In this episode we discuss sexuality, what true freedom in sexuality and relationships looks like. What is "good" and who defines good and what freedom looks like. We also discuss the cultural narrative on sexuality and the influence and even internal conflict in the LGBTQ community... specifically with the conflicting worldview and agenda of the Trans community with the rest of the gay / lesbian community. Is the goal to not have desire like the Buddhist say... or is it to give Christ control over our desires so we don't become slaves to our desires. Human's are "meaning makers" and need a purpose in life. Satisfying every desire of our heart will not leave us fulfilled or satisfied in life. 

On this episode, we cover everything from abortion to Separation of Church and State, delve into different Worldviews and subconscious biases and how those impact how we vote and our values. We also touch on LGBTQ+ in politics and the irony of some politicians calling for leaving "religious beliefs" out of politics, when America is a country founded on Christian values and religious belief.

NOTES:

• This Weeks Whiskey: The Whistler Irish Whiskey
• AOC severely takes scripture out of context to justify abortion
• Exegesis - Reading scripture the way the writers of scripture intended and by the original meaning and intent
• Roe vs. Wade being overturned...?
• "Separation of Church and State" - What does that ACTUALLY mean... where does that saying come from
• What do people mean when they say, "Keep your religion out of politics"?
• Moral Therapeutic Deism vs. Secular Humanism
• If someone has a world view that people are basically good, than there isn't really a need for God... and you end up with ideas like Communism that end up destroying humanity in pursuit of a man-made utopia.
• Can you even have a discussion on politics without "religion"... or more accurately, "theology". Everyone has theology (a belief about god... even if that is a rejection of religion or god, they will make themselves into their god, elevating their own perspective and thoughts as the reigning authority in their life.
• The two big topics that liberals typically get upset on about Conservatives (or Christians) is abortion and homosexuality (now LGBTQ+)... with special focus and sensitivity around the T now (Transexual)
• It's easy to "leave your religion out of your politics", when your "religion" has no baring or influence on your daily life (you say you are a "Christian" but in reality, they are living as a secular humanist - a Cultural Christian or Christian in name only).
• Whether a Christian or not... most people are trying to do the best thing for themselves and the ones they love. People are voting for what they believe is best for them and their country
• The "other side" isn't evil... they just have a different world view, so what they believe and are voting for is what they think will bring about the best results for their values and what they care about most.
• If voters don't believe in God, they will create their own definition of what is good, and it most likely won't be in line with God or what He has established as good. This puts God and those who follow Him at odds with "The World".
• America is based on Judeo-Christian values (it's foundational laws, constitution and culture) but as we as a society get further away from those principles, our hearts are no longer being conformed to God's will or desires and society starts sliding into chaos, confusion and breaking down. 
• Christianity is about a willful heart change, which changes our perspective and behavior (people become self-controlled)... if people don't have this, the only way to "keep people in line", is by force... and that doesn't often lead to good results.
• Wherever man has tried to replace religion or God, it goes very, very badly and millions of people end up dead - Communism, Totalitarianism, Marxism, etc. (these humanist beliefs are based on the assumption that humans are basically good and largely ignore human nature and motivation)
• While America is a Constitutional Republic (NOT a democracy), God's Kingdom is one of a benevolent dictator (an all powerful God on the throne who wants and provides the very best for his people. 

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In this episode we discuss if anger at God is ok, do we have the right to judge God, what roll does suffering play in our lives and should we be trying to avoid it and the healthy and appropriate way to handle such emotions as anger, specifically when it's directed at God.

NOTES:

• This Weeks Whiskey: Horse soldier Bourbon 120 proof from Ohio
• "Sinful anger is a expression of you playing God" - David Powlson of CCEF
• If anger is an emotion and emotions are a-moral (neither good or bad)... it matters more not that we are angry but rather how we respond to that anger and where we direct it.
• If God is good and perfect, there is logically never a time where we are justified to be angry at God.
• There is a big difference between being angry AT God vs. having room to process being angry WITH God
• When we don't hold scripture (& therefore God) as the highest authority, we start to follow culture in the trend of holding humanity and what we think as our own highest authority... which is what makes it possible for us as created beings to have the hubris to sit on the judgment seat and put God on trial, judging him based on our sense of right and wrong and justice.
• God's very nature is righteous, good and holy... He is the definition of good. So if we ever have a conflict or disagreement between what God says is good and what we think... it's not God that needs to change, it's us.
• Was Jesus dieing on the cross the equivalent of "divine child abuse" (I've heard this said from some on the left who have "deconstructed" their faith - meaning they either don't consider themselves "Christians" anymore or if they do, they don't believe in the authority of scripture like they once did)
• When suffering or a tragedy happens, we have a tendency to ask, "Why God?"... but what we are really asking is "why ME God?" (why am I suffering). It's a selfish question.
• If we read scripture in it's entirety, we will understand that we need to expect hardship and suffering. Ease and comfort should not be the primary thing we expect and are pursuing.
• 1 Thessalonians 5:18 - give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus.
• God has no obligation to explain Himself or what his larger plan is, to us.
• Ephesians 4:26 - "Be angry and do not sin. Do not let the sun go down on your anger". This verse is usually applied to horizontal relationships (between humans) but it also applies to our relationship with God

