Not so Christian Brothers
An authentic look at modern masculinity from two brothers from different generations. They share insights on fatherhood, brotherhood, and everything in between.
It's presented by veteran broadcaster Colm Hayes who's voice is instantly recognizable from his years in FM104, RTE and presently Ireland's Classic Hits radio and his brother Justin Caffrey , a well renowned high-performance coach and entrepreneur.
With years of experience between them and stories you've probably never heard before, you may want to get involved.
These guys don't mess around, it's funny, informative, current, sensitive and ball-breaking all at the same time.
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Not so Christian Brothers
An authentic look at modern masculinity from two brothers from different generations. They share insights on fatherhood, brotherhood, and everything in between.
It's presented by veteran broadcaster Colm Hayes who's voice is instantly recognizable from his years in FM104, RTE and presently Ireland's Classic Hits radio and his brother Justin Caffrey , a well renowned high-performance coach and entrepreneur.
With years of experience between them and stories you've probably never heard before, you may want to get involved.
These guys don't mess around, it's funny, informative, current, sensitive and ball-breaking all at the same time.
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
This aftershow hits deeper than anyone expected.
It opens with Justin’s wild story about a man who dug an entire underground temple system under a mountain — by himself — because a vision told him to. A surreal, spiritual, nearly supernatural experience that ends with police crying in awe and Justin being choked by a “future spirit” the night COVID hit. It’s bizarre, fascinating, and completely NSCB.
But then the conversation shifts.
Colm talks honestly about burying his wife just two months ago — and how impossible it feels to “heal” when time hasn’t even begun to make sense yet. Justin pushes back, exploring how grief forces us to confront not only loss, but every unresolved bruise underneath it. Rebecca balances both worlds, trying to make sense of the emotional chaos while grounding the conversation in compassion and common sense.
From there, the episode expands into:
• Therapy — does it actually help, or is it just talking in circles?
Colm questions its value. Justin argues it saved his life. The contrast is powerful.
• The tin-can theory of life.
Justin explains how unresolved trauma rattles behind us until we face it — and why avoiding it only makes the noise louder.
• Parenting, perfection, & the myth of the “healthy family.”
Rebecca challenges the idea that some kids grow up untouched. Colm insists every family carries something — always.
• Empowering children instead of shielding them.
Colm shares a story about talking to schools and teaching kids the language of resilience.
• Rebecca’s incredible story about her daughter’s confidence breakthrough.
From hiding at the back of sports day to suddenly smashing races and tackling a gruelling 800m hill run — the evolution becomes the emotional heart of the episode.
This aftershow is raw, human, emotional, hilarious, and unpredictable — the exact chemistry that makes Not So Christian Brothers what it is.
00:00 — The Underground Temples & the Spirit in the Future Room
Justin’s insane Damanhur story and the night COVID hit.
02:30 — Aftershow Starts: Same Parents, Different Timelines
The crew settle in.
03:30 — Colm vs Therapy: “Does it actually help?”
A raw and honest debate about grief and whether therapy works.
06:00 — The Tin Cans We Drag Through Life
Justin’s analogy for unresolved trauma and emotional weight.
10:00 — Grief, Shock, and Why No One Is Ever Ready
Colm talks openly about losing Anne.
13:00 — Sudden Death vs Expected Death: Does It Change Grief?
A deep dive into how different losses impact us.
16:00 — Children, Resilience & the Harm of Over-Shielding
How modern parenting affects mental health.
18:00 — Empowerment vs Protection in Raising Kids
Colm shares stories from Cycle Against Suicide and parenting.
20:00 — Rebecca’s Daughter Finds Her Strength
A powerful story of confidence, sport, and resilience.
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The Christian Brothers have officially come for the podcast again — and this time, they’ve issued a full legal warning. In today’s episode, the NSCB crew dive into the new solicitor’s letter, the history of being sued over podcast names, why they might have been targeted again, and how the lads feel about it all.
The episode begins with absolute chaos: Colm reveals — on mic, with zero warning — that the podcast has received a brand-new legal letter from the Irish Christian Brothers. Yes… again. The team read through the solicitor’s message, which threatens legal action if they don’t respond within 14 days. And immediately, the debate erupts:
– Why are they being targeted?
– Why Colm’s the one they always find?
