If you’ve been praying for change in your love life but keep finding yourself in the same patterns, this episode will help you understand why. In this episode of the No More Breadcrumbs podcast, Kim Velez shares why prayer doesn’t override free will, how holding onto control in relationships keeps you stuck, and why trying to be your own savior in love may be blocking the breakthrough you’re asking God for. This conversation is for women who are:• Jesus-curious or already walking with God• Coming from manifesting, mindset, or self-healing work• Tired of settling, being breadcrumbed, or feeling insecure in love• Struggling to let go of relationships God has already asked them to release You’ll hear about:• Why God won’t force you out of misaligned relationships• How clinging to the wrong man keeps you stuck• What it really means to yield your love life to God• Why Jesus won’t bless what dishonors you• How healing deepens when you partner with God instead of carrying it alone 💗 Resource mentioned in this episode:How to Stop Choosing Emotionally Unavailable Men God’s Way — a $17 course designed to help you bring Jesus into your love patterns so they can finally break.Learn More HERE This episode is not about fixing yourself.It’s about letting Jesus heal the woman who keeps choosing what isn’t aligned. Christian dating, Jesus and relationships, faith based relationships, Christian women, healing with Jesus, emotionally unavailable men, surrendering to God, Christian identity, God led love, trauma and relationships, new age to Jesus, No More Breadcrumbs podcast, Kim Velez  

If you’re tired of choosing emotionally unavailable men and wondering why love keeps slipping through your fingers, this episode is for you. In this episode of No More Breadcrumbs, we explore the story of the woman with the issue of blood and how Jesus didn’t just heal her body — He restored her identity and removed her shame. This conversation is for women who: Love Jesus (or are curious about Him) but still struggle in relationships Feel guarded, unworthy, or ashamed of their past Keep accepting breadcrumbs instead of real love Want healing, not self-help hustle We talk about how trauma and shame shape your love life, why healed hearts stop reaching for what harms them, and how trusting who Jesus says He is changes what — and who — you choose. ✨ Resource:How to Stop Choosing Emotionally Unavailable Men-God’s Way ($17)    Topics: Christian WomenChristian RelationshipsFaith & HealingDating with GodTrauma HealingIdentity in ChristChristian PodcastEmotional HealingFaith-Based RelationshipsNo More Breadcrumbs

If you’ve been praying for breakthrough but still battling the same fear, anxiety, unworthiness, or love patterns… this episode is going to shift something inside you. Jesus never told you to climb your mountain.He told you to speak to it. In this episode, we dive into: • Mark 11:22–24 and Matthew 17:19–21 (NASB)• What Jesus actually meant by “say to this mountain”• Why trauma identity keeps choosing fear in love• How hyper-independence and self-protection block God’s best• How to speak directly to fear, unworthiness, and old patterns• How to know if what you’re praying aligns with God’s will• Why your love life changes when you allow God into your healing You don’t walk in authority because you’re strong —you walk in authority because the Holy Spirit lives in you. ✨ THE HEALING ROOM IS OPENIf you’re ready to heal your identity, rewrite your patterns, and break the mountain for good — join us HERE   Topics: Christian women, Christian healing, trauma healing with God, identity in Christ, Christian dating, self-worth in God, speak to the mountain, Mark 11, Matthew 17, Holy Spirit healing, Christian podcast, overcoming fear, breaking patterns, Godly relationships, Kim Velez, No More Breadcrumbs podcast, new age to Jesus, prayer authority, faith and healing, Christian love life

Why hyper-independence, self-reliance, and self-protection sabotage your love life — and how to break these patterns with Jesus.

Why God blocks certain relationships, how trauma identity chooses for you, and how to heal your love life with Christ at the center.

