Many people don’t struggle with dating because they don’t know what to do — they struggle because of the emotions that show up along the way. Fear, anxiety, rejection, uncertainty, longing, disappointment… For many, dating becomes an ongoing attempt to avoid uncomfortable feelings rather than move toward meaningful connection. In this episode, I explore: Why fear of emotions keeps you stuck in unhelpful dating patternsHow emotional avoidance shows up as overthinking, people-pleasing, pu...

What If There’s No Wrong Answer? A New Way to Navigate Dating Choices As a Clinical Psychologist and dating coach, one of the most common things I see is clients wanting the “right” answer — who to date, what boundaries to set, what feelings are acceptable, and what steps to take next. But here’s the truth: giving prescriptive advice doesn’t build long-term confidence. In this episode, we explore a new way of approaching decision-making in dating — one rooted in psychological principles, self...

Do you find yourself over-focusing on the other person—trying to keep them happy, overthinking decisions, or guessing what they want in the relationship? In this episode, we explore the signs that your attention may have shifted too far toward the other person, how this pattern can affect connection and communication, and why it often shows up in early dating and relationships. You’ll also hear practical, psychology-informed strategies to help you rebalance your focus, stay connected to...

Conflict is a normal part of any relationship — but when you’re trying to assert yourself and emotions rise, it’s easy to fall into patterns that make things harder instead of clearer. In this episode: - learn three common mistakes people make when trying to communicate their needs during conflict, and why these patterns can lead to misunderstandings, defensiveness, or disconnect. - You’ll also hear three practical, psychology-informed strategies that can support clearer communication,...

In this episode of The Psychology of Dating Podcast, I’m joined by manifestation coach Isabella Rosenthal to explore the fascinating intersection between dating psychology and manifestation. Isabella breaks down the neuroscience behind manifestation, including how the Reticular Activating System (RAS) acts as the brain’s internal filter—highlighting the information we train it to notice. We discuss how manifestation isn’t about wishful thinking, but about aligning your thoughts, feelings, and...

Do you feel guilty taking time for yourself? You're not alone—and this internal conflict can have a big impact on your dating life. In this episode, we explore why self-care isn’t selfish, but essential, especially when it comes to setting boundaries, maintaining emotional availability, and showing up with clarity in relationships. ✨ Dating Coaching Program – Now Enrolling Starts July 9. Learn more → nadineneukirch.com 🎁 Free Guide: Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating Download → nadineneuk...

Can there be such a thing as too much dating? In this episode, we explore the often-overlooked impact of overloading your dating life—how seeing too many people too quickly can lead to emotional burnout, decision fatigue, and even prematurely ending connections that had potential. I’ll break down how a high volume of dates can actually disconnect you from the emotional experience of dating, stop you from tuning into your own needs, and turn something meaningful into something mechanical...

Before we focus on finding the right partner, it’s essential to ask—how strong is your relationship with yourself? In this episode, we unpack what it truly means to build a relationship with yourself from a psychological perspective. In this episode: - Learn how self-awareness, self-respect, and internal safety lay the foundation for dating with confidence and clarity. - How your inner world can shape who you’re drawn to, how you show up in relationships, and your ability to set healthy...

Are you stuck in the same dating pattern—but not sure what exactly needs to change? Before you jump into solutions, take a step back: have you clearly defined the problem? In this episode, we explore how identifying what’s truly within your control in dating can help you move forward with clarity and purpose. ✨ Dating Coaching Program – Now Enrolling Starts July 9. Learn more → nadineneukirch.com 🎁 Free Guide: Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating Download → nadineneukirch.com 💌 Submit your datin...

Should you keep seeing them—or call it quits? In this episode, we explore how to navigate early dating with clarity and confidence. You’ll learn: When to stay open and keep exploring a connectionHow to follow through with connections on dating apps and in personHow to make decisions that align with your values—not just your anxiety✨ Dating Coaching Program – Now Enrolling Starts July 9. Join here → nadineneukirch.com 🎁 Free Guide: Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating Download → nadineneukirch.co...

