Allison and Jenie sit down with Anita Ervin (host of the Lift and Love non-binary parenting support groups) and how to council with your children in the uncomfortable moments.  When we don't get a vote but we still want to be a voice in our children's decisions.  For instance, if your transgender child wants to seek medical affirming care but you might not agree with the decision.  How do you best help your child? Create emotional distance when possible (i.e. make sure I'm not speaking from a place of fear) Focus on the underlying questions rather than the specific situation. For example: Resolving relationship conflict Addressing relationship expectations Finding trustworthy medical and psychological care Making wise medical decisions 3. Use available (and reliable) resources: Reliable medical sources Trusted professionals Knowledgeable friends (when appropriate) Books (use with caution) Informative podcasts, especially those with guests who are open about their personal experiences Support groups 4. Seek divine inspiration. Heavenly Father understands the position we are in. He will not abandon us when we have the best interests of our loved ones at heart. 5. Don't be afraid to decline the opportunity to give counsel if it's too much for you. Let them know you don't feel like you are in a place that you can share insight with them about it, but that you love them and you're working to overcome your discomfort with the situation because they matter to you.   Join us for any of our free monthly Lift+Love Support Groups - link sign up at Lift+Love Support .   If you are looking to learn the tools and to get the coaching that will help your LGBTQ family thrive while gaining access to other families on this journey you can work 1:1 with Jenie at www.jeniehuntercoaching.com For additional support and help please reach out to us on our IG accounts at Lift+Love and Jenie Hunter Coaching    

Every parent wants to raise a healthy child, no matter what their sexuality is. When your child comes out this is one of the biggest fears that parents of LGBTQ children have. Will they be healthy emotionally and spiritually? In this episode Allison and Jenie talk about how they handled it with their sons and what they have learned helping 100's of families help their child If you are looking to learn the tools and to get the coaching that will help your LGBTQ family thrive while gaining access to other families on this journey you can work 1:1 with Jenie at www.jeniehuntercoaching.com Join us for any of our free monthly Lift+Love Support Groups - link sign up at Lift+Love Support . For additional support and help please reach out to us on our IG accounts at Lift+Love and Jenie Hunter Coaching    

Have you ever listened to a talk that everybody seems to love and you are left with feeling less hope and more fear? Allison and Jenie recently experienced this and they discuss in this episode how to process and find peace. If you are looking to learn the tools and to get the coaching that will help your LGBTQ family thrive while gaining access to other families on this journey than the Lifted Together Community is the place for you.  For details on how to join go to www.liftandlove.org/community Join us for any of our free monthly Lift+Love Support Groups - link sign up at Lift+Love Support . For additional support and help please reach out to us on our IG accounts at Lift+Love and Jenie Hunter Coaching  

We are back! Jenie and Allison talk about the behind the Gathering Conference.  Sharing their experience, behind the scenes moments and what they have learned. To listen to the Gathering Speakers go to Gathering Speakers Youtube If you are looking to learn the tools and to get the coaching that will help your LGBTQ family thrive while gaining access to other families on this journey than the Lifted Together Community is the place for you.  For details on how to join go to www.liftandlove.org/community Join us for any of our free monthly Lift+Love Support Groups - link sign up at Lift+Love Support . For additional support and help please reach out to us on our IG accounts at Lift+Love and Jenie Hunter Coaching  

Most parent's have great fear on what is going to happen with their testimony when their child comes out.  Can they stay in the church and support their LGBTQ child?  Anita Irvin, Allison and Jenie talk about how they have managed this path and share what they needed to do to protect their testimony and how they grew their faith of Jesus Christ If you are looking to learn the tools and to get the coaching that will help your LGBTQ family thrive while gaining access to other families on this journey than the Lifted Together Community is the place for you.  For details on how to join go to www.liftandlove.org/community Join us for any of our free monthly Lift+Love Support Groups - link sign up at Lift+Love Support . For additional support and help please reach out to us on our IG accounts at Lift+Love and Jenie Hunter Coaching      

