Doctor Carlton is a gay GI doctor from San Diego, California who rose to notoriety with his queer sexual health and sex education platform on Instagram and Tik Tok.

When MPOX struck our community, he used that platform to bring awareness and vaccination/ treatment help to tens of thousands of people and was named to the OUT100, Queerty Pride 50, National Association of Leather-International President’s Award and met President Biden at the White House.

He teaches at kink events around the country like Austin Kink, The Rose Bowl and LA Leather getaway.

You can also hear him on his new podcast BUTT HONESTLY.

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Music: Valence - Infinite [NCS Release]

Instagram: @doctorcarlton

Bluesky: @doctorcarlton.bsky.social

X (Twitter): @doctor_carlton

Podcast: Butt Honestly (on all podcast platforms)

Instagram: @butthonestlypod

Bluesky: @butthonestlypod.bsky.social

X (Twitter): @butthonestlypod

Recorded on 26th October 2025 on Zoom, see original video on YouTube:

https://youtu.be/j28INKtb76w

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Meet Nick, an ex Chemsex addict who is 10 years clean and sober.

The leather scene was part of his life during his using days.

Today when he engage in sober sex, he no longer has the desire for leather and kink.

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Music: Valence - Infinite [NCS Release]

If you want to get in contact with Nick,

Contact RealClearFetish! on

Email: realclearfetish@gmail.com

or DM us on Instagram

and we will pass it on to him.

Recorded on 7th August 2025 on Zoom, see original video on YouTube:

https://youtu.be/nl10zb2pbV0

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Kell W Farshéa is an intersex nobinary trans femme dominant sadist.

They have been an BDSMer for 40 years.

In 1992 they founded the SM activist group Countdown on Spanner (1992-97) and the annual SMPride March (1992-2003).

For 5 years they wrote a regular column for the pan-european tri-lingual SM-Fetish magazine Projet X.

They have been sober for 36 years.

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Music: Valence - Infinite [NCS Release]

Instagram: auntie_kell

Recon: MxPervert

X (Twitter) @Auntie_Kell

Bluesky: @auntie-kell.bsky.social

Recorded on 24th June 2025 on Zoom, see original video on YouTube:

https://youtu.be/TqIsjSTduiE

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Beau has been in the kink and fetish community for over 5 years;

coming from a background where group environments felt scary or threatening, his journey into the community had been transformational.

This has coincided with a reduction in drinking, and predominantly sober kink and fetish nights out.

This, paired with being able to navigate new social groups, finding ways to feel safe, has given him a collective community he never thought he would experience.

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Music: Valence - Infinite [NCS Release]

X (Twitter) @PupBeauBoop

Recorded on 18th June 2025 on Zoom, see original video on YouTube:

https://youtu.be/s9F1MxIZhrg

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Some info about Chris - 35+ years sober leatherman and pup/handler; prostate cancer survivor and 2nd runner-up for Mr Fetish World 2025.

His MFW project is a kink-inclusive healthcare program to show that we as fetishists and kinksters can have major health issues and still lead a fulfilling kink life.

It is his hope to develop resources that we can use to educate and work with our healthcare providers when we have kink & fetish related health issues and injuries.

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Music: Valence - Infinite [NCS Release]

Instagram: @leatherfafner

Bluesky: @leatherfafner.bsky.social

YouTube: @leatherfafner

Email: KIHAlliance@proton.me

Facebook Group:

www.facebook.com/groups/kihalliance

Recorded on 5th June 2025 on Zoom, see original video on YouTube:

https://youtu.be/Ch9R-RRqhcY

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Meet Max, some call him boy and/or puppy, He was born in Ukraine and was adopted by his wonderful Swedish parents when he was almost 3 years old, which meant he moved to Sweden.

He finished high school in 2016, then got his first apartment and started his job that same year, working with dogs (the animal kind).

He started his kink journey when he was around 16 and now has a daddy/partner in the US.

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Music: Valence - Infinite [NCS Release]

Instagram: @leather_max2026

Recorded on 13th May 2025 on Zoom, see original video on YouTube:

https://youtu.be/K9x7WjRaU1g

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BLUFOfficer is a kinkster who has been part of the kink scene since 2013.

His main gear preferences are uniform and leather and is always recognisable by the khaki uniform and riding boots at events.

