Why great leaders stop proving and start leading is the real conversation most leadership content avoids. Proving feels productive, but it quietly erodes trust, blocks collective intelligence, and keeps leaders trapped in fear-driven patterns. In this episode of Reflect Forward, I sit down with Carrie Moore, CEO and founder of Titan Edge Advisory, to explore what happens when leaders shift out of ego and into alignment, and why that shift changes how teams perform and cultures scale. Carrie brings more than twenty years of experience across capital markets, corporate banking, and financial services. She is a Forbes Council recognized strategist and has spent the last nine years advising fast moving companies and founders navigating growth and complexity. The Hidden Cost of Proving At the heart of this conversation is a truth many leaders miss. When fear and unworthiness drive behavior, leaders slip into proving, defending, and explaining. This erodes psychological safety and limits collective intelligence, even when intentions are good. Great leadership begins with self-awareness and accountability, not control. When Challenges Become Leverage Carrie shares how growing up dyslexic shaped her leadership, turning early fear into adaptability and resilience. I share why my own rock bottom became a turning point rather than a regret. The hardest experiences often become the source of our greatest leadership strength. The Alignment Advantage Alignment starts with the leader. The only relationship you can give to anyone else is the relationship you have with yourself. When identity, purpose, and behavior are aligned, clarity increases, trust deepens, and performance follows. Leadership In the Age of AI Rather than fearing AI, this episode reframes it as an extension of human capability. The future belongs to leaders who can simplify complexity, lead with purpose, and stay grounded in what makes us human. Mic Drop Moments 1. Proving erodes trust faster than most leaders realize. 2. Fear does not need to disappear, but it should not lead. 3. Authenticity is a leadership advantage, not a vulnerability. Key Takeaways 1. Notice when you are leading from fear rather than alignment. 2. Your past challenges are leadership training, not liabilities. 3. Alignment at the top shapes everything below it. Listen and Reflect Forward If this episode resonated, share it with a leader who could benefit from it. You can listen to Reflect Forward on your favorite podcast platform or watch it on YouTube. Connect with Kerry Visit my website, kerrysiggins.com, to explore my book, The Ownership Mindset, and get more leadership resources. Let’s connect on LinkedIn, Instagram, or TikTok! Find Reflect Forward on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@kerrysiggins-reflectforward Find out more about my book here: https://kerrysiggins.com/the-ownership-mindset/ Connect with me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kerry-siggins/

The mirror test is the hardest and most revealing challenge you will ever face as a leader. It forces you to confront the gap between who you believe you are and how others actually experience you. Most leaders avoid that truth. The best ones run toward it. As leaders rise, fewer people are willing to give honest feedback. According to organizational psychologist Tasha Eurich, 95 percent of people believe they are self-aware, but only 10 to 15 percent actually are. That gap is where most leadership breakdowns begin. I share two personal stories that shaped my understanding of the mirror test. The first came through 360 feedback, when I learned that my tone sometimes made people feel unsafe speaking up. I was shocked. There is a biological reason for this. Bone conduction softens the sound of your own voice inside your head, which means you hear yourself calmer and gentler than others do. My intent and impact were misaligned, and I had to recalibrate how I communicated. The second story is about my evolution as a leader. I no longer need to win every argument. I care more about impact and alignment. But my team was still reacting to an older version of me. Internal change matters only if people can feel it or understand it. I needed to articulate what winning means for me now and how I want conversations and debates to feel going forward. I also explore the four most common leadership blind spots—ego, defensiveness, inconsistency, and avoidance—and how these patterns quietly undermine trust, influence, and team performance when left unchecked. From there, I walk through a simple four-step reflection framework that helps leaders realign their intention and impact. The Four-Step Reflection Framework 1. Name the pattern Identify exactly what you do when you are not at your best. No story. No justification. Just the behavior. 2. Look at the impact Ask who experiences the fallout and how it affects trust, performance, and culture. 3. Ask for feedback Accept that you cannot always see yourself clearly. Invite two or three people you work closely with to share how they experience your tone, energy, presence, listening, and consistency. Treat their input as data, not judgment. 4. Choose the correction Define what your highest self would do instead. Pick one specific behavior to practice for the next ten days and share your commitment with someone who can help hold you accountable. Mic Drop Moments • Growth does not matter if no one can feel the change. Leadership is defined by how people experience you, not how you think you show up. • If you refuse to look in the mirror, your team ends up carrying the weight of the truth you are unwilling to face. • You are not judged by your intentions. You are judged by your impact. Leaders who forget that slowly lose the room. • Self-awareness is not a trait. It is a choice. Every day you avoid the mirror, you choose stagnation over growth. Key Takeaways • You cannot outlead your own self-awareness. • Most leaders dramatically overestimate their level of self-awareness. • Ego, defensiveness, inconsistency, and avoidance are patterns—not flaws—and they can be changed once you see them clearly. • The four-step reflection framework gives you a discipline to correct your behavior and improve your impact. • True transformation begins when you choose to lead the person in the mirror first. Connect with Kerry Visit my website, kerrysiggins.com, to explore my book, The Ownership Mindset, and get more leadership resources. Let’s connect on LinkedIn, Instagram, or TikTok! Find Reflect Forward on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@kerrysiggins-reflectforward Find out more about my book here: https://kerrysiggins.com/the-ownership-mindset/ Connect with me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kerry-siggins/

Becoming a better leader is rarely about learning something new. It is almost always about facing something true. The moment when the tactics stop working and the truth steps in. The truth that wisdom hurts before it helps. The truth that kindness is harder than control. The truth that curiosity asks you to open your heart, not just your mind. In this conversation with Christy Pretzinger, we peel leadership back to its most human layers. The messy ones. The vulnerable ones. The ones that force you to ask, Am I showing up in a way that reflects who I want to be? If you crave leadership that feels honest and brave and deeply connected to the person you are becoming, this episode will stay with you. About My Guest Christy Pretzinger is the founder and CEO of WG Content, a nationally recognized healthcare content consultancy serving major hospital systems across the country. Her proudest accomplishment is the culture she has built on four core values: empowered, curious, kind, and fun. She is also the creator of The Better Leader Project, a cohort-based experience designed to help early-career professionals practice the power skills of leadership. Christy is the author of Your Cultural Balance Sheet, a thoughtful framework for turning cultural liabilities into assets. What We Cover • Building a business on kindness without sacrificing excellence • Why authenticity requires responsibility and emotional maturity • How simple, clear values shape decisions, behaviors, and daily interactions • Using the Enneagram to understand pace, intensity, and interpersonal impact • Curiosity as a leadership superpower that strengthens connection and innovation • The challenges and strengths of Gen Z as they enter the workforce • Why wisdom cannot be hacked, downloaded, or rushed Key Takeaways 1. Kindness is a strategy. When values are lived and reinforced, they shape culture and performance. 2. Authenticity is not an excuse. Honesty without awareness can create harm. Responsible authenticity builds trust. 3. Self-knowledge changes everything. Tools like the Enneagram help leaders moderate reactivity and create space for others to thrive. 4. Curiosity builds connection. When you ask deeper questions, you create deeper relationships and uncover better solutions. 5. Better is always available. Leadership is a practice. We improve through reflection, repetition, and the courage to face ourselves honestly. Mic Drop Moments • “There is no app for wisdom. You have to earn it over time.” • “Better, not perfect. Everyone has a better quotient they can access.” • “Authenticity without responsibility is not leadership.” • “Cultural liabilities can become assets when you pay attention and choose to change.” • “We are hardwired for community. Leadership practice needs real people, real feedback, real reps.” Connect with Christy Why This Conversation Matters Leadership is not about perfection. It is about awareness, courage, and evolution. This conversation with Christy offers a grounded and inspiring look at how to create cultures where people can thrive and how to become the kind of leader others trust, follow, and feel safe with. Connect with Kerry Visit my website, kerrysiggins.com, to explore my book, The Ownership Mindset, and get more leadership resources. Let’s connect on LinkedIn, Instagram, or TikTok! Find Reflect Forward on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@kerrysiggins-reflectforward Find out more about my book here: https://kerrysiggins.com/the-ownership-mindset/ Connect with me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kerry-siggins/