Worry is a sneaky emotion.  It feels useful and necessary.  But that is a lie.  When we create worry about our LGBTQ child we are using up our valuable emotional energy in unproductive ways.  Taking action from worry is not where we want to parent from. This episode Allison and Jenie talk about how to handle your worry, what result your worry is creating and how to thrive and not just survive.  Link for the Pope's quoteshttps://www.catholicnewsagency.com/news/250221/at-general-audience-pope-francis-urges-parents-never-condemn-a-child If you are looking to learn the tools and to get the coaching that will help your LGBTQ family thrive while gaining access to other families on this journey than the Lift and Love Community is the place for you.  For details on how to join go to www.liftandlove.org/community Join us for any of our free monthly Lift+Love Support Groups - link sign up at Lift+Love Support . For additional support and help please reach out to us on our IG accounts at Lift+Love and Jenie Hunter Coaching    

This episode we are sharing the conversation I recorded with Heather Rackman from Latter Day Life Coach  Podcast We talk about how to you as the mom can be the touchpoint for your LGBTQ child. If you are looking to learn the tools and to get the coaching that will help your LGBTQ family thrive while gaining access to other families on this journey than the Lift and Love Community is the place for you.  For details on how to join go to www.liftandlove.org/community Join us for any of our free monthly Lift+Love Support Groups - link sign up at Lift+Love Support . For additional support and help please reach out to us on our IG accounts at Lift+Love and Jenie Hunter Coaching    

In this episode Jenie and Allison talk with Julie Spilsbury who serves as a Councilmember for the city of Mesa.  Julie shared with us her story on how supporting the controversial non-discrimination ordinance effected her relationships and her standing in the community.   Julie was elected to the Mesa City Council in August of 2020, Councilmember Julie Spilsbury began her first term defending her vote on Mesa’s controversial Non-Discrimination Ordinance – passed March 1 2021. Julie and her husband Jeremy ran a small tree care company for more than 20 years. They have lived in Mesa for almost their entire 24 years of marriage and have six children, five girls and one boy. She attended Brigham Young University. To contact Councilmember Spilsbury you can reach her on Facebook  or her melissa.hollenbeck@mesaaz.gov. If you are looking to learn the tools and to get the coaching that will help your LGBTQ family thrive while gaining access to other families on this journey than the Lift and Love Community is the place for you.  For details on how to join go to www.liftandlove.org/community Join us for any of our free monthly Lift+Love Support Groups - link sign up at Lift+Love Support . For additional support and help please reach out to us on our IG accounts at Lift+Love and Jenie Hunter Coaching          

In one week's time,  four mom's told us that their children didn't feel safe at church.  This is not unusual.  We hear this a lot. We also hear from parent's who don't have LGBTQ children they don't understand why LGBTQ children feel unsafe at church. In this episode we get vulnerable when we talk about HOW our LGBTQ saints feel emotionally unsafe in our churches.   It isn't happening intentionally but it is a reality for most LGBTQ LDS members at church.   Learning what makes them feel emotionally unsafe is the first step for us to become better disciples of our Savior.   His gospel is not unsafe, so we need to talk to our LGBTQ children and rethink our teaching and how we present it to uncover the answer to what is causing our LGBTQ members to feel disconnected with Him? We hope you can feel our love and plea for each of you and how we can create a safer environment for ALL of God's children in our church community. If you are looking to learn the tools and to get the coaching that will help your LGBTQ family thrive while gaining access to other families on this journey than the Lift and Love Community is the place for you.  For details on how to join go to www.liftandlove.org/community Join us for any of our free monthly Lift+Love Support Groups - link sign up at Lift+Love Support . For additional support and help please reach out to us on our IG accounts at Lift+Love and Jenie Hunter Coaching        

Allison and Jenie had the pleasure of interviewing Patrick Mason and J. David Pulsipher about their new book.  These two men have co-authored the book Proclaim Peace - The Restoration's Answer to an Age of Conflict. This book is a spiritual journey by two believing scholars of peace. In a world plagued by violence, Mason and Pulsipher believe, with President Russell M. Nelson, that “peace is possible” and that the “descendants of Abraham . . . are in a pivotal position to emerge as peacemakers” (“Blessed Are the Peacemakers,” Ensign, Nov. 2002). This book is an effort to lift up the Restoration’s distinctive principles that invite us to renounce violence and proclaim Christ’s good news of love and peace to a world that desperately needs it. Proclaim Peace seeks not to promote any particular ideology, but to invite readers, especially the rising generation, to reflect on the interpersonal, ethical, and social dimensions of Christian discipleshipPatrick Q. Mason is the Leonard J. Arrington Chair of Mormon History and Culture and an associate professor of religious studies and history at Utah State University. He is a nationally recognized authority about the Church in media outlets. J. David Pulsipher is a professor of history at Brigham Young University–Idaho, where he teaches courses on citizenship, civil discourse, peace-building, and nonviolence .Patrick Q. Mason is the Leonard J. Arrington Chair of Mormon History and Culture and an associate professor of religious studies and history at Utah State University. He is a nationally recognized authority about the Church in media outlets. It was such a pleasure to hear their perspective and guidance of how to build bridges of peace in our communities and wards.    

