What if the first thing God asked a man to do wasn’t to lead, protect, or achieve—but to create?
In this episode, we explore the overlooked masculine calling of creativity: shaping life, bringing order from chaos, creating safety, setting vision, and reflecting the generative heart of God. Whether you’ve doubted your influence or felt outside traditional masculinity—especially for men navigating SSA—this message will remind you of the creative strength God placed in you from the beginning.
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Fantasy escapes reality. Vision transforms it.
Vision gives direction, clarifies choices, changes what you tolerate, and activates courage.
In this episode, you will learn to craft a clear and compelling vision capable of lasting transformation.
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If I received that promotion, I wouldn't be talking with you today. God used that disappointment to make space for something bigger.
Now, I am a Certified High Performance Coach empowering men to live beyond their same-sex attractions and into their purpose. And I love it.
What does God have next for you that requires space to hear?
A powerful reminder that masculinity isn’t earned — it’s shared. In this episode, we explore what it means to participate in masculinity, belong among men, and reclaim the identity God has already woven into you.
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I decided I didn’t want to experience sexual pleasure alone. I want my gift of sexuality to be used for connection, creation, and service. In this episode, I'll share three shifts that made the biggest impact for me: 1. Believe that it is not necessary. 2. See sexual energy as a force for service. 3. Get curious about the deeper desire.
For years, I’ve stood in front of the mirror, staring at my reflection. I saw my silhouette—the outline of me. But just beyond it, like a shadow I couldn’t escape, was the outline of the man I thought I had to be. Broader shoulders. Thicker chest. Sharper jawline.
I didn’t always know where that outline came from. But one moment, one memory, gave it shape.
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Do you find compromise exhausting? In this episode, we’re diving into why living aligned with your values 100% of the time is actually easier than 99%. That 1% of compromise—the “just this once” moments—creates mental clutter, inner conflict, and drains your energy. But when you commit fully to who you are and what you stand for, you unlock clarity, peace, and freedom. Join me as we explore the problem with 99%, the power of identity-based boundaries, and practical steps to move from compromise to alignment. If you’re ready to stop negotiating with yourself and start living free, this episode is for you.
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When I turned to gay porn, I wasn’t just escaping life—I was running towards feelings I desired. I wanted to feel strong, inspired, connected, and safe.
The good news? You don’t need anything outside yourself to feel those things. You can choose them—right now. And God made you capable of that.
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Learn to honor your anger, meet it with empathy, and process it in a way that helps you move forward.
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Ever felt stuck in the fog of confusion, unsure of your next step? In this episode, we dive deep into how moments of uncertainty can actually be the catalyst for clarity, growth, and connection. I’ll share personal insights and practical tools to help you embrace the fog, navigate through it, and uncover the clarity waiting on the other side.
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How can we recognize the shift from admiration, to comparison, envy, or lust? In this episode, we will explore how to become more self-aware and navigate these moments a way that aligns with our values.
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Have you ever found yourself longing to be noticed? To be chosen? To hear someone say, You matter. You’re enough. I see you. In this week’s podcast episode, I share:
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Today, we will learn how to just be ourselves, present in the moment, without overcompensating, performing, or needing to be "extra", inspired by the carefree nature of my son on the soccer field.
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Today, we’re going to talk about the things we didn’t learn from our dads, or our mentors, or our peers—and how that shaped us. But more importantly, we’re going to talk about how to fill that gap. Because here’s the truth: it’s not a liability. It’s an opportunity to grow, to connect, to stretch yourself, and to celebrate the journey of learning along the way.
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If you’ve longed for a life shared with a wife — a woman to build a future with, to be known and loved by, and to love in return—this episode is for you.
Together, we’ll explore the deeper questions beneath “Am I Marriage Material?”
While I longed to be in the athletic, game-time locker room, energized with the team before stepping onto the field, I was doing good to make it through showering after junior high PE.
If you’ve ever felt like me—like you didn’t measure up, were stuck on the sidelines, or hiding parts of yourself because you were afraid of being seen—this episode is for you.
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Those five words can feel like a prison — locking us in shame, self-doubt, and fear.
But what if that phrase could be transformed from a whisper of shame to a declaration of hope?
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Do your same-sex attractions feel overwhelming at times? Maybe it’s a physical sensation that catches you off guard. Maybe it’s a romantic feeling that stirs something in your heart. Or maybe it’s a thought pattern that loops in your mind. These things can feel powerful, but I want you to know they are not you. They are experiences that are just passing through.
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When we admire something in others, it’s like God is whispering, “This is already in you. I’ve planted this seed—now let’s grow it together.” It’s not about striving to be someone else, it’s about stepping into the fullness of who He’s called you to be.
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If you act out sexually with another guy, use porn, or entertain comparisons, what emotional home are you coming from? Is it loneliness? Shame? A need for validation? For many of us, those moments aren’t just about the act itself—they’re about seeking comfort in an emotional home we’ve lived in for years.
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