In this episode of The Life Lived Better Podcast, Joseph and Paula slow things down to talk about something nearly all of us face this time of year: holiday stress. While the season promises joy, connection, and celebration, it often brings pressure, overwhelm, and exhaustion instead. You’re not alone—research shows that nearly 9 in 10 Americans feel stressed during the holidays, and for many, emotional well-being takes a hit.
Paula and Joseph unpack why the holidays can feel so heavy—family expectations, financial strain, loneliness, grief, overpacked schedules, workplace pressure, and the myth of the “perfect” season. They also explore how mental health conditions, substance use challenges, and seasonal depression can intensify this time of year.
But this episode isn’t just about naming the stress—it’s about easing it. Drawing from expert guidance and real-life experience, your hosts share practical strategies for navigating the season with more intention and compassion. You’ll hear helpful tips on setting boundaries, simplifying travel, mindful gift giving, staying grounded with food and alcohol choices, protecting your time, honoring grief, and reaching out for support when you need it.
Whether the holidays fill you with excitement, dread, or a complicated mix of both, this conversation is here to help you breathe a little easier. The season doesn’t have to drain you—it can still fill you up, one conscious choice at a time.
Do you have any questions? If you have a question for Joseph and Paula to answer during a future episode of Questions for Counselors, reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email Info@lifelivedbetter.net
Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession.
We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.
Resources used or mentioned in this episode
Thank you for listening to another Mental Health Moment, from the Life Lived Better podcast, where we quickly provide insight into issues that affect most of us,
In this episode, we are discussing - Comparison.
You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net
Just a reminder - anything shared in this, and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession.
If you have a topic, you would like us to address in a future Mental Health Moment, let us know.
We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.
It is Thanksgiving Day in the United States.
The Life Lived Better Podcast will return next Thursday with a new episode.
This Thanksgiving, we want to take a moment to express our gratitude—to our listeners, our followers, and everyone on the journey of living better every day. Your curiosity, openness, and willingness to grow inspire us to keep exploring the topics that matter most: wellness, resilience, relationships, and living life fully.
As you gather with loved ones (or take some quiet time for yourself), we hope your day is filled with warmth, laughter, and a mindful appreciation of the small moments that make life meaningful.
The Life Lived Better Podcast thanks you for being part of our community. And again - Happy Thanksgiving!
Thank you for listening to another Mental Health Moment, from the Life Lived Better podcast, where we quickly provide insight into issues that affect most of us,
In this episode, we are discussing - Grief & Loss.
You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net
Just a reminder - anything shared in this, and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession.
If you have a topic, you would like us to address in a future Mental Health Moment, let us know.
We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.
In this deeply insightful episode of The Life Lived Better Podcast, Joseph and Paula unpack two powerful — and often misunderstood — relationship dynamics: codependency and counterdependency. Though they seem like opposites, both are rooted in the same place — fear, unmet attachment needs, and a longing for safety and connection.
In this episode, the hosts explore:
Where codependent and counterdependent patterns come from.
How they show up in everyday relationships — from family to friendships to romance.
What happens when these two dynamics collide (spoiler: it’s common and messy).
How to begin healing and move toward healthy interdependence.
You’ll learn how awareness, boundaries, self-compassion, and vulnerability pave the way for genuine connection — without losing yourself in the process.
Whether you recognize yourself as someone who clings or someone who pulls away, this episode isn’t about judgment — it’s about understanding. It’s about learning new ways to relate that feel secure, balanced, and authentic.
Do you have any questions? If you have a question for Joseph and Paula to answer during a future episode of Questions for Counselors, reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email Info@lifelivedbetter.net
Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession.
We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.
Resources for this episode and topic:
Thank you for listening to another Mental Health Moment, from the Life Lived Better podcast, where we quickly provide insight into issues that affect most of us,
In this episode, we are talking Resilience.
You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net
Just a reminder - anything shared in this, and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession.
If you have a topic, you would like us to address in a future Mental Health Moment, let us know.
We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.
Join Joseph and Paula for another episode of a listener favorite - Questions for Counselors. In this episode they take on a variety of questions, including asking our co-hosts if they have ever used substances, what they had to do to become counselors, if counselors see counselors, and how to get over a breakup.
Do you have any questions? If you have a question for Joseph and Paula to answer during a future episode of Questions for Counselors, reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email Info@lifelivedbetter.net
You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net.
Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession.
We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.
Resources mentioned on the episode:
Episode 113: Failing Relationships
Episode 114: After the Relationship Ends
Thank you for listening to another Mental Health Moment, from the Life Lived Better podcast, where we quickly provide insight into issues that affect most of us,
In this episode, we areTaking Mental health to Work.
You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net
Just a reminder - anything shared in this, and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession.
We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.
In this episode Joseph and Paula complete their exploration the difference between healthy and unhealthy romantic relationships. From communication styles and trust to red flags and boundaries, we break down what helps love thrive and what can slowly erode it. Whether you’re currently in a relationship or reflecting on past experiences, this conversation will give you practical insights to better understand what healthy love looks like—and how to spot when things may be turning unhealthy.