Why does dating feel so overwhelming when all you want is a healthy connection? In this episode, we explore how complex trauma can shape the way you approach dating and relationships—and what healing can look like. You’ll learn: Common ways complex trauma shows up in datingHow your nervous system may confuse safety with dangerWhy emotional avoidance, over-functioning, or shutdowns aren't “bad” behavior—but protective patternsWhether you’ve experienced emotional neglect, relational trauma, or...

Not sure what to text back? Feeling anxious while waiting for a reply or wondering if you're coming on too strong? In this episode: How to pace texting without overextendingManaging anxiety while waiting for repliesWhen overthinking = avoiding real communication✨ Dating Coaching Program – Now Open Starts July 9. Join here → nadineneukirch.com 🎁 Free Guide: Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating Download → nadineneukirch.com 💌 Submit your dating questions → nadineneukirch.com Thanks for tuning i...

Meeting new people in dating can be anxiety provoking, frustrating, boring, confusing, and many other emotions. It is normal for the human brain to try and make sense of new people and made judgments and assumptions about them. This however, takes us away from being in the moment and can increase suffering and misinterpretation. In this episode: - Learn about the mindfulness skill of 'Observe' from DBT therapy and how this can be applied to dating FREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in...

Are you in your midlife and contemplating dating? People often have many fears and barriers about dating as they grow older, with thoughts such as; "All the good people are taken", "I'm not attractive anymore", "The apps are only for younger people". Most difficult thoughts however are not grounded in facts, but rather judgments and fears. In this episode you will learn tips to shift your mindset and approach dating in your midlife with increased confidence. FREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset S...

Do you find yourself hot and cold with use of the dating apps. You go on them for a few months and then feel disheartened and quit for another few months? Is you mindset one of defeat and hopelessness; "They don't work, they are too boring, it's impossible to get matches" In this episode: - Identify your mindset for use of dating apps and learn how to clarify what are facts vs judgment/fear/opinions. - 3 key judgments about the use of apps explored and mindset reframes covered FREE Guid...

Do you experience intense and overwhelming emotions where you become impulsive or feel out of control in dating? Or do you feel numb and disconnected from your emotions in dating? You may be experiencing emotion dysregulation. In DBT therapy there are skills to regulate emotions, feel more in control of your emotional experience and reduce unnecessary suffering. This episode explores the basics of what emotion regulation is. FREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadinene...

Have you ever found yourself doubting your decisions in dating? Making one choice and then feeling guilt afterwards or criticising yourself? One part of you wants to go on a date and the other part of you fears rejection and wants to avoid the apps? In this episode: - Explore the impact of conflicting 'parts' of yourself in dating - Strategies to befriend these parts, understand their fears and needs and make effective choices FREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadinene...

Conflict can be healthy and to be expected in a relationship. The important part of conflict is how we navigate it. In this episode: - Learn how can attachment fears can be triggered in a relationship - Tips to settle your nervous system when in conflict - Tips to clarify your goals when resolving conflict FREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadineneukirch.com REGISTRATION NOW OPEN FOR *** ONLINE DATING COACHING PROGRAMS*** For more information or to register visi...

Part of my dating coaching program involves running weekly groups. Each week participants ask dating questions and receive personalised coaching on areas they are unsure or stuck in for dating. This episode answers 3 questions from the latest coaching group: - How long should you spend on the dating apps? - What is the best time to be messaging someone on the apps? - How many dates should you go on per week? FREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadineneukirch.com R...

When people are feeling stuck in dating they can experience an imbalance in their emotions, an increase in challenging emotions such as fear, sadness, anger, shame, and guilt. In Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) there is a skill to help people accumulate pleasant emotions called 'ABC PLEASE'. This episode explores the use of this skill in the context of dating. FREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadineneukirch.com REGISTRATION NOW OPEN FOR *** ONLINE DA...