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Cancel culture, censorship and free speech. How do we as Christian, fathers, and parents tackle these issues.  Whether you like it or not, none of us can simply ignore this issue of censorship and what we know as free speech.  So we must turn to the Bible to help us develop a view of speech.  We are called to speak truth, but not engage in the idolatry of "Freedom of Speech"

1. What was the intention behind the 1st Amendment
2. Where have we gone wrong with freedom of speech?
3. How do we protect good speech and should there be limits on "bad" speech

NOTES:

This Weeks Whiskey: Del Bac Mesquite whiskey - Arizona 

Have people become so fragile that they can't bear to hear something they don't agree with or is "offensive" OR are people so stupid, that they can't be trusted to hear more than one perspective and decide what is true or false?

"Look at the ships also: though they are so large and are driven by strong winds, they are guided by a very small rudder wherever the will of the pilot directs. So also the tongue is a small member, yet it boasts of great things. How great a forest is set ablaze by such a small fire! And the tongue is a fire, a world of unrighteousness. The tongue is set among our members, staining the whole body, setting on fire the entire course of life, and set on fire by hell."

James 3:4-6 ESV

https://bible.com/bible/59/jas.3.4-6.ESV

"Our post-Christian society has dangerously married moral relativism to a sense of righteous zeal inherited from its Christian past, without any of the Christian humility that comes from the comforting faith in God's providence. Accordingly, it is hellbent on a moral crusade to enthrone relativism by force of will." - Brad Little John

https://www.thegospelcoalition.org/article/theology-free-speech/

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This week we sit down and "Babel" about the essentialism of being dependent on God, talk the connections between the self-glorifying endeavor of the Tower of Babel and the internet, as well as C. B. puts his counselor hat on for C. H. existential question on how do we really know our motivation for following God is pure and not just trying to use God to get a good life...

NOTES:

• This Weeks Whiskey: The Mattie Gladin straight bourbon whiskey. Spirits of French Lick, Indiana
• ZDogg MD Show - Science Vs. Advocacy, Omicron , & More (w/ Dr. Peter Attia and Dr. Marty Makary) - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/science-vs-advocacy-omicron-more-w-dr-peter-attia-dr/id1218431966?i=1000546834280
• Why did God "confuse their languages" in response to men creating the Tower or Babel.
• The big issue is man acting independent of God and claiming their greatness and accomplishments... outside of God, which is the hight of pride.
• The Tower of Babel is really just an extension what started in the Garden of Eden with Adam and Eve eating of the forbidden tree, mans desire to be independent of God.
• What is so wrong with desiring to be independent from God in the first place? What does this matter?
• ... Because all of life and the universe is sustained by and dependent on God for everything.
• God was checking their hearts... and it wasn't good. They wanted to be God... which is still humanity's desire today.
• The root of "culture" and "cultivate" is the same... God has built within us the desire and ability to take his raw creation and cultivate it in something more, developing technology and create culture.
• How we use these technology tools, including the internet, for good or evil matters... as does our heart behind WHY these technologies was created (are we trying to replace God with our own "greatness")
• We are designed and built to be dependent on God in everything
• Christian H. asked the honest and tough question, "how do I know my motivation as a Christian is in the right place? How do I know that I'm not just using God to try and get what I want in life (money, influence, obedient kids, fulfilling marriage, etc)?
• Just as we are called to be dependent on God, we are also designed and called to be dependent and in relationship with each other (fellow Christian's and participate in the local church).

Psalms 139 - 

O Lord, you have searched me and known me!

You know when I sit down and when I rise up;
    you discern my thoughts from afar.

You search out my path and my lying down
    and are acquainted with all my ways.....

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Beware of false doctrines and false teachers. We are called to walk in truth and light and worship the one true God.

1. What do we mean when we say prosperity gospel?
2. What makes a false teacher and why do we need to be aware of them?
3. How do we know what the truth is and if someone is a false teacher?

NOTES:

• This Weeks Whiskey: Stranahan's Blue Peak single malt whiskey
• Prosperity Gospel relies on ideas like, "that the more money you give, the more money you'll get"... "doesn't a good God what you to be prosperous, happy and healthy?"
• It uses hope and promises of "the good life" and part-truths, to emotionally manipulate people to give money they don't have to make false teachers wealthy
• The "Health and Wealth Gospel" treats God like a magic genie, who is obligated to give us what we want if we just have enough faith or say the right prayer or give enough money
• Suffering, hardship, illness or poverty are not necessarily due to people sinning or being unfaithful to God (but the prosperity gospel would tell you it is)
• A large indicator of a false teacher is that they don't preach on or talk about suffering. They don't have a theology of suffering because they are preaching a false gospel about how god wants to deliver us from suffering, if we just give enough and have enough faith.
• Idolatry is what happens when we focus more on the gifts, then the Giver.
• Prosperity Gospel is a counterfeit gospel... you spot counterfeits by really knowing the real thing (intimately knowing God and His word)

"But the prophet who presumes to speak a word in my name that I have not commanded him to speak, or who speaks in the name of other gods, that same prophet shall die.'"

