A handwritten love letter might seem old-fashioned, but its impact is timeless. In this episode, we explore why putting your feelings into words can heal resentments, deepen emotional safety, and bring back the softness couples often lose along the way. I’ll share how to write a letter that actually lands, what to say when you don’t know where to start, and why this simple act can change the entire tone of your marriage.🔗 Website: www.monarchforlove.com 📘 Book: www.awakenedheartsbook.com Instagram: @Monarchforlove TikTok @monarchforlove

We start each year full of hope, and somehow in a blink of an eye we fall into routine and distance. In this episode, Michelle Hays shares a simple but powerful truth. Love does not stay alive on autopilot. It is built through small, daily decisions to listen, soften, and stay connected. If your marriage feels good but fragile, or distant but not broken, this conversation will gently remind you what really keeps love alive.🔗 Website: www.monarchforlove.com 📘 Book: www.awakenedheartsbook.com Instagram: @Monarchforlove TikTok @monarchforlove

This holiday season, we’re talking about the one gift that changes everything in a marriage — forgiveness. Not the “pretend it didn’t hurt” kind, but the kind that softens resentment, quiets scorekeeping, and makes room for joy again. In this episode, I share why couples secretly keep “naughty lists,” how those quiet tallies slowly chip away at connection, and why choosing forgiveness can turn even the smallest moments into unexpected intimacy. I’ll walk you through a personal story with Brian, the science of resentment, and practical ways to offer forgiveness that actually brings you closer. Because the lights might tangle and the cookies might burn, but a forgiving heart can turn any season into one filled with warmth, connection, and love chosen on purpose.🔗 Website: www.monarchforlove.com 📘 Book: www.awakenedheartsbook.com Instagram: @Monarchforlove TikTok @monarchforlove

A thriving marriage isn’t built on luck, chemistry, or time together. It’s built on five core pillars that determine how safe you feel, how seen you feel, and how deeply connected you become. In this episode, I walk you through the five foundations every strong marriage is built on, why they matter, and how to strengthen each one in simple, doable ways. If your marriage feels good but could feel great, this is the blueprint you’ve been missing.🔗 Website: www.monarchforlove.com 📘 Book: www.awakenedheartsbook.com Instagram: @Monarchforlove TikTok @monarchforlove

Every strong marriage has a rhythm. In this episode, I break down the eight simple habits happy couples practice consistently to stay connected, calm, curious, and close. These aren’t grand gestures. They’re everyday choices that keep love alive, resentment low, and emotional safety high. If you want your marriage to feel lighter and more loving, this is where you start.🔗 Website: www.monarchforlove.com 📘 Book: www.awakenedheartsbook.com Instagram: @Monarchforlove TikTok @monarchforlove

Your spouse is sending signals all day long. The question is… are you catching them or walking right past them? Today we dig into bids for attention, why they matter, and how responding to them can completely change the emotional temperature of your marriage.🔗 Website: www.monarchforlove.com 📘 Book: www.awakenedheartsbook.com Instagram: @Monarchforlove TikTok @monarchforlove

Ever notice how a marriage can be full of routines and plans yet feel oddly empty?Like you love each other… but the spark, the pull toward the future, has gone a little dim? This week's episode is a gentle reminder that love needs more than commitment and calendars... it needs a horizon. Shared dreams. Tiny sparks of “someday” that make the “everyday” feel meaningful again. If your marriage feels like it’s running on routine, this conversation will remind you there’s more waiting.. not in the past, but in what you two choose to create next. Because when you dream together, you grow together.🔗 Website: www.monarchforlove.com 📘 Book: www.awakenedheartsbook.com Instagram: @Monarchforlove TikTok @monarchforlove 

Ever notice how one sentence can spark an argument and not because of what was said, but how it was heard? In this short episode, we unpack how tone, timing, and emotional state can twist even kind intentions into conflict. You’ll learn how to slow the moment, mirror what your partner says, and hear beneath the words, past the defenses, into the heart. Because most love isn’t lost in the speaking… it’s lost in the translation. 🔗 Website: www.monarchforlove.com 📘 Book: www.awakenedheartsbook.com Instagram: @Monarchforlove TikTok @monarchforlove

In this honest and eye-opening conversation, I sit down with Dr. Marianna Martinasevic, a psychiatrist with over 25 years of experience  to talk about something most people whisper about: medication for anxiety, depression, and emotional health. We unpack the biggest misconceptions around “needing meds,” the shame that too often surrounds taking them, and the truth about side effects that social media loves to exaggerate. This isn’t a sales pitch for pills... it’s an invitation to drop the judgment, get curious, and understand what real healing can look like. Because sometimes choosing help isn’t weakness — it’s wisdom.🔗 Website: www.monarchforlove.com 📘 Book: www.awakenedheartsbook.com Instagram: @Monarchforlove TikTok @monarchforlove

Struggling couples often wonder if it’s time to quit or if there’s still something worth fighting for. In this gentle yet practical episode, Michelle Hays walks you through four powerful conversations designed to bring clarity: naming the fears you avoid, exploring changing needs, releasing past hurts, and reimagining your future together. These talks won’t solve everything overnight, but they will uncover honesty, hope, and direction. If you’re in the messy middle, this episode is your guide to deciding with wisdom, not regret.🔗 Website: www.monarchforlove.com 📘 Book: www.awakenedheartsbook.com Instagram: @Monarchforlove 

He needs space to feel safe. She needs connection to feel safe. No wonder you keep missing each other. In this episode, Michelle Hays explores the nervous system wiring that fuels the chase-and-withdraw dance so many couples know too well. With real-life insight and practical tools, you’ll learn how to stop making each other the enemy and start finding connection even when your bodies speak different languages. 🔗 Website: www.monarchforlove.com 📘 Book: www.awakenedheartsbook.com Instagram: @Monarchforlove

