Most leaders don’t fail because they lack clarity. They fail because their life is not built to support who they are trying to become.
In this final episode of the Design Yourself series, I focus on the piece most leaders overlook when trying to change their leadership or their life: structure. You can have deep self-awareness and a clear leadership identity, but if your calendar, systems, and environment are misaligned, old patterns will resurface under pressure.
2026 will not test your intentions. It will test your structure.
Why Willpower Breaks Down Under Pressure
Many leaders rely on discipline and motivation to create change. The problem is that leadership rarely happens under ideal conditions. Stress, uncertainty, emotional load, and constant disruption are part of the job.
Research from Stanford University shows that environmental and structural cues drive nearly 45 percent of daily behavior, far more than conscious intention. Under pressure, leaders don’t revert to goals. They revert to structure.
Your leadership is perfectly designed for the results you are currently getting.
The Invisible Leadership Load
Decision overload, emotional labor, unresolved tension, and constant context switching create an invisible leadership load that pushes leaders back into urgency and control.
The problem is not the leader. It is the load.
Architecting your 2026 means identifying what you are carrying that you were never meant to hold alone and redesigning your life so leadership does not require constant force.
The Three Areas That Matter Most
This episode focuses on three essential design domains.
Energy design
How your day drains or restores you matters more than productivity. Leaders must protect recovery, thinking time, and white space in order to lead effectively.
Decision design
Reducing decision fatigue requires clear ownership, strong filters tied to values and strategy, and pushing decisions down instead of pulling everything up.
Relationship design
Leadership is relational. Access boundaries, feedback flow, and proximity shape how you lead and how others experience you.
Your Calendar Tells the Truth
Your calendar is not a scheduling tool. It is a leadership tool.
If your calendar does not reflect your priorities, neither will your leadership. If it doesn’t change in 2026, neither will your results.
Key Takeaways
• Willpower fades, structure holds
• Stress reveals the quality of your design
• Energy, decisions, and relationships must be intentional
• One structural shift can change everything
Mic Drop Moments
• You don’t need more discipline. You need better design.
• Stress doesn’t test your intentions. It exposes your structure.
• Build the structure, and the behavior will follow.
This episode completes the Design Yourself series by showing how to build a life and leadership that actually support who you are becoming.
Listen or watch the full episode of Reflect Forward on your favorite podcast platform or on YouTube.
Connect with Kerry
Visit my website, kerrysiggins.com, to explore my book, The Ownership Mindset, and get more leadership resources. Let’s connect on LinkedIn, Instagram, or TikTok!
Find Reflect Forward on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@kerrysiggins-reflectforward
Find out more about my book here: https://kerrysiggins.com/the-ownership-mindset/
Connect with me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kerry-siggins/
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Most leaders don’t fail because they lack clarity. They fail because their life is not built to support who they are trying to become.
In this final episode of the Design Yourself series, I focus on the piece most leaders overlook when trying to change their leadership or their life: structure. You can have deep self-awareness and a clear leadership identity, but if your calendar, systems, and environment are misaligned, old patterns will resurface under pressure.
2026 will not test your intentions. It will test your structure.
Why Willpower Breaks Down Under Pressure
Many leaders rely on discipline and motivation to create change. The problem is that leadership rarely happens under ideal conditions. Stress, uncertainty, emotional load, and constant disruption are part of the job.
Research from Stanford University shows that environmental and structural cues drive nearly 45 percent of daily behavior, far more than conscious intention. Under pressure, leaders don’t revert to goals. They revert to structure.
Your leadership is perfectly designed for the results you are currently getting.
The Invisible Leadership Load
Decision overload, emotional labor, unresolved tension, and constant context switching create an invisible leadership load that pushes leaders back into urgency and control.
The problem is not the leader. It is the load.
Architecting your 2026 means identifying what you are carrying that you were never meant to hold alone and redesigning your life so leadership does not require constant force.
The Three Areas That Matter Most
This episode focuses on three essential design domains.
Energy design
How your day drains or restores you matters more than productivity. Leaders must protect recovery, thinking time, and white space in order to lead effectively.
Decision design
Reducing decision fatigue requires clear ownership, strong filters tied to values and strategy, and pushing decisions down instead of pulling everything up.
Relationship design
Leadership is relational. Access boundaries, feedback flow, and proximity shape how you lead and how others experience you.
Your Calendar Tells the Truth
Your calendar is not a scheduling tool. It is a leadership tool.
If your calendar does not reflect your priorities, neither will your leadership. If it doesn’t change in 2026, neither will your results.
Key Takeaways
• Willpower fades, structure holds
• Stress reveals the quality of your design
• Energy, decisions, and relationships must be intentional
• One structural shift can change everything
Mic Drop Moments
• You don’t need more discipline. You need better design.
• Stress doesn’t test your intentions. It exposes your structure.
• Build the structure, and the behavior will follow.
This episode completes the Design Yourself series by showing how to build a life and leadership that actually support who you are becoming.
Listen or watch the full episode of Reflect Forward on your favorite podcast platform or on YouTube.
Connect with Kerry
Visit my website, kerrysiggins.com, to explore my book, The Ownership Mindset, and get more leadership resources. Let’s connect on LinkedIn, Instagram, or TikTok!
