Love — in all its forms — is chaotic, messy, beautiful, and essential. In this episode, I explore what love really means: how we give it, receive it, and heal from the lack of it. It's an invitation to reflect on your personal experiences with love — or the absence of it — and begin redefining what love looks like, starting with self-love.
Key themes include:
- “We accept the love we think we deserve” (Stephen Chbosky): Our self-worth determines the kind of love we allow into our lives.
- Love has many forms — romantic, familial, friendship, and most importantly, self-love.
- Without self-love, it's hard to give or receive love authentically.
- The five love languages (words of affirmation, acts of service, quality time, gifts, and physical touch) are important, but deeper emotional patterns matter even more — like fear of intimacy or past trauma.
- Many people block love because of past wounds, mistrust, or the fear of being vulnerable.
- Ask yourself: do you believe you need to earn love? Were you taught that love is conditional?
- Real love should feel safe and peaceful — not like walking on eggshells. Love isn’t chaos, control, or obligation.
- Even if you weren’t shown healthy love growing up, you can still become the person who gives it — to yourself and others.
- Healing starts small: accepting compliments, receiving help, being kinder to yourself, speaking gently to yourself.
- Love is a daily practice of honoring yourself, setting healthy boundaries, and choosing connection without fear.
- You are not unlovable — you were just unloved properly. That wasn’t your fault.
- Rewire your beliefs: if you’ve only known love as pain or anxiety, it’s time to learn a love that feels calm, steady, and safe.
Final message:You are worthy of love.Start with you.Choose love — without expectation or fear.Your love — even if imperfect — can become your healing.It can be your quiet revolution.
