Episode Summary
In this Midweek Mindset Shift, Cindy introduces a foundational DBT concept—Emotion Mind, Reasonable Mind, and Wise Mind—and explains how these three states shape your reactions, patterns, and nervous system responses. This short, trauma-informed episode guides you in recognizing which mind state you're operating from and how to shift into Wise Mind, the centered place where intuition, clarity, and grounded decision-making meet.
This episode is especially supportive for women healing from childhood attachment wounds, people-pleasing patterns, chronic overthinking, and complex PTSD.
The difference between Emotion Mind, Reasonable Mind, and Wise Mind
Why trauma and attachment wounds make emotional flooding and overthinking more common
How Wise Mind supports nervous system regulation and balanced decision-making
A practical DBT tool called S.T.O.P. for pausing and choosing a grounded response
How small shifts in awareness help you break old survival patterns
You are not your emotions or your thoughts. Observing them creates space for choice.
Emotion Mind and Reasonable Mind each offer something valuable, but Wise Mind brings balance and clarity.
Wise Mind is a practice, not a destination. Consistent small pauses strengthen self-trust and emotional regulation.
"The body keeps the score, but the mind can learn to guide it." — Bessel van der Kolk
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Work with Cindy to heal childhood attachment wounds, CPTSD, people-pleasing, and perfectionism, and to reconnect with your true Self.
Consider listening to Monday’s full-length episode for a deeper dive into healing attachment wounds, understanding trauma responses, and reclaiming your nervous system.