In this conversation, the PF and team reflect on their experiences in 2025, discussing personal growth, challenges faced, and the importance of community and faith. They emphasize the need for intentionality in setting goals for 2026 and the significance of seeking God personally rather than relying solely on external guidance. The discussion also highlights the challenges of modern community dynamics, particularly in the context of social media, and the necessity of building genuine relationships. As they prepare for the upcoming year, they stress the importance of resilience and faith in navigating future challenges.Chapters00:00 Reflections on 2025: A Year of Growth09:43 Navigating Challenges: Faith and Community19:29 The Importance of Intentionality in 202629:03 Building Real Community: Beyond Social Media39:04 Preparing for 2026: Faith, Goals, and Resilience
Pastor Femi, Esther, and Kenneth tackle the most debated question in church culture with biblical truth and unfiltered honesty. The answer might surprise you.
In this episode, PF breaks down 1 Corinthians 8 "idols are nothing" and explains why Christmas shouldn't be the scapegoat for pseudo-spirituality. The crew explores Christian freedom, why believers judge each other over holidays, and how we major in the minors while missing what actually matters.
From debating turkey wings as Christmas food to discussing "Dirty December" culture in Nigeria, this conversation mixes theology, humor, and cultural commentary. PF even shares his complex relationship with Christmas after losing his mother on December 25th yet still advocates for celebration without guilt.
The bottom line: Celebrate or don't celebrate but stop using holidays as spiritual one-upmanship.
💬 Where do you land on Christmas? Do you celebrate, skip it, or somewhere in between? Let us know in the comments 👇🏾
Chapters
00:00:00 Introduction and Welcome
00:01:05 Should Christians Celebrate Christmas?
00:02:40 Personal Experiences and Traditions
00:06:35 Religious Significance and Observance
00:19:25 Commercialization and Societal Pressures
00:33:26 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
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🎙️ ABOUT PF UNFILTERED:
PF Unfiltered is a Christian podcast exploring faith, relationships, and culture through honest, unfiltered conversations. Led by Pastor Femi Omotayo of New Covenant House Dallas, each episode tackles the questions African Christians and believers worldwide are actually asking about dating, money, church life, spiritual growth, and living authentically in modern culture. Real Talk. Real Faith. Real Life.
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"If you leave church because you are hurt, you never understood what church was about." - Pastor Femi
Controversial? Absolutely. But before you comment, hear the full conversation.
Young people are leaving church in record numbers—especially African immigrants and diaspora Christians who grew up in the faith. Pastor Femi, Kenneth, and Esther tackle why this is happening and whether walking away is actually the answer.
**The Real Problem:** The church's message isn't relevant anymore. Prosperity gospel, performative religion, and outdated approaches don't address real-world struggles. Young people can get what church promises—success, happiness, community—without the restrictions.
**The Internet Christianity Trap:** The pandemic normalized watching church online. But PF warns: isolated faith can't survive spiritual warfare. "You watch service for one hour, shut the screen—there's no interaction with anything spiritual. The devil whispers something, and there's no one there to challenge it."
**Church Hurt—The Hard Truth:** PF's take: "Church is a hospital. We're all patients." Everyone is imperfect. You've hurt people. People will hurt you. The question isn't whether to leave when hurt happens—it's understanding that church is where broken people heal together.
But here's the key distinction: Leave a toxic congregation if you must. Don't abandon the body of Christ. Find a church that fits—different worship styles, different emphases, but stay connected to community.
**What We Cover:**
• Why young African Christians are leaving church
• The danger of YouTube theology and self-proclaimed teachers
• Spectator church vs. real community
• Accountability vs. forgiveness in church leadership
• How to find the right church without church shopping
• The woman caught in adultery: loving people into repentance
**Key Quotes:**
"Church is a hospital. We're all patients." - PF
"How can you say you love God but despise his body?" - PF
"YouTube made deconstruction fashionable." - PF
"We don't abandon relationships; we try to make relationships better." - PF
If you've been hurt by church or you're questioning whether to stay, this conversation is for you.