You pray for godly love…but your patterns still reflect the wounds you haven’t fully healed. This episode breaks down why your trauma identity causes you to choose love that contradicts your prayers — and how to finally shift into your God-given identity so you can receive the love God has for you. We cover:• Why trauma identity chooses familiarity, not godliness• How your nervous system keeps you stuck in old patterns• What God says about your identity as His daughter• Why prayer alone can’t override unhealed wounds• How to partner with Jesus in healing your love life Plus: 4 practical steps to start aligning your identity with God’s truth today. If you're tired of praying for godly love while living from a wounded identity, The Healing Room and Rewritten will change everything. Rewritten Self Paced course The Healing Room Waiting List   Topics in episode: love patterns, christian relationships, identity in christ, trauma identity, god given identity, christian woman podcast, healing with god, christian dating, faith and love, trauma healing, god and self worth, kim velez, no more breadcrumbs podcast, jesus changed my life, christian healing, dating patterns, why prayers dont match patterns

You say you want a healthy, godly love… but part of you still expects to be abandoned.That’s your trauma identity—the version of you that learned love through pain.Your God-given identity already knows you’re chosen, covered, and complete. In this episode, I’m walking you through how to recognize the difference and start shifting today: ✨ What the trauma identity sounds like (fear, control, over-giving)✨ What your identity in Christ actually says about you✨ 4 practical steps to start walking in your true identity:1️⃣ Ask ChatGPT to pull 10 Bible verses on your identity in Christ → read them in your Bible2️⃣ Memorize 2–3 and speak them out loud daily3️⃣ Invite Jesus in: “Lord, help me see myself the way You see me”4️⃣ Audit your love-life behaviors → where are you settling, performing, or negotiating your worth?Then pray, breathe, and let Him meet you in the moment. When you stop living from the trauma identity and start living from your God-given identity, everything in your love life changes—because you finally stop fighting to be chosen and start living like you already are. Scriptures Referenced: John 10:10 | 2 Corinthians 5:17 | 1 Peter 2:9 | Romans 12:2 | 1 John 4:19 NEXT STEP:Inside The Healing Room and Rewritten, I help women trade the trauma identity for their God-given one—so they can experience love that’s safe, secure, and Spirit-led.   Topics: trauma identity vs god given identity, identity in christ, christian healing, healing with god, christian woman podcast, faith and love, self worth in christ, trauma healing with jesus, christian relationships, godly love, no more breadcrumbs podcast, kim velez, jesus changed my life, christian dating, god and identity, renewing your mind

You keep trying to prove you’re worthy — by doing more, loving harder, staying longer, and showing up for people who don’t meet you halfway.You think if you just get it right this time, they’ll finally stay.But love was never meant to be earned. This episode is for the woman who’s tired of chasing love, tired of performing for connection, and tired of believing she has to earn what God already called hers. In this conversation, we’ll talk about:✨ Why you confuse effort with worthiness✨ How self-reliance and control sneak into your love life✨ What it really means to receive love instead of earn it✨ How God’s love redefines your value and your standards✨ Why letting Him love you first changes everything Scriptures:Ephesians 2:8-9 • Romans 5:8 • 1 John 4:19 You don’t have to beg for love, chase it, or prove you’re enough for it.You already are — because He already said so. Inside The Healing Room and Rewritten, I help women heal their love life and rebuild their self-worth through Christ — not through performance or perfection.

You’ve done the therapy, the journaling, the affirmations — but you still feel like you’re carrying everything alone.You say you trust God… but deep down, you’re terrified to let go. This episode is for the woman who’s tired of doing it all herself — the woman whose trauma identity built her independence, but now keeps her from real intimacy, peace, and love. I’m sharing how self-reliance is actually a trauma response that feels empowering because it once kept you safe — but now it’s blocking what God’s trying to give you. We’ll talk about:✨ Why trusting God feels so scary for trauma survivors✨ How bad church experiences or absent father figures create self-protection patterns✨ Why surrender isn’t weak — it’s the most powerful thing you can do✨ How partnering with God in your healing transforms every area of your life — not just your love life When you surrender to God, you’re not losing control — you’re gaining peace.He’s not taking power away from you — He’s restoring it to you. Scriptures referenced:Proverbs 3:5-6 • 2 Corinthians 12:9 • Matthew 11:28 If you’ve been stuck between striving and surrender, this is your invitation to let God into the healing process and finally rest in His strength instead of your own. NEXT STEPS:Inside The Healing Room Waitlist and Rewritten, I help women break free from survival mode, rebuild their self-concept in Christ, and bring God into the parts of their love life they’ve been trying to fix alone. Topics: self reliance, surrender to god, christian healing, trauma healing with jesus, faith and identity, identity in christ, christian podcast for women, letting god in, healing with god, nervous system healing, faith and trauma, christian transformation, jesus changed my life, trust god not yourself, no more breadcrumbs podcast, kim velez

You’re not unworthy of love — you’ve just believed a lie. In this episode, Kim exposes how the ‘not enough’ identity keeps you chasing breadcrumbs instead of receiving the feast God already set for you.