– And what does this mean for the podcast’s name (for the second time in their history)?
As the crew unpack the bizarre déjà vu of being sued for their podcast identity, they veer into the complicated history of the Christian Brothers at their own school — a mix of humour, trauma, absurdity and gallows comedy that only NSCB can pull off.
From there, Rebecca drags the show back to sanity (briefly), before the team launch into the week’s biggest news story: Troy Parrott’s unbelievable comeback and the headlines that followed (“The Late Troy Show”). They break down his journey, the pressure he’s faced, the resilience it took, and why Ireland is buzzing again.
The conversation then spirals beautifully into:
– therapy (and why some avoid it),
– intrusive thoughts,
– controlling emotions,
– political leaders with “a screw loose,”
– how childhood shapes adulthood,
– and the importance of digging deep rather than avoiding the hard stuff.
It’s funny. It’s raw. It’s fast-moving. It’s NSCB at their best.
And yes — they promise to keep listeners updated if they get sued. Again!!
New NSCB every Thursday & Sunday
00:00 — Another Legal Letter Lands
Colm reveals the new solicitor’s warning from the Christian Brothers.
02:00 — The First Time They Got Sued
The crew revisit the “Brothers in Arms” name and the original legal battle.
04:00 — Christian Brothers: Humour, Trauma & Chaos
A mix of jokes, school memories, and uncomfortable truths.
06:30 — Should They Bring a Christian Brother on the Show?
A wild idea gets tossed around.
07:00 — The Troy Parrott Phenomenon
Why Ireland is suddenly obsessed and how he turned his career around.
12:30 — Intrusive Thoughts, Control & Modern Life
The team talk mindset, anger, and overthinking.
24:00 — “Are World Leaders Losing the Plot?”
Colm’s rant about global politics and people with “a screw loose.”
31:00 — Men’s Mental Health & Getting Into the Weeds
Rebecca pushes the importance of real emotional work.
32:00 — Wrapping Up… and Yes, There’s More in the Aftershow
Hints about defending people who avoid therapy and what’s coming next.
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This week’s Aftershow takes a turn down movie memory lane — and things get emotional, hilarious, and unexpectedly profound.
Justin reveals how a paleontology podcast led to a dinosaur dream meltdown, Rebecca unpacks the childhood film that taught her people can die, and Colm dives deep into why Elf, Love Actually, and even war movies can hit harder than therapy.
From Steel Magnolias, to The Big Chill, to the absolute chaos of 80s action films and teenage rom-coms, the Not So Christian crew explore how the movies we watched shaped who we became — our ideas of love, masculinity, loss, rebellion, and everything in between.
It’s nostalgic. It’s unhinged. It’s surprisingly healing. And it’s pure Not So Christian Brothers energy.
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What movie shaped you?
This Aftershow will have you laughing at the absolute chaos of dinosaur dreams and “penetrative” Elf monologues — and then crying as childhood film scenes resurface with all their forgotten lessons.
Justin opens up about the movies that taught him how to be a man when he had no role model. Rebecca remembers the moment a film shattered her belief that mothers can’t die. Colm explains why certain movies become emotional anchors that we return to our whole lives.
This is an episode about memory, identity, childhood, grief, love — and the strange, beautiful ways films teach us who we are.
Grab your popcorn (and maybe a tissue). This one stays with you.
00:00 – Dinosaur Dreams & Midnight Panic
Justin’s paleontology podcast → dinosaur dream → waking chaos with the dog.
03:00 – Emotional Fallout from the Main Episode
Rebecca reacts to Colm’s monologue; how “Elf” hit harder than expected.
06:00 – Movies That Shaped Our Childhoods
Family cinema memories, the films tied to parents, siblings, and growing up.
09:00 – Rom-Coms, Love Actually & First Ideas of Love
Why some rom-coms stay with us, the bracelet scene, and teenage awakenings.
12:00 – Films That Built Our Identities
Ferris Bueller, Breakfast Club, macho 80s movies, and shaping masculinity/teenage rebellion.
15:00 – Movies That Taught Us About Death
Steel Magnolias, My Life, and the films that introduced mortality.
18:00 – Films as Emotional Anchors
The movies we return to for comfort, nostalgia, or mental health support.
19:30 – Wrap Up
Like, share, follow — and see you Thursday.
