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Not Your Average Counsellor
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Not Your Average Counsellor
🔐 How Do You Deal with a Partner Who Has Trust Issues?
💭 When your partner doubts your loyalty—no matter how solid you’ve been—it can leave you walking on eggshells. In this episode, we’re unpacking how to love someone who struggles with trust, without losing yourself in the process. ----more---- Inside This Episode: 🧠 What trust issues really look like—jealousy, anxiety, overthinking, and needing constant reassurance. 📦 Where it all stems from. Past betrayal, childhood wounds, or insecurity—trust issues usually start long before you. 💔 The impact on your relationship. From emotional distance to full-blown control—how mistrust shows up day to day. 🎯 Reassurance vs. enabling. When being supportive crosses into feeding their fears—and how to avoid that trap. 🗣️ How to talk about it. Real, honest conversations that help build safety without defensiveness or shame. ⚖️ Boundaries matter. Their fears shouldn’t cost you your freedom, independence, or peace of mind. 🪜 Building trust—even if you didn’t break it. Small, consistent actions can make a big difference—if they’re ready to receive it. 🚩 When it becomes toxic. If “trust issues” are masking control, manipulation or emotional burnout, it’s time to pay attention. 🧑‍⚕️ The role of therapy. When support isn’t enough, how professional help can make space for real healing. 🚪 Knowing when to walk away. Because no relationship should make you feel like you’re constantly being tested. ----more---- 💬 Let’s Keep This Conversation Going! Have you been the “reassurer” in your relationship—or the one struggling to trust? I’d love to hear your perspective. Message me, email me, or share your experience on socials. And if this episode resonated, send it to someone who needs to hear it. Until next time—remember: trust should grow love, not suffocate it. 💛
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1 week ago
13 minutes

Not Your Average Counsellor
🧱 How Do You Deal with an Emotionally Unavailable Partner?
💭 When you're giving your all—and they’re holding back—it can leave you feeling confused, hurt, and alone. In this episode, we’re unpacking emotional unavailability: why it happens, how to spot it, and what the hell to do when you're falling for someone who can’t (or won’t) let you in. ----more---- Inside This Episode: 🚫 What emotional unavailability actually is. From subtle detachment to outright avoidance—how to tell if it’s a wall or a fortress. 💔 The signs to look for. If deep chats feel like pulling teeth, vulnerability is off-limits, or they vanish when things get real—this one’s for you. 🧠 Where it comes from. Attachment styles, past heartbreak, emotional overload—why some people build walls instead of bridges. 🥀 The impact on you. Loneliness, low self-worth, feeling like you’re chasing love with no finish line in sight. 🛠️ Can they change? Supporting growth is one thing—trying to fix someone who’s not emotionally available? That’s a whole other story. ⚠️ Boundaries, not burnout. How to protect your energy, set expectations, and stop blaming yourself for their distance. 🗣️ How to talk about it. Expressing your needs without pushing them away—or losing your voice in the process. ⏳ Stay or go? What to do if they want to grow but aren’t ready—vs. when it’s clear they’re not capable of giving what you need. 🧑‍⚕️ Therapy and healing. How professional support can help them open up—and help you reconnect with your own needs and worth. ----more---- 💬 Let’s Keep This Conversation Going! Have you loved someone who just couldn’t meet you emotionally? Are you there now? I want to hear your story. Let’s talk—DM me, email me, or join the convo on socials. And if this episode gave you clarity or comfort, pass it on to someone who needs to hear it. Until next time—protect your heart, honour your needs, and never settle for one-sided love. 💛
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3 weeks ago
17 minutes