Jenie and Allison sit down and talk to Jessica from Husband In Law podcast.   Steve and Jessica were happily married for 7 years until Steve came out as being gay which inevitably ended in divorce. Now, Matt and Jessica have been happily married for over 8 years. The crazy part is, Matt, Jessica, and Steve all get along, to the extent that Matt and Steve work together, every dang day… Don’t worry you will get all the details while you listen. Matt, Jessica, and Steve have a relationship that, by most standards, would be considered atypical.  Listen in as Jessica takes us on their  journey of learning how to love and accept themselves enough to love and accept others for who they are during this experience called “Life”. Husband in Law Podcast Husband in Law Instagram Account If you are looking to learn the tools and to get the coaching that will help your LGBTQ family thrive while gaining access to other families on this journey than the Lift and Love Community is the place for you.  For details on how to join go to www.liftandlove.org/community Join us for any of our free monthly Lift+Love Support Groups - link sign up at Lift+Love Support . For additional support and help please reach out to us on our IG accounts at Lift+Love and Jenie Hunter Coaching        

When we talk to mom's of children who just came out - this is the number one question.  Is this just a phase?  Is this a trend?  All of their friends seem to be doing this. In this episode we talk with Dr. Lacey Bagley, LMFT who owns Celebrate LGBTQIA+ Therapy Services in Provo, Utah.  She helps us break "Is this just a phase?" down and gives us some great tips on how to parent and help your LGTBQ child as they explore their identity. To contact Dr. Lacey you can reach: Website: Celebrate Therapy/Dr. Lacey Celebratetherapy Instagram or Dr. Lacey Bagley Instagram If you are looking to learn the tools and to get the coaching that will help your LGBTQ family thrive while gaining access to other families on this journey than the Lift and Love Community is the place for you.  For details on how to join go to www.liftandlove.org/community Join us for any of our free monthly Lift+Love Support Groups - link sign up at Lift+Love Support . For additional support and help please reach out to us on our IG accounts at Lift+Love and Jenie Hunter Coaching    

Are you dreading Thanksgiving dinner with the big family?  If so, we got your back.  In this episode we will teach you how to handle crazy grandma and have the best big family dinner you have ever had.  We arm you with great thoughts and 4 tips on how to prepare and coach yourself before the big family gathering. The book Allison referenced "Proclaim Peace If you are looking to learn the tools and to get the coaching that will help your LGBTQ family thrive while gaining access to other families on this journey than the Lift and Love Community is the place for you.  For details on how to join go to www.liftandlove.org/community Join us for any of our free monthly Lift+Love Support Groups - link sign up at Lift+Love Support . For additional support and help please reach out to us on our IG accounts at Lift+Love and Jenie Hunter Coaching  

Declaration of Divinity - Part 6 Declaration of Divinity - Part 6 - SEEKING As stated in Article Faith 9, “We believe that… He will yet reveal many great and important things pertaining to the Kingdom of God.” As mother's we are pleading for greater gospel light to shine on our LGBTQ children. We invite all members to join us in asking the Savior for further understanding of the plan for HIS LGBTQ children. Join us for any of our monthly Lift+Love Support Groups - link sign up at Lift+Love Support . If you are looking to learn the tools and to get the coaching that will help your LGBTQ family thrive while gaining access to other families on this journey than the Lift and Love Community is the place for you.  For details on how to join go to www.liftandlove.org/community For additional support and help please reach out to us on our IG accounts at Lift+Love and Jenie Hunter Coaching  