Love without safety is love you have to perform for—and it will leave you lonely, even in the same room with your partner. In this episode of Monarch for Love, Michelle Hayes unpacks why emotional safety has become the modern must-have in marriage, what it really looks like, and three simple ways to start building it today.🔗 Website: www.monarchforlove.com 📘 Book: www.awakenedheartsbook.com Instagram: @Monarchforlove

What happens when you love your partner but don’t feel attracted to them anymore? In this episode of Monarch for Love, we peel back the shame and silence around fading desire. You’ll discover why loss of attraction is often about disconnection, not looks, and how rebuilding emotional safety, honesty, and curiosity can reignite intimacy. 🔗 Website: www.monarchforlove.com 📘 Book: www.awakenedheartsbook.com📸 Instagram: @monarchforlove  

In this week's episode, we are unpacking one of the most common myths I hear from couples: “We just fell out of love.” The truth? Love doesn’t vanish—it fades when we stop choosing it. I’ll share how unmet needs, unspoken resentments, and quiet disconnection slowly erode intimacy, and how the belief that love should always “feel” magical keeps us stuck. You’ll hear parts of my own journey, the mistakes I made, and the shift that changed everything: realizing love isn’t about performance—it’s about presence and choice.If your marriage feels distant, this is your reminder that love is always waiting for your return. You can start again. You can choose again. Because love isn’t just a feeling—it’s a decision, made one moment at a time. Website: www.monarchforlove.comBook: www.awakenedheartsbook.comInstagram: @monarchforlove

In this week's episode, I speak to the woman standing at the edge—the one who wonders if walking away is the only way forward. Before you make that decision, I invite you to pause and ask yourself four life-altering questions. I’ll share pieces of my own story—multiple marriages, mistakes, and hard-won lessons—so you can see that leaving isn’t always the freedom it promises.If your heart is aching and you’re tempted to give up, let this episode remind you: sometimes the bravest thing you can do is stop running and choose to look inward. Because love is not about perfect people—it’s about never giving up.🔗 Website: www.monarchforlove.com 📘 Book: www.awakenedheartsbook.com📸 Instagram: @monarchforlove  

In this heartfelt episode of Monarch for Love, I sit down with Psychiatrist, Dr. Mariana Martinasevic, to explore how alcohol and other substances can quietly reshape the fabric of a marriage. From social drinking to dependence, substance use often creates emotional distance, hidden stress, and unspoken blame between partners. Together, we unpack when “use” becomes “abuse,” the toll it takes on intimacy, and why blame rarely leads to change.If you or someone you love is facing this challenge, you’ll find both honesty and hope here. Dr. Martinasevich shares her insights from psychiatry, I share my personal experiences, and together we offer a way forward: protecting your emotional safety while supporting the one you love. You are not alone—healing and connection are possible.🔗 Website: www.monarchforlove.com 📘 Book: www.awakenedheartsbook.com📸 Instagram: @monarchforlove  

In this week’s episode, we’re naming something couples rarely admit out loud—feeling lonely in marriage. You said “I do,” you built a life together, and yet sometimes it feels like you’re miles apart under the same roof. Loneliness doesn’t mean your marriage is broken; it’s a signal that something needs attention.We unpack why loneliness sneaks into relationships—unspoken needs, distractions, fear of vulnerability, and misaligned expectations—and I share practical, heart-centered steps to bridge the gap. You’ll learn how to create daily “us” moments, spot each other’s loneliness triggers, pause with curiosity in conflict, and design rituals that bring you back together.Loneliness doesn’t have to be a life sentence. It can be the wake-up call that leads you and your spouse into a deeper connection. Because love isn’t automatic—it’s a choice.🔗 Website: www.monarchforlove.com 📘 Book: www.awakenedheartsbook.com📸 Instagram: @monarchforlove  

In this week’s episode, I’m stepping into a season many couples both dread and quietly anticipate—the empty nest. After decades of parenting, the kids are gone, the routines vanish, and the house suddenly feels too quiet. It’s a season that can stir grief, relief, confusion, and the unsettling question: What’s next for us? I will be sharing personal stories, practical steps, and simple rituals to help you and your spouse move from loneliness to renewal.Becoming empty nesters isn’t the end of your story—it’s the invitation to write a new chapter. One where you choose each other again, with fresh eyes and deeper love.🔗 Website: www.monarchforlove.com📘 Book: www.awakenedheartsbook.com📸 Instagram: @monarchforlove  

Think sexy means lingerie and candlelight? Think again. In this feel-good episode, Michelle Hays and positivity powerhouse Instagram sensation Kelli Butterfly spill the tea on how playfulness, laughter, and choosing joy can supercharge your relationship. From cranky funks to contagious fun, we’re diving into why your energy matters more than your outfit—and how a little optimism can heat things up in and out of the bedroom. This episode is your invitation to flirt with life again.Because love is a choice—and positivity is foreplay. 🔗 Website: www.monarchforlove.com📘 Book: www.awakenedheartsbook.com📸 Instagram: @monarchforlove 

In this heartfelt episode of Monarch for Love, host Michelle Hays gets personal and real about a common but often unnoticed relationship trap—the stories we tell ourselves. Whether it’s “He doesn’t care,” or “She never listens,” these inner narratives shape how we feel and respond in our marriage—but they’re not always true. Michelle shares candid examples from her own marriage, walks you through how to pause, reflect, and reframe those stories with love, and gives you practical tools to communicate your needs without blame. If you’ve ever felt unseen, overworked, or misunderstood, this episode will offer a powerful shift in perspective—and a loving reminder that love is a decision. 🔗 Website: www.monarchforlove.com📘 Book: www.awakenedheartsbook.com📸 Instagram: @monarchforlove