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The Brothers are back — and this week they’re tearing into the fairy tales, Disney dreams, and “life lessons” that turned out to be complete nonsense. From Snow White’s dodgy consent to Willy Wonka’s psychedelic child abuse and Elf’saccidental life coaching, it’s a deep dive into the movies that shaped our childhoods — for better or worse.
Colm reveals a beautiful real-life love story from Venice, Justin opens up about the film that changed how he saw grief forever, and Rebecca manages to keep the lads (mostly) on track. Expect laughs, heart, and a touch of chaos.
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00:00 – The beanie, the dwarfs & Disney’s dirty secrets
05:00 – Willy Wonka’s emotional damage & childhood illusions
08:30 – When real life feels like a movie
10:00 – Love, Venice, and the most romantic story ever told
11:00 – The films that left scars (and inspiration)
15:00 – Grief, legacy & The Big Chill
17:00 – Finding meaning in Elf & the art that moves us
20:00 – Why sharing art is the most human thing we do
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Everyone’s chasing balance — but what if the secret is learning to live in chaos?
This week’s Aftershow gets philosophical (and messy) as Colm Hayes, Justin Caffrey, and Rebecca Horan unpack the cult of calm. From meditation fails to emotional meltdowns, they rip into the myth that life’s supposed to feel peaceful.
Colm admits he’s allergic to silence, Justin defends stillness (badly), and Rebecca proves she’s the only one who actually understands mindfulness — or at least can pronounce it.
It’s loud, honest, and unexpectedly therapeutic — in that “you’re not alone in being a disaster” kind of way.
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🗓 This episode: Sunday, 9 November 2025.
Everybody’s telling you to calm down — but what if that’s the problem?
In this episode, the Not So Christian Brothers dismantle the modern obsession with peace, balance, and “wellness.”
Colm’s wound up, Justin’s zen (for five seconds), and Rebecca’s calling them both out.
It’s the Aftershow that proves chaos isn’t failure — it’s the natural state of being human.
00:00 – Welcome & “the cult of calm”
02:00 – Colm vs stillness: “Silence is suspicious”
04:30 – Rebecca on burnout & balance myths
07:00 – Justin’s meditation confessions
09:00 – Why chaos might be more honest than calm
11:00 – Mindfulness, missteps & manic Mondays
13:00 – Final thoughts & next week’s tease
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Let’s be honest — we’re all full of sh*t.
This week, the Not So Christian Brothers — Colm Hayes, Justin Caffrey, and Rebecca Horan — rip apart the illusion of perfection we’ve built online and off.
From filtered lives and fake humility to Irish denial, ego, and middle-aged crisis rebrands, they say the quiet part out loud.
Colm calls out “bullsh*t wellness,” Justin admits he’s been just as guilty, and Rebecca lays down the truth about people who post “authentic” just to get attention.
It’s funny, uncomfortable, and scarily relatable — a full-on takedown of modern self-delusion.
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You think you’re being real? You’re not — and neither are we.
This episode of Not So Christian Brothers goes straight for the jugular:
why everyone’s pretending, who’s fooling who, and how social media made us all addicted to lying.
It’s fast, filthy, and full of uncomfortable truth.
If you’ve ever posted a “no filter” selfie or humble-bragged about mindfulness — you might want to sit this one out.
00:00 – Welcome & Colm’s rant on fake people
03:00 – The cult of “authentic” influencers
06:00 – Justin admits he’s played the same game
09:00 – Rebecca’s reality check: “Nobody’s that happy”
12:00 – The Irish art of denial
15:00 – Midlife rebrands & spiritual bullshit
18:00 – Truth bombs & uncomfortable laughter
21:00 – Sunday tease & a final jab at fake gratitude
🗓 Release Date: Thursday, 6 November 2025
🎙 Next Episode: Sunday, 9 November 2025
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This one hits hard.
In this week’s Aftershow, the Not So Christian Brothers — Colm Hayes, Justin Caffrey, and Rebecca Horan — drop the jokes (mostly) and dive into the emotional minefield of family, childhood, and guilt.
Justin remembers being left behind in a house that didn’t feel safe, watching Colm build a snowman through the window.
Colm swears he doesn’t remember doing it — and Rebecca isn’t letting him off the hook.