Do you have any questions? If you have a question for Joseph and Paula to answer now or during a future episode of Questions for Counselors, reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email Info@lifelivedbetter.net
You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net
Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession.
Please consider rating, reviewing, and sharing our show with others. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.
Previous Episodes Mentioned:
Episode 125: The Power of Boundaries
Episode 20: The 5 Love Languages
Resources used to create this episode:
Harvard-trained couples therapists married nearly 50 years: 5 things people in happy, successful relationships don't do
How to Prepare Yourself for a Healthy Relationship: 12 Key Steps
Marriage.com
In this episode Joseph and Paula explore the difference between healthy and unhealthy romantic relationships. From communication styles and trust to red flags and boundaries, we break down what helps love thrive and what can slowly erode it. Whether you’re currently in a relationship or reflecting on past experiences, this conversation will give you practical insights to better understand what healthy love looks like—and how to spot when things may be turning unhealthy.
Do you have any questions? If you have a question for Joseph and Paula to answer now or during a future episode of Questions for Counselors, reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email Info@lifelivedbetter.net
You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net
Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession.
Please consider rating, reviewing, and sharing our show with others. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.
Previous Episodes Mentioned:
Episode 125: The Power of Boundaries
Episode 20: The 5 Love Languages
Resources used to create this episode:
How to Prepare Yourself for a Healthy Relationship: 12 Key Steps
In this episode, we finish up our conversation with Collier Landry. We were privileged to have Collier Landry join us on the podcast. You might know Collier from the documentary, originally aired on ID TV and now on Prime, called A Murder in Mansfield. Collier was the main subject of that documentary. At 11-years old, Collier was witness to the murder of his mother and at 12 he testified for the defense against his father. His father, Dr. Jack Boyle was convicted and sentenced to life in prison.
Collier is a cinematographer and filmmaker. His work is featured The NY Times, Variety, Esquire, USA Today, The Daily Mail, and The NY Post. He has been a TEDx Speaker and a guest on The Dr. Phil Show. Collier has a podcast called Moving Past Murder, which you can find on the major platforms, and you can watch it live on YouTube.
Visit Collier's website, find information about his podcast, Moving Past Murder, and access his Ted Talk, What Happens When the answers we seek are not what we find or go to his YouTube Channel. Collier can be found on most social media platforms, like Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, and Tik Tok.
Please Note: The content and language in this episode is for adults. Please use discretion when listening.
If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net
You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net.
Paula’s Blog is often updated with information from the show. You can find it at PaulaHellerGarland.BlogSpot.com
Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.
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We were privileged to have Collier Landry join us on the podcast. You might know Collier from the documentary, originally aired on ID TV and now on Prime, called A Murder in Mansfield. Collier was the main subject of that documentary. At 11-years old, Collier was witness to the murder of his mother and at 12 he testified for the defense against his father. His father, Dr. Jack Boyle was convicted and sentenced to life in prison.
Collier is a cinematographer and filmmaker. His work is featured The NY Times, Variety, Esquire, USA Today, The Daily Mail, and The NY Post. He has been a TEDx Speaker and a guest on The Dr. Phil Show. Collier has a podcast called Moving Past Murder, which you can find on the major platforms, and you can watch it live on YouTube.
Visit Collier's website, find information about his podcast, Moving Past Murder, and access his Ted Talk, What Happens When the answers we seek are not what we find or go to his YouTube Channel. Collier can be found on most social media platforms, like Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, and Tik Tok.
Please Note: The content and language in this episode is for adults. Please use discretion when listening.
If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net
You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net.
Paula’s Blog is often updated with information from the show. You can find it at PaulaHellerGarland.BlogSpot.com
Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.
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Thank you for listening to another Mental Health Moment, from the Life Lived Better podcast, where we quickly provide insight into issues that affect most of us,
In this episode, we are talking organization.
You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net
Just a reminder - anything shared in this, and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession.
We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.
In this episode Joseph and Paula continue their Relationship series by diving into the important topic of healthy versus unhealthy family relationships. Families can be a source of love, support, and belonging—but they can also create stress, conflict, or even harm when dynamics become unhealthy. We’ll explore the signs of a supportive, nurturing family system, as well as red flags that may point to toxic patterns. Together, we’ll discuss practical strategies for setting boundaries, fostering open communication, and building healthier connections with loved ones. Whether you’re reflecting on your childhood, navigating current family dynamics, or looking to create a positive home environment, this episode offers insights and tools to help you understand and strengthen your family relationships.
Do you have any questions? If you have a question for Joseph and Paula to answer now or during a future episode of Questions for Counselors, reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email Info@lifelivedbetter.net
You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net
Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession.
Please consider rating, reviewing, and sharing our show with others. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.
