In this episode, we’re shifting the focus off who you’re dating and putting it back where it belongs — you.Before evaluating someone else’s qualities, intentions, or potential, it’s important to know what you bring to the table — both the strengths and the harder parts.I talk about why forming a relationship with yourself first creates confidence, clarity, and healthier dating dynamics. Not from ego or perfection, but from honest self-awareness. When you know yourself, dating becomes less about proving your worth and more about alignment.This perspective shift can completely change how you move through the dating scene — and who you allow access to you.

This episode is all about one of my favorite uncomfortable truths: we really do overcomplicate our own lives… just fine. Your intuition is always trying to guide you toward the path that actually feels good in the long run, and somehow we still choose the route labeled “pain, chaos, and character development.”

We talk about what happens when you ignore that quiet nudge and stay in situations that drain you — how things slowly start falling apart, not because you’re “unlucky,” but because you’re out of alignment. The right choice isn’t always the easiest, but it’s the one that brings peace instead of problems.

If you’re tired of your life feeling like a series of avoidable plot twists, this episode will hit exactly where it needs to.

In this episode, I talk about the shift from wanting what I can’t have to finally choosing what actually chooses me back. There’s this whole narrative around “the chase,” but honestly? The real thrill is in the kind of connection that forces you to grow. The chill-girl act is just ego dressed up as confidence — and it will eat you alive. Trust me… I learned that the hard way, and I share a little story time about it here.

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The holidays aren’t easy for everyone — and it’s time we stop pretending they are. In this episode, we talk about family dynamics, the emotional pressure of “holiday perfection,” and why having a peaceful, loving family is actually a luxury, not the norm. If you feel stressed, guilty, or misunderstood this time of year, this episode gives you permission to choose peace, set boundaries, and create your own version of family.

This episode is an honest conversation about the difference between looking composed and actually being okay on the inside. I’ve spent years caring more about how I’m perceived than how I truly felt — in dating, friendships, and self-identity.We’re ending those cycles :)#emotionalawareness#selfworth#boundariesmatter#selfvalidation#healingjourney#datingtruths#innerpeace#authenticity#selfrespect#selfgrowth

In this episode, I dive into the excuses we tell ourselves that keep us stuck, why change often feels impossible, and the surprising truth that transformation is always within reach. Together, we’ll unpack the mental blocks, limiting beliefs, and self-sabotaging habits that hold us back—and explore practical ways to step into the life we’re capable of creating. If you’ve ever wondered why change feels so hard and how you actually can do it, this episode is for you.

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In this episode of LFG with Ari, we dive into the idea of “The Game of Life.” On my own growth journey, I’ve been trying to understand how to stop repeating old cycles, manifest faster, and actually feel aligned with what I’m calling in. Seeing life as a game opened more doors than I ever knew existed — it taught me how to face challenges, level up, and keep winning in ways that feel real and grounded.

But here’s the twist: viewing life as a game is healthy… playing with people’s emotions as a game is not. I think a lot of us have had that part mixed up.

Tune in, reflect with me, and let’s growww.

The internet had a lot to say about Vogue’s “Is Having a Boyfriend Embarrassing?” — but most people missed the real message. In this episode, I dive into what the article actually means: empowering women to be multi-dimensional, whether they’re single or in love. It’s not about rejecting relationships — it’s about remembering who you are outside of them.

I took a year off from drinking, dating, and going out — and it completely changed how I see myself. In this episode, I’m sharing how slowing down helped me find real happiness and start choosing what actually feels right for me.

In this episode, I open up about my self-love discovery and journey. For most of my life, I lived in doubt, fear, and anxiety — just trying to survive. It wasn’t until I made one small change that everything started to shift. I didn’t even realize I was beginning a self-love journey; I just knew I wanted something to change. Now, after committing to meditation and self-awareness, I finally understand what it means to truly love myself. If sharing my story or the tools that helped me can comfort or inspire someone else, then it’s all worth it. This episode is raw, heartfelt, silly and real — enjoy.

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He set the time, made the plan, then canceled last minute — and I still felt calm. Because the goal wasn’t the date, it was to see how he’d show up. This episode is about emotional growth, detachment, and remembering that how someone treats you is their reflection, not your value.

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So many of us pour into others without realizing we’ve run empty ourselves. This episode is about taking your power back, filling your own cup first, and remembering: you can’t overflow if you’re running on fumes.

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In this episode, I open up about how deeply insecure I felt throughout my 20s and the ways it shaped me. Ironically, as I step into 30, I’ve never felt more confident in who I am. I’m grateful for the lessons, the mistakes, and even the struggles, because they’ve all led me to this version of myself. If you’ve ever felt lost in your 20s, this one’s for you.

This episode is about why being “unattainable” is actually fake, exhausting, and not confidence at all. I’ve struggled with this pressure to be the girl no one can have, but the truth is I’m not built for games. I’m built for honesty — and I’m tired of dating being a mind f*ck just because people are scared to say what they want.

In this episode, I dive into how every ending in my life has actually been an upgrade in disguise—and why breakups don’t mean you’re losing, they mean you’re leveling up

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In this episode, I dive into why it’s actually dramatic to believe we can’t change our own lives. I share stories from times when I felt stuck, convinced things would never shift, and how I slowly retrained my mind to see my power differently. If you’ve ever felt like change is impossible, this conversation will remind you that you hold more control—and more choice—than you think.

In today’s funeral for the ego we discuss how we’re happy that the ego is no longer with us. Ego only held us back from living our most genuine life. Grab a glass of tequila & dive into the why your ego should pass away too :)

In this episode, I dive into why surface-level living just doesn’t cut it. From friendships to dating to career, I share personal experiences that pushed me to crave more depth, more truth, and more meaning. Society loves to keep us comfortable with the bare minimum — but I believe that’s boring. Life gets so much more exciting, fulfilling, and real when we stop settling for surface level and start demanding depth.

Everyone talks about toxic breakups — but what about the ones that seem healthy? In this episode, I’m opening up about a relationship that didn’t end in cheating or chaos… but in denial, ego battles, and emotional confusion. From gaslighting wrapped in gifts to trying to shrink myself for a version of love I didn’t want to settle for, I share the raw truth about knowing when it’s time to walk away — even when nothing’s technically “wrong.”

We dive into why so many of us get stuck in potential, how ego sabotages even the kindest endings, and why it’s okay to admit a relationship isn’t aligned. Whether you’ve been ghosted, gaslit, or just scared to disappoint someone you love — this one’s for you.

Let me take you back to the moment I caught feelings way too fast, idealized a man after one hookup, and basically scared him all the way off the planet. This episode is about that situationship—the one where I created a whole love story in my head… and he just disappeared.

I reflect on how our standards are built from past pain, how "acting cool" isn't always strength—it’s fear, and why humility in dating doesn’t mean abandoning self-respect. This is for anyone who’s fallen too fast, over-shared too soon, or scared someone away by being too real.

You’re not crazy. You’re just human. And maybe a little delulu.