Declaration of Divinity - Part 5 We get the question a lot - "Why do we have so many LGBTQ saints?"  This question we discuss in this episode and how we feel as mother's of LGBTQ children that our LGBTQ children have an important purpose here on earth.  That they were sent down to earth at this time to teach others and to do specific missions for their Heavenly Father.  Jenie and Allison discuss the beauty of what their diversity brings and how diversity makes the body of Christ perfect only with its diversity. To quote Bishop Gérald Caussé, Presiding Bishop,  “unity is not achieved by ignoring and isolating members who seem to be different.”4 Christ’s unity is not subtractive, whereby we disregard the significance of our differences. It is additive. This episode talks about how we can better strive to understand, to appreciate, and to integrate our differences in order to carry out the Lord’s work. This is an important episode about how essential diversity is for Christ's church. https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/ensign/2019/07/the-blessings-of-diversity?lang=eng   Declaration of Divinity - Part  5 PURPOSE - We believe that our LGBTQ children have been sent to earth at this time for a divine mission. Their diversity is essential to the body of Christ and we are not whole without them. They are here to teach us and it is our responsibility to ask God what He wants us to know and how we can better love His children. Join us for any of our monthly Lift+Love Support Groups - link sign up at Lift+Love Support . If you would like some personal help on how to do this please sign up for a free consult with Jenie at Jenie Hunter Coaching www.jeniehuntercoaching.com. For additional support and help please reach out to us on our IG accounts at Lift+Love and Jenie Hunter Coaching  

Declaration of Divinity - Part 4 We know that our Heavenly Father love our LGBTQ children.  Unfortunately this is not always the message they receive in our church communities. Jenie and Allison discuss how harmful it is that our LGBTQ children receive the message of shame about who they are.  Allison share's her brothers journey with this messaging and how that affected his live.  Jenie talks about how sometimes parents are part of this harmful message and what to do next if that has happened in your family. This is a powerful episode about how important our words are to our LGBTQ children. Declaration of Divinity - Part 4 Divine Birthright - We take away an LGBTQ child’s divinity and replace it with shame when we tell them the way they were born is not part of God’s plan. As mothers we assert that any message taught to our children should reassure them that they are a beloved Child of God and so entitled to all the blessings promised to His faithful children. Join us for any of our monthly Lift+Love Support Groups - link sign up at Lift+Love Support . If you would like some personal help on how to do this please sign up for a free consult with Jenie at Jenie Hunter Coaching www.jeniehuntercoaching.com. For additional support and help please reach out to us on our IG accounts at Lift+Love and Jenie Hunter Coaching     Transcripts: Jenie Rae Hunter  0:03  Hello are lifted left community we are back with you today Alison and I and we are so excited we always love recording these podcasts they we want you know they are from our heart. Anything we're talking to you about has been weighing heavy on our heart and we work on it for weeks and weeks and this one in particular that we're going to talk about today and we're gonna get into in just a minute but I think this has taken us six months out so Allison Dayton  0:28  it feels like it and Jenny got me up at the crack of dawn, before the animals. We ran out of time yesterday Jenie Rae Hunter  0:37  Right so Allison might have a little morning voice because it's very early. Yes, almost morning. We had exciting house here in the hunters like my daughter, Sarah Jane, open up her she's at BYU. So we did it all via Facebook Live but she openened her mission call amd is going to Rome Italy and now her twin is going share her twin already opened her college she's going to Las Vegas, Nevada. So my twins will be out in January and March to go on their mission. So super excited for them. And your you have your BYUI. So, it was busy this week, for sure. And then we have some really exciting things coming up your loved one we're not going to tell you about we're just going to we have a really big announcement that we is squeezing changes happening. Present. It is it is we are so excited about we there's so much going on behind the scenes without that we're not going to we're gonna just tease you but in December we have a big announcement and our live event. Our first Love Allison Dayton  1:37  Live event. It's the first time I think ever that we that mothers of LGBTQ children have gotten an opportunity to be together for two days. Jenie Rae Hunter  1:50  I can not wait. Allison Dayton  1:54   It's going to be February 28 and march 1. Jenie Rae Hunter  1:59  Pretty full days both of those Yep, in what city in Provo? Allison Dayton  2:04  Lindon, it's next to Provo, in the shadow of the great Timpanogos  in this darling Event Center. Jenie Rae Hunter  2:15  And we are taking limited moms like we are making it this very cozy. So by the time you hear this podcast, it is live, Allison Dayton  2:24  Go to liftandlove.org and look at the live event button on the homepage and have a look at it. But it shows you what's paid for in the event proce and what you'll receive. I think the most important thing is you're going to be with a lot of other women who have been going through the same changes that you have, and you are going to find friendship and love and camaraderie and lifelong support

