When Life Breaks You Open: How Deep Loss, Identity Reconstruction, and Nervous System Healing Can Become Your Greatest Rebirth
What if the hardest chapter of your life is actually the beginning of your liberation?
In this powerful and deeply moving episode of Magics in the Mess, Danielle sits down with Annamarie Green — therapist, certified nervous system educator, speaker, and the creator of Love or Lose, the emotional regulation framework transforming the way women navigate conflict, triggers, and communication in relationships.
After losing her husband suddenly, Annamarie’s entire world shattered. What followed was not just grief — but a complete dismantling of identity, safety, and everything she thought she knew about herself. Instead of collapsing into the pain, she began studying healing at the root: the nervous system, survival responses, and the emotional patterns that silently run our lives.
This conversation is raw, grounded, and packed with the kind of truth that makes you exhale in relief. Together, Danielle and Annamarie explore the exact moment everything changed, how she rebuilt herself from the ground up, and the surprising ways trauma rewires your sense of worth, safety, and connection.
If you have ever lost someone, lost yourself, or found yourself in a season where your entire life feels unfamiliar… this episode will meet you exactly where you are.
IN THIS EPISODE, YOU WILL LEARN:
• Why the body responds to grief the same way it responds to threat
• The “Identity Freefall” that happens after deep loss, and why no one talks about it
• The truth about fawning, emotional shutdown, and why “being the strong one” becomes a survival strategy
• How nervous system dysregulation disguises itself as relationship problems
• The 5 types of anxiety (that are NOT what you think) and how to tell which one you have
• Why women struggle to communicate needs and how to break the cycle
• The exact moment Annamarie realized she had abandoned herself — and the step that began her healing
• The path to rebuilding self-trust, emotional safety, and identity after trauma
If you are ready to understand yourself more deeply, communicate with more power, and finally break the patterns that keep you stuck, this episode will change the way you move through your relationships — including the one you have with yourself.
CONNECT WITH ANNAMARIE:
Instagram: @annamariefgreen
Website: annamariegreen.com
Book her Love or Lose Workshop:
https://annamariegreenschedule.as.me/schedule/9b9d4d5b
CONNECT WITH DANIELLE:
Instagram: @_lifebydanielle
Website: www.daniellemckinley.com
Are you truly burned out or are you just exhausted from performing for validation you were never meant to need?
In this raw and activating solo episode of Magics in the Mess, business and wealth strategist Danielle McKinley breaks down the quiet epidemic underneath comparison culture, content pressure, and social media burnout: the validation loop.
If you’ve ever posted something meaningful only to immediately check who viewed it, rewritten captions to “sound on trend,” or questioned your niche based on a single low-performing post, this episode is for you.
Danielle reveals how most high-performing women are confusing attention with alignment, unknowingly leaking power every time they create for approval rather than impact. She explains:
Why social media was never built to make you feel good, only to keep you hooked
The difference between strategy and self-worth outsourcing
How constantly checking engagement rewires your nervous system for approval over intuition
Identifiable patterns that signal you’re leaking power (and how to stop it)
How to anchor back into your own frequency, your “guru energy,” instead of chasing the algorithm
A game-changing reframe: What if likes were just data, not verdicts on your worth?
The exact steps to take back your energy and create content from sovereignty, not validation
"I feel drained by showing up online, even when it looks successful."
"I’m constantly adjusting based on engagement instead of conviction."
"I'm tired of trying to be chosen. I want to stand in my own power."
Because the more we talk about this, the more we normalize power over performance.
And if you're ready to build or rebuild your confidence and content strategy from the inside out, explore Danielle’s Harmony Hustler Methods at www.daniellemckinley.com.
CONNECT WITH DANIELLE:
Instagram: @_lifebydanielle
Website: www.daniellemckinley.com
What if the hardest chapters of your life were never meant to break you, but to wake you up to who you really are?
In this powerful episode of Magics in the Mess, Danielle sits down with transformational speaker, psychic medium, empowerment coach, and self-love revolutionary Brittney Carmichael, the founder of Shine School®, The Elevated Life®, and creator of the Shine From the Inside Oracle™.
Brit shares the truth behind her story.. not the filtered version, but the real, raw, spiritually charged journey of a woman who went from feeling misunderstood, angry, and disconnected… to becoming one of the most intuitive, empowering voices for women today.
Together, Danielle and Brit dive into intuition, identity, psychic gifts, forgiveness, the “inner mean girl,” the healing power of community, and the rituals that help women reclaim their magic. This episode is emotional, inspiring, and filled with tools you can start using today.
This is for the woman who feels like she’s outgrown her old self, but hasn’t met her new self yet.