We humans love to be right. We defend our opinions. We double down on our beliefs. We dig our heels in, even when being right costs us our peace. As leaders, our attachment to rightness can quietly poison our relationships, decision-making, and emotional well-being. In this episode, I explore the paradox of being right and why true freedom lives on the other side of letting go. I share a story about my dad, who embodies a mix of self-righteousness and self-loathing. Watching him cling to being right, even as it isolates him from the people he says he loves, has been a powerful mirror for me. I connect this experience to leadership, to life, and to the personal transitions I am navigating right now. I share a costly patent infringement lawsuit where my desire to be right overruled my willingness to listen. I talk about my divorce and how I am intentionally choosing peace over correctness as I enter this next phase of my life and leadership. I also dive into the concept of paradox. Two truths can be true at the same time. You can be confident and still be wrong. You can love someone and feel hurt. You can lead with strength and still change your mind. ” The ability to hold paradox is the cornerstone of emotional maturity. Mic Drop Moments • “The need to be right is a cage disguised as control.” • “Freedom does not come from being right. Freedom comes from being open.” • “When you are right, you lose nothing by listening. When you are wrong, you lose everything by refusing to listen.” • “Two truths can be true at the same time. Emotionally mature leaders stop dying on the hill of being right.” • “Ask yourself. Did being right today make my life better, or did it just give me a dopamine hit followed by disconnection?” Key Takeaways Paradox is where wisdom lives Life is not black or white, and emotionally mature leaders understand this. Two truths can be true at the same time, and the more we can hold opposing ideas without needing certainty, the more grounded and effective we become. Being right gives a dopamine hit, not lasting peace Winning an argument feels good because our brains release dopamine, but the high is fleeting. Over time, clinging to rightness leads to defensiveness, disconnection, and a closed mind that keeps us stuck. Leaders who need to be right shut down their teams When leaders always have to be right, people stop speaking up. This shuts down ownership thinking, limits creativity, and prevents teams from challenging assumptions or offering better solutions. The cost of being right is often hidden and high You may win the argument but lose something far more critical, whether it is trust, money, time, or connection. When life becomes a competition instead of a relationship, the need to be right slowly erodes joy and collaboration. Choose freedom over being right with daily practice Freedom comes from intentional practice. Pause and get curious. Practice both/and thinking. Ask better questions. Prioritize connection over correctness. And reflect daily on whether being right actually made your life better. A Reflection Invitation I invite you to look at one area of your life or leadership where you might be trading your peace and freedom for the need to be right. Just one. Then experiment with letting go in that situation. Do not correct the email. Do not send the “last word” text. Do not push the point in the meeting. Let it go once and see what happens. Visit my website, kerrysiggins.com, to explore my book, The Ownership Mindset, and get more leadership resources. Let’s connect on LinkedIn, Instagram, or TikTok! Find Reflect Forward on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@kerrysiggins-reflectforward Find out more about my book here: https://kerrysiggins.com/the-ownership-mindset/ Connect with me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kerry-siggins/

Rewrite Your Inner Playlist with Susan Drumm and discover how music and mindset can break old patterns and elevate your leadership. Summary If you are ready to rewrite your inner playlist, here is the truth: if you are running an inner track of “I am not enough,” life will keep handing you proof that you are not enough. Until you change the track, nothing changes. In this episode of Reflect Forward, I sit down with Susan Drumm, CEO advisor, speaker, and author, to explore how our unconscious patterns drive our leadership and lives and how we can disrupt them using something as simple and profound as music. Meet Susan Drumm Susan is the bestselling author of The Leaders Playlist and founder of Meritage Leadership. She has spent more than twenty years helping leaders identify the emotional patterns holding them back and replacing them with more empowering ones. She combines neuroscience, the Enneagram, and music to help leaders create new neural pathways and transition into more conscious leadership. Why Patterns Run the Show Susan explains that our patterns are not just habits. They are deeply grooved neural highways formed over time, often beginning in childhood. These patterns once protected us, but now they can keep us stuck, repeating the same behaviors even when we know they no longer serve us. The Enneagram becomes a powerful tool here because it focuses on why we do what we do. When leaders understand their underlying motivation, they stop reading everyone else through their own filter and start leading with clarity, empathy, and purpose. I share openly about my Type Three pattern of wanting to keep everyone comfortable and how this showed up in my marriage, my divorce, and my leadership. Awareness truly is the first act of liberation. Music as a Leadership Transformation Tool Susan’s core method centers on the idea that music accelerates neuroplasticity, making it easier to break old emotional loops and build new ones. The process is simple and powerful: 1. Name your old playlist (e.g., “I am unworthy”). 2. Choose a pattern interrupt song that captures that old story. 3. Create a new playlist based on an “I am” statement you want to embody. 4. Practice being in that emotional state through movement and repetition. She shares a story of a high-achieving leader whose identity was completely tied to work. Through playlist work, he reclaimed his sense of freedom and took a six-week vacation for the first time. His company performed better without him micromanaging. Why This Matters for Leaders This conversation is for anyone who feels stuck in familiar loops, triggered by the same dynamics, or ready to take full ownership of their inner world. When you change your internal playlist, you change your leadership. You change your relationships. You change your life. Key Takeaways • Your inner playlist shapes your external reality. • Patterns are neural pathways—once protective, now restrictive. • The Enneagram helps you understand motivation, not just behavior. • Music accelerates real emotional and leadership transformation. • Owning your triggers is an act of power, not blame. Mic Drop Moments 1. “If you are running a playlist of ‘I am not enough,’ life will keep giving you evidence of that.” 2. “You built the cage—and you are holding the key.” 3. “You are not your title or success. You are your joy, impact, and freedom. Connect with Kerry Visit my website, kerrysiggins.com, to explore my book, The Ownership Mindset, and get more leadership resources. Let’s connect on LinkedIn, Instagram, or TikTok! Find Reflect Forward on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@kerrysiggins-reflectforward Find out more about my book here: https://kerrysiggins.com/the-ownership-mindset/ Connect with me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kerry-siggins/