Allison and Jenie introduce Part 3 of the declaration of Divinity - Eternal Families.  They share how they viewed their eternal family once their son's came out.  They also share ideas on how to connect your child to their spirituality if they decide to leave to the church.  It is a powerful episode on examining how you view your family and how that effects your family. Declaration of Divinity - Part 2 ETERNAL FAMILIES - "As mother's we know that our family can only be complete when all members are loved and valued equally. We believe that each individual is an important part of the Eternal Family of God. We have faith that our Heavenly Parents know and understand our unique situations and that by following their guidance, given through the Holy Spirit, our earthly family will return to live with them again." Join us for any of our monthly Lift+Love Support Groups - link sign up at Lift+Love Support . If you would like some personal help on how to do this please sign up for a free consult with Jenie at Jenie Hunter Coaching www.jeniehuntercoaching.com. For additional support and help please reach out to us on our IG accounts at Lift+Love and Jenie Hunter Coaching      

Jenie and Allison talk with two of the coolest LGBTQ moms, Lisa Clark Valentine and Hailey Smith.  Both of these ladies are extremely talented and has made our world a better place with their talents. Lisa Clark is an actress and producer, known for Show Offs (2019), Pretty Darn Funny(2012) and Once I Was a Beehive (2015). Hailey Smith is an actress and producer, known for Show Offs (2019), Once I Was a Beehive (2015) and Christmas Time On this episode we talk about what an LDS LGBTQ TV show would look like. We invent the characters and the story line.  It is full of laughs and tender moments and most of all exceptional wisdom from 4 moms's who love their LGBTQ children at a 10. Join us for any of our monthly Lift+Love Support Groups - link sign up at Lift+Love Support . If you would like some personal help on how to do this please sign up for a free consult with Jenie at Jenie Hunter Coaching www.jeniehuntercoaching.com. For additional support and help please reach out to us on our IG accounts at Lift+Love and Jenie Hunter Coaching      

Because of our petitioning the Lord we have been taught some beautiful truths about our LGBTQ children.  This is the second part of the series - "Declaration of their Divinity", a six part podcast series, talking about the truths that we and hundreds of mom's have learned and shared in this sacred calling. In this episode Allison and Jenie talk with TJ who is a licensed clinical therapist practicing in Draper Utah (Instagram).  Tj is a gay LDS therapist who attended BYU and USC and hosts our Lift + Love monthly teenage/young support groups.   Declaration of Divinity - 2 - Eternal Nature Understanding and honoring our child's sexuality and gender is critical for their mental, physical, emotional and spiritual health. Their identity permeates all aspects of their spirit and is not limited to their sexuality or orientation. President Nelson's - "Your Body: A Magnificent Gift to Cherish" Join us for any of our monthly Lift+Love Support Groups - link sign up at Lift+Love Support . If you would like some personal help on how to do this please sign up for a free consult with Jenie at Jenie Hunter Coaching www.jeniehuntercoaching.com. For additional support and help please reach out to us on our IG accounts at Lift+Love and Jenie Hunter Coaching    

All mother's love and worry about their children.  But mother's of LGBTQ children spend a lot of time pleading with our Heavenly Parents and our Savior asking them to teach us about our LGBTQ children.  Who are they?  What is their purpose? Because of our petitioning the Lord we have been taught some beautiful truths about our LGBTQ children.  This is the first part of the series - "Declaration of their Divinity", a six part podcast series, talking about the truths that we and hundreds of mom's have learned and shared in this sacred calling. Declaration of their Divinity As mothers of LGBTQ children we testify to their divinity. It is our sacred responsibility to seek for and receive new understanding from our Heavenly Parents concerning the full measure of their creation. Join us for any of our monthly Lift+Love Support Groups - link sign up at Lift+Love Support . If you would like some personal help on how to do this please sign up for a free consult with Jenie at Jenie Hunter Coaching www.jeniehuntercoaching.com. For additional support and help please reach out to us on our IG accounts at Lift+Love and Jenie Hunter Coaching