Not Your Average Counsellor
❤️‍🔥 Is It Possible to Be in Love with Two People at the Same Time?
💭 Torn between two hearts—or just confused? In this episode, we dive into the raw, real question: Can you genuinely love two people at once? We’re talking passion, emotional bonds, and the complexities that don’t fit neatly into fairytales or checkboxes.   Inside This Episode: 💘 What does “being in love” even mean? Emotional depth, attachment, chemistry—are they all the same thing? 🧠 Love & the brain. Oxytocin, dopamine, and how your brain can bond with more than one person at a time. 💋 Emotional vs. physical connection. Can you be deeply bonded with one, but physically drawn to another? 🔁 Monogamy or polyamory? Exploring how different relationship structures view multiple loves—and whether society has it all backwards. 😵‍💫 The chaos of feeling torn. When your heart’s in two places at once, confusion, guilt, and overwhelm aren’t far behind. 😰 Fear of loss. Can new love dilute the old—or can your heart actually expand? 🧳 Past vs. present. Are you still in love with someone, or just the memory of who they were to you? ⚖️ Is it ethical? Navigating fairness, transparency, and emotional honesty when more than one person is involved. ❓ If you had to choose… What matters most? Timing, compatibility, growth—or the sheer depth of feeling? 🛠️ Can you come back from this? What happens when you fall for someone else while in a committed monogamous relationship?   💬 Let’s Keep This Conversation Going! Ever been in love with two people at once? Or wrestled with what that even means? I want to hear from you—send me your stories, slide into the DMs, or share your thoughts on socials. If this episode made you feel seen, or you know someone facing this dilemma—pass it on. Until next time, remember: love isn’t always black and white, but honesty will always light the way. ❤️‍🔥
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1 month ago
19 minutes

Not Your Average Counsellor
🔥 Should You Disclose Your Sexual History to Your Partner?
💭 Is full honesty always the best policy—or are some things better left unsaid? In this episode, we’re diving into the tricky terrain of past partners, present insecurities, and how much is too much when it comes to sharing.   Inside This Episode: 🧠 Why people ask. Is it genuine curiosity, insecurity, or a desire for deeper understanding? 💬 The case for honesty. Transparency can build trust, support sexual health conversations, and deepen emotional connection. 🙊 The case for privacy. Does the past need to be revisited? Not every detail is helpful—and some can do more harm than good. 🌏 Culture, religion & upbringing. How our background shapes what we think is “normal” to ask—or share. 💉 The essentials. Why discussing STIs and relationship history is important—without it turning into a quiz on your past. 😬 The comparison trap. Knowing your partner’s past can stir up jealousy and unhelpful comparisons. 📉 The “body count” myth. Challenging the idea that the number of past partners defines your worth or relationship potential. 🚧 Boundaries are key. How to respond if your partner asks—and where to draw the line between curiosity and intrusion. 🚩 When it’s a red flag. Recognising when someone uses your sexual history to shame, control, or manipulate. 🗣️ If you choose to share… How to navigate the convo with honesty, clarity, and care—for yourself and your partner.   💬 Let’s Keep This Conversation Going! Have you ever felt pressure to share—or wished you hadn’t? Do you think transparency builds trust, or do some things belong in the past? I’d love to hear your thoughts—DM me, email me, or jump into the conversation on socials. If this episode made you rethink your own boundaries or sparked a discussion with someone close to you, share it along. Until next time—lead with honesty, honour your boundaries, and stay true to what feels right for you.
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1 month ago
16 minutes

Not Your Average Counsellor
🔐 Is It Ever OK to Go Through Your Partner’s Belongings Without Their Permission?
💭 Trust, privacy, and that sneaky little urge to check. In this episode, we’re diving into the grey area of snooping—what it says about your relationship, and where the line is between curiosity and crossing a boundary.   Inside This Episode: 🔍 What does privacy really mean? Is wanting personal space in a relationship healthy—or hiding something? 😟 Why people snoop. From fears of cheating to old wounds from past relationships, we unpack the real reasons people go looking for answers. 🧠 The snooping spiral. Once you check once, is it easier to justify doing it again? How suspicion can feed itself, even if you don’t find anything. 🪞 What it says about your relationship. Is it a sign of your partner being secretive—or a signal that something deeper (like insecurity or mistrust) needs addressing? 🔐 Transparency vs. invasion. Some couples share passwords and phones—but does that mean everything is fair game? 🚨 Is it ever justified? What if you genuinely suspect cheating, addiction, or dishonesty? We explore whether some situations call for breaking the usual rules. 🔄 Flip the script. How would you feel if your partner went through your things? Why empathy can reframe the whole conversation. 💔 The fallout of breached privacy. Even if you don’t find anything, the act of snooping can cause lasting damage—and sometimes hurt more than the truth. 🧘 Healthier ways to handle suspicion. Open conversations, setting boundaries, and checking in with your own emotions instead of their messages. 📏 Set the standard early. How to define what privacy looks like for your relationship—and why it’s better to talk about it before a problem comes up. ----more----   💬 Let’s Keep This Conversation Going! Have you ever snooped—or been snooped on? Did it build trust or break it? I want to hear your stories, thoughts, or spicy takes. Slide into my DMs, send an email, or join the convo on socials. If this episode sparked something for you or a mate, share it along. Until next time—choose trust, talk it out, and respect each other’s socks drawer.
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2 months ago
15 minutes

