“You are worthy because you exist. Later is a lie.” — Hannah Hembree Bell
This first episode of Not Saving It For Later sets the tone for everything to come. It’s for women who are thinking about divorce, in the middle of it, on the other side, or simply stuck in the “medium suck” of life—tired of pretending everything’s fine and ready to start again. Hannah shares why she started the show, what it means to stop waiting for “later,” and how to build a life that feels like yours again. From the “good spoon” story to the Bitter vs. Better compass, she gets real about divorce, identity, and choosing joy now—not someday.
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00:00 – Opening Manifesto: Stop saving your life for later. Hannah’s why for the show, who it’s for, and the promise: straight talk, zero fake‑empowerment BS.
02:21 – The Good Spoon: How a kitchen drawer pause exposed a lifetime of putting joy on layaway—and why “use the good spoon” became a movement.
04:43 – Later Is a Lie: “May death be ever your advisor.” The ticking‑clock mindset, Robert Frost’s two roads, and why you can’t wait to be “more worthy.”
06:27 – Welcome to Divorceland: The scary‑carnival metaphor; finding your footing when you didn’t ask for this ride. Cussing disclaimer, honesty guarantee.
08:44 – Capacity & Joy Buckets: From thimble → bathtub → ocean. Growing your capacity for good in tiny, repeatable stretches.
15:51 – Not Broken—Beginning: The “Is this it?” season, the cost of pretending, and permission to want a bigger life.
18:16 – Worthiness as Baseline: You are worthy because you exist. Full stop. (And what that changes.)
24:51 – Bitter or Better? The North Star for every decision during divorce. British Rowing’s one‑question method → your filter.
27:03 – Text You Shouldn’t Send: Applying Bitter/Better to the “X‑factor” pop‑off text. Court‑proofing your communication.
29:20 – Pro‑Woman ≠ Anti‑Man: Why this room centers women without bashing men; calling in healthy masculinity.
31:36 – Receipts, Tools, and Trials: When the kids didn’t live with her first; evidence, therapy, Divorce Poison, and long‑game strategy.
33:57 – Origin Story: East Texas to law school; three babies back‑to‑back; learning to want more.
36:26 – Turning 30 on Facebook: “This is your real life.” The not‑a‑dress‑rehearsal moment that changed the trajectory.
38:51 – Leaving Badly vs. Leaving Well: Why preparation matters; when settling now means war later; learning the hard way.
41:15 – My Confident Divorce (MCD): Course + Circle bundle; go‑bag checklists, custody prep, and evidence systems—so you don’t lose kids, money, or sanity.
43:29 – Carry Your Own Groceries: The dream that became the book: you can handle your life.
45:08 – Season Preview: Mediation, body and identity, woo + practical, divorce glow‑up, money power.
47:13 – The Confession: “I want more.” Why wanting more threatens systems—and why we’re doing it anyway.
49:32 – Joy Is the Point: People full of life are contagious. Let it rub off.
51:10 – Radical Responsibility: Viktor Frankl, the space between stimulus and response, and dropping the villain/victim script.
53:00 – Closing Charge: You are one to three decisions away from a different life. We’re not saving it for later.
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This episode and these notes are for educational and inspirational purposes only and are not legal, medical, or mental health advice. If you’re in Texas and need legal advice, consult a licensed attorney who knows your facts. If you’re in danger, call 911 or the National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800‑799‑SAFE (7233).
Host: Hannah Hembree Bell — Texas divorce lawyer, mom, founder of Hembree Bell Law, creator of My Confident Divorce.
Production: Authentic Exposure Studio
Sponsors: OurFamilyWizard.