Deuteronomy 18:20 ESV

"My hand will be against the prophets who see false visions and who give lying divinations. They shall not be in the council of my people, nor be enrolled in the register of the house of Israel, nor shall they enter the land of Israel. And you shall know that I am the Lord God."

Ezekiel 13:9 ESV

"For the time is coming when people will not endure sound teaching, but having itching ears they will accumulate for themselves teachers to suit their own passions, and will turn away from listening to the truth and wander off into myths."

2 Timothy 4:3-4 ESV

"And the Lord said to me: "The prophets are prophesying lies in my name. I did not send them, nor did I command them or speak to them. They are prophesying to you a lying vision, worthless divination, and the deceit of their own minds."

Jeremiah 14:14 ESV

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The Gospel Coalition - "What you should know about the prosperity gospel" - www.thegospelcoalition.org/article/what-you-should-know-about-the-prosperity-gospel

David W. Jones outlines five errors of prosperity gospel teaching:

1. The Abrahamic covenant is a means to material entitlement.

2. Jesus's atonement extends to the "sin" of material poverty.

3. Christians give in order to gain material compensation from God.

4. Faith is a self-generated spiritual force that leads to prosperity.

5. Prayer is a tool to force God to grant prosperity.

"In light of Scripture, the prosperity gospel is fundamentally flawed," Jones says. "At bottom, it is a false gospel because of its faulty view of the relationship between God and man. Simply put, if the prosperity gospel is true, grace is obsolete, God is irrelevant, and man is the measure of all things. Whether they're talking about the Abrahamic covenant, the atonement, giving, faith, or prayer, prosperity teachers turn the relationship between God and man into a quid pro quo transaction."

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https://www.thegospelcoalition.org/article/story-behind-john-pipers-most-famous-attack-on-the-prosperity-gospel/

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Special guest episode with Jeremy Donald, who is an expecting father (first-time)... who has an amazing story of redemption to share with us.

NOTES:

• This Weeks Whiskey: Blueberry Hex Mead from Superstition Meadery
• This Weeks Cigar - @myfathercigars @olivacigar
• Before God got ahold of Jeremy, he lived by the moto, "Better to reign in Hell, than to serve in Heaven" and considered himself "The Devil's right hand"...

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With all the uncertainty, fear, division and threat of mandates and eroding liberty... we dig into our identity as Christians, where we find our hope and when is the right time to "stand up" for God and truth in any cultural moment.

NOTES:

• This Weeks Whiskey: Mossburn Single Malt Scotch - 10 year
• This Weeks Cigar - @standardandtwain
• Deeper Dive Resources:
• • Owen Strachan @profstrachan | Podcast - The Antithesis | Book - "Christianity and Wokeness: How the Social Justice Movement is Hijacking the Gospel, and the way to stop it"
  • @darrelbharrison & @virgilwalker of the Just Thinking Podcast @podcast_just | Book - "Just Thinking About The State"
• We are addressing this topic today focusing on our Identity and hope as Christian's
• Within Christian circles, I've primarily heard two extremes: It's our duty as Christian's to get vaccinated and wear masks and if you don't, you are being "unloving" and un-Chirst like... or the opposite of, don't tell me what to do, I have my freedom and no one is going to make me do anything I don't want to do.... neither of which are helpful attitudes.
• Romans 12 - I appeal to you therefore, brothers, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your spiritual worship. 2 Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.
• The toxicity of pop-culture has infiltrated the church so much, that we are even seeing the same "virtue signaling" with Christians, where they are "cancelling"one another and "unfriending" each other on social media for having differing social or political views... when we should be rallying around Jesus, not our political causes and affections.
• Where is our deepest passion and allegiance... to Jesus and the Gospel, or our stance on vaccines, mandates and liberty?
• As soon as we take our eyes off Jesus, we start to loose perspective and start placing our hope in worldly things... our anxiety builds as we seek to gain control of the cause around us.
• It would seem that the issue of vaccines (whether you and your family get them) should be a matter of personal conscious and not coerced by the government, economic or social pressure. 
• Ultimately, our identity needs to be in Jesus and not in our social / political stances... and those stances need to be respectful of others positions and convictions.
• Do we really believe and trust in God? Or does our anxiety over mandates simply reveal our heart of not trusting God and trying to take matters into our own hands?
• Standing with God and for God's truth, being obedient to God IS what we are called to and is "doing something" in this cultural moment. Keep God on His throne and not taking matters into our own hands and responding in a humanist manner (acting as if there is no God).
• If a government is preventing Christian's from worshiping God or leading it's citizen's into sin... that is when we stand up and follow God over our government or civil leaders.