He is also autistic, having been diagnosed with Autism when he was young and in recent years, he has been determined to show that you can be both autistic and have a good time on the kink scene.

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Music: Valence - Infinite [NCS Release]

Instagram: @blufofficer

Recorded on 2nd May 2025 on Zoom, see original video on YouTube:

https://youtu.be/4R84bhhq0dA

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For nearly a decade, Moshiel has commanded stages across the leather and drag worlds—entertaining, emceeing, and fundraising.

A proud Sober Leatherman, he has also made his mark Off-Broadway as a writer and producer of the political spoof Five.

He founded Punch, an inclusive fisting space, and played a key role in opening SoCal Leather to all by removing its gender honorific.

Whether dazzling in drag as Lady SinAGaga or earning a spot in the IML Class of 46’s Top 20 as Mr. SoCal Leather 2023, one thing’s for sure — when Moshiel takes the stage, you’re in for a damn good time.

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Music: Valence - Infinite [NCS Release]

Instagram: @ohmoshedidnt

Recorded on 1st May 2025 on Zoom, see original video on YouTube:

https://youtu.be/UBtpOYmy1LU?si=DIx8C3vu_WC_STQM

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LTJ Reads is a leatherman, who was the first Mr. Austin Eagle in 2024 and part of IML Class 46.

He is a writer/model/teacher who absolutely hates throwing shade in the LGBTQIA+ community.

LTJ is a muscle stud who emphasizes good mental health and the use of brain power.

He is most notable for his show, Throwing Light, which is an interview series that sheds light on tough topics and new ways of thinking.

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Music: Valence - Infinite [NCS Release]

Instagram: @ltjishere

Recorded on 29th April 2025 on Zoom, see original video on YouTube:

https://youtu.be/KAg8YR0aCd4?si=VapO16uvo14dtzkJ

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From the Emmy award winning season of RuPaul‘s drag race season 15 Selena S titties has been hustling ever since her season, while also becoming the first drag queen to ever step foot into the American big Brother house.

She has traveled the world, released an EP called homegirl and is now launched her own podcast called the Homegirl Hotline.

She just celebrated 13 years of sobriety and is a pillar in the southern California sober community and is so very grateful for the life.

She lives today as a result of their sobriety.

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Music: Valence - Infinite [NCS Release]

Instagram: @estitties

Youtube: @SalinaEsTitties

X (Twitter): @SalinaEstitties

Bluesky: @estitties.bsky.social

Recorded on 28th November 2024 on Zoom, see original video on YouTube:

https://youtu.be/vmwvMAZsD3E

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Rock (Stage name) has been sober for a year and three quarters - new year's 2023 was the rock bottom and started attending NA meetings.

The same time Rock started his porn career, and Rock Biggs was born.

The two are interlinked intimately and he probably wouldn't be here today if he didn't meet the people he did through porn, including his sponsor. Isolation, shame, and anxiety had to be kicked to the side to embrace the kinks he's always felt but never acted on.

The euphoria from newly discovered sober fisting helped during the dark days of cravings and the community that comes with being a hoe on the internet kept him connected to others who had a lot more sober time and we're role models in sobriety.

Fast forward a year and a bit and he's married to Phil, lives on a farm in the Peak District and just started his PhD, all would never have been possible 2 years ago.

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Music: Valence - Infinite [NCS Release]

Instagram: @rock_biggs

X (Twitter): @RockBiggs

Bluesky: @rockbiggs.com

Recorded on 5th December 2024 on Zoom, see original video on YouTube:

https://youtu.be/vLUJp9VkbPI

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Mark (LeatherAlphaSkin) London born and bred kinkster previous pup and pack owner.

Lived in London till 2012 went out and did lots of London and European kink scenes. Been sober from chemsex since 2013.

Now living in Scotland and regularly attend kink events and like to help new kinksters understand their way through kink and also advocate of safe play after the death of his first husband from solo play.

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Music: Valence - Infinite [NCS Release]

Instagram: @leatheralphaskin

Bluesky: @leatheralphaskin.bsky.social

X (Twitter): @LeatherAlphaSkn

Recon: LeatherAlphaSkin

Recorded on 30th November 2024 on Zoom, see original video on YouTube:

https://youtu.be/kx28nd7VMs0

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John (Ginger Bear John) is a 45 year old married Leatherman in Southern California. Heavily involved in the kink community, in the role of a submissive, for many years clean and sober for almost 13 years. John is an accountant. Also an aspiring bodybuilder with his first content scheduled for Fall, 2025. Spare time is volunteering as treasuer/CFO for a nonprofit specializing in the treatment of drug and alcohol addiction in the LGBTQ community.