Not Your Average Counsellor
Should Couples Merge Their Finances or Keep Them Separate?
💭 Is combining money a sign of trust—or a recipe for tension? In this episode, we’re talking dollars, independence, and the tricky terrain of shared finances in relationships.   Inside This Episode: 💸 Why money matters. How finances influence relationship stability, shaped by our upbringing and past experiences. 🤝 The case for merging. Shared accounts can build trust, simplify budgeting, and support joint goals like buying a home. 🧍‍♀️🧍‍♂️ The case for keeping things separate. Some couples thrive on financial independence—less conflict, more autonomy. 🔀 The hybrid approach. Combining accounts for shared expenses while maintaining individual ones for personal freedom. 🔍 It’s not just about access—it’s about transparency. Why honest conversations about income, debt and spending habits matter more than how the money’s structured. ⚠️ Merging pitfalls. Joint accounts can complicate things in the event of a breakup—or if one partner overspends. 🧾 The risk of staying separate. Financial distance can create emotional gaps or signal secrecy. ⚖️ Income imbalances. Should expenses be split 50/50—or based on what each person earns? 🗣️ Having the money talk. When and how to open up about finances and expectations with your partner. 📈 Planning your future. Financial compatibility is just as important as emotional connection—shared goals matter.   💬 Let’s Keep This Conversation Going! Do you and your partner merge, separate, or do a bit of both? What’s worked—or not worked—for you? Let’s chat—DM me, email me, or share your thoughts on socials.   If this episode sparked some money talk in your world, share it with someone navigating the same question. Until next time—stay true to you.
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2 months ago
23 minutes

Not Your Average Counsellor
Should You Prioritise Your Relationship or Your Career?
💭 Can you truly have it all—deep love and career success—or does something always have to give? In this episode, we’re diving into the balancing act between personal connection and professional ambition. Inside This Episode: ⚖️ Why does it feel like a choice? Societal pressures and traditional roles often pit love against success. 🧭 What matters most to you? Self-reflection on whether you're career-driven, relationship-focused—or striving for both. 💼 Can you have both? Real-life stories of people navigating this tug-of-war, and what helped them find (or lose) balance. ❤️ How supportive is your partner? The impact of alignment and encouragement on career choices. 🚫 When ambition costs connection. Stories of regret and realisation from those who put love on the backburner. 🌪️ When love holds you back. Recognising when your relationship might be limiting your growth. 🚻 Gender roles and double standards. The different ways men and women experience this dilemma. 🗣️ Communication is everything. How to talk with your partner about career goals and shared expectations. ⏳ Timing matters. Life stages influence what takes priority—and that’s okay. 🌟 Choose what’s right for you. Your path doesn’t have to follow anyone else’s blueprint. 💬 Let’s Keep This Conversation Going! Have you ever struggled to balance love and ambition? Which one took the lead—and why? Let’s talk—DM me, email me, or share your story on socials. If this episode spoke to you, pass it on to someone facing a similar crossroad. Until next time—stay true to you.
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3 months ago
24 minutes

Not Your Average Counsellor
Can You Truly Love Someone Without Ever Having Met Them in Person?
💭 Is love real without physical presence, or is it just an emotional illusion? In this episode, we explore how digital-age relationships are redefining what connection and intimacy mean today. Inside This Episode: 💬 What is love in the digital era? Emotional connection vs. physical presence—has technology changed the rules? 💖 The power of emotional bonds. Can strong love grow through screens and messages alone? 🧠 Fantasy vs. reality. Are you falling in love with who they are—or the idea of them? 🔬 The science of connection. What happens in our brains when we bond without touch or presence? ⚠️ Risks of online love. From catfishing to projection—what to watch out for. 💌 Long-distance love stories. When virtual relationships become real—and what makes them work. 🔥 What about physical intimacy? Can love survive without shared experiences or physical chemistry? ⏳ Can it last without meeting? How long can a digital-only relationship go on before reality needs to kick in? 🌐 The future of love. From virtual dating to AI partners—how digital intimacy is evolving. 💬 Let’s Keep This Conversation Going! Have you ever fallen for someone you hadn’t met in person? Can love exist without the physical? Let’s talk—DM me, email me, or share your thoughts on socials. If this episode resonated with you, pass it along to someone who needs to hear it. Until next time—stay true to you.
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3 months ago
26 minutes