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The purpose for this episode is to encourage single dads in their parenting. To call men to be thoughtful and mindful in how they pursue relationships with women, so they may cultivate legacy and not just feed sexual desire.

NOTES:

• This Weeks Whiskey: Wild Turkey 101 Bourbon

2 Thessalonians 3:3 – But the Lord is faithful; he will strengthen you and guard you from the evil one.

Philippians 4:6 – Don't worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done.

Romans 8:38-39 – I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God's love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow—not even the powers of hell can separate us from God's love. No power in the sky above or in the earth below—indeed, nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God that is revealed in Christ Jesus our Lord.

1. Did you ever think you would be a dad at 19yo? Tell your story

2. Did you have help raising your daughter? Did you co-parent with your daughter's mother?

3. What were the challenges you faced?

4. Was there any good during that challenging time of raising your daughter?

5. You weren't raised in a Christian household, but looking back now where do you see God having worked in your life as a single dad?

6. What words of wisdom would you give single dads that are listening?

Resources:

https://www.thegospelcoalition.org/article/single-parents/\

https://www.thegospelcoalition.org/article/village-to-help-single-parents/

https://www.ccef.org/book/single-parents-daily-grace-hardest-job/

https://www.ccef.org/jbc_article/sturdy-truths-for-single-parents/

https://financesonline.com/single-parent-statistics/

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On this episode we explore what happens when things don't go our way in life. Even the best plans... and vacations can go totally sideways, as Christian B. recently experienced and shares with us his epic family vacation fail and how he dealt with it. Is it possible to still be grateful and praise God, despite tough situations in life? This is a story you don't want to miss... and it will likely make you feel better about any vacation mis-adventures you've had ;-)

NOTES:

• This Weeks Whiskey: Old Elk Full-Wheated Bourbon
• This Weeks Cigar: My Father's Cigar
• Christian B. tells the story of his recent epic fail of their vacation... where absolutely nothing went as planed, included cancelled flights and their family almost got charged by a moose while in their car!
• What do we do with our disappointment?
• Are we angry and honest about it?
• Do we lash out at the people around us, even though it's not their fault (or even if it is their fault)?
• Do we downplay it and pretend like everything is fine?
• So much of our disappointment reveals our desire to be in control... instead of allowing God to be in control.
• We are actually in control of very little in our lives, so we really shouldn't be surprised when things don't go our way.
• Proverbs 16:9 - "In their hearts humans plan their course, but the Lord establishes their steps."
• 1 Thessalonians 5:16-:19 - "Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus."
• We are to have grateful hearts and give thanks in ALL circumstances and situations, not just when things go our way. Often we are to give thanks DESPITE our situations in life.
• The prosperity gospel is such a sham because it says God is good and so why wouldn't he want you to be rich and your life to be comfortable and easy.
• So often when things aren't going well for us, our kids won't even notice and will still find a way to have a good time.
• David provides a good example to us in the book of Psalms, when it comes to not downplaying or ignoring when things are difficult and hard. He honestly cries out to God about how things suck for him and is honest in his pain and suffering... without accusing God.
• Things often don't go the way you want but in that adversity, suffering and difficulty, we can still be grateful and worship God in the midst of it.

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This week we get fired up about politics. We talk social justice, the purpose of government, rail against the worldview of BLM and emphasize the importance of making God and scripture our highest authority, so He can inform our engagement with culture and not the other way around, where we are seeing a lot of Christian's trying to conform God into this world's image.

NOTES:

•This Weeks Whiskey: Don Julio Tequila

•What are politics and what is the purpose of Government?

•Politics are one aspect of our Culture... Culture drives politics and policies

•What is culture and why does God care about Culture? He established our calling to cultivate creation in Genesis, with Adam's mandate to have dominion over the garden, animals and all of God's creation - to take the untapped potential God created and cultivate it into something more.

•America's government and politics (self-governed by a constitutional republic & embrace of democracy) is very unique historically, when compared to the rest of the world

• People are corrupt and sinful, therefore government will be imperfect and corrupt (to an extent)

•As Christian's, politics will not save us through their policies or politicians who better represent our worldview.

•A decline in cultural morality and social norms will not be reversed through politics, because politics is down-stream from culture.

•America has historically been a light in the world when it came to foreign policy, standing up for what is right and getting involved in helping out other countries in times of need, both militarily and with food/financial aid.

•As Christian's, God calls us to create culture and cultivate God's creation.

•At a minimum, Christian's should be involved in politics by being informed voters. Voting for people and policies that are most in-line with what God loves, opposed to what God hates and will encourage for human flourishing.

•The first organization & structure that God created was the family and that is our primary calling in this world, the foundation for society and all else flows out of that. We are called to be good workers and stewards of God's creation and that includes some of us being called to love and glorify God in politics.