Control is rooted in fear. Trust is rooted in strength. And when you shift from control to trust, you become a better leader. Control often stems from a fear of being judged, a fear of things going wrong, or a fear of losing influence. I used to believe that control equals competence. The more I managed outcomes, the more successful we would be. But what I eventually learned is that control does not create confidence; it kills it. Trust, on the other hand, unlocks potential. It multiplies leadership. It builds teams who think critically, act boldly, and take ownership for results. In this episode of Reflect Forward, I share how I transformed my leadership by moving from control to trust and why this shift changed everything for me, for StoneAge, and for my team. The turning point During the pandemic, everything changed. Suddenly, I was not in the office every day. People could not walk into my office for a quick answer or to bounce ideas off me. At first, it was disorienting. If I were not the glue holding everything together, what value did I bring? But something surprising happened: my team flourished. They made smart decisions, collaborated effectively, and solved problems without me. That was the moment I realized I had been the roadblock. My need for control, disguised as involvement, had held them back. It was humbling to realize that control does not build leaders. Trust does. As Stephen M. R. Covey says, “Control leads to compliance. Trust leads to commitment.” That realization became one of the most important lessons of my leadership journey. The three dimensions of trust Over time, I developed a simple framework to guide me in leading with trust instead of control. 1. Competence – Believe in their capability. Trust that your people can figure things out, even if they do it differently than you. 2. Character – Believe in their integrity. Know that they will do what is right, even when you are not watching. 3. Connection – Show them they matter. Why trust matters According to research by Paul Zak published in Harvard Business Review, employees in high trust companies report 74 percent less stress, 106 percent more energy, and 50 percent higher productivity than those in low trust environments. Trust is not soft; it is smart. It is the foundation of ownership, performance, and innovation. As Sheryl Sandberg put it, “Leadership is about making others better as a result of your presence and making sure that impact lasts in your absence.” That is exactly what trust does. Mic drop moments • “Control does not build leaders. Trust does.” • “Ownership and control cannot coexist.” • “When I stopped trying to control everything, I found something I did not expect: freedom.” • “Coaching is adding considerations without taking back the decision.” Key takeaways 1. Control is rooted in fear. Trust is rooted in strength. Check your motives before you step in. 2. You cannot create ownership without giving up control. Ownership requires autonomy. 3. Trust is active, not passive. Equip people, ask better questions, and coach instead of direct. 4. Develop thinkers, not followers. Build people’s confidence in their own judgment. 5. Letting go multiplies your influence. When you lead with trust, leadership spreads. Connect with Kerry Visit my website, kerrysiggins.com, to explore my book, The Ownership Mindset, and get more leadership resources. Let’s connect on LinkedIn, Instagram, or TikTok! Find Reflect Forward on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@kerrysiggins-reflectforward Find out more about my book here: https://kerrysiggins.com/the-ownership-mindset/ Connect with me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kerry-siggins/

Stop calling it strategy. Most leaders are not doing strategy; they are managing a glorified to-do list. In this episode of Reflect Forward, I sit down with Simon Severino, author of Strategy Sprints, TEDx speaker, Forbes contributor, and CEO of Strategy Sprints, to talk about how to lead with clarity, focus, and speed. Simon helps leaders design an operating rhythm that turns lofty visions into measurable weekly wins, all without adding more meetings or complexity. Simon has spent over two decades helping leaders enter markets, scale effectively, and remain competitive in uncertain times. His Strategy Sprints method replaces long planning cycles with focused 90-day sprints that keep teams learning, adapting, and moving fast. It is a system designed for real-life scenarios, where uncertainty is constant and leaders cannot afford to wait for perfect information. Simon reminds us that strategy is not about being right; it is about learning fast. His Focus Card is a simple but powerful tool: one page for your strategy, one tab for weekly metrics. Every Monday, teams set their priorities. Every Friday, they review what is working and what is not. It is a rhythm that keeps everyone focused and aligned, turning strategy from theory into practice. Simon also challenges leaders to build like Lego, not Duplo, modular, flexible, and fast to reconfigure. When markets shift, teams that move in small, adaptable units thrive. That mindset is not just tactical, it is cultural. It encourages curiosity, experimentation, and speed. The beauty of Simon’s method is its simplicity. It does not add complexity; it removes it. The Strategy Sprint approach helps leaders focus on what matters, cut through noise, and lead teams that win through clarity and cadence. My Takeaways 1. Plans list tasks. Strategy makes bets. Great leaders take responsibility for the assumptions they make. 2. Measure both cause and effect. Track the activities and the results they create. 3. Shorten your feedback loop. A Monday and Friday rhythm beats quarterly reviews every time. 4. Build modular. Smaller, faster systems are easier to adapt when the market shifts. 5. Seek truth, not validation. Try to invalidate your assumptions weekly. If they hold up, you are truly winning. When I asked Simon what he wished leaders understood about strategy, he said: “Do not try to prove you are right. Try to prove yourself wrong. If your assumptions survive, then you are winning.” And if you want to bring more focus and agility to your team, try Simon’s Focus Card exercise. You might be surprised at how much clarity one page can bring. Connect with Simon https://www.linkedin.com/in/simonseverino/ https://www.facebook.com/simon.severino https://x.com/simonseverino https://www.strategysprints.com/ Connect with Kerry Visit my website, kerrysiggins.com, to explore my book, The Ownership Mindset, and get more leadership resources. Let’s connect on LinkedIn, Instagram, or TikTok! Find Reflect Forward on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@kerrysiggins-reflectforward Find out more about my book here: https://kerrysiggins.com/the-ownership-mindset/ Connect with me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kerry-siggins/

As leaders, we all face moments when someone’s words or actions cut deep. Maybe it’s betrayal, criticism, or a costly mistake. But when justice isn’t possible, Leadership becomes about something deeper: how we process it, learn from it, and move forward. Justice and accountability are not the same. Justice is external; it’s about consequences and what happens to them. Accountability is internal; it’s about reclaiming your power, energy, and integrity, regardless of what they did. You won’t always get justice. But you can always choose accountability. That’s the moment you take your power back. When there’s no way to make it right, when justice isn’t possible, accountability looks like this. You set boundaries: stop giving the situation oxygen. You practice neutrality: train your nervous system so that their name or memory no longer triggers an emotional response. You witness yourself.: tell the truth without spin or self-gaslighting. You cut the cord: stop replaying the story and feeding the energy leak. Letting go isn’t weakness. It’s strength. Forgiveness and compassion don’t mean excusing bad behavior. They mean refusing to let it define you. I call this clean compassion; seeing the humanity in someone without justifying the harm. You can let go with love and boundaries, not bitterness. And that’s Leadership in motion: choosing peace over poison when justice isn’t possible. When you can discuss painful experiences without harboring anger, you model genuine Leadership. That’s what builds trust with others and with yourself. What you’ll learn • The real difference between justice and accountability • How boundaries and neutrality create inner accountability • How to stop rumination and reclaim your energy • Why clean compassion strengthens Leadership Reflect Forward Questions 1. Am I seeking justice or accountability? 2. Am I feeding the story or cutting the cord? 3. What boundary or choice will help me reclaim my energy right now? Key Takeaways 1. Justice is external. Accountability is internal. You can always choose your response. 2. Boundaries create accountability. Remove access and stop giving the situation oxygen. 3. Neutrality equals freedom. When the memory no longer spikes your emotions, you’ve reclaimed your power. 4. Energy management is Leadership. Rumination drains creativity and clarity. 5. Clean compassion is strength. Let go with love, not anger. Mic Drop Moments • “Letting go isn’t weakness. It’s one of the most powerful leadership skills you can master.” • “You don’t need someone else to make it right in order for you to rise.” • “Boundaries aren’t walls; they are declarations of self-respect.” • “When you release the need for justice, you make space for peace.” Connect with Kerry Visit my website, kerrysiggins.com, to explore my book, The Ownership Mindset, and get more leadership resources. Let’s connect on LinkedIn, Instagram, or TikTok! Find Reflect Forward on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@kerrysiggins-reflectforward Find out more about my book here: https://kerrysiggins.com/the-ownership-mindset/ Connect with me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kerry-siggins/