Not Your Average Counsellor
Soulmates? Not So Fast! How Disney and Other Stories Mess with Our Idea of 'The One'
💭 Is “The One” a romantic fantasy or a harmful myth? This episode unpacks how movies, books, and culture have shaped our expectations of love—and whether believing in soulmates is helping or hurting modern relationships.   Inside This Episode: 📜 Where did the soulmate idea come from? Exploring the historical, philosophical, and spiritual origins of “The One.” 🎬 The Disney effect. How fairy tales and Hollywood have set us up for unrealistic relationship expectations. ❓ Is 'The One' a myth? Love as a choice vs. love as fate—what really makes a relationship last? ⚠️ The problem with believing in soulmates. Unrealistic standards, fear of settling, and lack of effort in maintaining relationships. ❤️ Love vs. compatibility. Why shared values and effort matter more than destiny. 🏰 The 'Happily Ever After' trap. Why lasting love requires communication, compromise, and commitment—not just a magical connection. ⏳ Timing & personal growth. Being ready for love matters more than waiting for fate to deliver your perfect match. 💡 Breaking free from the soulmate trap. Choosing love based on respect, effort, and emotional connection rather than waiting for fate to decide. ----more----   💬 Let’s Keep This Conversation Going! What do you think—are soulmates real, or is love about choice and growth? Let’s talk—DM me, email me, or share your thoughts on socials.   If this episode resonated with you, send it to a friend who needs to hear it. Until next time—stay true to you.
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4 months ago
23 minutes

Not Your Average Counsellor
Is It Fair for One Partner to Have Significantly More Power in a Relationship?
💭 Does power imbalance strengthen or weaken a relationship? In this episode, we explore where power dynamics come from, how they impact both partners, and whether true equality is possible in relationships. Inside This Episode: ⚖️ What is power in a relationship? Emotional, financial, social, and decision-making power—where does it come from? 💰 The financial power struggle. Should the higher-earning partner have more say in financial decisions? 🛑 The risks of unequal power. How control, manipulation, or resentment can develop when one partner holds too much influence. ❤️ Emotional power & manipulation. When does influence turn into coercion? 🔄 Can a power imbalance be healthy? Some relationships thrive with natural leadership roles—if mutual respect exists. 🤝 Creating balance. How to navigate shifts in power and ensure both partners feel valued. ----more---- 💬 Let’s Keep This Conversation Going! What do you think—can a relationship work with a power imbalance, or does it create long-term issues? Let’s talk—DM me, email me, or share your thoughts on socials. If this episode resonated with you, send it to someone who needs to hear it. Until next time—stay true to you.
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4 months ago
25 minutes

Not Your Average Counsellor
Has Society Turned Co-Dependency into a Love Story?
💭 Are we mistaking emotional over-reliance for true love? This episode unpacks how society romanticises co-dependency and where we should draw the line between deep connection and unhealthy attachment. Inside This Episode: ❤️ What is co-dependency? The difference between healthy interdependence and losing yourself in a relationship. 🎬 The media’s role. How movies, TV, and books glorify obsessive love as the ultimate romance. 🛑 The “ride or die” mentality. Is staying no matter what really love—or just fear of letting go? 🚩 Signs of co-dependency disguised as love. Feeling responsible for a partner’s emotions? Losing your identity? Let’s talk red flags. 😨 The fear of being alone. How societal pressure keeps people in unhealthy relationships. 💡 Love vs. emotional enmeshment. True love nurtures independence, not dependence. 📱 Social media’s influence. The pressure to prove love online and its impact on relationship dynamics. 🔄 Can co-dependent relationships become healthy? Exploring whether change is possible through self-awareness and boundary setting. ----more---- 💬 Let’s Keep This Conversation Going! Have you ever mistaken co-dependency for love? Let’s talk—DM me, email me, or share your thoughts on socials. If this episode spoke to you, send it to a friend who needs to hear it. Until next time—stay true to you.
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5 months ago
23 minutes