•We need to have and keep God's word as our highest authority and resist the temptation to engage the world on their terms. It should be deeply problematic for us if our churches (or us) spend more time talking about "social Justice" and cultural trends than they do about the Gospel. We need to understand that supporting or parroting talking points of organizations like Black Lives Matter (BLM), sets us against God because they are based on an alternative world view to how God has established his created order.

•When culture starts influencing us more than our relationship with Christ & we start bending scripture and our image of Jesus to better fit into what our culture says is acceptable... we are going down the wrong road.

•Scripture should be influencing our engagement with culture, not the other way around.

•You can't fight discrimination and racism with more discrimination and racism. You can't fight injustice with more injustice.

• 1 Timothy 4 talks about the sin of "Partiality", favoring one group of people over another. God has very strong words against those that show partiality towards others, no matter what the motive or wrong they claim they are trying to right.

•God created us to give Glory back to God and a large part of that is loving what God loves and hating what God hates... aligning ourselves with what God values.

•The "separation of church and state" is not in the constitution or in law. It was coined by Thomas Jefferson in reference to not having the US Government establish or endorse a specific religion because they had come from England, where the official religion was the Church of England and it had substantial sway over the government and they rightfully wanted to avoid that co-mingling.

•We all experience sin being committed against us (injustice, racism, prejudice, etc) and we have a choice with how we respond to that... either with bitterness and anger or forgiveness and moving on and above our struggles.

•We are all (as Christians) called to be representatives and "influencers" for Christ... through our work & interactions with others... and that includes politics.

•If we are God centered, we are working hard to bring God the glory... when we are self-focused, we are trying to bring ourselves glory.

•At the end of the day, we start with God and do what we do by working hard and joyfully for the Glory of God.

•Check out the "Just Thinking Podcast" (https://justthinking.me/podcast-home/) for some great deep dives into unpacking the underlying ideas of social justice and our cultural moment

•Check out "The Federalist Papers" to get some great insight into why the founding fathers wrote the United States Constitution the way they did and the ideas behind how they setup the US Government, as a Constitutional Republic and NOT as a Democracy, very much on purpose because they saw democracy as the tyranny of the majority.

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This week we talk about lesson's learned from Christian B's experience of loosing his temper and breaking his hand after punching his solid oak front door. Is it a common experience among men to loose our tempers and react in a sinful way?

NOTES:

• This Weeks Whiskey: Wild Turkey Rare Bread Bourbon (Barrel Proof - 116 proof)
• Arturo Fuentes & Rocky Patel cigars
• Christian H. just got back from a real estate conference and vacation with his wife in Cabo San Lucas (with eXp Realty)
• Christian B. got the Rona... and brakes his hand.
• Christian B. get's transparent in talking about finding his limit of how much he can take on in his life before he snaps
• What practice safe-guards do you have in place for when your anger is boiling over and you feel yourself loosing control?
• Not everyone responds with loosing their cool with a physically violent response. What are some other unhealthy ways we respond when we get angry?
• Anger
• Isolation
• Irritability
• Depression
• Trying to control every detail of your world / surroundings
• Being overly physical with your kids when you're frustrated
• Shaming your kids or wife (not controlling your language or tongue)
• Proverbs 3:5-6 - 5 Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. 6 In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.
• Trust in the Lord with ALL your heart
• Lean NOT on your own understanding
• In ALL your ways, acknowledge Him... and HE will direct your path (a promise)
• If we are truly being dependent on God, we would know our limit, not try to rely on our own strength and understanding and our disposition will be more in-line with Christ's and we won't loose control in our frustration and perhaps not even get angry
• When relying on our own strength and understanding, we may be able to modify our behavior enough to not loose control and break our hand by punching a door... but is there still anger and rage burning in our heart?
• Is the belief that you can take on most things, what leads you to the tipping-point of getting overwhelmed, stressed, frustrated and angry? We are trying to be our own functional savior... separate from God and self-reliant.
• We need to allow more "white space" in our lives and learn what we need to say "no" to, so that we can say "yes" to God and what he has for us. Leave room in our lives and schedule for God to work.
• Spending time with God and in His word are key and should be "non-negotiable" in our daily lives, as it replenishes your soul and reminds us of our dependents on God.
• Practical suggestions:
• Regular date night with your spouse, to connect, confess, and continually get to know each other.
• Don't believe Satan's lie that you can do all things, by your self, isolated and without help
• Don't believe the lie that you can't be honest and vulnerable with your spouse... they love you and will not shame you or think less of you when you share with them and need God
• What do we do with our shame when we do fail or fall short. Does that feeling reflect reality or are we believing a lie that temps us to withdraw and isolate, or try harder to be more self-reliant and strong (instead of dependent on God)
• The sufficiency of Christ's death on the cross to forgive us of our sins, is paramount in freeing us from our shame and feelings of needing to be perfect or self-sufficient.

