Trigger warning: we are talking about triggers this week!

The things that just send us into fight or flight, rage, withdrawal and/or have the ability to make us feel about 5 years old in our own emotional responses.

Ali and Mollie share some of their own personal triggers in motherhood: not feeling listened to, being over stimulated, feeling embarrassed by our children's behavior. We discuss our own shame both as adults and the shame we felt as children and the ways that we are trying to do things differently.

This week we remind ourselves that we are "playing the long game". We talk about how we are not trying to shame our children into submission and compliance; that we are focusing on the relationships, and because of that, it takes time.

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We would love to hear your stories and suggestions for future episodes!

*Hosts: Ali OConnell and Mollie Birney

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This week is all about redefining "success" in motherhood.

Mollie and Ali delve into the complexities of motherhood, exploring the evolving definitions of success, the emotional weight of parenting, and the importance of connection. We discuss the pressures to maintain identity, the challenges of postpartum experiences, and the generational models that shape our own understanding of motherhood. We emphasize the need to redefine success and Enoughness in a way that honors personal experiences and fosters self-trust.

Takeaways

• Success in motherhood is a nebulous concept.
• The metrics of success have evolved over the decades.

• Grieving the loss of our old version of self is a crucial part of motherhood.

• Generational models of motherhood influence current perceptions.
• Balancing career and motherhood requires constant negotiation.
• Unconditional love in parenting requires tools and self-awareness.
• Understanding enoughness is a personal journey.
• Connection with others is vital for navigating motherhood.

Connect with us at: mommingoutloudpodcast@gmail.com

We would love to hear your stories and suggestions for future episodes!

*Hosts: Ali OConnell and Mollie Birney

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Welcome to our first episode of Momming Out Loud!

Hosts Mollie and Ali explore the complexities of parenting, focusing on the chaos and emotional challenges that arise in daily interactions. We discuss experiences with scheduling, the dynamics of parenting, and the importance of repair and THE Relationship. We reflect on our emotional responses, the struggle for connection, and the desire to parent differently while acknowledging the difficulties of maintaining composure in challenging situations.

Takeaways

• Parenting can feel overwhelming and chaotic at times.
• It's important to acknowledge and validate your own feelings of overwhelm.
• Comparison to others can diminish your own experiences and feelings.
• Repairing relationships with children is crucial for emotional health.

• Creativity in parenting can be challenging in the moment.
• Disobedience can be a valuable skill for children to develop.
• Self-awareness is key in understanding emotional responses.
• It's okay to seek permission for rest and self-care.
• Parenting is a dynamic relationship that evolves over time.

Connect with us at: mommingoutloudpodcast@gmail.com

We would love to hear your stories and suggestions for future episodes!

*Hosts: Ali OConnell and Mollie Birney

If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, rate and leave a review or share it with a friend!

Coming soon to your headphones! A show about the messy middle of motherhood — where two former therapists turned moms trade perfection for honesty and self-help for self-compassion.

Each week, Ali and Mollie explore the stuff we whisper about but secretly crave to say out loud: identity shifts, emotional triggers, and those “who even am I?” moments of mom life.

Momming Out Loud. Solve nothing. Share everything.