I didn’t go looking for Jesus — He came for me. And in just 90 days, He transformed every part of my life. In this episode, I’m sharing how Jesus radically shifted my: • Identity — from self-reliant, performance-based, and world-shaped to Daughter of Christ• Finances — from fear and striving to supernatural provision and Kingdom stewardship• Location — how God moved me across states and why He did it• Relationships — instant restoration and reconciliation after years of distance and pain• Healing — how He broke trauma patterns, control, and survival mode• Desires — how my goals, calling, and focus shifted from mine to His• Relationship with God — how I learned the difference between religion and intimacy This is for the woman who: Has tried healing, manifesting, therapy, or “being strong” on her own Has felt God tugging at her but didn’t know how to surrender Is tired of performing, controlling, or striving in her own will Wonders what it looks like to follow Jesus in her real life — not just in theory He didn’t just change my beliefs. He rerouted my life, my money, my heart, and my direction. Inside The Healing Room and Rewritten, I help women heal at the root, break survival patterns, rebuild identity in Christ, and walk in what God is calling them into next. Details are below:  Free What's Your Love Identity Quiz Healing Room Waitlist Rewritten Self Paced Course Topics: identity in Christjesus testimonychristian transformationhow Jesus changed my lifehearing God’s voicehealing with Godself reliance to surrenderchristian trauma healinggod changed my financesmoving in faithreligion vs relationshipsupernatural provisionobedience and callinghow God healed my relationshipskingdom stewardshipdaughter of God identity

Are you stuck in toxic love patterns — breadcrumbing, trauma bonds, or feeling “not enough” in relationships? In this episode, we unpack why affirmations and self-help aren’t enough, how your nervous system wires you to chase unavailable love, and how inviting God into your healing rewires everything.

Are you tired of asking questions like “Why won’t he choose me?” or “Why do I keep attracting emotionally unavailable men?” In this episode of No More Breadcrumbs, we’re taking a devotional approach — giving you 3 powerful prayers to pray over your love life. These aren’t about begging God to fix someone else. They’re about healing your own heart, building discernment, and aligning your desires with God’s best. Here’s what you’ll learn today: Prayer for Worthiness & Identity — to break free from the lie of “not enough.” (Ephesians 1:4) Prayer for Discernment — to spot red flags and stop confusing chemistry with God’s clarity. (James 1:5) Prayer for Alignment — to release counterfeits and prepare for covenant love. (Psalm 37:4) If you’ve been searching “Why am I attracted to unavailable men?” or “Why do I keep attracting toxic relationships?” this episode will give you language to finally break those cycles. God doesn’t give crumbs — He gives daily bread. And prayer is one of the most powerful ways to stop settling for less and step into the fullness of His design for love. 👉 Want to go deeper? Check out my Rewritten self-paced course — where we heal the root wounds, rewire your nervous system, and rebuild your self-concept in God’s truth. Join HERE    Topics Covered: why won’t he choose me, why I keep attracting emotionally unavailable men, why am I attracted to unavailable men, why do I keep attracting toxic people, christian dating podcast, prayers for love life, healing father wounds, break trauma bonds, godly relationships, how to attract healthy love, christian women dating podcast, self-worth in God, nervous system healing, prayer for relationships

Are you stuck googling things like “why am I attracted to emotionally unavailable men,” “why won’t he choose me,” or “why do I keep attracting toxic relationships?” You’re not alone. In this episode, we break down: Why your brain and nervous system keep pulling you toward familiar pain (neuroscience + trauma wiring). How self-concept and low self-esteem cause you to settle for less than God’s best. What “breadcrumbing” and “trauma bonding” really mean, and how to break the cycle. A powerful practice where you ask God: “How do You see me? What do You want me to know about my worthiness?” Practical tools to rewire your thoughts, reset your nervous system, and start embodying the truth: You are already chosen and beloved. 💡 Whether you’ve searched “how to get him to commit,” “how to manifest love,” or “how to rewire negative thoughts,” this episode will help you stop chasing, stop settling, and start believing you are enough in Christ. 👉 For deeper support: Rewritten (self-paced course): Heal your self-concept, rewire old patterns, and build a new love identity. Learn More Here The Healing Room (live coaching): Join other Christian women healing unworthiness, rewiring their nervous system, and anchoring their worth in Jesus. Learn More Here   Topics Covered: why am I attracted to emotionally unavailable men why won’t he choose me why won’t he commit breadcrumbing in relationships trauma bonding love how to manifest love as a Christian woman rewire your nervous system for love self-concept in love Christian women podcast feeling not good enough for love

