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Use code QUEERCOLLECTIVE for 15% off Aisle: https://periodaisle.com/ Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA Is sleeping with your friends a queer love language or just lesbian chaos theory? We’re spilling on crushes, cuddle hookups, and why queers can’t stop blurring the friendship line. With Zhané and Syd, we talk jealousy, intimacy, ENM vs monogamy, and every messy “oops, I made out with my bestie” scenario. Gay disasters, incoming. FOLLOW ZHANE Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ziosaaa/ FOLLOW SYD https://www.instagram.com/hotboysyd/ FOLLOW US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com 00:00 intro 01:44 Have you hooked up with friends? 09:20 Pros and cons of hooking up 25:39 What about the friendship? 40:10 Is it inevitable? 49:15 Making the first move 57:56 Intoxicated consent 01:04:18 Keeping a platonic vibe after 01:10:38 How to avoid problems 01:16:52 Role playing scenarios

Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA CONTENT WARNING: This episode contains mentions of SA. Please take care of yourself while listening, and feel free to skip to the next episode if it’s not the right time for you. CONTACT DANIELLE Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/danielle.lastres/ CONTACT MS MYLES MUA IG: https://www.instagram.com/ms.mylesmua/ DJ IG: https://www.instagram.com/madame.myles/ CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com Femininity: feared, fetishized, and slapped with a “no fems” dating bio. We’re pulling femmephobia apart with Ms. Myles and Danielle. From its colonial, patriarchal origin story to the high school boys who think they have to one-up each other in a contest to sound the most heterosexual. 00:00 Intro 02:25 Define femmephobia 05:28 How does society treat femmes? 15:06 Being a trans femme is something else 23:32 Origins of femmephobia 31:09 The misogyny mask 43:11 No femmes allowed 48:37 Unwavering queerness 53:23 Do you wanna be a boy? 58:15 Protect the dolls

Use code QUEERCOLLECTIVE for 15% off Aisle: https://periodaisle.com/ Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA CONTACT TYRA Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/tyrablizz/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@tblizzy CONTACT KING Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/king.charming9/ Barber IG: https://www.instagram.com/kingscuts99/ CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com From Oscar Wilde to JoJo Siwa, the word queer has been called a slur, a theory, an aesthetic, and a whole damn vibe. We’re diving deep into the messy, sexy, defiant legacy of queerness with icons Tyra Blizzard and King a.k.a DJ Soundboi. Why are so many ex-lesbians saying “I’m queer now”? Can cis-hets be queer? Is “queer” just bisexuality in a trench coat?? We’re reclaiming, unpacking, and stirring the pot. 00:00 Intro 02:26 Queer as gender and sexuality? 10:04 Is queer just too vague? 21:21 The ex-lesbians 28:26 Can you be culturally queer? 41:26 History of the word queer 52:12 How has queer evolved? 01:00:08 Is gender queer just non-binary? 01:06:05 Do you need to question your sexual attraction?

Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA What do electric shocks, shame sermons, and fake science have in common? They were all used to “pray the gay away.” We’re diving into the twisted world of conversion therapy with survivor and scholar Lucas Wilson. From evangelical trauma to the ex-gay movement’s most delulu masc villains, we’re unpacking the pseudoscience, propaganda, and lifelong scars of this deadly practice, and how survivors are reclaiming their stories. FOLLOW LUKE Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lukeslamdunkwilson/ FOLLOW US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com 00:00 Intro 01:46 Did you grow up religious? 08:23 being gay AND christian? 19:03 Discovering conversion therapy 35:40 The indoctrination is strong 44:14 The science is clear 57:36 Should DL folks be outed? 01:02:49 But the bible says 01:07:11 rejecting religion's teachings 01:10:53 The long term harm

Queer Poverty Project: https://smuniversity.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_3ZO1JLxkZZC5E46 Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA Monogamy is optional. Hierarchies are fake. And ‘the one’ doesn't exist? We're diving headfirst into the world of Relationship Anarchy with queer academic and certified hottie Pat. From dismantling the dating rulebook to navigating multiple partners without losing your mind, this episode unpacks radical love, intimacy without ownership, and why friendship might just be the new forever. FOLLOW PAT Therapy: https://allofyou.ca/Events Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allofyouwellnesscentre/ FOLLOW US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com 00:00 Intro 01:32 What is relationship anarchy? 10:50 How do you get into RA? 20:34 Positive impact of RA 27:20 Why choose RA? 41:45 Can it get more radical? 53:28 Building your own RA model 01:06:13 Dating challenges within RA 01:12:26 Creating clarity with multiple partners 01:19:06 Negotiating hierarchies

Queer Poverty Project: https://smuniversity.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_3ZO1JLxkZZC5E46 Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Betterhelp: https://www.betterhelp.com/collective Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA Black masculinity is feared, fetishized, and fiercely policed; so what happens when queerness enters the chat? We’re talking masc performance as survival, straight Black men’s discomfort with queerness, and why traditional masculinity is flopping in 2025. With Haviah Mighty and DJ Blackcat, we’re queering the blueprint and dragging patriarchy by the lacefront. FOLLOW HAVIAH Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/haviahmighty/ FOLLOW BLACKCAT Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/djblackcatt/ FOLLOW US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com 00:00 Intro 02:33 Black masculinity from childhood 11:18 Highschool scripts and stereotypes 16:03 Black masc women 21:52 Black women's standards 27:56 Black masculinity in queer spaces 39:38 Cis straight black men 50:59 Loving men 01:03:43 What is masculinity? 01:10:36 What is healthy masculinity?