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Music: Valence - Infinite [NCS Release]

Instagram: @ginger_bear_john

Bluesky: @gingerbearjohn.bsky.social

Grinder/Scruff/Asspig: Ginger Bear

Recorded on 23rd November 2024 on Zoom, see original video on YouTube:

https://youtu.be/-TPHrwozypc

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Cyrus (he/him) is one happy and proud leatherman. Born and raised in Calcutta, India. He currently lives near Frankfurt for the last 6.5 years and works in tech.

He is a dom/top (mostly) kinky fetishist with an aficionado for leathers, rubber, and skinhead gear. He discovered his fetish at the age of 12 while watching MotoGP! Bondage, biker leathers and GOM are his kryptonite.

Outside fetish life, he enjoys lifting heavy metal circles, boxing, travelling, photography and geeking out about Pokémon and MTG.

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Music: Valence - Infinite [NCS Release]

Instagram: @gear.siriuscyrus

Bluesky: @siriuscyrus.bsky.social

Telegram: @SiriusCyrus

Recorded on 14th November 2024 on Zoom, see original video on YouTube:

https://youtu.be/OgX0J7_h-Sw

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- Hans West:

Kink Aware Coach and open-minded Partner-Relationship Coach, Integrative Addiction Services for over 25 years.

Both offline, and online services: information, training and therapy.

Generally a nice person but allergic to BS.

And.. Adalberto and me have now created over 50 online and several in-person KinkyTalks(.nl) since 2020.

Quote: "Have you ever ever seen anyone... shame anybody out of an addiction? Shame is killing!!!"

www.KinkAwareCoach.com

- Adalberto Rubbadam:

Adalberto is an engaged kinkster based in Amsterdam. He started exploring his kinky interests in the leather scene more than fifteen years ago, after moving to The Netherlands. In the last years, he has been particularly active in the rubber scene, nationally and internationally. He held the titles of Mr Rubber Netherlands 2019 and Mr International Rubber 2020-2021 (MIR23).

He has been a driving force in establishing rubber social events in Amsterdam and Rotterdam to create safe spaces for rubbermen and rubber-curious people to meet and to grow the community. He worked actively on the visibility of the Dutch Rubbermen: in 2019, he led for the first time a group of rubbermen at several Pride walks, from Amsterdam to Zwolle. He strengthened and established new contacts between many rubber clubs worldwide, and currently he volunteers on the Dutch Rubbermen core team.

Adalberto is a ballroom enthusiast (PoseFX anyone?), and likes to play with gender stereotypes. Talking body positivity and emancipation, Adalberto has supported the NoMoreC project for HepC prevention (do check: www.nomorec.nl for some very easy tips!).

During the COVID-19 pandemic, he played a pivotal role to organise fun online rubber pub quiz events in collaboration with many rubber clubs worldwide, keeping social togetherness in times of physical distancing.

In May 2020, he started the online Kinky Talks together with his now good friend Hans West: a safe space for lighthearted but serious talks for kinksters looking to spice up their kinky life, to learn new things and share experiences. With invited experts, community leaders and yourself! From the community, for the community.

My motto: keep shining!

- Some history - From our kinkytalks.nl website:

Adalberto and Hans are both – each in their own way – kinksters and we met at the end of 2019 at café Prik in Amsterdam, around the idea to launch a Miss Rubber Netherlands title. We got to talk about how things that can be so hot and juicy sometimes turn so nasty because of a lack of knowledge. And we both felt that we needed to do something about that (within limits). Soon the pandemic hit, and online meetings became a daily routine.

That’s how the Kinky Talks were born: online talks without convictions, clever, together… because the bubble knows more and we can all help each other to get things… erhmm NOT so straight #kink ;-)

Currently every 2 months on Zoom. Register for our newsletter on www.kinkytalks.nl and follow us on IG @kinkytalksnl to stay up to date with our upcoming talks.