Have you ever asked yourself: “Why won’t he choose me? Why won’t he commit? Why do I keep attracting unavailable men? Why do I feel like I’m not good enough for love?” You are not alone. So many women spiral in these questions, waiting for a man to finally “pick” them. But here’s the truth: God already calls you chosen. In this episode of No More Breadcrumbs, I’m breaking down:✨ Why you keep being pulled toward emotionally unavailable men✨ The real reason he won’t commit (and why it’s not your worth)✨ How your self-concept and nervous system keep you stuck in chasing mode✨ What changes when you stop waiting to be chosen and start living as already chosen by God This is for Christian women who are tired of chasing, overthinking, and settling for breadcrumbs in love. It’s time to heal the root wound, rewire your identity, and experience the kind of love that reflects God’s truth about you. 👉 Ready to go deeper? Start with Rewritten — my self-led course to reprogram your love identity and stop the cycle of unworthy love.👉 Or get on the waitlist for The Healing Room Live Coaching Group, where you’ll learn how to rewire your thoughts, regulate your body, and invite Jesus into your healing for lasting transformation.   Topics: why won’t he choose me why won’t he commit how to get him to commit Christian why do I feel not good enough for love why I keep attracting emotionally unavailable men Christian women healing relationships stop chasing him Christian podcast God calls you chosen Christian women identity in Christ relationships

Rewiring Your Thoughts With Jesus So You Stop Spiraling in Love You’ve tried journaling, affirmations, and mindset hacks to stop overthinking in love — but somehow you still spiral. I get it. Self-led healing tools are powerful (I still use neuroscience and somatic practices daily), but they can feel exhausting when the whole burden is on your shoulders. In this episode of No More Breadcrumbs, I share what happened when I stopped white-knuckling my healing and started partnering with Jesus. You’ll learn: ✨ Why self-led healing works but still leaves you striving✨ What supernatural healing with God looks like (and how fast He can move)✨ How to practice receiving instead of self-efforting✨ A simple shift to rewire your thoughts with Jesus at the center — so you can finally feel secure in love If you’re ready to go deeper: 💡 Start with Rewritten — my self-led course that shows you exactly how to reprogram your identity and break free from toxic love patterns.👉 [Rewritten] 🤝 Or get on the waitlist for The Healing Room Live Coaching Group — where you’ll learn neuroscience + somatic rewiring in partnership with Jesus and receive live coaching support so you don’t have to do it alone.👉 [ Healing Room Waitlist] This episode is especially for Christian women who are tired of overthinking, chasing, and settling for breadcrumbs in love. It’s time to release the pressure, rewire your identity, and experience the healing only He can bring. topics: rewiring your thoughts with Jesus Christian women healing podcast stop spiraling in love Christian how to stop overthinking in relationships Christian women relationships healing rewire your mind with God healing love wounds with Jesus Christian podcast for women in love identity in Christ and relationships overcoming fear of abandonment Christian reprogram your mind with faith nervous system healing with God Christian women dating advice stop attracting unavailable men Christian trauma to truth podcast Christian

Are you tired of waiting for a man to finally choose you — only to end up disappointed, confused, or questioning your worth? In this episode, we’re talking about the “pick me” dynamic — when your mood, self-worth, and even your future plans hinge on whether someone else finally commits. We’ll unpack why you keep attracting emotionally unavailable men, why you confuse mixed signals with love, and how your past wounds can make crumbs feel like a feast. You’ll learn: The truth about the “pick me” pattern Why he hasn’t chosen you (and why it’s not your fault) The trauma patterns behind chasing unavailable men How father wounds and early abandonment shape your attraction One step to start reclaiming your power today If you’ve been asking, “Why won’t he choose me?”, “Why do I keep attracting unavailable men?”, or “Why am I drawn to hot and cold relationships?” — this is your wake-up call. God’s love is steady, consistent, and never withholding — and that’s the kind of love you’re worthy of. 👉 Ready to heal at the root, rewire your nervous system, and stop settling? Join us inside The Healing Room — where we break these patterns for good. Tags / Keywords why won’t he choose me, why am I attracted to emotionally unavailable men, why do I keep attracting unavailable men, why I keep attracting toxic people, why won’t he commit, why I keep attracting narcissists, dating advice for women, healing father wounds, stop attracting unavailable men, break trauma bonds, how to attract healthy love, self-worth healing, christian dating podcast, nervous system healing, healing love addiction

