Stevie B and I talk about limbo land, that murky space so many people end up in early on in dating. The situationship. Not quite together. Not quite nothing. We talk about how any interaction between two people is a relationship, whether you label it or not. And how often one person is being clear about what they want, while the other is quietly hoping it’ll turn into something more. We get into wishful thinking. Reading into moments. Convincing yourself that chemistry, closeness, or in...

In this episode I share a very human, very imperfect moment I had with a traffic control guy outside my house, one of those interactions where two egos meet, both think they’re right, and things go downhill fast. He was frustrated. I was frustrated. And instead of choosing kindness, clarity, or calm, went high and mighty. Righteous. Chest out. Ego leading the charge. And he did the same. Two strangers, both convinced we were justified, making each other’s day crap within 30 seconds. That’s th...

This episode is exactly what it sounds like. No love. No light. The other day, Steve and I were driving in the car airing our annoyances, the stuff that grinds our gears and halfway through we looked at each other and thought, why not share this? Because this is what relationships look like too. It’s not always kissing and cuddling and smooching. It’s not always conscious communication and being hyper-aware. Sometimes it’s just getting things off your chest, laughing about it, and movin...

In this episode, I share my reflections on my word for this year, unwavered, and how it’s moved itself through me this year. Change happens in our home all the time. With the girls, with living arrangements, with things shifting, coming, going and for years, that stuff used to mess with me big time. I’d get thrown off, attached to the plan we just made that now suddenly changed again, stuck in my rigidness. But this year this was the year I let that shit go. I stopped gripping so tightl...

We laugh a lot in today's episode, sharing what we would adjust about the other if we had a magic wand. In the many laughs, there are also some good truths to listen to, truths that we can tap into and, pardon the pun, adjust. When you listen, see if you can hear where we can consider that other a little more, respect the other a little more, communicate with the other a little more gently. We of course can choose whether or not to adjust our ways, or not, either way, the truth is there...

This episode is my honest answer to a listener question (thank you, Sarah from Toronto): How did you land at the decision not to have children? I’ve always known I wanted deep love, but I never felt that same undeniable, biological, aching pull toward having children. I assumed I’d probably have them one day but it was never a soul-deep calling for me. When I met Steve who was very clear he didn’t want any more children, the question came to the front of the table. Is this something I genuine...

Steve and I share our learnings (and laughs) from Scenic Sundays - a day once a month we set aside with no agenda, no plan, and no rush. Just faith, flow, and following what feels good. Scenic Sundays have brought us some of the greatest memories and moments in our relationship. They're the kind of days that remind you what presence actually feels like: deep chats in the car, spontaneous detours, belly laughs, and finding new places we never would’ve discovered if we’d stuck to a plan. We tal...

You know how you want to live. You know how you want to feel in your body, in your relationship, in your life. You do know. But so often, we tell ourselves we don’t. We tell ourselves we’re confused, unsure, not ready. We hide behind stories that keep us stuck in the same patterns, even when something inside us is screaming for change. The gap between what we know and how we’re living is often the very thing keeping us disconnected, tired, resentful, or restless. Isn't it about time you did s...

Before I knew about perimenopause, Steve had never even heard the word either. Like a lot of men (and women), it just wasn’t on his radar until it started showing up in real time, through my body, emotions, and energy. And now, thankfully, medical professionals talking about it out loud. We talk about: What this season has looked and felt like from his perspectiveThe changes he’s noticed in me and in our relationshipHow we keep the conversation open so he knows how to best support meWhy...

As I approach my 40th birthday, I wanted to take a moment to honour the decade that’s brought me here, my 30s. The years of building, pushing, proving, creating, and doing the deep work to come home to myself. In the two weeks leading up to my birthday, I sat down with myself and wrote out some powerful reflection statements and journalled out the answers. A moment to say thank you for everything that’s shaped me, and to consciously step into what’s next; a decade I want to feel rooted, easef...