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### Timestamps / Chapters
0:00 - Intro: New Covenant House Goes Viral
2:45 - Why Young People Are Leaving Church
5:05 - The Problem with the Prosperity Gospel Message
9:19 - Church Hurt: Why People Are Walking Away
13:24 - Internet Christianity & The Pandemic Effect
16:20 - The Dangers of YouTube Theology
18:43 - Self-Proclaimed Teachers & Bible Studies Gone Wrong
23:35 - The Spectator Church Problem
25:27 - Church Hurt: Should You Leave or Stay?
28:31 - Church as a Hospital for Imperfect People
32:05 - When Worship Style Becomes a Dealbreaker
36:55 - Finding the Right Church Community
38:55 - Accountability vs. Forgiveness in Church Leadership
41:24 - Loving People Into Repentance (The Woman Caught in Adultery)
45:03 - Final Encouragement: Don't Turn Your Back on the Body of Christ
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We’re opening up the floor! Drop your raw, honest, unfiltered questions about faith, relationships, real-life struggles, and everything in between. No topic is off-limits.
Send your questions to askpf@pfunfiltered.com or DM us on IG @PFUnfiltered . PF is looking forward to your questions!
In this heartfelt Thanksgiving episode of PF Unfiltered, the crew tackles the hardest kind of gratitude - being thankful when life isn't going according to plan. Discover how our hosts navigate family traditions, personal growth, and the transformative power of community. Whether you're a fan of turkey or prefer jollof rice, this conversation will inspire you to find your own reasons to be thankful. Tune in for a heartfelt discussion that celebrates the essence of Thanksgiving.00:01:06 Intro00:02:29 Thanksgiving Traditions and Challenges00:03:40 Reflecting on Gratitude00:06:10 The Role of Faith and Community00:09:10 Personal Stories and Insights00:14:21 Conclusion and Thanksgiving Wishes### What You'll Learn- How to find silver linings when life feels like a dark cloud- Why being grateful doesn't mean pretending everything is fine- Biblical principles for trusting God's timing when plans fall apart- The difference between letting God lead vs. trying to control outcomes- How to recognize that your "mess" might be carrying a message- Why community is essential during seasons of transformation- Practical ways to cultivate gratitude even in disappointment### Connect With Us🎙️ **Subscribe** to PF Unfiltered for weekly unfiltered conversations about faith, culture, and real life.💬 **Join the Conversation**Tell us in the comments: What are you grateful for this Thanksgiving, even if life feels messy right now?🔔 **Turn on notifications** so you never miss an episode!### Related Episodes You'll Love- "Red Flags Christians Ignore in Dating & Friendships"- "Should Pastors Be Paid? - Money, Ministry & What the Bible Says"- "Finding God in the Waiting Season"### Relevant Hashtags#PFUnfiltered #Thanksgiving #ChristianPodcast #Gratitude #FaithAndCulture #TrustGodsTiming #FindingPurpose #ChristianCommunity #NewCovenantHouse #AfricanChristian #FaithJourney #BeThankful #MessToMessage #TransformingGrace
In this episode of PF Unfiltered, PF sits down with Dami and Lolade Akibola, an incredible couple to discuss one of the most challenging aspects of marriage: MONEY!!. If you've ever wondered how to handle finances as a married couple, especially when cultural expectations clash with modern realities, this conversation is essential.
Dami and Lolade share their journey from college students with completely different money mindsets to building a strong financial partnership. Lolade grew up hyper-aware of money after losing her father at age 11, determined never to be broke. Dami, on the other hand, came from a family where he saw how money was spent but never how it was earned—leading to regular overdrafts and zero savings in college. Their story proves that where you start financially doesn't determine where you finish.
