In this deeply moving episode of Mind Over Matter, host Aanya sits down with poet, writer, and resilience embodiment Cyndee Dhalai. Cyndee shares her extraordinary journey — from decades in special education, to becoming a medical enigma with no treatment options, losing her independence, becoming a widow, and miraculously regaining the ability to walk after years in a wheelchair. What emerges is a masterclass in perspective: how to choose how we see our lives, even when everything falls apart. Key Takeaways Perspective is a choice: “We live life looking forward, but we learn by looking back.” Shifting how you see a situation — even slightly — can change everything. Never ask “Why me?” Instead ask: “What can I learn from this? How can I grow through this?” Miracles and magic are everywhere — in a baby’s laugh, in the sky’s changing colors, in the simple fact that you woke up breathing today. We are human beings, not human doings. Society trains the wonder out of us, but we can reclaim it by noticing the ordinary miracles again. Roles (teacher, mother, patient, widow) do not define you. Beneath every label is a core self that remains unbroken. When external help fails (like Cyndee’s allergy to all medications), inner resources — faith, hope, and radical self-permission — become your lifeline. “If you accept that struggle is all your life will ever be, then that’s all it will be.” Hope is not passive; it’s an active decision you make every day. Even confinement in a wheelchair has advantages — Cyndee discovered patience, deeper listening, creativity (sewing, cooking, writing poetry), and a richer inner world. You don’t need to compare your chapter 5 to someone else’s chapter 50. There is only one you — and that alone is a miracle. Most Powerful Quotes from Cyndee Dhalai “I never once asked ‘Why did this happen to me?’ I asked, ‘What can I do with it?’” “You were born with wonder. Look at yourself in the mirror — YOU are a wonder.” “Give yourself permission to hope, to dream, and to try — because nobody else can do that for you.” “The grass may look greener on the other side, but I’m standing here, and I’ve come this far.” Connect with Cyndee DhalaiCyndee is currently writing poetry and prose that chronicle her journey of healing and rediscovery. She welcomes connection from anyone who feels inspired by her story. Connect with her via LinkedIn   Want to be a guest on Healthy Mind, Healthy Life?DM on PM - Send me a message on PodMatchDM Me Here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/avik DisclaimerThis video is for educational and informational purposes only. The views expressed are the personal opinions of the guest and do not reflect the views of the host or Healthy Mind By Avik. We do not intend to harm, defame, or discredit any person, organization, brand, product, country, or profession mentioned. All third-party media used remain the property of their respective owners and are used under fair use for informational purposes. By watching, you acknowledge and accept this disclaimer. About Healthy Mind By AvikHealthy Mind By Avik is a global platform redefining mental health as a necessity, not a luxury. Born during the pandemic, it has become a sanctuary for healing, growth, and mindful living. Hosted by Avik Chakraborty, this channel brings you powerful podcasts and grounded conversations across mental health, emotional well-being, mindfulness, holistic healing, trauma recovery, and self-empowerment. With over 4,400 episodes and 168.4K global listeners, we are committed to amplifying stories and breaking stigma worldwide.Subscribe and be part of this healing journey. ContactBrand: Healthy Mind By AvikEmail: join@healthymindbyavik.com | podcast@healthymindbyavik.comWebsite: www.healthymindbyavik.comBased in: India and USAOpen to collaborations, guest appearances, coaching, and strategic partnerships. CHECK PODCAST SHOWS & BE A GUESTPodcasts: https://www.podbean.com/podcast-netw