The woman who knows she’s meant for more.
The woman who hides her intuition because she’s afraid of being “too much.”
The woman who is ready to stop shrinking and start shining.
IN THIS EPISODE:
• How trauma and intuition shaped Brittany’s early life
• Why awareness is the first step of transformation
• How to identify the voice of your intuition vs. your fear
• The role forgiveness plays in becoming your highest self
• Why your “angry era” might be protecting something deeper
• What self-love actually means (and why it’s not a spa day)
• How Brittany built her intuitive empire one nudge at a time
• The power of sisterhood and why women heal faster together
• How to trust your internal GPS (even when the world says not to)
• A live Oracle Card pull for all listeners — the message is powerful
If you’ve been craving confirmation that your intuition is real, your transformation is on time, and your magic is ready to unfold — this episode is your sign.
CONNECT WITH BRITTNEY:
Instagram: @theworldbybrit
Website: https://brittneycarmichael.com/
Oracle Deck: shinefromtheinsideoracle.com
CONNECT WITH DANIELLE:
Instagram: @_lifebydanielle
Website: www.daniellemckinley.com
What if the messiest seasons of your life are the exact portals that lead you back to your power?
In this episode of Magics in the Mess, Danielle sits down with Marisa Rylan — certified coach, manifestation mentor, healer, author, and founder of WAG Wellness Co. and The Rise House. Featured in Forbes and known for helping high-performing women and professional athletes clear hidden blocks and reconnect with their deepest truth, Marisa brings a raw and powerful conversation about identity, energy, and the emotional work required to rise.
Together, we unpack the parts of success most people never talk about: the self-doubt behind achievement, the quiet unraveling that happens before clarity arrives, and the emotional rewiring that has to happen between “who you were” and “who you are becoming.”
Whether you are navigating a transition, feeling disconnected from your power, or struggling to move through a season that feels messy and uncertain, this episode is full of perspective-shifting moments and practical tools that will help you step back into your agency.
Inside this episode you will learn:
• The hidden beliefs and emotional blocks that keep high-achievers stuck
• Why success requires identity work, not just strategy
• How to manage your energy instead of your time
• What happens when you finally stop shrinking and reclaim your voice
• How Marisa healed what lived “between mind and muscle” and built a life aligned with her soul
• Why your messy middle might be the exact place your magic is being built
• Tangible steps to rewrite your beliefs and return to your inner power
If you are in a season of unraveling, reinvention, or rediscovery, this conversation will remind you that nothing is wasted, and every chapter is shaping the woman you are meant to become.
Marisa is gifting listeners her free affirmation prompts to support your mindset and energetic expansion:
https://mrylan.myflodesk.com/cards
CONNECT WITH US!
Danielle McKinley
Instagram: @_lifebydanielle
Website: www.daniellemckinley.com
Marisa Rylan
Instagram: @marisa_rylan
Website: https://marisarylan.com/
Free Affirmation Prompts: https://mrylan.myflodesk.com/cards
What if “making it” doesn’t silence self-doubt.. what if it actually amplifies it?
In this raw and unfiltered episode of Magics in the Mess, Danielle McKinley opens up about the hidden side of success that no one warns you about the pressure, the loneliness, the identity unraveling, and the moments when the strong ones finally break. Even after building and selling a company worth millions, Danielle admits she still wakes up some mornings wondering if any of it makes sense, questioning whether she can recreate past success, and navigating the emotional weight that no one sees. If you’ve ever felt like you should “have it all together,” yet privately wrestle with doubt, exhaustion, and the fear of starting over, this episode is going to meet you right where you are.
In this episode Danielle unpacks:
- Why success doesn’t erase imposter syndrome, it evolves it- The psychological cost of being “the strong one”
- What happens when your identity shifts faster than your confidence
- Why high-achievers still hit emotional walls
- The truth about planting seasons, waiting seasons, and the “quiet work” no one sees
- How to hold yourself with compassion while rebuilding your next chapter
- Why you are not broken for questioning everything.. even after you’ve already “made it”
This episode is not polished. It’s not outlined. It’s real. It’s honest. It’s the part after success that almost no one talks about. And if you’re in your own messy middle, this conversation will remind you: You’re not behind. You’re human. And your roots are growing even when you can’t see them.
Work With Danielle:
If this episode hit you, and you’re craving clarity, direction, or a strategic reset, Danielle is currently offering 1:1 coaching for women ready to realign their identity, rebuild their confidence, and scale from experience.. not burnout!