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This week we tackle some of the lies couples tell themselves to justify their decision to get divorced. We explore what happens when cultural norms of "self love" and being "authentic" and "true to yourself" seep into a marriage and spouses stop fighting for their marriage and even justify the decision to get a divorce because they believe it's better for their kids not to see them fighting, then for them to grow up in a house with both a mother and father present.

NOTES:

• This Weeks Whiskey: Bainbridge Distilling - Battle Point Two Island Hokkkaido Mizunara cask Bourbon
• Cigar: Rocky Potel
• Big new - Christian Bringolf started seminary!
• Can a divorced couple still "love each other" or get divorced because it's "best for the kids".
• What's best for kids, is for their parents to stop being selfish, start fighting for their marriage and see their covenant commitment through... because kids need two parents and God is very explicit that most cases for divorce is sin.
• God created family first (with Adam and Eve) and designed society to be built on the foundation of family and when families start breaking down, society starts breaking down.
• "Them Before Us" book by Katie Faust and Stacie Manning (Guests on episode 051) - Step-fathers and Step-mothers are doing heroes work, stepping in the gap to provide the parental role that their biological parents have abdicated.
• 90% of sexual & infidelity cases for divorce, it's the man doing that.
• 50% of kids in America, go to bed without a dad - Men / Fathers have abdicated their responsibilities and failed their kids and families.
• No matter how much of a rockstar a single-mom is, God did not design her to fill the masculine role or dad role in that kids life.
• There are increasingly more woman opting to have a kid with no intention of marrying or keeping the man in her life - They have bought into the lie that they don't need a man in their life. A decision like this is incredibly selfish and doesn't take into account what is best for their kid they plan on having.
• Even in the LGBTQ community, there are those who advocate for kids to have two parents... because they see the value and they experienced that and saw the value of it first hand in the house they grew up in.
• We want to see biological fathers take back their God-given responsibility of leading their family and being present... which will lead into our next episode.
• While divorce is increasingly more common and accepted in our culture, the commonly sited statistic that "half of all marriages end in divorce" is not an accurate statistic.
• Resources:
• www.CCEF.org 
• www.thegospelcoalition.org 

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As a continued conversation from last week's episode on "What is church community", we discuss how to decide if and when you should find a new church and what exactly to look for. What makes a "good church" and should we even be "shopping" for a church...?

NOTES:

• This Weeks Whiskey: Noah's Mill Bourbon - Willet Distillery, Bardstown, KY
• How do you find a Bible-believing church that is being faithful to Jesus
• Do we carry our consumer mindset into how we find a new church? Are we looking to have our preferences and felt needs met with preaching that makes us feel good and worship music that fits my music style preferences...?
• What are the spiritual metrics for a healthy, faithful church?
• People leave churches or change churches for many different reasons... some more valid than others.
• Valid Reasons for changing churches: 
• The church is not preaching God's Word and doesn't take scripture as their highest authority (they aren't being faithful to Jesus' calling) 
• Jesus + anything = 
• You move and it's impractical to continue attending the same church
• Spiritual abuse and manipulation
• Unrepentant sin of the pastor / elders or the leadership allows unrepentant sin of it's members
• INvalid Reasons (less-valid) for changing churches:
• Spiritualizing it with "God is calling me somewhere else" (which may be true but don't blame God if you are leaving and it's for your own reasons but you don't want anyone to question your motivation).
• Preference of worship music style
• Preference of preaching style
• The church is full of flawed sinners (like you)
• Community, relationships and church are messy but we need to be in tune with God and His will for our lives and where He wants us to call our church home.
• The church we are part of isn't just about us getting "fed" but also in us investing in and serving others.
• We have no right to be critical of the church, if we aren't invested, loving or serving the church ourselves
• Is your church addressing what is happening and changing culturally, bearing the gospel to bear on the culture of a hurting and confused world?
• Church "shopping" checklist:
• Is the Bible taught and held as the highest authority?
• Is Christ seen as God (part of the Trinity) & not just a "good teacher"?
• Is the life, death and burial of Christ central to the church's beliefs and teachings?
• Is the Bible taught systematically - book by book, chapter by chapter (vs. topically)?
• Does the church value community and gathering outside the church building, in smaller groups and "do life" together?  

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Today we talk about community. What is it? Can it be "virtual"? Specifically, what does it mean to be part of a Church Community, why it's not just important but essential. God calls us to not forsake the gathering....