To lead well, you must train your brain to lead. When your nervous system is calm, you think clearly, make better decisions, and build stronger relationships. When it is hijacked by stress or fear, even the most experienced leader can lose presence and perspective. In this episode, executive leadership coach Nataly Huff, founder of Inspire Forward, explores the neuroscience behind composure, emotional regulation, and the stories we tell ourselves when we are triggered. We dive into what really happens during an amygdala hijack, why your prefrontal cortex becomes depleted, and how to use your body’s cues to regulate your nervous system in real time. Nataly shares science-based strategies to pause before reacting, leverage tools like box breathing and compartmentalization, and reframe inaccurate thoughts before they spiral into conflict. Together, we explore what it truly means to train your brain to lead, not by suppressing emotions but by understanding them. If you have ever left a meeting thinking, “Why did I react like that,” this conversation gives you the self-awareness and practical tools to stay grounded, curious, and in control. About Nataly Nataly Huff is an executive leadership coach with 15 years of corporate experience. She blends neuroscience and emotional intelligence to help emerging executives elevate their leadership impact. Learn more and book a discovery call at inspireforward.com. What we cover • The brain’s happiness chemicals and how to leverage them for better performance • Amygdala hijacks and how to recognize, interrupt, and reset • Practical nervous system regulation through box breathing, 4 7 8, and sensory grounding • Healthy compartmentalization: when to use it and when to unpack it • The Think → Feel → Do framework and Byron Katie’s Four Questions for challenging limiting stories • Triggers, ownership, and radical honesty, and how to lead yourself first • Why the goal is not perfection but a faster recovery loop Key takeaways 1. Name it to tame it. Notice your physiological cues, label the amygdala hijack, and pause before reacting. 2. Breathe with structure. Try box breathing or 4 7 8 to bring your attention back to the present. 3. Compartmentalize with intention. Put it in a box now and plan when you will process it. 4. Interrupt the story. Ask, “Is it true? Can I know for sure,” before assuming the worst. 5. Progress over perfection. The more you train your brain to lead, the faster you recover and the stronger you show up. Mic drop moments • “There is no bear. It is just an email.” • “Your prefrontal cortex cannot run on empty. Fuel it or you default to reaction.” • “Compartmentalization is powerful if you open the box later.” • “Honor the pattern before you release it. It helped you survive and succeed.” • “Leadership is not the absence of triggers. It is ownership of your recovery.” Resources mentioned • Breathwork: box breathing, 4 7 8 breathing • Frameworks: Think → Feel → Do, Byron Katie’s Four Questions Connect with Nataly Website: https://www.inspire-forward.com LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/natalyhuff Instagram: @inspirefwdcoaching Tik Tok: @https://www.tiktok.com/@inspirefwdcoaching Book a Free Call: https://www.inspire-forward.com/book-a-free-call Rewiring Your Leadership Brain https://www.inspire-forward.com/rewiring-your-leadership-brain Connect with Kerry Visit my website, kerrysiggins.com, to explore my book, The Ownership Mindset, and get more leadership resources. Let’s connect on LinkedIn, Instagram, or TikTok! Find Reflect Forward on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@kerrysiggins-reflectforward Find out more about my book here: https://kerrysiggins.com/the-ownership-mindset/ Connect with me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kerry-siggins/

No one is coming to save you. The moment you realize that is the moment you step into your true power as a leader. In this episode of Reflect Forward, I explore the life changing power of radical responsibility. As leaders, we all have moments when we wish someone else would fix the problem, make the decision, or show us the path forward. But waiting for someone to rescue us kills momentum. True leadership begins when we stop waiting and start owning. I talk about how to recognize when you have slipped into victim thinking, how to catch yourself in that moment, and how to reclaim your sense of agency. You will learn how to listen for the subtle signals that you are giving away your power, especially when you hear yourself saying “Yeah, but.” That phrase is the telltale sign that you have moved from ownership to avoidance. This episode will help you build the mindset of accountability and confidence that defines great leaders. It is about shifting from “Why will someone not fix this?” to “What is my next step?” and realizing that you already have everything you need to lead yourself and your team forward. As Winston Churchill once said, “The price of greatness is responsibility.” Taking ownership for your choices, your reactions, and your mindset is how you become the kind of leader others want to follow. Research backs this up. A McKinsey study found that companies with leaders who embrace ownership and accountability are 4.9 times more likely to outperform their peers in overall performance. Accountability is not just about personal growth; it is a competitive advantage. Key Takeaways 1. Ownership starts where excuses end. The moment you stop waiting for rescue, you start leading. 2. Catch your “yeah, but.” It is the red flag of victim thinking. Pause, reframe, and act. 3. Ask the three ownership questions: • What part of this situation can I own right now? • If no one else steps in, what is the best step I can take today? • Am I choosing to be a victim or the leader who changes it? 4. Clarity beats control. You cannot control circumstances, but you can always control your response. 5. Leaders go first. When you model accountability, you build a culture that owns results. Mic Drop Moments • “No one is coming to save you. The moment you realize that is the moment you step into your true power as a leader.” • “Leadership begins when we stop waiting and start owning.” • “If you could kick the person in the pants responsible for most of your trouble, you would not sit for a month.” — Theodore Roosevelt • “You cannot change the circumstances, the seasons, or the wind, but you can change yourself.” — Jim Rohn If this episode resonated with you, please share it with someone who needs this reminder. And don’t forget to like, subscribe, and leave a review helps me spread the message of intentional leadership and the ownership mindset even further. Connect with Kerry Visit my website, kerrysiggins.com, to explore my book, The Ownership Mindset, and get more leadership resources. Let’s connect on LinkedIn, Instagram, or TikTok! Find Reflect Forward on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@kerrysiggins-reflectforward Find out more about my book here: https://kerrysiggins.com/the-ownership-mindset/ Connect with me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kerry-siggins/

How to be a super performer is a question every ambitious leader wrestles with. We chase higher goals, push our teams, and try to sustain momentum, but often overlook the real drivers of lasting success. True performance is not about doing more. It is about uncovering the root causes of success and creating the conditions where people can thrive. In this episode of Reflect Forward, George Pesansky joins me to flip the script on performance. With over 30 years of experience in operational excellence, George has helped companies worldwide transform through lean manufacturing, Six Sigma, and continuous improvement. His new book Super Performance distills the lessons he has learned, and in this conversation, he shares how to apply them to your leadership, your teams, and even your personal growth. We dig into why the “Prison of Expectations” quietly kills commitment, how to stretch your most productive “Golden Hour,” and why resilience and self-awareness are non-negotiables for anyone who wants to lead well. We also explore what sustainable momentum really looks like and how leaders can empower others without bottlenecking progress. George’s insights are practical, powerful, and rooted in humility. This conversation will challenge your perspective on leadership and help you design systems for sustainable success without burning out yourself or your team. Key Takeaways 1. Find the root causes of your success. Do not just analyze problems. Dissect your wins and double down on what works. 2. Protect and extend your Golden Hour. Name the time and conditions when you are most effective and build more of it into your day. 3. Escape the Prison of Expectations. Pressure without psychological safety kills commitment. Replace it with clarity and curiosity. 4. Lead with curiosity, not control. Step out of the boardroom, go to where the work happens, and ask questions to learn. 5. Momentum is addition and subtraction. True progress comes when your gains outpace the losses created by turnover, inefficiencies, and neglect. Mic Drop Moments • “If you try to be the hero of every story, you will burn out and bottleneck your company.” • “The Golden Hour is not luck. It is a designed environment you can repeat and stretch.” • “Pressure without safety creates the Prison of Expectations where people stop committing.” • “Real leadership is when the day-to-day runs without you because the why and the what are clear.” • “Do the Five Whys on your wins. Success leaves clues.” George’s book Super Performance is available now wherever books are sold. To learn more about him and his work, visit georgepesansky.com and myblendedlearning.com. If this episode resonated with you, please share it with someone who could benefit. And don’t forget to like, subscribe, and leave a review helps me spread the message of intentional leadership and the ownership mindset even further. Connect with Kerry Visit my website, kerrysiggins.com, to explore my book, The Ownership Mindset, and get more leadership resources. Let’s connect on LinkedIn, Instagram, or TikTok! Find Reflect Forward on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@kerrysiggins-reflectforward Find out more about my book here: https://kerrysiggins.com/the-ownership-mindset/ Connect with me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kerry-siggins/

Busyness doesn’t equal effectiveness. In fact, the busier you are, the less effective you often become. In this episode of Reflect Forward, I tackle one of the biggest leadership lies: that a full calendar equals impact. It doesn’t. Busyness creates reactive leadership. Why? Because there’s no time for strategy, innovation, or even pausing to ask, “Is this the right move?” Years ago, while running StoneAge, chairing a new economic development alliance, and preparing to become a mom, I hit the wall. Completely overwhelmed, I called my mom in tears. Her advice was simple: “Focus on what matters most and say no to everything else.” That moment changed how I approached leadership and life. Since then, I’ve learned that busyness feeds our egos, masks fear and provides false validation. We think if we’re busy, we’re important. But true leadership comes from clarity, presence, and creating space for ourselves and our teams. What We Explore in This Episode • The trap of busyness: Why leaders confuse activity with achievement • The real costs: Burnout, stress, and reactive decision-making • Escaping the trap: How to prioritize, delegate, say no, and protect white space • Leading by example: Why your team mirrors your busyness (and how to model intentionality instead) • Life beyond work: How less busyness creates more joy, energy, and presence Key Takeaways 1. Audit your calendar Eliminate anything that doesn’t align with your top priorities. Decline meetings you don’t need to attend. 2. Say no, unapologetically No is a complete sentence. Every no creates space for a bigger yes. 3. Delegate and empower Frame the why, set outcomes, then let your team lead. Growth follows when you step back. 4. Schedule white space Thinking time isn’t a luxury—it’s a leadership requirement. Protect it on your calendar. 5. Model intentionality for your team Normalize focus time, give space after big pushes, and encourage your people to decline low-value meetings. Mic Drop Moments • “If you’re too busy to lead, you’re not leading.” • “Never mistake activity for achievement.” – John Wooden • “No is a complete sentence. Use it.” • “Busy cultures are built by busy leaders—calm cultures are built by intentional leaders.” • “Every no makes room for a bigger yes.” Busyness is not a badge of honor. It’s a trap that keeps us reactive and robs us of effectiveness. The best leaders create space—for clarity, for creativity, and for growth. If this episode resonated with you, please share it with someone who needs this reminder. And don’t forget to like, subscribe, and leave a review helps me spread the message of intentional leadership and the ownership mindset even further. Visit my website, kerrysiggins.com, to explore my book, The Ownership Mindset, and get more leadership resources. Let’s connect on LinkedIn, Instagram, or TikTok! Find Reflect Forward on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@kerrysiggins-reflectforward Find out more about my book here: https://kerrysiggins.com/the-ownership-mindset/ Connect with me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kerry-siggins/

Leading with grit is more than a leadership mantra; it’s the real-life story of how Kyle Ewing turned stacks of unsold paper in his basement into TerraSlate, a multi-million-dollar company whose waterproof, rip-proof products are now used by the U.S. military, biotech firms, restaurants, and even the NFL. His journey is proof that persistence, creativity, and accountability can transform even the “boring” into something extraordinary. In our conversation on this week’s episode of Reflect Forward, Kyle shares how grit became his core value, the engine that carried him from stacks of unsold paper in his basement to scaling a thriving company. We talk about what it really takes to sell a product nobody thinks they need, why accountability creates stronger teams, and how leaders can flip the pyramid to serve their people and customers better. If you’ve ever wondered how to lead through challenges, embrace mistakes, and build a culture rooted in ownership, this episode will inspire you to see grit not as a buzzword, but as a daily leadership practice. What You’ll Learn in This Episode • The origin story of TerraSlate: from wrinkled passports to waterproof menus and military manuals • How to pivot when your first idea flops and find true product-market fit • Why consistency and persistence are the secret weapons in sales and entrepreneurship • The power of psychological safety and accountability in building strong teams • How leaders scale by delegating authority and removing roadblocks Key Takeaways 1. Grit is the ultimate differentiator. Success comes from persistence, iteration, and showing up consistently, even when no one believes in your idea. 2. Accountability builds culture. The best employees own their mistakes and create systems to prevent them in the future. 3. Leaders must flip the pyramid. Your job is to remove roadblocks so your team can shine and serve customers. 4. Selling is serving. Relationships and trust matter more than hard closes; people buy from people they like. 5. Hire A-players early. Pay for top talent and let go of mediocrity quickly to unlock growth. Mic Drop Moments • “Leading with grit means owning mistakes and turning them into momentum.” • “I work for my employees; they work for the customer.” • “You’re 2,000 cold calls away from success—consistency wins.” • “The buck always stops with the leader. Own it, fix it, move forward.” About Kyle Ewing Kyle Ewing is the founder and CEO of TerraSlate, makers of waterproof, rip-proof paper for mission-critical environments and everyday durability. TerraSlate serves industries ranging from hospitality to defense, and Kyle also writes the LinkedIn newsletter Ideas to Empires. Connect with Kyle LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kyleewing/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/search/top?q=bizkyle Instagram: @bizkyle https://www.instagram.com/bizkyle/ TikTok: @bizkyle https://www.tiktok.com/@bizkyle YouTube: @bizkyle https://www.youtube.com/@bizkyle Connect with Kerry Don’t forget to subscribe to Reflect Forward on your favorite podcast platform or YouTube. Visit my website, kerrysiggins.com, to explore my book, The Ownership Mindset, and get more leadership resources. Let’s connect on LinkedIn, Instagram, or TikTok! Find Reflect Forward on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@kerrysiggins-reflectforward Find out more about my book here: https://kerrysiggins.com/the-ownership-mindset/ Connect with me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kerry-siggins/