Book your Vision to Victory coaching call: https://daniellemckinley.com/coaching
Connect With Danielle:
Instagram: @_lifebydanielle
Website: www.daniellemckinley.com
Do you ever feel like you’re doing everything “right”, hitting the goals, leading the team, crushing your to-do list, yet something still feels off?
In this transformative episode of Magics in the Mess, host Danielle McKinley shares the truth about how overdeveloping your masculine energy.. the pushing, proving, and performing, can silently drain your magnetism, joy, and creativity.
After building and exiting a nine-figure SaaS company in a male-dominated industry, Danielle realized that success built on force is never as fulfilling as success built on flow. She reveals how learning to embody her feminine energy completely changed her business, her relationships, and her ability to receive abundance with ease.
You’ll learn:
The key differences between masculine and feminine energy — and why you need both
How to know if your “ambition” is actually imbalance
The biological reason you can’t be magnetic when you’re in survival mode
How to pause before producing and shift from pressure to purpose
Simple ways to receive, reconnect with your body, and reignite creativity
Why “being soft” doesn’t make you less powerful.. it makes you unstoppable
💫 When the masculine builds the world, the feminine heals it.
This is your permission slip to be both ambitious and at peace, strategic and soft, structured and in flow.
If you’re ready to balance your hustle with harmony and reconnect to your natural power, this episode will change the way you lead, live, and love.
Connect with Danielle McKinley:
Instagram: @_lifebydanielle
The SOTU Money Multiplier: https://sotu.daniellemckinley.com/
Book your Vision to Victory call: https://calendly.com/mckinleyconsulting333/vision-to-victory-call-clone
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What if your greatest breakdown was actually the doorway to your next breakthrough?
In this powerful episode of Magic in the Mess, host Danielle McKinley sits down with Jes Robins, an alignment alchemist, speaker, and founder of Reclaim: a 12-week program designed to help ambitious women expand their nervous systems, shed old armor, and sustain massive success without burnout or self-sacrifice.
Jes shares her raw, unfiltered story, from surviving a 74 mph car accident and enduring 16 surgeries to hitting rock bottom through addiction and overachievement. But her comeback wasn’t just physical, it was an energetic and emotional rebirth.
You’ll learn:
How to recognize the signs of burnout before your body forces you to stop
What it really means to “heal like a hustler” (and why it doesn’t work)
How your nervous system patterns determine your ability to hold success
Practical ways to regulate your energy, set boundaries, and rebuild your identity
Why rest is not weakness, and how to reframe success from the inside out
This episode will leave you reflecting on what you’ve been proving, what you can finally release, and how to create sustainable success that actually feels good.
If you’ve ever felt trapped in the hustle cycle or afraid to slow down.. this conversation is your permission slip to heal, expand, and reclaim your power.
Connect with Danielle McKinley:
Instagram: @_lifebydanielle
Website: www.daniellemckinley.com
Connect with Jes Robins:
Instagram: @jesrobins
Book your free No BS Power Sesh: https://form.jotform.com/240426231551143
See you next week Magic Makers!
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What if being misunderstood isn’t rejection, but proof that you’re becoming your most authentic self?
In this raw and powerful solo episode of Magics in the Mess, host Danielle McKinley dives into what it really means to be seen, judged, and sometimes misunderstood on your journey to growth. Through stories from her own evolution from scaling a nine-figure SaaS exit to redefining what success means. Danielle shares how to regulate your emotions, return to peace, and build unshakable self-trust.
You’ll learn how to:
Reframe rejection and release the need for external validation
Calm your nervous system when others “don’t get you”
Anchor into your truth and build emotional resilience
Redefine success through your own definition of contentment
Recognize that true safety isn’t staying small, it’s being real
She also reveals her 5-step framework for moving through misunderstanding, breathing through discomfort, and turning the messy middle into your greatest growth season.
If you’re ready to build clarity, confidence, and systems that align with who you truly are, this episode will remind you that your life doesn’t have to make sense to everyone—it only has to make sense to you.
Listen now and remember: the more you understand yourself, the less you need the world to.
Connect with Danielle McKinley:
Instagram: @_lifebydanielle
Website: www.daniellemckinley.com
Apply for Coaching: https://daniellemckinley.com/coaching
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What if the key to resetting your life, your business, and your nervous system was already inside you?
In this episode of Magic in the Mess, Danielle McKinley sits down with Dr. Corey and Jess: known as The Healing Couple and creators of Reset Breathwork, to talk about transforming burnout into energy on demand. From living in their car to building a thriving multi-six-figure brand, their story is proof that healing and success are not mutually exclusive.
You’ll learn how to:
Use breathwork to regulate your nervous system and release trauma
Turn breakdowns into breakthroughs using the power of presence and intention
Shift from overworking to leading with alignment
Rewire your body and mind for sustainable success
This conversation dives deep into what it means to choose yourself, trust your body, and rebuild from rock bottom with conviction and courage.
Tune in and discover how your breath can become your superpower.
Connect with Danielle McKinley
Instagram: @_lifebydanielle
Website: www.daniellemckinley.com
Connect with The Healing Couple
Instagram: @thehealingcouple
Website: www.thehealingcouple.com
Listen now on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and all major platforms.
See you next week!
#magicinthemess #breathwork #healingjourney #entrepreneurmindset #selfhealing #burnoutrecovery #nervoussystemregulation #personaldevelopment #alignment #selfgrowth #womeninbusiness #wellnessjourney #mindbodyconnection #podcastlife
If your confidence rises and falls with your follower count, you’re not running a business, you’re riding a roller coaster that someone else controls. In this episode of Magics in the Mess, I’m breaking down why vanity metrics like likes, views, and followers don’t equal revenue and how to shift your focus to the numbers that truly move the needle.
You’ll learn:
Why a small, engaged audience can outperform a large one with no clear offer
The 5 signs vanity metrics are keeping you stuck
The difference between validation and value—and how to shift into service
Revenue metrics that matter and how to track them
My 7-day Vanity Detox Challenge to help you reset and refocus
This episode will give you the tools to stop chasing approval and start creating aligned, consistent revenue in your business.
Book your Vision to Victory call today: https://calendly.com/mckinleyconsulting333/visiontovictory
Connect with me on Instagram: @_lifebydanielle
See you next week!
Ever feel stuck in your health, exhausted, or dismissed by the system?
This episode is your wake-up call. Today on Magic in the Mess, I’m joined by Lindsey Burwell, a powerhouse in metabolism, vitality, and biohacking. After walking through infertility, gut issues, betrayal, and near-death experiences, she transformed her pain into purpose. Lindsey now helps women break through mental and physical blocks, reclaim their energy, and finally step into their highest selves.
Inside this episode, you’ll learn:
How infertility reshaped Lindsey’s health and identity The exact turning point that shifted her from broken → thriving entrepreneur.
What women need to know if they feel stuck, exhausted, or dismissed
How to stop dimming your light and own your power—even after betrayal Practical biohacks for metabolism, vitality, and confidence
How The Patch Method and The Natural Peptides are changing women’s health Connect
IG: @lindseyburwellwellness @thepatchmethod @thenaturalpeptides
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Subscribe for more episodes of Magic in the Mess.. New episodes every Tuesday!
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What if selling didn’t have to feel pushy, awkward, or forced? In this episode of Magic’s in the Mess, Danielle McKinley breaks down the truth about sales and it’s not about scripts, tricks, or pressure.
Sales is simply a transfer of belief: in yourself, in your offer, and in your client’s results. Danielle shares the three core beliefs you need to strengthen, the money story “leaks” that quietly sabotage your confidence, and practical ways to shift into sales that feel natural, aligned, and even exciting.
🎧 If you’ve ever struggled with imposter syndrome, undercharging, or second-guessing your worth, this episode will change the way you think about sales forever.
Book your Vision to Victory call today: https://calendly.com/mckinleyconsulting333/visiontovictory
Connect with me on Instagram: @_lifebydanielle
Tired of surface level networking? This episode will shift everything you thought you knew about community. I’m joined by connection powerhouse Haley Westfall, the creator of The Table and Collab Culture, who is redefining what it means to belong in business and in life.
We dive into how true connection transforms confidence, the stories that built her movement, and why the right room can change your entire trajectory.
IN THIS EPISODE:
What inspired The Table and why it’s more than an event
How authentic connection beats traditional networking
Real stories of transformation from women who joined
The challenges (and magic!) of building a heart-led community
Why belonging might be the business strategy you’ve been missing
MEET HALEY WESTFALL Founder of The Table & Collab Culture. Connector. Visionary. Community-builder.
Follow Haley on Instagram: @thehaleywestfall 🌐 Learn more: haleywestfall.com
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They’ll call you “delusional”… but what if that’s exactly what makes your vision inevitable? In this episode of Magic’s in the Mess, Danielle McKinley breaks down the difference between toxic delusion and strategic delusion (the kind that pulls you toward your future self like a magnet.)
Listen in for real stories, mindset shifts, and five practical steps to turn belief into reality. If you’re ready to stop waiting for evidence and start leading with conviction, this conversation is for you.
🎧 Tune in now and start turning your “delusion” into your greatest superpower.
In this episode of Magic in the Mess, Danielle sits down with her best friend and powerhouse entrepreneur, Tara Dominguez, to pull back the curtain on the real work of cultivating authentic relationships as ambitious women. From meeting in a Denver elevator with zero expectations to building businesses, families, and a decade of trust, Danielle and Tara share the raw truth about friendship, boundaries, jealousy, energy, and why it’s worth fighting for your inner circle.
If you’ve ever craved deeper connections that go beyond highlight reels and gossip, this episode is your permission slip to find (and be) the kind of friend who makes life and entrepreneurship magical.
Inside This Episode, You’ll Hear:
The elevator story that sparked a 10-year sisterhood
How to use the “friendship thermostat” to know if someone belongs in your circle
Why jealousy and comparison can quietly sabotage adult friendships
The mindset shifts that helped Tara turn $247 paychecks and a repossessed car into a thriving salon and coaching business
The hard truths about losing money, bouncing back from failure, and why real success requires messy action
How to celebrate your wins (big or small) so you don’t burn out chasing the next goal
About Tara Dominguez
Tara is a hairstylist, salon owner, and business coach who went from JCPenney stylist to owning a commercial property she turned into 303 Salon in Denver. She helps stylists scale to six figures and beyond by teaching them the art of service, systems, and confidence. With over 1,600 5-star reviews and her Five Star Beauty Coach brand, Tara is proof that when you believe in yourself, even the messiest moments can lead to magic.
Connect with Tara:
Instagram: @thetaradanielle
Coaching & Freebies: https://303salons.com/
Connect with Danielle:
Instagram: @_lifebydanielle
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In this episode of Magic in the Mess, Danielle McKinley—speaker, business and wealth strategist—dives into the seven millionaire habits that shaped her business, bank account, and life. More than just routines, these habits are rooted in money mindset and the stories we’ve inherited about wealth.
Danielle unpacks:
How to start your day in your “wealthy woman” mood
Why tracking your money without shame is non-negotiable
Making decisions from your future self
Regulating your nervous system to hold more abundance
The power of proximity and putting yourself in rooms that expand you
Celebrating every single win to rewire your brain for abundance
Why consistency (and rest) is the true MVP
If you’ve ever felt stuck at an income ceiling or wondered why your habits don’t seem to stick, this episode will give you the clarity and tools to finally break through. Tune in and learn how to align your habits, money story, and mindset to create lasting wealth.
In this enlightening episode, we delve into the art of discovering and harnessing your innate gifts. Join us as we explore practical strategies and inspiring stories that reveal how to unlock your unique potential. Whether you're seeking personal growth or professional success, this episode offers valuable insights to help you thrive by embracing your natural talents. Tune in and start your journey towards a more fulfilling life today!
In this special crossover episode of Magic in the Mess, Danielle McKinley joins Angela Tait from the Mom-Me Podcast for a raw, heartfelt conversation about motherhood, money stories, faith, and breaking old norms. Danielle opens up about leaving the Mormon church at 15, rewriting her money mindset after childhood struggles, and navigating marriage, business, and parenting without losing herself. Together, they share honest insights on role clarity at home, the power of Sunday planning meetings, preparing your firstborn for a sibling, and building a supportive community. A candid, empowering listen for moms juggling big dreams and even bigger responsibilities.
In this episode of Magic in the Mess, Danielle McKinley gets real about overwhelm—how it sneaks in, spirals out of control, and what to do when it does. From missing a breakfast date for the first time in 38 years to feeling like a computer with 100 tabs open, Danielle shares her personal wake-up call and the five practical strategies she uses to reset: set something down, focus on one priority, phone a friend, laugh at the mess, and time-block for “future you.” A candid, relatable reminder that overwhelm isn’t failure—it’s proof you’re growing, stretching, and becoming more you.
In this powerful episode of Magic’s in the Mess, Danielle sits down with Angela Tait — founder of Tait Consulting and a fearless force in the world of HR and recruiting. From media dreams in L.A. to building high-impact teams and redefining leadership, Angela shares the winding path that led her to her purpose.
What you'll hear:
Angela’s raw, real journey from rejection to resilience
Tactical job search and hiring strategies for both candidates and employers
Advice for business owners ready to grow their team (without the burnout)
Why flexibility, feedback, and culture aren’t optional anymore
The truth about motherhood, leadership, and owning your worth
How to have tough conversations that actually help
Packed with mindset shifts, practical takeaways, and a healthy dose of humor — this episode is for leaders ready to ditch perfection, hire smarter, and build a business that works for real life.
🔗 Connect with Angela on LinkedIn or at angelatait.com
📲 Follow her journey on Instagram @tait_consulting