Find Reflect Forward on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@kerrysiggins-reflectforward
Find out more about my book here: https://kerrysiggins.com/the-ownership-mindset/
Connect with me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kerry-siggins/
Why Great Leaders Choose Love Over Fear w/ Ryan Heil
Reflect Forward
31 minutes 7 seconds
4 months ago
Why Great Leaders Choose Love Over Fear w/ Ryan Heil
Choose love over fear. It’s more than a feel-good mantra. It’s a radical leadership choice that can transform teams, ignite innovation, and turn crisis into opportunity. Washington Speakers Bureau President Ryan Heil has built his career proving that love, not fear, is the real competitive advantage in business and life.
In this episode of Reflect Forward: Advice for Leaders, I sit down with Ryan to unpack how this philosophy has shaped his journey from professional baseball to earning a PhD in organizational culture, co-authoring Choose Love Not Fear with his father, and leading a major turnaround at one of the most influential organizations in the speaking industry.
We explore why choosing love over fear creates stronger teams, deeper trust, and cultures that can adapt to disruption—plus how Ryan and his team navigated the pandemic’s devastating impact on the speaking industry to emerge stronger than ever.
Key Takeaways:
• Love is a leadership strategy – Choosing love over fear builds trust, engagement, and sustainable performance.
• Fear-based leadership fails in the long run – It may get short-term compliance, but it erodes creativity, passion, and loyalty.
• Creative abrasion fuels innovation – Healthy conflict, when guided with respect, produces better ideas and stronger solutions.
• Culture change starts one belief at a time – Turnarounds require relentless clarity on values, vision, and “why.”
• Relationships are the real currency – They outlast trends, technologies, and even market disruptions.
• Crisis is a catalyst for reinvention – Use uncertainty to question old assumptions and build better ways forward.
• Your team may not always love you back – But consistent, steady leadership earns respect and trust over time.
Mic Drop Moments:
• “It’s easy to lead with fear. But fear makes us dumber. Love unleashes human potential.”
• “We don’t have speaker contracts—we have handshakes. Integrity is the glue that holds our relationships together.”
• “Success is temporary. So is failure. The real skill is knowing how to pivot fast.”
• “AI can recommend a speaker, but it can’t tell you who will stay after the keynote to shake every hand.”
• “Love your team even when they don’t love you back. That’s leadership.”
Connect with Ryan:
• Connect with Ryan on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ryanmheil/
• Learn more about Washington Speakers Bureau: https://www.wsb.com/
• Get the book Choose Love Not Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Choose-Love-Not-Fear-Engagement/dp/1734105135
Connect with Kerry
Don’t forget to subscribe to Reflect Forward on your favorite podcast platform or YouTube. Visit my website, kerrysiggins.com, to explore my book, The Ownership Mindset, and get more leadership resources. Let’s connect on LinkedIn, Instagram, or TikTok!
Find Reflect Forward on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@kerrysiggins-reflectforward
Find out more about my book here: https://kerrysiggins.com/the-ownership-mindset/
Connect with me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kerry-siggins/
Reflect Forward
Most leaders don’t fail because they lack clarity. They fail because their life is not built to support who they are trying to become.
In this final episode of the Design Yourself series, I focus on the piece most leaders overlook when trying to change their leadership or their life: structure. You can have deep self-awareness and a clear leadership identity, but if your calendar, systems, and environment are misaligned, old patterns will resurface under pressure.
2026 will not test your intentions. It will test your structure.
Why Willpower Breaks Down Under Pressure
Many leaders rely on discipline and motivation to create change. The problem is that leadership rarely happens under ideal conditions. Stress, uncertainty, emotional load, and constant disruption are part of the job.
Research from Stanford University shows that environmental and structural cues drive nearly 45 percent of daily behavior, far more than conscious intention. Under pressure, leaders don’t revert to goals. They revert to structure.
Your leadership is perfectly designed for the results you are currently getting.
The Invisible Leadership Load
Decision overload, emotional labor, unresolved tension, and constant context switching create an invisible leadership load that pushes leaders back into urgency and control.
The problem is not the leader. It is the load.
Architecting your 2026 means identifying what you are carrying that you were never meant to hold alone and redesigning your life so leadership does not require constant force.
The Three Areas That Matter Most
This episode focuses on three essential design domains.
Energy design
How your day drains or restores you matters more than productivity. Leaders must protect recovery, thinking time, and white space in order to lead effectively.
Decision design
Reducing decision fatigue requires clear ownership, strong filters tied to values and strategy, and pushing decisions down instead of pulling everything up.
Relationship design
Leadership is relational. Access boundaries, feedback flow, and proximity shape how you lead and how others experience you.
Your Calendar Tells the Truth
Your calendar is not a scheduling tool. It is a leadership tool.
If your calendar does not reflect your priorities, neither will your leadership. If it doesn’t change in 2026, neither will your results.
Key Takeaways
• Willpower fades, structure holds
• Stress reveals the quality of your design
• Energy, decisions, and relationships must be intentional
• One structural shift can change everything
Mic Drop Moments
• You don’t need more discipline. You need better design.
• Stress doesn’t test your intentions. It exposes your structure.
• Build the structure, and the behavior will follow.
This episode completes the Design Yourself series by showing how to build a life and leadership that actually support who you are becoming.
Listen or watch the full episode of Reflect Forward on your favorite podcast platform or on YouTube.
Connect with Kerry
Visit my website, kerrysiggins.com, to explore my book, The Ownership Mindset, and get more leadership resources. Let’s connect on LinkedIn, Instagram, or TikTok!
Find Reflect Forward on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@kerrysiggins-reflectforward
Find out more about my book here: https://kerrysiggins.com/the-ownership-mindset/
Connect with me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kerry-siggins/