Resources used to create this episode:
11 Things Parents Should Never Say To Adult Children If They Want A Real Relationship With Them
Thank you for listening to another Mental Health Moment, from the Life Lived Better podcast, where we quickly provide insight into issues that affect most of us,
In this episode, we are talking cyberbullying.
You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net
Just a reminder - anything shared in this, and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession.
We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.
In this episode Joseph and Paula explore what it means to have a healthy relationship with yourself—and why it matters. The co-hosts break down the key elements of self-respect and emotional well-being. Our hosts share personal reflections, expert insights, and practical tips to help build a more supportive and nurturing inner dialogue. Whether you’re working on healing, growing, or simply learning to show up for yourself, this episode is a reminder: the most important relationship you’ll ever have is the one you have with you.
Do you have any questions? If you have a question for Joseph and Paula to answer now or during a future episode of Questions for Counselors, reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email Info@lifelivedbetter.net
You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net
Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession.
Please consider rating, reviewing, and sharing our show with others. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.
Past Episode mentioned Life Lived Better Podcast Episode 96: Inner Dialogue
Resources used to create this episode:
Greater Good Science Center (UC Berkeley)Kristin Neff’s Self-CompassionPsychology Today
Books of Interest on this Topic
The Gifts of Imperfection by Brené Brown
Radical Acceptance by Tara Brach
Set Boundaries, Find Peace by Nedra Glover Tawwab
Self-Compassion by Kristin Neff
We are excited to let you know about a new addition to our format. We are calling Mental Health Moment, where we will provide insight into issues that affect most of us…but it will be done quickly…with the intention of dropping a nugget in between our more involved episodes. We hope you enjoy them.
In the inaugural episode, we are talking about something that shows up for everyone — stress.
You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net
Just a reminder - anything shared in this, and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession.
We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.
In this episode Joseph and Paula explore the dynamics of social relationships—the good, the bad, and everything in between. What makes a friendship truly supportive? And how can you tell when a relationship is starting to become emotionally draining or toxic? From red flags like manipulation, competition, and one-sided effort to green flags like mutual respect, trust, and accountability, the co-hosts break down the key differences between healthy and unhealthy social bonds. They also share practical tips on setting boundaries, recognizing when to walk away, and how to prioritize your well-being in your social life.
Whether you're questioning a long-time friendship or learning how to build better connections, this episode offers insight and guidance you won’t want to miss.
Do you have any questions? If you have a question for Joseph and Paula to answer now or during a future episode of Questions for Counselors, reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email Info@lifelivedbetter.net
You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net
Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession.
Please consider rating, reviewing, and sharing our show with others. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.
Resources used to create this episode:
Friendship: The Evolution, Biology, and Extraordinary Power of Life’s Fundamental Bond by Lydia Denworth
Greater Good Science Center – UC Berkeley https://greatergood.berkeley.edu
Mental Health America (MHA) www.mhanational.org
The Gottman Institute www.gottman.com
Apps You Might Want to Check Out:
Peanut (for women seeking community and friendship)
Meetup (find local interest groups and events)
Hey! VINA or Friender (apps to make platonic connections)
Circles (group support for people going through similar life experiences)
In this episode, Joseph and Paula continue their series on relationships by taking a look at the essential elements of healthy professional relationships—what they look like, why they matter, and how to build them. From setting boundaries and fostering mutual respect to communicating effectively and navigating workplace dynamics. The co-hosts explore how strong professional connections can lead to personal growth and career success. Whether you're new to the workforce or looking to strengthen your current work relationships, this conversation offers practical insights and information to help you thrive professionally while staying true to yourself.
Do you have any questions? If you have a question for Joseph and Paula to answer during a future episode of Questions for Counselors, reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email Info@lifelivedbetter.net
You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net
Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession.
We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.
Previous Episodes Mentioned:
Episode 78: Emotional Intelligence
Resources Used in the Creation of this Episode:
Crucial Conversations by Patterson, Grenny, McMillan, and Switzler
Dare to Lead by Brené Brown
Harvard Business Review (HBR) www.hbr.org
MindTools www.mindtools.com
The Center for Creative Leadership (CCL) www.ccl.org
Welcome to the kickoff of our new series on Relationships. Join Joseph and Paula as they wade into discussions on what it really means to build and maintain meaningful, supportive connections in every area of life. In this series introduction, the co-hosts lay the foundation for upcoming conversations about professional relationships, friendships, family dynamics, parent-child connections, romantic partnerships, and even the relationship we have with ourselves. Join us as the key ingredients of healthy relationships are explored —like trust, boundaries, communication, and accountability—and why they matter now more than ever. Whether you're looking to strengthen a bond or heal from past patterns, this series is for you.
Do you have any questions? If you have a question for Joseph and Paula to answer now or during a future episode of Questions for Counselors, reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email Info@lifelivedbetter.net
You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net
Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession.
We would love for you to rate & review our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.
Previous Episodes Mentioned in this one:
Link to Episode 125: The Power of Boundaries
Resources used to create this episode:
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