Not Your Average Counsellor
Should Couples Have Access to Each Other’s Phones and Social Media Accounts?
Should Couples Have Access to Each Other’s Phones and Social Media Accounts?   💭 Does full access build trust, or is it crossing a boundary? In this episode, we’re diving into the ongoing debate over privacy, transparency, and control in relationships.   Inside This Episode: 🔑 Trust vs. transparency. Is sharing passwords a sign of honesty or insecurity? 🚧 Healthy boundaries matter. Personal space doesn’t mean secrecy—it means respect. ❤️ Why do some couples share everything? From openness to past betrayals, what drives this choice? 🛑 When privacy gets mistaken for secrecy. Autonomy can strengthen a relationship—if handled right. ⚠️ Red flags or unnecessary worry? Secretive behavior vs. personal insecurities—how do you tell the difference? 📱 Social media and relationship anxiety. Exes, online interactions, and the need for boundaries. 🔍 Is checking a partner’s phone ever okay? When does suspicion justify a closer look? 🤝 Finding middle ground. What if one partner wants full access and the other values privacy?   ----more----   💬 Let’s Keep This Conversation Going! Where do you stand? Should couples share everything, or should privacy be protected? Let’s talk—DM me, email me, or share your thoughts on socials.   If this episode resonated with you, pass it along to someone who needs to hear it. Until next time—stay true to you.
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5 months ago
26 minutes

Not Your Average Counsellor
Should You Change Who You Are for Your Partner?
💭 Is love about compromise, or should you be accepted exactly as you are? This episode dives into the fine line between healthy growth and losing yourself in a relationship.   Inside This Episode: ❤️ The nature of change. Relationships naturally shape us, but when does growth turn into self-sacrifice? 🎭 The pressure to change. Societal, cultural, and personal expectations can make you feel like you’re not “enough” as you are. ⚖️ Compromise vs. self-sacrifice. Adjusting habits is one thing—abandoning your core identity is another. 🤔 Are you changing for YOU or for them? Self-reflection is key. Is this growth or just people-pleasing? 💬 Love and acceptance. Should true love embrace you as you are, or push you to evolve? 🚧 The role of boundaries. How to maintain individuality while still growing as a couple. ⚠️ The danger of losing yourself. Signs you’re sacrificing too much and how to reclaim your identity. 🔄 Can a relationship work if one person won’t change? Knowing when to stay, when to push for growth, and when to walk away. ----more----   💬 Let’s Keep This Conversation Going! Have you ever felt pressured to change for a partner? Or have you seen positive growth in a relationship? Let’s talk—DM me, email me, or share your thoughts on socials.   If this episode spoke to you, send it to a friend who needs to hear it. Until next time—stay true to you.
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6 months ago
22 minutes

Not Your Average Counsellor
What’s Your Role in Coercive Control?
💭 Could you be unknowingly enabling, experiencing, or even exercising coercive control? This episode unpacks the complexities of manipulation, power, and control—helping you recognize, address, and break free from harmful dynamics.   Inside This Episode: ⚠️ What is coercive control? How it differs from other forms of abuse and where it shows up in relationships, work, and family. 🔍 Recognizing the signs. Isolation, gaslighting, financial control—coercive behaviors can be subtle but damaging. 🤔 Are you being controlled? Self-reflection questions to help identify coercive control in your life. 💬 Are you enabling it? How societal norms, silence, or dismissing concerns can reinforce controlling behaviors. 🚨 Could you be exercising control? Understanding the root of controlling tendencies and how to change harmful behaviors. 🧠 The mental toll. Anxiety, depression, and self-doubt—how coercive control affects mental health. 🔑 Breaking free. Steps to exit a controlling situation safely and reclaim independence. 🚪 Setting boundaries. How to establish and respect healthy boundaries to prevent coercion.   ----more---- 💬 Let’s Keep This Conversation Going! Have you experienced coercive control, or do you suspect someone you know might be affected? Let’s talk—DM me, email me, or share your thoughts on socials.   If this episode resonated with you, send it to someone who needs to hear it. Until next time—stay true to you.
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6 months ago
25 minutes