What starts as a nostalgic story becomes a brutally honest conversation about survival, neglect, loneliness, and why Irish families never really talk about love — just guilt.
It’s raw, revealing, and somehow still hilarious.
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🗓 This episode: Sunday, 2 November 2025.
Ever carried guilt from your childhood? Or blamed your brother for turning you into who you are?
Colm and Justin open old wounds (and old snowmen), with Rebecca playing referee.
It’s part therapy, part sibling rivalry, and 100% Not So Christian.
00:00 – Welcome & the “Snowman Story”
02:00 – Childhood memories vs selective amnesia
04:00 – Guilt, leaving home & who got left behind
06:00 – Rebecca calls out Irish emotional repression
08:00 – Sibling rivalry & the fight to be seen
10:00 – Family dysfunction, loneliness & love
12:00 – The red-pen parents & emotional grammar lessons
13:00 – Wrap-up, chaos & next week’s tease
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Are we healing — or just performing pain for attention?
This week on Not So Christian Brothers, Colm Hayes, Justin Caffrey, and Rebecca Horan get brutally real about the age of emotional exhibitionism.
From crying selfies and mental health influencers to therapy addiction and Irish repression, no one’s safe.
Colm thinks we’ve replaced resilience with victimhood, Justin argues for real healing, and Rebecca calls out the hypocrisy on both sides.
It’s funny, uncomfortable, and more honest than most therapy sessions.
Everyone’s sad. Everyone’s online.
And everyone’s telling you about it.
Colm’s had enough of performative misery. Justin’s defending therapy. Rebecca’s trying to make sense of it all.
It’s Irish honesty at its finest — sharp, savage, and weirdly comforting.
If you’ve ever rolled your eyes at a crying influencer (or been one), this episode’s for you.
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🎙 Next Episode: Sunday, 2 November 2025
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Sunday’s supposed to be holy — but not here.
In this week’s Aftershow, Colm, Justin, and Rebecca dive straight into scandal, corruption, and why humans can’t handle power.
It starts with Beckham’s affair, jumps to Epstein’s empire, and somehow ends up at Paul McCartney, Margaret Thatcher, and mommy fetishes.
💬 What they actually get into:
This is Not So Christian Brothers — unholy, uncensored, and impossible to stop listening to.
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🗓 This episode: Sunday 19 October 2025.
Power, sex, greed — and David Beckham’s Sunday roast.
Colm’s defending men again, Justin’s confessing to corruption, and Rebecca’s running circles around them both.
It’s filthy, funny, and far too honest for a Sunday.
00:00 – Sunday blasphemy & Mass talk
02:00 – Beckham, Rebecca Loos & revenge stories
04:00 – Epstein, Ghislaine & the corruption triangle: money, power, sex
06:00 – Men’s “three pillars” vs women’s “three truths”
07:30 – Justin admits his power addiction
09:00 – Paul McCartney, ego, and artistic narcissism
11:00 – Can women be corrupted — or are they worse when they are?
12:00 – Margaret Thatcher, affairs & fantasies
13:00 – Lesbian callback, chaos, and sign-off
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This one’s an absolute ride.
Colm gets accused of having “lesbian energy,” Justin tries to justify angry men, Rebecca calls out everyone’s hypocrisy — and somehow it all ends with aliens ditching Earth because we’re too boring.
The gang dive head-first into:
It’s blunt, funny, a bit mad, and exactly why you listen to Not So Christian Brothers.
No filters. No safe takes. Just three voices tearing into the week’s chaos.
🎙 New shows every Thursday & Sunday.
🗓 This episode: Thursday 23 October 2025.
If you think the world’s lost the plot — you’re not alone.
Colm’s ranting about militant lesbians, Justin’s defending dictators (kind of), and Rebecca’s trying to hold civilisation together.
Somehow, it’s educational. Mostly, it’s just unholy fun.
00:00 – Are you a lesbian, Colm? (and other casual chaos)
05:00 – Angry men, woke culture & the incel problem
10:00 – Rory McIlroy, golf wives & patriarchal nonsense
15:00 – Putin, Trump, and why power always corrupts
20:00 – Cain & Abel → The first murder was family business
25:00 – Aliens are bored & AI is smarter than us
28:30 – Wrap-up + VPL jokes & shameless plug for Instagram
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It’s Sunday, and the hangover from Thursday’s episode on forgiveness is still brewing.
