I’m Stacie Spiler — your mindset coach and psychotherapist for this weekly, therapy-style deep dive into the patterns shaping your life. Every episode is a session: honest, grounded, and designed to help you break cycles, understand your emotions, and rewrite the stories running your relationships, work, and sense of self.
Using psychology, neuroscience, and soul-level insight, we get curious about the things you avoid, the wounds you carry, and the patterns you repeat and together, we turn them into clarity, confidence, and real inner change.
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I’m Stacie Spiler — your mindset coach and psychotherapist for this weekly, therapy-style deep dive into the patterns shaping your life. Every episode is a session: honest, grounded, and designed to help you break cycles, understand your emotions, and rewrite the stories running your relationships, work, and sense of self.
Using psychology, neuroscience, and soul-level insight, we get curious about the things you avoid, the wounds you carry, and the patterns you repeat and together, we turn them into clarity, confidence, and real inner change.
<p><br></p><p>In this conversation, Stacie Spiler discusses the concept of triangulation in parenting, where children are pulled into adult conflicts, leading to emotional burdens that hinder their development. She explains how this dynamic creates roles such as scapegoat and peacemaker among siblings, affecting their emotional well-being and relationships. Stacie emphasizes the importance of breaking this cycle to allow children to experience a safe and nurturing environment, free from adult problems. She encourages parents to reflect on their family dynamics and the long-term implications for their children's future relationships.</p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p>Takeaways</p><p><br></p><p>Triangulation can harm children by involving them in adult conflicts.</p><p>Children often feel responsible for maintaining peace in the home.</p><p>Roles like scapegoat and peacemaker can develop among siblings.</p><p>These roles can lead to anxiety and emotional issues in children.</p><p>Parents can break the cycle by setting boundaries and communicating directly.</p><p>Children deserve to feel safe and free to be themselves.</p><p>Family dynamics shape children's future relationships and coping mechanisms.</p><p>Awareness of triangulation is crucial for healthy parenting.</p><p>Parents should reflect on their behaviour and its impact on children.</p><p>Therapeutic coaching can help parents apply these insights in their lives.</p><p><br></p><p>Sound bites</p><p><br></p><p>"Kids absorb, they feel responsible for the peace."</p><p>"This is triangulation in action."</p><p>"They stop being free to just be themselves."</p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p>Chapters</p><p><br></p><p>00:00 Understanding Triangulation in Parenting</p><p>05:46 Breaking the Cycle of Triangulation</p><p>10:42 Empowering Children to Be Themselves</p><p><br></p><p><a href="https://youtu.be/ftTYsvI9KIs?si=76Dgl7Y0ALPcW8fU" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferer">https://youtu.be/ftTYsvI9KIs?si=76Dgl7Y0ALPcW8fU</a></p>
Mindset By Design
I’m Stacie Spiler — your mindset coach and psychotherapist for this weekly, therapy-style deep dive into the patterns shaping your life. Every episode is a session: honest, grounded, and designed to help you break cycles, understand your emotions, and rewrite the stories running your relationships, work, and sense of self.
Using psychology, neuroscience, and soul-level insight, we get curious about the things you avoid, the wounds you carry, and the patterns you repeat and together, we turn them into clarity, confidence, and real inner change.