Tired of feeling confused, disappointed, or strung along in your love life? This episode is your wake-up call. In No More Breadcrumbs: Why You're Not Crazy for Wanting the Whole Loaf, we’re talking about breadcrumbing in dating and relationships — what it is, why you keep falling for it, and how to finally break free from emotionally unavailable men who offer just enough to keep you hoping... but never enough to feel secure. If you've been settling for situationships, one-sided love, or mixed signals that leave your nervous system in survival mode — this is the healing, revelation, and realignment your heart has been craving. We’ll unpack: What breadcrumbing really looks like (even the subtle forms) Why your self-concept keeps attracting the same emotional cycle How trauma, father wounds, and fantasy bonding keep you stuck What it means to rebuild your worth with Jesus at the center Why it’s safe to want more — and how to receive it God doesn’t offer crumbs. He offers daily bread. This is your permission slip to walk away from confusion and into clarity, peace, and love that stays. 👉 Ready to rewrite your story? Join us in [The Healing Room] for nervous system healing, self-concept rebuilding, and trauma-informed identity work rooted in God’s truth.  Keywords Section: breadcrumbing in dating, emotionally unavailable men, dating advice for women, self-worth healing, Christian dating podcast, trauma bonds, father wounds, healing love patterns, stop settling in relationships, how to attract healthy love, breadcrumb relationship, self-concept healing, Jesus and dating, faith and relationships, nervous system healing, identity work, godly relationships, love addiction recovery

Babe, if you’ve been repeating affirmations every morning, trying to speak life over your love life… but deep down you’re still scared love will leave — this episode is your wake-up call and your invitation to actual healing. We’re talking about how father wounds and abandonment wounds shape the way you see love, what you accept in relationships, and how safe your nervous system feels just being chosen. You’ll learn:• Why “I can fix this myself” is a trauma response, not a truth• What happens when you finally believe Jesus is more powerful than your pain• Why your body won’t believe affirmations when the root is still infected• How the authority of God as Father rewires the lie that love abandons you If you’ve tried everything… but still don’t feel free — this is where healing begins. 📖 Psalm 68:5 — “A father to the fatherless, a defender of widows, is God in his holy dwelling.” Ready to stop striving and start receiving?The Healing Room is open — but Founders Pricing ends July 31st.This is your container to:✅ Regulate your nervous system✅ Rewire your identity at the root✅ Change the story of your love life while partnering with Jesus Click here to join The Healing Room before doors shift. You weren’t created to heal alone.   Tags:healing father wounds, abandonment wounds, healing inner child, how to heal father wound, Jesus heals trauma, self-worth in Christ, Christian love and identity, nervous system healing, trauma recovery with God, rewrite your identity, healing love wounds, break the breadcrumb cycle, Christian podcast for women, love identity, self concept healing

You say you trust God...But in your love life, you’re still chasing, fixing, and overthinking.You're still waiting on his reply, still trying to be chosen, still repeating patterns you swore you were done with. In this episode, we’re getting real about what it actually looks like to surrender your heart, healing, and love life to God. We’ll talk about: Why trusting yourself more than God is not strength — it’s survival How relying on you is the slowest way to heal What fear of surrender really means (and how to break it) How Jesus can rewrite your identity in one moment What it looks like to actually submit your love life to God — without fear, shame, or delay This is not just another “trust the process” pep talk.This is a Holy-Spirit-led call to stop settling for pain and start receiving what God actually wrote for you in love.    Want to break this pattern for good? Join Rewritten — a Christ-centered experience to rebuild your identity in love, stop settling, and start receiving the kind of love God actually has for you. 👉 [Link to Rewritten] ✨ Take the Free Love Identity Quiz: [Download Here] 🎧 Subscribe + leave a review if this spoke to you.