00:00 Introduction and Opening Remarks
00:30 Meet the Special Guests
02:40 Personal Backgrounds and Money Stories
05:17 Defining Moments and Financial Attitudes
10:05 Marriage Dynamics and Financial Management
16:23 Challenging Traditional Gender Roles
29:27 The Financial Realities of Marriage
29:52 The Importance of Compatibility in Marriage
31:41 Challenging Traditional Gender Roles
32:43 Balancing Dreams and Practicality
34:25 Managing Finances as a Team
40:39 Dealing with Debt Together
50:07 The Role of Support and Vision in Marriage
53:38 Practical Financial Management Tips
56:22 Final Thoughts and Reflections
About PF Unfiltered:
PF Unfiltered is a conversational podcast led by Pastor Femi Omotayo of New Covenant House Dallas. We blend honest, humorous, and thought-provoking dialogue exploring faith, culture, relationships, and personal growth through the lens of modern African Christians living in the diaspora.
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YouTube: PF Unfiltered
Website: [pfunfiltered.com]
Guest Bio:
Dami Akibola: Associate Pastor at New Covenant House, married to Lolade for 17+ years, father of two, and proud believer that partnership beats patriarchy
Lolade Akibola: CFO/Head of Finance Ministry at New Covenant House, finance professional with 20+ years experience, debt-free advocate, and the family's financial architect
In this episode of PF Unfiltered, the hosts delve into the complexities of emotions, mental health, and seasonal depression. They discuss personal experiences with depression, the impact of faith and community, and practical ways to manage mental health during difficult times. The conversation also highlights the difference between happiness and joy, the importance of purpose, and practical activities that can provide mental rest. This episode aims to offer viewers insights and tools to address their mental well-being while fostering a deeper understanding of faith's role in navigating life's challenges.
00:00 Introduction and First Impressions00:24 Meet the Hosts02:19 Discussing Feelings03:24 Emotions and Rationality05:32 Seasonal Depression and Faith13:43 Understanding Joy and Happiness16:10 Personal Experiences with Depression19:33 Seasonal Depression and Coping Strategies24:55 Recognizing Overwhelm and Depression25:24 The Nigerian Approach to Mental Health25:46 Balancing Faith and Mental Health27:06 Community Support and Depression29:38 The Pursuit of Happiness vs. Contentment43:37 Finding Rest and Hobbies for Mental Health46:35 Practical Advice for Managing Depression47:23 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
In this episode of PF Unfiltered, hosts Esther and Tunde engage in a candid discussion about the differences in Christian faith practices between Nigeria and the United States. They explore the perceptions each country's Christian community has of the other, the cultural and societal influences on faith, and the varying emphases on religious activities. The conversation touches on the challenges of maintaining genuine faith amidst differing societal demands, materialism, and the transactional nature of religious fervor. The episode concludes with a reflection on the essence of faith in Christ, regardless of geographic location.
00:00 Introduction and Initial Discussion
00:39 Welcoming the Audience
02:42 Faith in a Foreign Land
04:14 Cultural Differences in Faith
05:33 Impact of Environment on Faith
09:30 Materialism and Faith
13:43 Prayer and Genuine Faith
25:19 The Essence of Prayer
27:03 Cultural Differences in Religious Practices
27:41 Faith and Spiritual Disciplines
28:19 Personal Experiences and Lessons in Faith
29:27 The State of the Church in Nigeria and America
31:21 The True Foundation of Faith
32:37 Challenges and Misconceptions in Faith
36:45 The Way Forward: Christ-Centered Faith
43:33 Final Thoughts and Reflections
51:36 Closing Remarks and Call to Action
In this episode PF gets candid about almost breaking under the weight of perfection, how performing perfection nearly cost him his peace and how honesty, grace, and purpose pulled him back, first-born vs last-born pressure, and why the Holy Spirit not the timeline should set your pace.