Colm Hayes, Justin Caffrey, and Rebecca Horan are back — a little raw, a little caffeinated, and absolutely not ready to forgive.
From Taylor Swift and Mariah Carey to business betrayals, heartbreak, and hospital trauma, this aftershow turns reflection into revelation. Colm argues that anger fuels success, while Justin opens up about his past, therapy, and losing his son — and how forgiveness saved him.
Rebecca keeps the chaos grounded as the conversation drifts from revenge to redemption, Catholic guilt to Protestant freedom, and even Trump’s ego to South Dublin snobbery.
This is Not So Christian Brothers at its best: raw, real, and roaring with uncomfortable truths.
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Ever been told to “let it go”? Colm thinks that’s nonsense.
Justin says forgiveness is the only way to survive.
Rebecca’s just trying to stop them from throwing microphones.
In this brutally honest Aftershow, the trio dive into what really drives people — anger, pain, or peace? From family and faith to fame and failure, it’s the episode that proves growth doesn’t come from calm... it comes from chaos.
Whether you’re the grudge-holder or the peacekeeper, this one will hit home.
🗓 Release Date: Sunday, 19 October 2025
🎙 Next Episode: Thursday, 23 October 2025
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Can you really forgive and forget?
This week on Not So Christian Brothers, Colm Hayes and Justin Caffrey go head-to-head on forgiveness — from global politics to personal betrayal. Is forgiveness a spiritual superpower or just psychological self-preservation?
Rebecca tries to keep the peace as the lads spiral from Olympic doping scandals to Viagra sponsorships, Panadol hypocrisy, and the dark days of Christian Brothers education. It’s raw, unfiltered, and painfully honest.
💬 Expect heated debates, unexpected wisdom, and the kind of laughter that comes from old wounds and too much truth.
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If you’ve ever struggled to forgive someone — or wondered whether forgiveness is overrated — this episode will have you shouting “Amen” and “Absolutely not!” in the same breath.
Colm doesn’t buy the idea that we can truly forgive deep harm, while Justin argues that forgiveness is freedom itself.
From Nelson Mandela to Netanyahu, from classroom trauma to childhood fear, the conversation hits nerves — and nerves hit back.
It’s philosophical, it’s personal, it’s brutally Irish.
This isn’t your Sunday sermon — it’s Not So Christian Brothers.
00:00: Colm’s drive-in rant — doping, hypocrisy & Panadol ads
04:00: Viagra sponsorships and “enhanced” performance
05:00 : Forgiveness — real or just rebranding pain?
17:00 : Rebecca pivots — new topic: education and the Irish system
18:00: Is school broken? Class, privilege & South Dublin snobbery
23:00: The Christian Brothers memories — fear, beatings & resilience
27:00: Can you ever forgive your education? Wrap-up and reflections
🗓 Release Date: Thursday, 16 October 2025
🎙 Next Episode: Sunday, 19 October 2025
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This Aftershow might just break your heart and make you laugh out loud. Rebecca dives headfirst into intrusive thoughts, Justin preaches that happiness is “an inside job,” and Colm — raw as ever — opens up about finding comfort in grief and guilt in joy.
From Taylor Swift’s provocative new album to a young girl in Gaza teaching resilience through food, the trio weave laughter, life, and loss into one of their most honest Aftershows yet.
Get ready to question what happiness really means — and maybe, just maybe, breathe a little deeper.
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Time Chapter:
00:00 - Welcome to The Aftershow – “Voices in Our Heads”
01:05 - Taylor Swift, Intrusive Thoughts & Showgirl Energy
02:40 - TV Anxiety, Death in Media & the Comfort of Familiar Grief
04:00 - Survival vs Happiness – Tattoo-Worthy Quotes
06:00 - Is Happiness an Inside Job? 08:30 The Myth of Constant Joy
10:30 - Excitement, Expectations & Flat Afternoons
12:00 - Finding Joy in the Pizza Moments
14:10 - Gaza, Guilt & the Girl Who Pickled Olives
17:00 - Resilience, Loss & The Magic Shop
19:30 - Breathing, Intrusive Thoughts & Being Present
20:50 - Final Thoughts & Recommendations
21:10 - Like, Follow & See You Thursday!
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We all wake up at 3 a.m. sometimes — heart racing, thoughts racing faster.
In this week’s episode of Not So Christian Brothers, Justin and Colm tackle the 3 a.m. spiral head-on.
Colm talks about what happens when your mind won’t stop running imaginary arguments and worst-case scenarios. Justin explains why the brain does this — from primitive wiring to stress hormones — and how to interrupt the loop with a proven paper-and-pen trick that calms the nervous system.
Rebecca joins the brothers to ask the questions everyone’s thinking: are intrusive thoughts ever useful, and why do we keep feeding them with our screens?
It’s an honest, funny, and surprisingly comforting listen for anyone who’s ever stared at the ceiling wondering why can’t I just stop thinking?
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00:00 – Irish politics, PR fails & Sharon Stone’s tweet
03:30 – Intrusive thoughts: why we overthink at night
06:40 – The 3:28 a.m. wake-up and anxiety loops
10:00 – Naming your inner critic and calming the noise
14:00 – When overthinking turns into rumination
17:00 – Doom-scrolling, dark TV, and anxiety triggers
20:00 – How what you consume affects your sleep
24:00 – The myth of constant happiness
27:00 – Journaling, reflection, and tracking your progress
32:00 – Therapy stories & finding humour in the process
34:30 – Closing thoughts: small daily tools for calmer minds
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The Aftershow continues one of the most moving conversations we’ve ever had. Colm has returned to the studio after sharing the story of losing his wife, Anne — and now, the brothers and Rebecca go deeper into what comes next: rebuilding, reconnecting, and getting help.
This time, the laughter mixes with vulnerability. The three talk about the importance of therapy, the fear of showing emotions, and the funny, messy truth of trying to heal. Justin opens up about his own experiences with therapy — including the time his grief was “too complex” for a therapist — while Colm shares how he’s finally ready to face his emotions head-on.
It’s honest, warm, and at times hilarious, but beneath it all lies one message: we need to talk more about men’s mental health, therapy, and the courage it takes to ask for help.
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This episode marks a special moment as Justin welcomes his brother Colm back to the studio after the loss of his wife, Anne. What begins as a heartfelt homecoming turns into one of the most powerful conversations we’ve ever had on the show. Colm speaks openly about love, loss, and the shock of grief — but also the kindness of strangers, the funny memories that live on, and the importance of showing up for one another when life falls apart.
From there, the brothers and Rebecca dive into a bigger conversation about men, emotions, and mental health. Why do we avoid talking? Why do we doom-scroll instead of opening up? And how do we begin to unravel the pain that sits underneath?
This is an episode for anyone who has ever struggled, ever carried grief, or ever felt the weight of silence. It’s about brothers finding their way back to each other, and a reminder that talking — honestly, openly, even awkwardly — can be the first step toward healing.
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Welcome to the Aftershow of Not So Christian Brothers, released every Saturday.
This week, Rebecca, Justin, and Beatrice continue the conversation about loss, legacy, and the powerful traditions that make Irish funerals so unique. After honoring Anne in Thursday’s main episode, the Aftershow dives deeper into the “four objects” tradition, exploring how everyday items — a blanket, a dog lead, a football boot, or even a coffee cup — can capture a person’s life in ways words sometimes cannot
Ep 9 aftershow
.From showbiz glamour to meditation pillows, Bill Clinton’s listening trick to why Irish wakes were once the best place to meet a partner, this Aftershow balances raw honesty, humor, and reflection. Nobody does funerals like the Irish — and nobody leaves without a laugh.
🙏 Remembering Anne, with love to Colm, Alex, and Holly.
The Aftershow drops every Saturday. Subscribe on Spotify, YouTube, Apple, or wherever you get your podcasts. Don’t miss Thursday’s main episodes + Saturday’s Aftershow.
00:00 – Welcome to the Aftershow
01:00 – What objects represent Rebecca? Watch, makeup bag & showbiz chaos
05:00 – The Irish wake tradition: community, gambling, and meeting partners
08:00 – What objects represent Beatrice & Justin? Shoes, meditation pillows & coffee cups
14:00 – How people remember us: warmth, hugs & how you make others feel
16:00 – Bill Clinton’s listening trick at the Ritz & lessons in presence
18:30 – Monica Lewinsky’s reinvention & resilience
19:00 – Closing: remembering Anne & looking ahead to Colm’s return
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This week’s episode opens on a heartfelt note. Sadly, Colm’s wife Anne passed away last week after a long battle with cancer. Our thoughts and prayers are with Colm and his children, Alex and Holly. We hope to have Colm back in studio with us soon to share his own reflections and stories.
