The Stranger Things final season has come to an end, and Sean & Talia saw it together in a theater so they’re recapping everything that did (and didn’t) happen. In this ep we discuss: The biggest internet theories (including which came true) Our rating of the finale and why it didn’t totally work Loose threads that will never be resolved The (many) epilogue moments for our characters What really happened with Eleven How the show fits into the history of TV and whether or not it’s rewatchable picky & selfish is created and hosted by Talia Lichtstein and Sean Kilby. Follow us on TikTok & IG: @pickyandselfish Follow Talia: @talialichtstein Follow Sean: @seanryankilby Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Our friend and former collaborator Alexis Barber (Too Smart For This) returns once again to share some dating stories, including the recent return of someone from her past. Plus, Talia and Alexis explain to Sean what a “story liker” is and what it means if your boyfriend is responding to their IG stories. In this ep we also discuss: Talia met Gloria Steinem and already regrets her outfit choice Ending a three-month relationship before it’s too late Dealing with f***boys and not falling into their trap Sean grills Alexis on what it means to be “friends” with someone you hooked up with Traveling for the holidays and Talia’s birthday plans picky & selfish is created and hosted by Talia Lichtstein and Sean Kilby. Follow Alexis: @alexisbarber Follow us on TikTok & IG: @pickyandselfish Follow Talia: @talialichtstein Follow Sean: @seanryankilby Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talia and Sean are joined by their former co-host and collaborator Alexis Barber (Too Smart For This) to talk about single life, learning to be alone, and the most important things to you in a relationship. Alexis fills us in on how her life changed after ending a long-term relationship and going off to business school, including lessons she never expected to learn. In this ep we also discuss: Ranking Priorities: Personality, Sex, Looks, Intelligence, and Money (what do you care about most?) What’s the difference between “having money” and “ambition” anyway? Getting attention from new types of people (and Talia’s strategy for getting what she wants) How family dynamics play into your relationship Getting support for your career from a partner picky & selfish is created and hosted by Talia Lichtstein and Sean Kilby. Follow Alexis: @alexisbarber Follow us on TikTok & IG: @pickyandselfish Follow Talia: @talialichtstein Follow Sean: @seanryankilby Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’re back from Thanksgiving and recapping our time away, including Talia’s date with an older man, her quest to find a matchmaker, and all the love we’ve gotten from Spotify Wrapped. Plus, Sean went to his own version of the Upside Down and tells us whether he’d do it again. In this ep we also discuss: Recapping Part 1 of Strangers Things: Season 5 (with lots of theories for what’s to come) Sean talks about the reaction to his U Up? Podcast appearance and why people would rather just hear from “relationship guy” Talia’s dad had some thoughts on where she inherited her nose from Belly buttons are weird: how do you go from an outie to an innie? picky & selfish is created and hosted by Talia Lichtstein and Sean Kilby. Follow us on TikTok & IG: @pickyandselfish Follow Talia: @talialichtstein Follow Sean: @seanryankilby Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is it hot when a man has an accent? Better yet, is it hot when he sounds like a construction worker? Sean and Talia debate the most attractive accents, and the results may surprise you. Plus, we share our Thanksgiving plans and tell you what we think ruins a good potluck.  In this ep we also discuss: Sean’s emotional hangover from sharing too much on the U Up? podcast Is it ever safe to tell someone their celebrity doppelgänger?  Which one means hug and which on means kiss in "XOXO" Whether or not Thanksgiving food is actually good (and the value of turkey and pie)  How often should you wash your hair? Shamefully fishing meds (and vapes and food) out of the garbage The lesser-known reasons behind common NYC religious practices picky & selfish is created and hosted by Talia Lichtstein and Sean Kilby. Follow us on TikTok & IG: @pickyandselfish Follow Talia: @talialichtstein Follow Sean: @seanryankilby Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s time to look through your Hinge profile and actually show some personality. Talia walks us through the bios from some of her recent matches, telling us which ones stood out and why. Is the goal to be authentic or give people something to engage with? In this ep we also discuss: Tinder, Hinge, Raya… Who do you expect to encounter on each dating app? Stop taking Talia on dates to see someone funnier than you (it will backfire) Her new crush (Rick Glassman) and a surprise connection (Mikey Madison) The P&S dating tip that actually worked Please don’t ever say we “lost the battle to…” anything Peeing in front of your partner… good idea or bad idea? picky & selfish is created and hosted by Talia Lichtstein and Sean Kilby. Follow us on TikTok & IG: @pickyandselfish Follow Talia: @talialichtstein Follow Sean: @seanryankilby Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s Halloween, and we’re trick-or-treating our way through all things spoooooky! From Talia’s witchy phase and a heated debate over becoming eternal vampires (would you??) to a full rundown of costumes, candy, and chaos. In this ep we also discuss: What it takes to pull off a good Halloween costume (and Talia’s costume this year)  Our favorite Halloween candies and trading with friends