Complacency is the slow death of leadership. When we tolerate “good enough,” we quietly set the ceiling for our team’s potential—and our own. When you say “good enough” is acceptable, you erode excellence. You send the message that mediocrity is tolerated, and that message ripples across culture, morale, and results. People disengage. Teams plateau. Opportunities slip away. As Jim Collins reminds us: “Good is the enemy of great.” And Gallup’s research backs it up: only about 2 in 10 employees strongly agree that their performance is managed in a way that motivates them to do outstanding work. That’s what happens when leaders accept mediocrity instead of inspiring excellence. The good news is that raising the bar doesn’t mean driving people to exhaustion. Excellence isn’t about perfection; it’s about clarity, ownership, and progress. As Brené Brown says, “Clear is kind. Unclear is unkind.” When leaders clearly define expectations, celebrate growth, and model accountability, teams rise to meet higher standards. And it starts with us. We can’t expect our people to reject complacency if we’re coasting ourselves. Abraham Lincoln put it simply: “Whatever you are, be a good one.” Holding ourselves accountable to higher standards inspires trust, builds credibility, and makes excellence contagious. In this episode of Reflect Forward, I introduce a tool I call the Ownership Audit, a quarterly practice designed to identify and eliminate complacency within yourself, your team, and your organization. I’ll walk you through how to use it to ask the hard questions, check for alignment with your mission and values, and take courageous action when “good enough” has crept in. Because the truth is, mediocrity doesn’t just cost culture, it costs money. McKinsey research shows that companies with high-performance cultures are 3.7 times more likely to be top financial performers. Steve Jobs once said, “Be a yardstick of quality. Some people aren’t used to an environment where excellence is expected.” As leaders, we must become that yardstick. We must model what it looks like to expect and deliver excellence, not perfection, but the commitment to always do better. Mic Drop Moments • “Complacency is the slow death of leadership.” • “When leaders tolerate ‘good enough,’ they set the ceiling for their team’s potential.” • “Mediocrity doesn’t just cost culture; it costs money.” • “Excellence isn’t perfection; it’s clarity and ownership.” • “If you tolerate average, you’ll never unlock extraordinary.” Key Takeaways 1. Tolerating “good enough” erodes both culture and results. 2. Complacency spreads like a virus; leaders set the bar. 3. Raising standards is about clarity and compassion, not perfection. 4. The Ownership Audit helps leaders spot and eliminate mediocrity. 5. Holding yourself accountable to higher standards inspires trust, energizes your team, and keeps complacency from creeping in. Timestamps • 00:00 – Why “good enough” is dangerous • 02:05 – The StoneAge story: breaking the dealer model • 08:42 – The psychology of “good enough” • 12:30 – The ripple effect of complacency • 16:10 – Raising standards without burnout • 21:18 – Holding yourself accountable • 27:45 – The Ownership Audit framework • 35:10 – Closing thoughts and call to action Connect with Kerry Don’t forget to subscribe to Reflect Forward on your favorite podcast platform or YouTube. Visit my website, kerrysiggins.com, to explore my book, The Ownership Mindset, and get more leadership resources. Let’s connect on LinkedIn, Instagram, or TikTok! Find Reflect Forward on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@kerrysiggins-reflectforward Find out more about my book here: https://kerrysiggins.com/the-ownership-mindset/ Connect with me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kerry-siggins/

Great leaders build courage What if the biggest risk to your leadership isn’t failure, but staying stuck where you are? Playing it safe may feel comfortable, but over time it erodes growth, impact, and confidence. That’s why bravery is the defining trait of great leaders. In this week’s Reflect Forward episode, The Bravery Effect: How Leaders Build Courage, I sit down with Jill Schulman, a former U.S. Marine Corps officer, leadership development expert, and founder of Breakthrough Leadership Group. Jill has dedicated her career to studying the science of bravery, resilience, and peak performance, helping leaders reframe fear not as a barrier but as a signal for growth. Her story is remarkable, going from combat engineering in the Marine Corps to a thriving pharmaceutical career and then leaping into entrepreneurship. Along the way, Jill discovered that bravery isn’t about being fearless. It’s about taking meaningful action in the presence of fear which every leader needs if they want to step out of the rut and into real influence. In this powerful conversation, Jill and I explore: • Why fear—not failure—is often the greatest barrier to leadership growth • How micro-moments of bravery build resilience and confidence over time • The importance of aligning your career with your strengths and values • How to overcome self-doubt by taking action, not waiting for motivation • Why vulnerability is at the heart of true courage Jill also shares insights from her new book, The Bravery Effect, written as a parable to help readers build their bravery “muscle” one small act at a time. Whether it’s speaking up in a meeting, having a tough conversation, or making a major career change, Jill shows us how courage compounds into transformation. Listen to the full conversation on your favorite podcast platform or watch on YouTube. Mic Drop Moments 💥 “If you’re waiting to feel confident or motivated before you act, you’ll be waiting forever. Action creates confidence. Action fuels motivation.” 💥 “If you don’t feel fear, it’s not bravery. The presence of fear is what makes courage possible.” 💥 “Everyday bravery isn’t about running into a burning building. It’s raising your hand in a meeting, having the hard conversation, or saying yes to the stretch assignment. Those choices compound and that’s how you change your life.” Key Takeaways 1. Bravery is not the absence of fear; it’s action in the presence of it. 2. Confidence and motivation come after you take action, not before. 3. Micro-moments of bravery compound over time into life-changing courage. 4. Aligning your work with your strengths and values leads to lasting fulfillment. 5. Vulnerability is not weakness; it’s the gateway to true courage. Connect with Jill Company website: https://breakthroughleadershipgroup.com/ Personal website: https://jillschulman.com/ Social Media https://www.linkedin.com/in/jillaschulman/ https://www.instagram.com/jillschulman https://www.facebook.com/jill.schulman.5/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCiS29aCCoaDGEDPLc6JJklQ The Bravery Effect: https://www.amazon.com/Bravery-Effect-Teaching-Conquering-Achieving/dp/B0F2BBPR35 Connect with Kerry Don’t forget to subscribe to Reflect Forward on your favorite podcast platform or YouTube. Visit my website, kerrysiggins.com, to explore my book, The Ownership Mindset, and get more leadership resources. Let’s connect on LinkedIn, Instagram, or TikTok! Find Reflect Forward on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@kerrysiggins-reflectforward Find out more about my book here: https://kerrysiggins.com/the-ownership-mindset/ Connect with me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kerry-siggins/