What does it mean to have boundaries as a Christian? In this episode, PF Unfiltered explores how fear, insecurity, and people-pleasing often keep us from saying no. The crew tackles boundaries in relationships, money, church life, and work with biblical wisdom and real-life stories. Learn why confidence in God (not just self-help tips) is the foundation for healthy limits.
In this unfiltered conversation, Pastor Femi, Esther, and Tunde flip the script on red flags — and dive deep into what green flags really look like in relationships, friendships, and faith.
From emotional availability to patience, honesty, and kindness, the crew breaks down how to spot healthy traits without confusing them for performance or perfection. 🟩
They get real about modern dating terms, spiritual maturity, and even debate hot topics like:
What does it mean to be “emotionally available”?
Is financial status really a green flag?
Can you be honest and still unkind?
How do you discern good character without judging by appearances or money?
As always, PF brings humor, scripture, and truth — with plenty of laughs (and side-eye moments) along the way.
📖 “Some virtues are not inherently virtuous — honesty without love is just cruelty.”
🎧 Watch till the end for practical checklists, lighthearted debates, and the hilarious “rapid-fire green flag test.”
👇🏾 Join the conversation:
What’s your biggest green flag in a person — and what’s a dealbreaker you’ve learned to spot early?
Ever felt stuck between who you’ve been and who you’re called to become?
In this episode, Pastor Wale Adenuga shares why he stepped down after 8 years of pastoring, the lessons behind his most famous song, and why contentment not performance is the heart of faith. Expect laughter, raw honesty, and hard truths about church culture, leadership, and transition.
From wig lace and too much makeup to love bombing and selfish friendships, the PF Unfiltered crew dives into the petty and the serious signs you shouldn’t ignore. Expect laughs, cultural banter, and biblical wisdom on spotting red flags in dating, friendships, and beyond.
How do we disagree without blowing up the relationship? In this lively PF Unfiltered episode, PF, Esther, and T dig into real-life conflict: tone vs. words, listening to understand (not to clap back), “agree to disagree,” switching churches over style, being friends with exes, and the spicy liquor-store question for Christians.
Also: the eternal debate… pineapple on pizza 🍍🍕.
Season 3 of PF Unfiltered kicks off with a big question: Should pastors, worship leaders, and church creatives be paid—or is ministry meant to be free? Pastor Femi and the crew dive into the unfiltered truth about church money, pastoral pay, musicians charging fees, and even the controversy over private jets. We unpack Bible verses like “don’t muzzle the ox,” talk church finances and stewardship, and share real stories from ministry life. Plus: life updates, why PF says wisdom comes with age, and a sneak peek of what’s ahead this season. Honest, funny, and faith-filled—this is church talk without the filter.
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What would PF do if God gave him just one week? Hear his honest, heartfelt answer—alongside hilarious banter, some sandwich betrayal, and lessons on staying connected to the Body of Christ.
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They barely knew each other. “The Lord said...” turned into “We’re pregnant” on day one.
In this hilarious yet sobering episode, the crew and Guest, Pastor AK dive into the chaos that unfolds when couples skip friendship, rush into marriage, and let pressure or prophecy drive their decisions.
Real talk. Real laughs. Always unfiltered.
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In this heartfelt and unfiltered episode, PF sits down with Emmy Award-winning filmmaker Viola Matteson to unpack the tension between control, creativity, and surrender to God. From childhood in Nigeria to global success in storytelling, they explore how dependence on God not ambition fuels true excellence.
As headlines grow darker and policies grow more unpredictable, this episode calls Christians back to the peace of God that surpasses understanding. Through scripture, personal stories, and candid conversations, we explore how to develop unshakable faith in a world that’s constantly shifting. If you’ve ever felt like your hope is fading, this one is for you.
From ancestral altars to pop culture trends, we unpack the truth about witchcraft—what it really means biblically, how it shows up today, and why it’s more than broomsticks and black cats. Is it harmless, or spiritual warfare in disguise and how believers can discern the difference?