In the meantime, Rebecca, Justin, and Beatrice hold space for Anne’s memory while diving deep into the big themes of life, death, and legacy. What do we really want to be remembered for? What symbols or objects capture a life well-lived? And how do humor, tradition, and family rituals help us navigate grief?
From the intimacy of Irish funerals and the surprising power of “four objects,” to parenting, sport, and even online dating honesty—this week’s conversation balances raw honesty, humor, and perspective.
Expect laughter through tears, reflections on resilience, and practical insights on love, family, and finding meaning in the everyday.
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👉 Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and share. The Not So Christian Brothers podcast keeps growing thanks to you—and Colm will be back with us soon.
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Before we dive in, we want to pause. Colm’s beautiful wife Anne — married 35 years — has sadly passed away. We are all devastated for Colm, Holly, Alex, and Anne’s wider family. It is with heavy hearts that we proceed with releasing this show. We felt it was important to keep going, to give us all something to focus our energy and attention on. We send Colm all our love and support, and we hope to have him back with Justin on the sofa next week. Justin, Rebecca, Terry & Beatrice. x
With Beatrice stepping back in as co-host, this week’s Not So Christian Brothers digs deep into one big question: are we destined by nature, or shaped by nurture?
The conversation takes unexpected turns:
This is an episode full of raw honesty, hard questions, and surprising hope.
⏱️ Chapters
00:00 – Sending Love to Colm
Opening with support for Colm and his family after Anne’s passing.
01:12 – Can We Change Our Destiny?
Introducing this week’s big question: nature, nurture, or choice?
05:16 – Growing Up as “The Mistake”
Justin shares how being labelled and living with dyslexia shaped his drive.
07:38 – Labels That Stick
How childhood labels — “the sporty one,” “the dumb one” — box us in.
10:02 – When Trauma Rewrites a Life
Beatrice recalls losing her father at four, and how it changed her path.
12:21 – Surgery Without Anesthesia
Justin connects his early trauma to workaholism, contrasted with a friend’s addiction.
14:38 – Labels and Identity
Rebecca on how being “the fun one” shaped (and limited) her identity.
16:13 – Family Narratives and Projection
Why families often keep us in the roles we had as children.
19:12 – What Others Think Is None of Your Business
Justin on resilience and letting go of outside opinions.
22:16 – Expectations and Disappointment
Why birthdays, love, and recognition often disappoint us — and how to change that.
24:42 – Hurt People, Hurt People
Why negative comments usually say more about the speaker than the target.
27:22 – Managing Expectations in Relationships
Beatrice explains how lowering expectations creates more peace at home.
28:48 – Are Our Lives Predestined?
Closing reflections: do we arrive where we’re meant to be, or are we constantly rewriting our story?
31:02 – Like, Subscribe & Follow
Closing thanks, with a nod to the Aftershow and Colm’s return.
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This week’s Not So Christian Brothers Aftershow looks a little different… with Colm away and Terry missing in action, Rebecca and Beatrice take over the mic — with Justin looking on nervously in the corner.
Following Beatrice’s special episode, the Aftershow dives into:
💡 This one blends honesty and humour — from shoes left on the stairs to vaccum wars, household roles, and why communication beats resentment every time.
00:00 – Aftershow Takeover (Rebecca & Beatrice on the couch)
02:00 – 20 Years of Marriage: What’s Changed
03:42 – Respect, Independence & Still Laughing
05:00 – Who Starts the Hard Conversations?
07:38 – Letting Go vs. Resentment
09:30 – Household Roles: The Mental Load
12:21 – Running a Family Like a Business
13:39 – Style, Clean Homes & Instagram Pressure
16:07 – Shoes on the Stairs (and Why Men Don’t See Them)
18:42 – What Men Really Think About
20:52 – When Therapy Helps (and When It’s Too Late)
21:48 – Sex, Date Nights & Laughter After 20 Years
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