What the best leaders do when no one is watching is what truly defines them. Leadership integrity isn’t built in front of a crowd; it’s forged in the quiet, unseen moments when no one is keeping score. The choices you make in private—whether to cut a corner, live your values, or own a mistake—are the foundation for building trust as a leader. When you consistently choose the harder right over the easier wrong, you strengthen self-trust, gain unshakable confidence, and set the tone for your entire culture. Leading with values in private is what makes people believe in you in public. It’s easy to show up strong when the spotlight is on. But it’s what you do when the room is empty, the pressure is high, and the easier wrong beckons that proves whether you’re a leader worth following. In this week’s episode of Reflect Forward, I share the moments that tested my integrity behind the scenes, such as halting the launch of a new product, even though it cost us time and money, because I refused to cut corners. I talk about owning mistakes before anyone noticed, walking away from a big client who didn’t align with our values, and protecting a team member’s reputation when exposing them would have been easier. None of those choices made headlines. Most people never even knew. But those decisions shaped me into a leader I can trust and when you trust yourself to live your values no matter what, your team will too. As J.C. Watts famously said, “Character is doing the right thing when nobody’s looking.” And as Carl Jung reminds us, “You are what you do, not what you say you’ll do.” This episode will inspire you to reflect on your own behind-the-scenes leadership habits and give you three simple practices to strengthen your integrity muscle—so that when the world is watching, you’ll lead with magnetic confidence. Key Takeaways 1. Integrity in private is the foundation of trust in public. Don’t ruin trust by making poor decisions when no one’s watching. 2. Confidence comes from self-trust. Every time you choose the harder right over the easier wrong, you reinforce the belief that you can count on yourself. 3. The ripple effect is real. Quiet, values-driven choices shape culture and reputation far more than speeches ever will. Mic Drop Moment “The easiest time to lower your standards is when no one’s around to see. The best leaders raise them instead.” Connect with Kerry Don’t forget to subscribe to Reflect Forward on your favorite podcast platform or YouTube. Visit my website, kerrysiggins.com, to explore my book, The Ownership Mindset, and get more leadership resources. Let’s connect on LinkedIn, Instagram, or TikTok! Find Reflect Forward on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@kerrysiggins-reflectforward Find out more about my book here: https://kerrysiggins.com/the-ownership-mindset/ Connect with me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kerry-siggins/

Choose love over fear. It’s more than a feel-good mantra. It’s a radical leadership choice that can transform teams, ignite innovation, and turn crisis into opportunity. Washington Speakers Bureau President Ryan Heil has built his career proving that love, not fear, is the real competitive advantage in business and life. In this episode of Reflect Forward: Advice for Leaders, I sit down with Ryan to unpack how this philosophy has shaped his journey from professional baseball to earning a PhD in organizational culture, co-authoring Choose Love Not Fear with his father, and leading a major turnaround at one of the most influential organizations in the speaking industry. We explore why choosing love over fear creates stronger teams, deeper trust, and cultures that can adapt to disruption—plus how Ryan and his team navigated the pandemic’s devastating impact on the speaking industry to emerge stronger than ever. Key Takeaways: • Love is a leadership strategy – Choosing love over fear builds trust, engagement, and sustainable performance. • Fear-based leadership fails in the long run – It may get short-term compliance, but it erodes creativity, passion, and loyalty. • Creative abrasion fuels innovation – Healthy conflict, when guided with respect, produces better ideas and stronger solutions. • Culture change starts one belief at a time – Turnarounds require relentless clarity on values, vision, and “why.” • Relationships are the real currency – They outlast trends, technologies, and even market disruptions. • Crisis is a catalyst for reinvention – Use uncertainty to question old assumptions and build better ways forward. • Your team may not always love you back – But consistent, steady leadership earns respect and trust over time. Mic Drop Moments: • “It’s easy to lead with fear. But fear makes us dumber. Love unleashes human potential.” • “We don’t have speaker contracts—we have handshakes. Integrity is the glue that holds our relationships together.” • “Success is temporary. So is failure. The real skill is knowing how to pivot fast.” • “AI can recommend a speaker, but it can’t tell you who will stay after the keynote to shake every hand.” • “Love your team even when they don’t love you back. That’s leadership.” Connect with Ryan: • Connect with Ryan on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ryanmheil/ • Learn more about Washington Speakers Bureau: https://www.wsb.com/ • Get the book Choose Love Not Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Choose-Love-Not-Fear-Engagement/dp/1734105135 Connect with Kerry Don’t forget to subscribe to Reflect Forward on your favorite podcast platform or YouTube. Visit my website, kerrysiggins.com, to explore my book, The Ownership Mindset, and get more leadership resources. Let’s connect on LinkedIn, Instagram, or TikTok! Find Reflect Forward on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@kerrysiggins-reflectforward Find out more about my book here: https://kerrysiggins.com/the-ownership-mindset/ Connect with me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kerry-siggins/

Ever wanted to send that scathing email or slam the door shut after someone disappointed you? We all have. But here’s the hard truth: Don’t burn that bridge—your future self might need it. In this episode of Reflect Forward, I dive into one of the most overlooked leadership strategies: choosing compassion over retaliation, even when you feel wronged. Especially when you feel wronged. Because the way you show up during conflict doesn’t just define your character—it shapes your future opportunities. The Real Reason We Lash Out—and Why We Must Resist When someone quits unexpectedly, underdelivers, or betrays your trust, your brain goes into fight-or-flight mode. The amygdala floods your system with cortisol. Logic shrinks. Ego inflates. We react from fear, not clarity. But strong leaders don’t lead from reactivity. They lead from ownership. Unfortunately, business culture conditions us to compete at all costs. We’re taught to dominate, win, and protect what’s “ours.” That scarcity mindset convinces us that success is limited—and anyone who threatens ours must be the enemy. But real leadership requires a different path. Mic Drop Moment: “You don’t need to win every time to be successful. You need to lead every time with integrity.” The Law of Unexpected Returns Here’s the magic: the kindness you extend today often circles back to benefit you later. Sometimes years later. Maybe it’s the employee you part ways with gracefully who refers top talent to you later. Or the competitor you treat respectfully who becomes your partner in a surprising venture. The point is: you never know. And in tight-knit industries, your reputation is your currency. Mic Drop Moment: “Every interaction is a seed—and the most valuable harvests come from the bridges you didn’t burn.” Compassion Isn’t Weakness. It’s Strategy. Forgiveness doesn’t mean condoning poor behavior. It means not carrying resentment. You can set boundaries and still choose compassion. You can walk away from someone and still treat them with grace. Mic Drop Moment: “Just because the relationship looks like this today doesn’t mean it will look like this forever.” The long game of leadership means leaving the door open—even if it’s only a crack. Five Ways to Lead With Compassion—Even When It’s Hard 1. Pause before reacting. Ask yourself: “What’s the story I’m telling myself right now?” 2. Assume positive intent. Even if you’re hurt. Especially if you’re hurt. 3. Use “I” statements. Lead with your truth, not with blame. 4. Reach out with grace. A kind message can shift everything. 5. Zoom out. Will this matter five years from now? How do you want to be remembered? Key Takeaways • Lashing out is human. Leading with ownership is leadership. • Scarcity thinking creates enemies. Long-term thinking builds networks. • Your reputation travels. People remember how you made them feel. • Grace is strategic. Leave room for future reconnection. • Forgiveness fosters emotional maturity, team health, and future growth. Call to Action: Lead With Integrity, Even in Discomfort Think of one person you’ve mentally written off. Someone you feel hurt by. Ask yourself: • What kind of relationship would I want with them in five years? • What’s one small act of compassion I can offer—today? Maybe it’s a message. Maybe it’s just letting go. Either way, take the high road. Because your future self just might thank you. Connect with Kerry Don’t forget to subscribe to Reflect Forward on your favorite podcast platform or YouTube. Visit my website, kerrysiggins.com, to explore my book, The Ownership Mindset, and get more leadership resources. Let’s connect on LinkedIn, Instagram, or TikTok! Find Reflect Forward on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@kerrysiggins-reflectforward Find out more about my book here: https://kerrysiggins.com/the-ownership-mindset/ Connect with me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kerry-siggins/

Authentic leadership through inner work is more than a practice, it’s the key to unlocking your full potential and creating lasting impact as a leader. In this powerful episode of Reflect Forward, I sit down with Carrie Freeman, CEO and General Manager of Vara Winery and Distillery, who shares how embracing vulnerability, intuition, and self-awareness has completely transformed her leadership style and elevated her success. Carrie’s extraordinary journey from global innovation executive to winery CEO illustrates how leading from the inside out creates deeper connections, stronger teams, and greater fulfillment. Carrie has a fascinating background, transitioning from her role as co-CEO of SecondMuse, a global innovation company that collaborated with organizations such as NASA, the White House, and the World Bank, to now running a thriving winery and distillery. We discuss the realities of operating a winery, examining how Carrie’s leadership skills enabled her to enter an industry where she initially lacked expertise—and why being an outsider can sometimes provide the fresh perspective a business needs most. Throughout our conversation, Carrie highlights the misconception that humans are purely rational decision-makers. She emphasizes that relying exclusively on logic can limit our ability to lead effectively. By tapping into intuition, emotion, and inner wisdom, leaders can gain deeper insights, make better decisions, and build stronger relationships. Mic Drop Moment: • “Expertise is valuable, but curiosity is a superpower. When you admit you don't know everything, you unlock your team's full potential.” • “Sometimes there isn’t a problem to solve. True leadership is knowing when to step back and let things unfold.” What You'll Learn in This Episode: • Why Expertise Isn’t Everything • Inner Work as the Foundation for Outer Success • Balancing Masculine and Feminine Energy • Vulnerability as a Strength Key Takeaways: 1. Be Curious, Not Just Expert: Embrace curiosity and humility; empowering your team can often yield better solutions than claiming expertise. 2. Listen to Your Intuition: Great leaders trust their gut and heart as much as their intellect; purely rational decisions often miss deeper insights. 3. Integrate, Don’t Balance: Leadership is not about perfect balance but about discerning when to engage action-oriented or intuitive energies effectively. 4. Lead with Vulnerability: Authenticity and vulnerability build deeper trust, stronger relationships, and a healthier organizational culture. 5. Recognize There Isn’t Always a Problem to Solve: Resist the urge to fix everything; sometimes stepping back and allowing situations to naturally evolve is the best course of action. About Carrie Freeman: Carrie Freeman is the CEO and General Manager of Vara Winery and Distillery in Albuquerque, NM, and previously served as co-CEO of SecondMuse, a global innovation consultancy. Passionate about authentic leadership, innovation, and sustainability, Carrie guides leaders and businesses toward deeper success by emphasizing self-awareness, purpose, and authenticity. Connect with Carrie Freeman: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carrie-freeman/ Learn more about Vara Winery and Distillery or order their award-winning wines at www.varawines.com Connect with Kerry Don’t forget to subscribe to Reflect Forward on your favorite podcast platform or YouTube. Visit my website, kerrysiggins.com, to explore my book, The Ownership Mindset, and get more leadership resources. Let’s connect on LinkedIn, Instagram, or TikTok! Find Reflect Forward on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@kerrysiggins-reflectforward Find out more about my book here: https://kerrysiggins.com/the-ownership-mindset/ Connect with me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kerry-siggins/

Most leaders travel alone for work. But how many take a real solo vacation—just for themselves, not for business? I recently took my first-ever solo trip through Peru and Ecuador, and it changed me. I reconnected with myself. I reflected deeply. I came back more grounded, clear, and confident as a leader. In this episode of Reflect Forward, I share why every leader should consider a solo vacation, how it strengthens your leadership, and how you can plan a meaningful trip that resets your mindset and helps you lead with intention. Why Solo Time Is Essential for Modern Leaders 1. Clarity requires solitude 2. Breaking routine unlocks creativity 3. Being alone builds self-leadership 4. Presence deepens connection How to Take a Transformational Solo Vacation • Choose a place that stretches you—culturally, spiritually, physically • Unplug completely—no work emails, no “just checking in” • Journal and reflect—capture what you learn • Say yes to connection—talk to strangers, share stories • Pay attention to your thoughts—notice what comes up in the stillness Key Takeaways 1. Solo time is a powerful leadership tool 2. Travel breaks patterns and expands your thinking 3. Self-trust comes from being alone and handling challenges 4. Presence builds deeper, more authentic relationships 5. Insight and clarity are born in stillness, not hustle Mic Drop Moment “You cannot lead others from a place of internal chaos or disconnection. But when you take time to be alone, you find clarity, and that transforms everything.” Call to Action Book the trip. Go somewhere alone. Reflect. Get uncomfortable. You’ll come back more empowered, present, and effective as a leader and as a human. Episode Timestamps 00:00 – Intro: Why solo vacations matter for leadership 02:30 – My first solo trip to Peru and Ecuador 05:12 – Creating my Dreams List and making the trip happen 07:45 – The emotional arc: excitement, fear, empowerment, loneliness 10:20 – How solo travel differs from solo business travel 13:05 – Reflection as the foundation of self-leadership 15:12 – Why clarity requires solitude (HBR statistic) 17:28 – Breaking routine to gain perspective and creativity 20:40 – What Columbia Business School says about novel experiences 22:30 – Strengthening self-leadership through solo challenges 26:00 – Realizing I like myself: processing growth and healing 28:44 – Presence, stillness, and the power of being with yourself 30:50 – Connecting deeply with strangers while traveling alone 33:20 – Why authentic presence builds better leadership 35:40 – The most common excuses leaders make—and how to challenge them 40:22 – How to take a transformational solo vacation: 5 tips 45:18 – Key takeaways from the experience 48:30 – Final thoughts and call to action: Book the trip If you liked this… Don’t forget to subscribe to Reflect Forward on your favorite podcast platform or YouTube. Visit my website, kerrysiggins.com, to explore my book, The Ownership Mindset, and get more leadership resources. Let’s connect on LinkedIn, Instagram, or TikTok! Find Reflect Forward on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@kerrysiggins-reflectforward Find out more about my book here: https://kerrysiggins.com/the-ownership-mindset/ Connect with me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kerry-siggins/