Not Your Average Counsellor
Is It Possible to Be Friends with an Ex?
💭 Can you truly move on while keeping your ex in your life? This episode dives into the emotional, practical, and relational challenges of post-breakup friendships—when they work, when they don’t, and how to navigate them.   Inside This Episode: ❤️ Why do some people stay friends with an ex? Shared history, mutual respect, or just avoiding awkwardness? 🛑 When it’s a bad idea. Mixed signals, lingering feelings, and the struggle to truly move on. 🗣️ How to set boundaries. Friendship only works when both parties are on the same page—no blurred lines. ⏳ The role of time and space. Taking a break before trying to be friends can be the difference between healing and heartbreak. 💡 Does being friends impact future relationships? How new partners feel about it and when transparency is key. 🚩 Red flags to watch for. Is the friendship really healthy, or just an excuse to hold on?   ----more----   💬 Let’s Keep This Conversation Going! Can you be friends with an ex? Have you tried? Let’s talk—DM me, email me, or share your thoughts on socials.   If this episode spoke to you, send it to a friend who needs to hear it. Until next time—stay true to you.
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7 months ago
19 minutes

Not Your Average Counsellor
Should You Tell Your Partner If You Cheat on Them?
💭 Is honesty always the best policy, or can some secrets do more harm than good? Today, we’re tackling one of the most controversial relationship dilemmas—should you confess to infidelity, or take it to the grave?   Inside This Episode: ❤️ What counts as cheating? Emotional affairs, physical infidelity, blurred lines—everyone defines it differently. 🤔 Why do people cheat? Unmet needs, emotional disconnect, impulse—let’s unpack the reasons behind betrayal. ⚖️ The ethics of honesty. Is confession about accountability, or just easing guilt? 💥 The impact of telling the truth. Can a relationship survive an affair? Or is it better left unsaid? 🛑 What happens if you stay silent? The weight of secrecy, guilt, and the risk of being found out. 🗣️ How to have ‘the talk.’ If you choose to confess, when and how should you do it? 🔄 Can trust be rebuilt? Strategies for moving forward if both partners decide to work through it. 🚩 When silence isn’t an option. Signs that keeping it hidden could cause more damage in the long run.   ----more----   💬 Let’s Keep This Conversation Going! Would you confess if you cheated? Have you been on the receiving end of this dilemma? Let’s talk—DM me, email me, or share your thoughts on socials.   If this episode resonated with you, pass it along to someone who needs to hear it. Until next time—stay true to you.
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7 months ago
33 minutes

Not Your Average Counsellor
What Are Your Thoughts on Open Relationships? Can They Work?
💭 Are open relationships the key to deeper connection, or a fast track to heartbreak? Love isn’t one-size-fits-all, and today, we’re exploring the world of non-monogamy—its challenges, its benefits, and what it really takes to make it work.   Inside This Episode: ❤️ What exactly is an open relationship? It’s not just one definition—every couple creates their own rules. 🔄 Why do people choose it? Freedom, variety, deeper intimacy—what’s the real motivation? 🗣️ Communication is EVERYTHING. Without trust and clear boundaries, things fall apart—fast. 😬 Let’s talk jealousy. It happens. But can it be managed? 🌱 The unexpected perks. Some couples say non-monogamy makes their connection stronger—could it? ⚠️ And the challenges. Misalignment, insecurity, and social stigma—can everyone handle it? 🤔 Is it right for YOU? Not everyone is built for open relationships, and that’s okay.   💬 Let’s Keep This Conversation Going! What do YOU think? Could an open relationship work, or is it a disaster waiting to happen? Slide into my DMs, email me, or share your thoughts on socials.   If this episode hit home, send it to a friend who needs to hear it. Until next time—stay true to you.
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8 months ago
34 minutes

Not Your Average Counsellor
Is It Okay to Stay in a Relationship If You’re No Longer in Love?
Is It Okay to Stay in a Relationship If You’re No Longer in Love? 💭 What if love isn’t gone, just buried under routine? Or what if staying means sacrificing your happiness? This is one of the toughest questions in relationships, and there’s no simple answer.   What We’re Covering in This Episode: ❤️ How do you know if you’re truly out of love—or just stuck in a rut? 🔥 The difference between passion fading and emotional disconnection  🤔 Why do people stay: fear, obligation, or hope for change? 💍 The role of commitment—should it outweigh emotional fulfillment?  🧠 What happens to your mental health when you stay in a loveless relationship? 💡 Is it possible to reignite love, or is it sometimes best to walk away?   This episode isn’t about giving you a black-and-white answer. It’s about helping you explore your own truth. If you’re facing this question in your own life, you’re not alone—and there’s no one-size-fits-all solution.   💬 Let’s Keep This Conversation Going! I want to hear from YOU. Have you ever been in this situation? What did you do? Slide into my DMs, email me, or share your thoughts on socials.   If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs to hear it. Until next time—stay true to you.   💡 Want to know more? Join MMI here Follow me on socials – Instagram, Facebook and LinkedIn Explore my Services here
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8 months ago
26 minutes

Not Your Average Counsellor
Welcome to the New Era of Not Your Average Counsellor!
Welcome to Not Your Average Counsellor 2025! I’m back with bold, thought-provoking conversations on relationships, mental health, and personal growth. This season, we’re shaking things up with big questions like: 👉 Should you stay in a relationship if you’re no longer in love? 👉 Should you tell your partner if you cheat? 👉 Have we turned co-dependency into a love story? No sugar-coating. Just raw, honest discussions embracing life’s messy realities. Your Voice Matters – This podcast is a two-way conversation. DM me, email me, share your thoughts. Let’s talk! The Me, Myself, and I Mastery Program is BACK! 🚀 Next intake: March 17 – Ready for change? This 12-week program is designed to get you where you truly want to be. Past participants have: 🔥 Reignited marriages 🔥 Launched businesses 🔥 Shifted careers with confidence ✨ Set boundaries & prioritised their mental health I teamed up with Maria Doyle, an Instructional Designer and past MMI participant, to make the program even better. Join us as we discuss: What makes MMI a game-changer How a strong learning environment fuels transformation The power of accountability Maria shares her first-hand experience—if you’re on the fence, this is for you! Join the Conversation! This season is all about real, raw, and necessary conversations that challenge your perspectives. If today’s episode resonated with you, if you’re feeling stuck or ready for change—you’re not alone. Check the notes for MMI details. Got thoughts? Questions? Stories? Let’s shake things up together! Stay curious, stay bold, and most of all, stay true to you. 💡 Want to know more? Join MMI here Follow me on socials – Instagram, Facebook and LinkedIn Explore my Services here
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9 months ago
30 minutes

Not Your Average Counsellor
Navigating Toxic Relationships: Is It Me or Is It Them? (PART 2)
Have you ever wondered if you're in a toxic relationship but just can’t quite put your finger on what feels off? Maybe you’re questioning if it’s you or them. Toxic relationships aren’t limited to romantic partners. These unhealthy dynamics can show up with friends, family, and even colleagues. You might not even realise how much they’re affecting your mental and emotional well-being until you know what to look for. In this episode, we continue the conversation from Part 1, where I shared Jane’s story to show you firsthand how toxic relationships can play out. In this episode, we dive further into the behaviours that make these relationships so damaging—things like manipulation, control, and emotional abuse. If you’ve ever felt drained or confused, this episode is packed with insights to help you spot the red flags and take back control. If you haven’t listened to Part 1 yet, I highly recommend starting there so you can fully understand how these dynamics unfold. Take a moment for yourself today and tune in. It might just be the clarity you’ve been looking for. If after listening, you feel you need extra support, my team and I are always here to help you navigate these challenges. Feel free to book in a ​FREE 15 minute chat​ to discuss how we can support you. Additional Support Services Support for Victims of Financial Abuse Hotlines and Helplines 1800RESPECT White Ribbon Australia Banking SupportMost banks have dedicated services to assist victims of financial abuse. Contact your bank directly or visit their website for detailed information and support numbers. Domestic Violence SheltersMany shelters provide financial counselling and resources to help victims regain independence. (See resources below.) Support for Victims of Physical Abuse Domestic Violence Shelters: Family and Domestic Violence Women’s Refuges Hotlines and Helplines: 1800RESPECT on 1800 737 732 or text 0458 737 732 Non-Profit Organizations: Centre for Women’s Safety & Wellbeing, White Ribbon Australia Legal Assistance: Legal Aid Western Australia
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12 months ago
34 minutes

Not Your Average Counsellor