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Music: Valence - Infinite [NCS Release]

Instagram: @kinkytalksnl

Homepage: kinkytalks.nl

Instagram: @mir23_rubbadamnl

Instagram: @hansrjwest

Homepage: KinkAwareCoach.com

Recorded on 5th November 2024 on Zoom, see original video on YouTube:

https://youtu.be/41EJmjoAK8U

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Meet Barney, AKA The Muckle Stoater, a fetish artist, pornographer and all-round clown porn advocate based in London!

For years he thought he was the weirdest person in the world for having a clown fetish. Now he get to express himself as a kink performer and escort, available to hire for all kinds of adult events.

He is the host of ‘The Big Top’ podcast, where he discuss niche kinks and paraphilias with guests from all corners of the fetish community, as well as the ups and downs on the road to self-acceptance.

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Music: Valence - Infinite [NCS Release]

Instagram: @the_muckle_stoater

X (Twitter): @TStoater

Bluesky: @tstoater.bsky.social

X (Twitter): @MSTpresents

"Stuck in the Middle" on the 18th January 2025

All podcast platforms: The Big Top

Email: thebigtop.pod@gmail.com

Recorded on 29th October 2024 on Zoom, see original video on YouTube:

https://youtu.be/Ao5mn8DVmwU

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Steve B has been sober since May 28th, 2021, and is the host of gAy A: The Queer Sober Hero Show.

Having isolating during his drinking, he has only begun embracing his interests in leather, fetish, and kink in sobriety- something he believes is necessary for him in order to live a full, happy, and sober life.

He is forever grateful for his sober family, his podcasting community, and kinksters like you!

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Music: Valence - Infinite [NCS Release]

Instagram: @gayapodcast

Instagram: @juststevesrq

All podcast platforms:

gAy A: The Queer Sober Hero Show

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Music: Valence - Infinite [NCS Release]

Recorded on 17th October 2024 on Zoom, see original video on YouTube:

https://youtu.be/Q0aY-8QvW6U

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Meet Mutt (by Nature), he/him, cis-gay/queer guy. He has been clean and sober for over 12 years. He is also a sober fister and do that without poppers, although he should say chem sex was never my thing.

He got sober via AA but haven’t been in a few years now, instead opting for therapy to keep him moving forwards. Therapy also played a part in establishing a sober sex life.

He has lived in Berlin for 4.5 years. He has a fiancé and a handler, so he is also polyamorous. He is British, Lancastrian specifically, but spent most of his adult life in London apart from the years in Berlin.

He has spent the last 7 years or so working in tech which has also given him an environment where he can be a bit more authentically queer, at least in terms of how he appear with a Mohawk and septum ring.

And for those who’ve seen his X (twitter), of course, he has done some amateur porn. He is also a geek and a Trekkie, and now have a huge garden to look after, which keeps him busy.

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Music: Valence - Infinite [NCS Release]

Instagram: @muttbynature

X (Twitter): @muttbynature

Picture by @hawtphotox

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Music: Valence - Infinite [NCS Release]

Recorded on 16th June 2024 in person, see original video on YouTube:

https://youtu.be/0g43_v0zHfs

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JeFF was born and raised in Colorado. He went back to school in 2013 to earn a chemical and biological engineering degree. He works in process development for a biotech pharmaceutical company.

He has been part of the leather and kink community off and on for 17 years. He is Mr. Leather Colorado 2023 and will compete at IML this year.

He is a proud sober leatherman with a passion for kink, fisting, kink education, and being of service to his community. He founder of Mile High Fisters and started a local weekly sober meeting in Denver called Sober Kink.

Facebook: Jeff Brewer

Instagram: @lawstboy77

X (Twitter): @COFistboy

Picture by @baergalerie

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Music: Valence - Infinite [NCS Release]

Recorded on 28th June 2024 on Zoom, see original video on YouTube:

https://youtu.be/xb5pVCuenr0

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Tyler is a kinkster living on the east coast of Canada. Kink and fetish have always been a part of his life and has evolved over the years, including the decision in 2019 to take a hard look at his use of substances in relation to sex, relationships and his life in general. Outside of kink, he loves to surf and snowboard, hiking, languages and being outside as much as possible.

Instagram: @tytysurf

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Music: Valence - Infinite [NCS Release]

Recorded on 9th May 2024 on Zoom, see original video on YouTube:

https://youtu.be/GLbxjPodkeY

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