NOTES:

• This Weeks Whiskey: Laws Whiskey House - San Luis Valley Straight Rye Whiskey
• Questions:
• • A look behind the scenes (on the YouTube channel) at how we do our Instagram Reels for the podcast
  • What is church community?
  • Using the terms, Family, Church Community and Church Family are often used synonymously.
  • Will Christian's come back to "in-person" church after the Rona era? Can you have true community remotely?
  • The very definition of "Community" has changed since the advent of automobiles, which enabled individuals and families to easily relocated from one area to another area of the country... and the definition changed even more so with the Digital Revolution of the internet, where "on-line community" became a thing.
  • • Instead of community primarily being centered around family, church and villages (as it had been for millennia, where people don't generally have a choice), people started creating and defining their own communities based around interests and affinity - where they could easily enter and exit the community and where very little was required of them.
    • We don't choose the family we are born into and this is the deepest and God intense for this to be our most central and deepest community, followed secondarily by our church.
  • Jesus units everyone [in church] under the same banner... and creates a community out of people who likely wouldn't know each other or be friends with each other, if not brought together by Christ.
  • Lots of people have left the church in 2020... and COVID seems like the scape goat and justification to stop going to church.
  • We are not meant to live in isolation: Digital sermons & "online-community" can supplement real community but is not an adequate replacement.
  • Listening to the preached word, is only one aspect of why God calls us to be part of the church and not "forsake the gathering" of God's people.
  • • We gather for corporate worship to hear the preached word, prayer and communal worship... and that can't be done digitally or remotely.
    • God doesn't give us the option to not gather / not participate in the gathered church - Jesus came to earth to die for His Bride, The Church... so if you hate "the church", you hate what Jesus loves and came to die for.
  • Community is messy: You will be hurt and you will hurt others but it's still worth the risk because God didn't design us to be "solo Christians".
  • Be safe but safety is not the most important thing in life... get back into the habit of meeting with fellow believers and your church community. God created us to need each other.

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Giving money to the church is often not a popular topic but this week we discuss tithing. God calls us to be joyful and sacrificial givers of our time, money and "first fruits", giving us opportunity to trust God in our dependance on Him. Yet sometimes we are guilty of critiquing God's bride and justifying why we don't need to give to His church that He loves so much, He came to die for her? We also get into what it means to follow Jesus's example as a Servant-Leader, as the head of our house and lead our family well in reading God's word, prayer and tithing... all things that God uses to transform our hearts, minds and lives.

NOTES:

• This Weeks Whiskey: Eagle Rare by Buffalo Trace Disterery
• Christian B. shares a trick to be able to better smell the notes in the whiskey
• What does it mean to Tithe and are we still called to do it?
• What does it mean to give God our "first fruits"? 
• Tithing is just as much about our heart and motivation when giving, as it is about how much we give, just like we see with Cain and Able in Genesis, where Able's offering was the best of his best to God... not what was left over.
• Tithing is an exercise of obedience and reminder that we are to be fully-dependent on God, that all things come from Him, and that we are simply stewarding God's resources and money that he provides, in order to do His will on earth.
• The principles for tithing obediently is that our giving should be joyful and sacrificial, and through giving of our first fruits back to God, we are acknowledging our dependence on Him and remembering where all good things come from.
• Does our American outlook of individual consumerism and "exchange of goods" economics influence our attitude towards tithing to our local church if we feel like we (as attendees or members) aren't getting what we think we should be getting from our Church? Specifically if that church as attracted attendees by being "seeker sensitive" and catering to the felt-needs of their congregation.
• Some Christian's say they don't attend church or don't give money to a church for a variety of reasons:
• • If we were hurt by a church in the past or jaded against the church or "organized religion", does that get us off the hook for not needing to tithe?
  • God doesn't give us the option to "love Jesus but hate the church" or not participate in a weekly gathering of God's people. Jesus came to earth in human form to die for His bride, The Church. We can't both love Jesus and hate His Bride that He came to die for.
  • Biblical tithing IS NOT a means of "give to get", like what is proclaimed in the heretical "prosperity gospel" or "name it and claim it" movement, which is common with tele-evangelists who claim that if you give them money, you will be healed... become rich... become holy, etc, etc.
  • You know you are a "Consumer-Christian" when we are quick to criticize the church, not give of your money or time regularly and often complain about not liking the church music or preaching... because we see participation in church as a consumer, where we are served, catered to and entertained... rather than the Biblical definition of church were we ARE the church and called to give our money, volunteer our time and get off the side-lines and into the game instead of being an "arm-chair" quarterback. 
  • If you say you love Jesus but you hate the church... you don't love Jesus and don't get the Gospel and whole purpose of why Jesus came to earth to die for our sins, to bring us back into relationship with God the Father.
• Tithing is one of the means in which we can practically and tangibly meet each others earthly needs.
• Tithing should be considered the baseline/starting point. We are still responsible to hearing God's call and the Holy Spirit's prompting when we encounter people with tangible needs in our lives.
• How does this apply to being a husband or father? As the man, God has proclaimed us as the head of our household, which doesn't simply mean you are in charge and everyone needs to listen to you but more accurate and in-line with Jesus's example as a Servant-Leader, being "the head" has more to do with the responsibility of taking care of and leading your family... which includes spiritual and financial leadership, like tithing. We as husbands and dads will be held accountable for how we loved and lead our families and churches.
• Simon Sinek - "Leaders Eat Last" book

This week we discuss what it means to be an introvert and extravert and how it affects how you interact with those around you. Tune in to find out which we are, and what exactly an "Irish goodby" is... With special off-camera guest commentary by Christian B.'s wife, Julia Bringolf.