Trick-or-treating then vs. now — plus, are fruit snacks even candy? “Too Far: Halloween Edition” …Dog parades and BYOB are outta control Talia’s quest to find a “real” psychic A nostalgic trip back to the Scholastic Book Fair days Talia’s quest for a real psychic and our adventures in witch shops picky & selfish is created and hosted by Talia Lichtstein and Sean Kilby. Follow us on TikTok & IG: @pickyandselfish Follow Talia: @talialichtstein Follow Sean: @seanryankilby Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How should you initiate texting and what do women actually want to hear when you’re talking dirty over text? Plus, are voice memos just as hot as texts and pics? In this ep we also discuss: Using emojis during sexting, including when you want to send reactions What’s your “signature” emoji and what does it mean to you? We rank the best and worst words to text a woman to describe her body parts Whether or not someone can please you as well as you please yourself The ultimate test of feelings: finger blasting  Talia is in her “Fallia” era as the seasons change A preview of our Halloween costume plans picky & selfish is created and hosted by Talia Lichtstein and Sean Kilby. Follow us on TikTok & IG: @pickyandselfish Follow Talia: @talialichtstein Follow Sean: @seanryankilby Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s marathon season in New York City and Talia is not impressed. Do runners really deserve congratulations for putting themselves through misery (even though no one asked them to)? Plus, we decide whether climbing Mt. Everest makes you undatable. In this ep we also discuss: Male influencers are out of control and deserve the same criticisms women get Talia exposes some of the tactics male influencers use to get ahead Advice: Men in NYC who are looking for a wife should quit the kickball league It’s spooky season and Sean watched Hocus Pocus (with a twist) and tells us all about it his trippy experience We find out which couples’ costume Sean is wearing for Halloween this year picky & selfish is created and hosted by Talia Lichtstein and Sean Kilby. Follow us on TikTok & IG: @pickyandselfish Follow Talia: @talialichtstein Follow Sean: @seanryankilby Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sean has a girlfriend and Talia is thrilled that we can finally talk about it. He spills on the entire saga of going from single life, to an open relationship, to being exclusive with someone new for the first time in years. In this ep we also discuss: Monogamy vs non-monogamy: why both options can be challenging for people Passion vs Stability: Can you keep passion in a relationship without putting in “work” with each other? What’s it like to date someone who is already in a relationship? Rules in a relationship (and why they can be a mistake) Talia is going to a Knicks game and has some questions about sports… and some thoughts about Taylor Swift’s recent comments What’s new in Talia’s dating life? picky & selfish is created and hosted by Talia Lichtstein and Sean Kilby. Follow us on TikTok & IG: @pickyandselfish Follow Talia: @talialichtstein Follow Sean: @seanryankilby Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sean is back from his European vacation and shares all the best stories from his time away, including… how he got a new passport with less than 24 hours notice (miracles really are possible). Plus, we swap stories about accidentally sharing nudes from your camera roll with strangers. Is it time for Talia to start using the hidden folder? In this ep we also discuss: Long distance relationships: are they just a way to keep you from being vulnerable? Talia’s lessons from studying abroad (and what she’d do differently) Is Talia to blame for missing her friend’s one-woman-show? Being a bystander during a messy confrontation on the streets of New York (is Talia a hero?) Men being babies: how to deal with a guy who complains about you not going to his apartment Relationship Contracts: good idea or bad idea? New Segment Idea: People We Hate picky & selfish is created and hosted by Talia Lichtstein and Sean Kilby. Follow us on TikTok & IG: @pickyandselfish Follow Talia: @talialichtstein Follow Sean: @seanryankilby Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sean and Talia are back with some heated pop culture debates about Sabrina Carpenter’s new album, the upcoming season of TV we’ve been waiting (way too long) for, and a test of Talia’s memory. In this ep we also discuss: Debate: is it okay to offer your spare bedroom after hooking up? Talia’s near-death experience when her apartment building started to flood “Being there” for your ex after a breakup Too Far: Flared Yoga Pants and Influencers’ hand gestures People handing off pets to their parents after six months Baby talk with animals… how much is too much? picky & selfish is created and hosted by Talia Lichtstein and Sean Kilby. Follow us on TikTok & IG: @pickyandselfish Follow Talia: @talialichtstein Follow Sean: @seanryankilby Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Taylor and Travis got engaged this week and all we can see are his blinding-white thighs. Also, how much did they plan this proposal and does Taylor really have the best PR? In this ep we also discuss: Is Taylor Swift destined to end up with Joe Alwyn in the end? The weather on 9/11 doesn’t get enough credit Talia met a security expert on a plane and had the time of her life Too Far: TSA precheck is out of control ...and should we ban ice cream samples? Why people take their sweet time after waiting in line picky & selfish is created and hosted by Talia Lichtstein and Sean Kilby. Follow us on TikTok & IG: @pickyandselfish Follow Talia: @talialichtstein Follow Sean: @seanryankilby Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talia is in the hot seat this week as Sean grills her about what she wants out of life. Is she looking for a relationship? Does she even need her “person” in life? What does her ideal man look like and is she open to finding him? In this ep we also discuss: Matchmakers and setups: are we less cynical about people that’ve been vetted? First loves and what those experiences teach us about ourselves What to do when a guy won’t call you his girlfriend The Before Sunrise movie series and why it changed Sean’s outlook on love picky & selfish is created and hosted by Talia Lichtstein and Sean Kilby. Follow us on TikTok & IG: @pickyandselfish Follow Talia: @talialichtstein Follow Sean: @seanryankilby Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why is everyone talking about butt stuff these days? Talia and Sean try to get to the bottom of everyone’s obsession with getting… to the bottom. It’s not for everyone, but we share tips for how to make it a more comfortable and enjoyable experience. In this ep we also discuss: How NOT to approach a group of women Talia’s story of rejecting a man for exactly the right reason: misogyny An amazing trick for getting a girl’s number in a bar The art of approaching people in public The one segment from our old podcast that never made it to the air picky & selfish is created and hosted by Talia Lichtstein and Sean Kilby. Follow us on TikTok & IG: @pickyandselfish Follow Talia: @talialichtstein Follow Sean: @seanryankilby Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The streak is over… Talia finally went home with a man and he’s a glorious firefighter. But is it already over? She tells us why their politics got in the way and we debate whether or not it’s okay to associate with someone across the aisle. In this ep we also discuss: Boob guy or butt guy… what’s it say about you? Fun fireman facts everyone deserves to know The Coldplay concert cheating scandal Sean started therapy Our latest movie recommendations How to stay comfy when you’re camping picky & selfish is created and hosted by Talia Lichtstein and Sean Kilby. Follow us on TikTok & IG: @pickyandselfish Follow Talia: @talialichtstein Follow Sean: @seanryankilby Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Be honest… does anyone actually use soap on their arms and legs? Talia goes in on Sean for not owning a loofa and letting shampoo do all the work in the shower. Plus, Talia got hit on this 4th of July and it didn’t go as planned. In this ep we discuss: Talia got punched by a random woman in Times Square and her story deserves to be told Talia has some selfish takes for all the brides out there Funner needs to be a word Cocktail prices are out of control Do babies really ever need to be in a stroller? We debate picky & selfish is created and hosted by Talia Lichtstein and Sean Kilby. Follow us on TikTok & IG: @pickyandselfish Follow Talia: @talialichtstein Follow Sean: @seanryankilby Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Who’s the new consensus “it girl” and “it guy” in Hollywood? Talia and Sean debate who holds the crown right now and what it says about our taste in hotness. Plus, Talia tells us why you shouldn’t care if other people think your boyfriend is ugly (even if it’s true). In this ep we discuss: Sydney Sweeney and Tom Brady at Jeff Bezos’s wedding Popping pimples for the sake of others Tampons and wide-set vaginas Sharing your location on Find My Friends (and why Talia loves to lie) Sabrina Carpenter’s new single Manchild and judging the song of the Summer What it’s really like to take LSD and emotional hangovers picky & selfish is created and hosted by Talia Lichtstein and Sean Kilby. Follow us on TikTok & IG: @pickyandselfish Follow Talia: @talialichtstein Follow Sean: @seanryankilby Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Friends and SATC have so much to teach us. Talia recently learned that she wants her life to be more like the TV show Friends (Sean already knew this) and it starts with getting someone to watch her cat. How offended should you be by a friend not helping you out? We also debate Sarah Jessica Parker’s petty unwillingness to acknowledge that Samantha even exists. In this ep we discuss: Friend breakups and why they happen - do guys have it all figured out? Helping people move (don’t do it) and the secret to getting big favors Talia’s new kink for a guy who talks about her in therapy The best new show you should be watching picky & selfish is created and hosted by Talia Lichtstein and Sean Kilby. Follow us on TikTok & IG: @pickyandselfish Follow Talia: @talialichtstein Follow Sean: @seanryankilby Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s time to talk about sexting – Talia tells us exactly what you shouldn’t say to a woman over text if you want to turn her on (and how to use punctuation. Sean also tells us which dirty word he wants us all to start saying a whole lot more. We also get listener thoughts on last week’s conversation about female hygiene. In this ep we also discuss: A certain someone slid back into Talia’s DMs Karen Read’s recent acquittal and why it doesn’t mean Talia was wrong Apparently there’s a male loneliness epidemic and we can’t agree what that means People need to go back to dating within their own league The internet has made many guys a little too embattled (aka “Not All Men”) Sean tells us why more people need to start taking performance enhancers for sex picky & selfish is created and hosted by Talia Lichtstein and Sean Kilby. Follow us on TikTok & IG: @pickyandselfish Follow Talia: @talialichtstein Follow Sean: @seanryankilby Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices