“Fuck her till she falls in love” is a phrase that gets thrown around casually as a joke, a warning, or a dismissal.

This episode takes that cliché apart.

Instead of framing women’s attachment after intimacy as weakness or lack of control, we look at what’s actually happening beneath the surface: nervous system responses, cultural conditioning, and the power dynamics that shape how closeness is experienced and judged.

If you’ve ever been told you “caught feelings” as if it were a personal failure, this conversation offers language, context, and relief instead of shame.

In this episode, I talk about endings that don’t happen on your terms, how women are conditioned to cling to the “good guy” in dating culture even when he doesn’t fulfill all their desires, and the nervous system - how it bonds to patterns, why it doesn’t care about timelines or logic, and how it shapes the way we experience loss.

Situationships suck. Good people exist. Clarity is care. Endings are okay. And I broke my foot yesterday.

Modern dating feels tense because women and men are responding to completely different realities.
This episode unpacks that divide - the patterns women grow up noticing, the stakes we carry into adulthood, and the context men were never taught to see. Not to blame anyone, but to finally make the gap visible.

I lost myself in my ex. Everything he did or didn’t do determined how I felt, who I was, and how I showed up. And now that I’ve started dating again, I’ve realized how scared I am of slipping back into that version of myself.

In this episode, I talk about how past patterns show up in new situations, how your nervous system remembers things you think you’ve moved on from, and what it looks like to try to love someone without abandoning yourself again.

In this episode, I talk about something I genuinely didn’t think was possible for me: having casual sex and actually feeling normal afterwards. No crashing out, no obsessing, no over-analyzing. I get into why this happened, how our nervous systems form patterns around intimacy, and what childhood, attachment, and familiar pain have to do with it. If you’re someone who usually panics after intimacy, this episode will make a lot of sense.

I hate the version of me that shows up after. The part that panics, overanalyzes, and forgets how to be okay alone. This episode is about the fear that comes with wanting to be known, and what it means to crave connection when it’s never felt safe.

Jealousy isn’t proof you’re bitter - it’s proof you care. In this episode, I talk about how jealousy can be a signal, not a flaw, and how to use it as a tool instead of letting it eat you alive.

I used to not care about body hair. Now I find myself shaving more than ever - not because I want to, but because I don’t want to be judged. So when SKIMS dropped The Ultimate Bush, I started thinking about how something so natural became so complicated. In this episode, I unpack my own story, the history behind the hairless ideal, and how brands use shock value to stay relevant - even when it means selling us back the things we were taught to be ashamed of.

i talk about rejection, childhood wounds, first relationships, and the weird shift from love to sex that happens when you grow up. about feeling undesirable, alone, and learning how to not lose myself in it. not a self-help episode. just me trying to make sense of it.

This is the episode where I say out loud what I’ve been living: I don’t even sleep with people anymore, because it never feels genuine. We’re taught as women that being chosen is the ultimate goal but what happens when men don’t even respect the women they choose? From baggy clothes to frat-boy group chats, from internalized misogyny to the male loneliness crisis, this conversation gets messy, vulnerable, and very real.

Back in the day, your look told you everything about your politics. Punk meant anarchist. Goth meant outsider. Now? Aesthetic is just a vibe. That’s why you can be alt goth and a Trump supporter in 2025. In this episode, I unpack how subcultures lost their politics, why rave spaces still lean left, and the contradictions of marginalized people supporting a movement that harms them.

Why do we even post about politics online? Does it change anything? Or do you just want to feel good about yourself? This episode dives into digital activism, performative posting, and the difference between talking online and doing the work offline.

I thought I could love him into being better. I thought the good moments meant more than the bad ones. I thought if I just gave a little more, he’d finally love me the way I needed. I was wrong. In this episode I talk about the abuse I went through, why I stayed, and why waiting for him to change will only cost you years of your life.

Everyone loves to say “sex work is work” or “sex work is empowering.” And while I’ll always support sex workers, I don’t support the industry. In this episode I break down why - from the history of sex as taboo, to the illusion of empowerment on OnlyFans, to the harsh realities of survival sex work, trafficking, and stripping. We’ll talk privilege, “choice feminism,” the male gaze, and why most of this isn’t liberation - it’s survival.

Last week we unpacked the male gaze - this week, we’re discussing what happens when you like it. Is using your desirability as a power tool empowering… or just patriarchal? We’re talking capitalism, beauty standards, Julia Fox, my internal patriarchy committee, and yes, the one time I had my titties out and men treated me like royalty.

A deep dive into the way the male gaze controls us - not just how we dress, but how we act, post, and even exist around other women. If you think you’ve escaped it, think again.

We’re told to be pretty, chill, cool, desirable but never too available. Say yes, but not too fast. Want love, but never admit it. This week, we’re talking about how women are raised to perform for men, and how this creates shame, confusion, and abuse. If you’ve ever wondered why you were ghosted after sleeping with him, or felt like being “too into him” made you undateable - hit play.

In this episode, I break down Kurt Caz’s Rome video and explain why his cruelty and victim-blaming are not just wrong, but dangerous. From debunking myths about immigrants to exposing the real reasons cities like Rome struggle.

Disclaimer: This is my personal commentary and critique of Kurt Caz’s video. The aim is to discuss the broader issues it raises, not to attack any individual personally.

If you’re waiting to feel ready, you’ll be waiting forever. You don’t need to feel like it - you just need to start.