Steve and I talk about the season we’re in as his girls turn 16 and almost 19, a chapter we used to ache for when they were little and life was full-on. They're more independent, seeking their own adventures and opportunities, and the this time of life we never thought could come fast enough, is here. Back then, we dreamed about what freedom would look like. We talked about moving to Europe the minute they turned 18, chasing adventure, and living this big, wide-open life. But now that w...

How do you let go of the old way when it’s the very thing that built you? How do you trust a new rhythm when the old one got you here? Today, I share ... The 'doing' voice that tells me stay on it, stay in it, don’t you dare let goThe fears that if I slow down I’ll disappear, become invisible, waste my potentialThe soul voice that whispers, there’s another wayWhat it feels like to be wedged between don’t-let-go and surrender-darlingThis is the work of the soul. To risk being smaller in the ey...

After eight years together it’s easy for Steve and me to fall into the rhythm of everyday questions like what’s for dinner? how was your day? and forget to ask the kind of questions that keep curiosity and intimacy alive. Recently, we’ve been using Esther Perel’s Where Should We Begin? cards as a way to speak more deeply about topics and explore conversations we wouldn’t usually tap into. In this episode, we pulled a card that asked: What is one thing you wish you had been told as a child? We...

I sit with Ashley Hayball-Heald, a previous client of mine, who is a widowed, brave woman, who let love in again after her husband died. She tells the story of how she navigated grief, kids, other people’s opinions, signs from her husband who died, and what it looks like to say yes again to love. Ashley is the founder of Team Hayball and Find Your HOPE. She coaches widows to find their hope again amidst tough times. She’s remarried now, but that didn’t come easily. She’s been through th...

Steve and I talk about something we both know all too well: that awkward, subtle distance that can build up in a relationship when you’re not saying what you’re really feeling. We recently found ourselves in a place of disconnection, nothing dramatic, no big argument, just a series of micro misunderstandings, missed cues, and moments where we assumed instead of asked. Steve played the, 'everything is fine' card. I kept going into the, 'ah, no it's not'. We talk about: The quiet buildup ...

I share a deeply personal letter to my mum, a letter I’ve been slowly writing in my heart for years, and only now have the words, the softness, and the honesty to say out loud. It’s about the part of me that believed I had to do more to be more. That my worth was measured by my output, by my ambition, by how different I could be from the women before me. And how, in trying so hard not to be like my mum, I missed just how extraordinary she truly is. This is a letter of humility and of finally...

After witnessing a series of moments on my recent travels left me gutted. People standing on coral. Ignoring signs that asked not to disturb nesting wildlife. Disrespecting sacred sites with noise, ego, and entitlement. This episode and letter is a call to all of us who travel to remember that we are guests. That we’re not entitled to the land, the wildlife, or the culture. That not everything needs to hold personal meaning for it to deserve our care and respect. I speak about the pain of wat...

Steve and I lay it all out in this one, the little daily things or habits we find annoying or frustrating about each other. It’s funny, it’s honest, and it’s the kind of real-life stuff that happens in every relationship but rarely gets talked about out loud. From petty habits to personality quirks, we share them openly with plenty of laughs in this one. We all know that loving someone doesn’t mean they don’t drive you up the wall sometimes. We thought we'd have some fun with this episode.&nb...

I share a letter I wrote to the part of me that still believes I have to prove my worth to matter. The part that panics when I slow down. That thinks I’m losing my edge if I’m not pushing. That tells me if I’m not doing, I must be failing. This letter is from my truth to my ego. From the grounded part of me that knows there’s another way. A slower, more intentional way of living that isn’t fuelled by fear, but by presence. Substance. I speak to what it’s like to walk away from the versi...

Steve and I share about the reality of step-parenting and family dynamics, especially what happens when a step-parent enters a home that already has its rhythm, its ways, its rules. Even when you try so hard not to disrupt the dynamic, the truth is, it changes. Because it has to. There's no way around it. We talk about: How the dynamic shifts when a new adult comes into the mixWhy it’s so bloody hard even when your intentions are goodThe messiness of getting it wrong, being misunderstoo...