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If you've ever been called “exotic,” or told you're one of the “good minorities” this one’s for you. We’re unpacking the fetishization of Asian bodies, the myth of the model minority, and the tension between queerness and cultural belonging. With personal stories from two badass artists, Charlotte and Ky, we explore femme fetish tropes, family pressure, and the art of de-centering whiteness, while staying hot and radical. VOTE FUNKYVERSE: https://cgtvote.votenow.tv/ Betterhelp: https://www.betterhelp.com/collective Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA FOLLOW KY Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/oneofakynd27/ FOLLOW CHARLOTTE Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charcarbone/ FOLLOW US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com

You were told sex is binary, XX or XY, case closed. But what if we told you that’s just redhead math? We’re unpacking the intersex experience with two brilliant guests: Noise (the intersex karaoke witch) and Bailey (trans, intersex, and hot). We’re diving into the science, the history, the surgeries, the shame and why “normal” is a scam. Expect gay giggles, medical rage, and radical joy. Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA FOLLOW NOISE Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thenoisewitch/ FOLLOW BAILEY Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/baileyarcherofficial/ FOLLOW US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com 00:00 intro 03:10 Finding out you're intersex 17:05 History of medicalization of intersex 26:41 Experiencing diagnosis 33:39 Existing in a binary world 41:24 Navigating dating 51:03 Advice for younger self

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Use code QUEERCOLLECTIVE for 15% off https://splashblanket.com/en-ca Aisle: https://periodaisle.com/ Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA Losing your sapphic v-card? Terrified you’ll fumble the bag? We got you. This episode is your survival guide to sapphic sex, confidence, flirting, and *ahem* hands-on skills included. We’re joined by queer sex-ed pro Eva Bloom and sapphic dating expert Zhané to break down the do’s and don’ts of queer intimacy. From navigating your first time to mastering the art of the flirt, this one’s packed with hot tips (literally). Plus, we wrap things up with a round of Sapphic Smutty Mad Libs because education should always come with a little filth. FOLLOW ZHANE Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ziosaaa/ FOLLOW EVA Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/whatsmybodydoing/ FOLLOW US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com 00:00 intro 01:48 first time with a woman 14:54 ways to confirm your queerness 16:21 being a newbie means no one wants you? 18:21 Queer vs straight flirting 22:49 Sapphic vs straight sex 30:27 how to flirt with Sapphics 38:54 having Sapphic sex 47:59 Strapping advice 55:35 Top or bottom? 58:40 Trans femmes & neurodivergents 59:58 Sexy Sapphic Smutt

So, you wanna open up your relationship but don’t wanna crash and burn in a fiery mess of jealousy and regret? We got you. We’re joined by three queer, non-monogamous therapists from the Polyamory Therapy Collective to give you the ultimate survival guide to ENM—how to start the convo, avoid rookie mistakes, and actually enjoy the ride. We’re unpacking couples’ privilege, imposter syndrome, and why your gut is doing backflips every time your partner even mentions someone new. Whether you're non-monogamy-curious or in the trenches, this one's essential. Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA The Polyamory Therapy Collective: https://allofyou.ca/Events FOLLOW US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com 00:00 Intro 02:11 What are open relationships? 07:24 Is ENM for you? 11:29 Is it ethical? 16:08 How to ask your partner to open up 23:57 What to discuss before opening up 29:38 What if it doesn't feel good for you? 33:13 Dealing with imposter syndrome 41:49 Is ENM NOT for you? 43:00 Don't make these mistakes 46:53 How to forgive those who hurt you 50:17 Couple's privilege 56:00 Staying in touch with an ex 01:01:16 If you feel distant from this conversation

What does it really mean to be a lesbian? Is it a vibe? A gender? A political stance? We’re diving headfirst into the evolution of lesbian identity—breaking down butch and femme history, masculinity, queerness, and what it truly means to de-center men (spoiler: it’s liberating). With three wildly different lesbians at the table - Haviah, Pkat, and Karbon - we’re serving history, academic drama, and personal hot takes. It’s intellectual, it’s unhinged, and it’s very, very gay. Buckle up, baby dykes. Use code QUEERCOLLECTIVE for 15% off Aisle: https://periodaisle.com/ Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA FOLLOW PKAT Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/p.kat.nye/ FOLLOW HAVIAH Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/haviahmighty/ FOLLOW US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com 00:00 intro 05:18 the lesbian identity 12:17 the masculine/feminine dilemma 24:52 discovery of lesbianism 38:02 the lesbian sub-identities 50:48 white vs bipoc lesbians 01:05:46 is lesbian a queer identity? 01:13:37 femmes don't get enough credit 01:25:11 do mascs get more dates?