♀️ Follow me on social ==== YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@sehaamcyrene  Substack https://substack.com/@sehaamcyrene LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/sehaam/     Leaders Who Coach™ COURSE ★★★★★ CPD Certified ==== 🥇"Transformational!"🥇"Game-changer!"🥇"Secret sauce to high-performing businesses" 🎩 https://coachlead.co/leaders-who-coach/  🎥 Watch my YouTube Playlist, Inside the Leaders Who Coach™ Course https://bit.ly/45M5lDA    📕 The Better Conversations RULEBOOK: Questions & Phrases Practised Daily by Leaders Who Coach™ ==== My Amazon #1 Best Seller in Business Management and Leadership ★★★★★ 🎁 https://a.co/d/dl0mndJ   🎁 VOLUME 15% DISCOUNT CODE ** TEAM15 ** https://bit.ly/BCRT15  🌍 Outside UK Orders https://coachlead.co/rulebook/

To help us answer this episode’s focus — Explaining Coach-Leadership to Your Team, Peers and Your Boss — we start by understanding what it feels like to be a coach-leader and what it feels like to be coached by you. I go on to cover why you would explain your coach-leadership approach and how to do it. Key chapters in this episode are: Understanding what it feels like to be a coach-leader Understanding what it feels like to be coached by you Why would you explain your coach-leadership approach? How we make things harder by rushing conversations Understanding the Socialising Phase to build buy-in Building a pipeline of coach-leadership advocates Inherent responsibility of being a coach-leader Your personal advantages and wins for explaining your coach-leadership approach The Better Conversations Rulebook and your team discount code How to be natural and comfortable in explaining your coach-leadership approach How to explain your coach-leadership approach to your team How to explain your coach-leadership approach to your colleagues and senior leaders If you don't tell them, who will? Creating the interest and attraction Let’s get into this!   🙋🏻‍♀️ Like this? Let me know 👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼   LINKS & RESOURCES I mention in this episode: ==== 🎥 E001 — Why Coach-Leadership Beats Traditional Leadership and Pure Coaching https://youtu.be/VPTwqQJapwk 🎥 E002 — Uncovering the Truth: How Personal Values & Blind Spots Drive Your Leadership Behaviour https://youtu.be/T63-hSJfZos   📕 The Better Conversations RULEBOOK: Questions & Phrases Practised Daily by Leaders Who Coach™ 🎁 SINGLE Print Order https://a.co/d/dl0mndJ  🎁 VOLUME Print Order with 15% DISCOUNT CODE ** TEAM15 ** https://bit.ly/BCRT15 🌍 Outside UK Orders https://coachlead.co/rulebook/   🎙️🎥 LEADERS WHO COACH™ PODCAST ==== On Apple https://bit.ly/appleLWC On Podbean https://bit.ly/podLWC On Spotify https://spoti.fi/3FEamUc On YouTube https://bit.ly/YTLWC ...and other fine places.   LinkedIn EDITION https://bit.ly/454hgdv   💁🏻‍♀️ Follow me on social ==== YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@sehaamcyrene Substack https://substack.com/@sehaamcyrene  LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/sehaam/    Leaders Who Coach™ COURSE ★★★★★ CPD Certified ==== 🥇"Transformational!"🥇"Game-changer!"🥇"Secret sauce to high-performing businesses" 🎩 https://coachlead.co/leaders-who-coach/ 🎥 Watch my YouTube Playlist, Inside the Leaders Who Coach™ Course https://bit.ly/45M5lDA  

There's a high chance your personal values are being compromised every day and your blind spots are derailing you. How you demonstrate genuine care towards a member of your team, how you react when you don't have the answers, your use of clean language that lifts your team up instead of loaded phrases that undermine individuals, and whether in a moment of crisis you choose to seek out facts and hard evidence instead of making emotional interpretations that are unhelpful... these behaviours are all driven by your personal values, the beliefs that guide your decisions, and your blind spots, the things you do that you're not aware of. This is foundational to who you are and how you show up, and I want you to have maximum visibility of your personal values and blind spots so you can be control of how you are showing up. I go into all the little crevices of personal values and blind spots including one personal value that we sometimes feel awkward about owning. What happens to us physiologically and in our brains when our values are compromised? And who exactly compromises our values?  How do our blind spots derail us from living our values and building stronger relationships, and why is it critical to our success in leadership — and specifically coach-leadership — that we know what they are? So many questions to answer (or ask!) today!   FREE RESOURCES I mention in this episode: 🎥 Personal Values Exercise Video: https://youtu.be/9bRDeyzKDJU ⤵️ Personal Values Worksheet: https://bit.ly/LWC-PV  🎥 Blind Spots Exercise Video: https://youtu.be/X9sXFYbh5Yw  🎥 How Leading with Integrity Affects Our Reputation https://youtu.be/M3wl2-ffqKs    🙋🏻‍♀️ Like this? Let me know 👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼   🎙️🎥 LEADERS WHO COACH™ PODCAST ==== On Apple https://bit.ly/appleLWC On Podbean https://bit.ly/podLWC On Spotify https://spoti.fi/3FEamUc On YouTube https://bit.ly/YTLWC ...and other fine places.   LinkedIn EDITION https://bit.ly/454hgdv   💁🏻‍♀️ Follow me on social ==== YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@sehaamcyrene Substack https://substack.com/@sehaamcyrene  LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/sehaam/    Leaders Who Coach™ COURSE ★★★★★ CPD Certified ==== 🥇"Transformational!"🥇"Game-changer!"🥇"Secret sauce to high-performing businesses" 🎩 https://coachlead.co/leaders-who-coach/ 🎥 Watch my YouTube Playlist, Inside the Leaders Who Coach™ Course https://bit.ly/45M5lDA   📕 The Better Conversations RULEBOOK: Questions & Phrases Practised Daily by Leaders Who Coach™ ==== My Amazon #1 Best Seller in Business Management and Leadership ★★★★★ 🎁 https://a.co/d/dl0mndJ  🎁 VOLUME 15% DISCOUNT CODE ** TEAM15 ** https://bit.ly/BCRT15 🌍 Outside UK Orders https://coachlead.co/rulebook/

You are expected to coach your direct reports but you probably haven't even received any leadership training, never mind coach training. I share research with you that confirms this dire state of play in leadership generally that we seem to have just accepted and the costly impact to teams, organisations and ourselves as leaders, some data about why leadership training is failing leaders, why traditional style leaders, command-and-control leaders, cannot create a culture of accountability, why pure coaching interventions for leaders are not addressing the epic problem, and I explain how coach-leadership works magic in the most common every day occurrence you know so well — when your direct report comes to you with a problem. The demand on organisations to perform and innovate, stay ahead of the curve has never been higher — economic uncertainty, high customer expectations, speed of change with AI and automation, re-skilling people fast enough to keep up with change and adapt, and higher expectations from our people to be led better given all the knowledge out there about what great leadership should look like. I hope to pique your interest in coach-leadership and shown you how a simple shift in your stance to responding to a problem your direct report brings to you, by holding space and asking super simple but powerful questions, you can dramatically change the outcome of the conversation and build a culture of engagement, innovation and accountability.   🙋🏻‍♀️ Like this? Let me know 👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼   🎙️🎥 LEADERS WHO COACH™ PODCAST ==== On Apple https://bit.ly/appleLWC On Podbean https://bit.ly/podLWC On Spotify https://spoti.fi/3FEamUc On YouTube https://bit.ly/YTLWC ...and other fine places.   LinkedIn EDITION https://bit.ly/454hgdv   💁🏻‍♀️ Follow me on social ==== YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@sehaamcyrene Substack https://substack.com/@sehaamcyrene  LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/sehaam/    Leaders Who Coach™ COURSE ★★★★★ CPD Certified ==== 🥇"Transformational!"🥇"Game-changer!"🥇"Secret sauce to high-performing businesses" 🎩 https://coachlead.co/leaders-who-coach/ 🎥 Watch my YouTube Playlist, Inside the Leaders Who Coach™ Course https://bit.ly/45M5lDA   📕 The Better Conversations RULEBOOK: Questions & Phrases Practised Daily by Leaders Who Coach™ ==== My Amazon #1 Best Seller in Business Management and Leadership ★★★★★ 🎁 https://a.co/d/dl0mndJ  🎁 VOLUME 15% DISCOUNT CODE ** TEAM15 ** https://bit.ly/BCRT15 🌍 Outside UK Orders https://coachlead.co/rulebook/

Hi, I’m Sehaam Cyrene and I teach leaders how to use coaching skills. In my Leaders Who Coach™ Podcast you learn about skills and techniques straight from my 5-star rated CPD Certified course LEADERS WHO COACH™ that people are calling the “Secret Sauce” “transformational” and a “Game-changer”. Join me.