NOTES:

•This Weeks Whiskey: Lucky Seven - The Holiday Toast Kentucky Straight Bourbon (115 proof)

•Does being around other people drain you or does it give you energy?

•An introvert can be perfectly social and I'm sure there are socially awkward extraverts out there.

•What does it mean to raise a kid that is the opposite of you (introverted parents raising an extraverted kid)?

•Does not wanting new friends make you an introvert?

•Hospitality and having an "open" home is a sign you are an extravert

•If your home is your "sanctuary" and by invite only, you are likely an introvert

•Extraverts may have larger friend networks while Introverts have smaller, tighter friend groups

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What is the difference between perseverance, resilience, being flexible and adapting when life is throwing you curve balls... and why are they important? We don't know but that won't stop us from talking about it on this weeks episode.

NOTES:

• This Weeks Whiskey: Lucky Seven - The Holiday Toast Kentucky Straight Bourbon (115 proof)
• The military does a good job of training their soldiers on how to adapt and overcome obstacles.
• Proverbs 16:9 - "A man's heart plans his way, but the Lord directs his steps."
• How do we adapt when things don't go our way... when God re-directs our path
• How do we adjust and humble ourselves when someone gets in our way or keeps our expectations from being met and things just don't go our way.
• Often the "inconvenience" in our life, is simply our idols not getting the worship that they demand and reveals our hearts not being dependent on God
• There is very little in life that we are actually in control of. 
• We can't control what happens to us but we can control how we RESPOND to what happens.

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Discipleship can be both formal and informal, as older Christian's mentor, teach, provide accountability and guide younger Christian's in life and their relationship with Jesus. As we mature in our faith, we are also called to be disciples to younger Christians and pass on the wisdom that comes with being discipled ourselves and from being in relationship with God.

NOTES:

• This Weeks Whiskey: "Black Manhattan" using Ragged Branch Whiskey from Virginia
• Cigars courtesy of "Standard and Twain" - https://standardandtwain.com 
• • Dapper Cigars
  • Crowned Heads
• Referenced Japanese Whiskey from our previous Ep. 34 with Entrepreneur Chris Flugstad
• Christianity is not a solo endeavor and is meant to be done in the context of relationships and community.
• The whole point of fellowship and discipleship is to care for one another and point each other back to Jesus.
• What is Discipleship and how does it differ from Mentorship?
• There is both formal (intentional & structured) discipleship and informal/organic discipleship that naturally happens in the course of living life
• Discipleship is essential for the health of Christians... especially so for men, since we tend to be less social and try to live "as an island" and "loan wolf" it, not being in close relationship with other men
• • Woman tend to be more relational and social, interacting "face-to-face", while men tend to be more task/project oriented when relating to other men, working on a common goal "side-by-side"
• Peer relationships have more of a fellowship focus with "iron sharpening iron", while discipleship tends to involve one person being older and in a different life stage who can speak experience and wisdom into the younger person's life.
• We are not called to be perfect, we are called to be faithful to God. 
• Relationships and community is risky, difficult and messy but necessary and worth it.

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This week we talk about the consequence of a "safety first" culture that tries to shelter our kids from risk and failure. How much risk do we allow our kids to take and are we tempted to always rescue our kids from failing or experiencing disappointment.

NOTES:

• This Weeks Whiskey: "Black Manhattan" using Ragged Branch Whiskey from Virginia
• Cigars courtesy of "Standard and Twain" - https://standardandtwain.com 
• • Dapper Cigars
  • Crowned Heads Cigars
• Our constant bombardment of bad information from the news, media and social media leads the general population to believe that the world is a far more dangerous place than it actually is (When actually comparing crime data from the 80's versus now).
• It's essential for us to allow our kids to take healthy risks, so they can learn to navigate decisions, success, failure and disappointment in life.
• When we parent, our goals in our parenting is offend motivated by of 1 of 2 things (usually involving pain in our own childhood that we don't want our kids to also experience):
• • 1 - Giving our kids the life we never had
  • 2 - Prevent them from having the life that we had
  • When we do this, we are defining our kids life by our standard
  • • The results are often raising spoiled kids that have everything you never had and take everything for granted, are too dependent on their parents, not knowing how to navigate the stressors of life (they end up soft and un-resilient).
    • Or we teach them to be fearful and paranoid as their parents are always telling them what they need to be careful of, avoid and not do (so they can be safe).
• If as parents, we don't allow our kids to take risks or experience failure, our kids will not be properly equipped for difficulty and challenges in the world... they will be perpetually dependent on you and not know how to navigate the difficulties in life.
• We need to put our faith in Jesus, for our kid staying safe and turning out ok. We can't control all aspects of life and we are simply stewards of our kids, to raise them to know and love God... but God is ultimately in control of their outcome.

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