Struggling in love? Wondering if your relationship is healthy, or how to move on after a painful breakup? In this episode, I answer the five most asked questions about relationships, dating, and love:

• How to know if your relationship is truly healthy

• How to recover and move on after a breakup

• Red flags you’re ignoring because you hope it will work out

• Balancing your identity while being in a relationship

• When to talk about commitment, future goals, and the next steps

Whether you’re dating, navigating a breakup, or trying to build a strong, healthy relationship, this episode is packed with honest, practical advice to help you love smarter and protect your heart.

In today’s episode of Release Control, we delve into a topic that few people want to admit: many dating experiences today are not driven by love, but rather by a desire to fill a void. After a breakup or heartbreak, it’s natural to seek something new to escape loneliness, boredom, or rejection. However, when we date solely to avoid pain rather than healing from it, we find happiness, not emptiness.

We’ll explore the following key points:

- Why missing the connection after a breakup is different from missing the person.

- How loneliness can trick us into rushing into the wrong relationships.

- Signs that indicate we’re dating to fill the void rather than seeking true connection.

- The negative consequences of casual dating without serious intentions, including resentment and regret.

- How situationship’s can act as professional “void fillers,” leaving us feeling drained and unloved.

- The various unhealthy ways people attempt to fill the void, such as rebounds, casual hookups, overworking, social media validation, and reaching out to an ex.

This episode serves as a deep dive into the emotional traps people fall into after heartbreak and offers guidance on how to break free from them by confronting loneliness head-on and healing in the right way.

💬 Ask yourself: Are you dating because you’re ready, or are you afraid to sit with yourself?

🎙️ Final reminder: Healing hurts, but settling hurts forever. Choose your pain wisely.

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In Episode 33 of The Release Control Podcast, we’re diving into one of the most frustrating parts of modern dating—ghosting. If you’ve ever been left on read, suddenly ignored, or had someone disappear without a word, this episode is for you. We break down exactly what ghosting is, why it happens, and how to deal with it emotionally and mentally. From dating apps to emotionally unavailable partners, ghosting has become a normalized—but damaging—part of today’s dating culture.

We’ll talk about why ghosting has become so common in a world built on convenience, fear of confrontation, and zero accountability. You'll learn the key differences between ghosting, slow fading, and someone simply losing interest—because not all exits are created equal. We’ll also explore the rise of bread crumbing, where someone gives you just enough to keep you hanging, but never commits. This episode is here to help you see through the confusion and stop blaming yourself for someone else's lack of maturity.

We also dig deep into the emotional damage ghosting causes, like self-doubt, anxiety, and the trauma of unfinished conversations. More importantly, I’ll show you how to mentally take your power back—from journaling, to reframing the rejection, to cutting off the illusion completely. If you’ve ghosted someone yourself, we talk about how to own it, grow from it, and never repeat that pattern again.

This episode gives you the tools to spot red flags early, protect your peace, and move forward with confidence. Because ghosting says more about them than it ever did about you. You deserve clarity, not confusion—and closure, even if it comes from within. Whether you’re healing from ghosting or trying to avoid falling into the trap again, this episode is full of insight, perspective, and real talk you won’t hear anywhere else.

 Tap in now and take your power back.

In this episode, we’re peeling back the layers on one of the most misunderstood dynamics out there — the real emotional, societal, and psychological differences between men and women. We're not just skimming the surface; we're diving deep into how we're conditioned from childhood to handle (or avoid) emotions, why that plays a major role in communication breakdowns later in life, and what it really means to be emotionally available.

Expect raw stories, real talk, and eye-opening perspectives: Why are men told to "man up" while girls are comforted when they cry? How does this emotional gap show up in relationships, therapy, and breakups? Spoiler: men often suffer in silence, while women process in community — and that makes healing look very different.

We’ll also tackle the silent pressure both genders face — women fighting beauty standards and aging insecurities, men chasing success just to feel worthy. Social media isn’t helping either — everyone’s stuck in the comparison trap. And when it comes to dating? The playing field is anything but even. Women get flooded with attention but struggle to trust it, while men are expected to impress just to be seen.

From emotional suppression to dating double standards, this episode breaks it all down with humor, honesty, and some much-needed solutions. Whether you're healing, dating, or just tired of being misunderstood — this is the episode that finally says what everyone’s thinking.

In this powerful episode, we explore how making yourself a priority is the first step toward personal growth and self-love. Discover the importance of self-care, setting healthy boundaries, and how prioritizing yourself leads to a more fulfilling life. Learn actionable strategies to practice self-love, boost your self-esteem, and achieve a healthy work-life balance. By putting yourself first, you’re not only investing in your own well-being but also creating the foundation for stronger, more meaningful relationships with others. Tune in to understand why self-care isn’t selfish and how embracing your worth is essential for living a life filled with purpose and joy. Whether you're looking to improve your mental health, develop healthier habits, or grow emotionally, this episode has all the tools you need to start your journey of self-discovery and empowerment.

Dating with purpose isn’t about rushing into a relationship—it’s about clarity, alignment, and making sure you and your partner want the same things. In this episode, we dive into what it really means to date with intention, how to define what you’re looking for, and how to recognize if someone is truly on the same page as you.

We’ll break down key topics like:
✅ The difference between intentional dating vs. casual dating
✅ How to get clear on what you actually want in a relationship
✅ Signs someone is serious about commitment (and red flags they aren’t)
✅ How to communicate your intentions without scaring people away
✅ Why patience and confidence attract the right person

If you’re tired of dating people who don’t match your long-term goals, this episode is for you! Let’s talk about how to approach dating in a way that saves time, energy, and emotional frustration.

Ever felt emotionally distant from your partner but couldn’t figure out why? 🤔 Resentment is a slow-building, relationship-damaging force that often goes unnoticed—until it’s too late. In this episode of RELEASE CONTROL, we dive deep into how resentment forms, the damage it causes, and how to break free before it ruins your relationship. 🚨

🔥 What You’ll Learn:
✔️ What resentment really is and why it’s one of the biggest reasons relationships fall apart.
✔️ The subtle ways resentment builds over time—from feeling unappreciated to carrying the emotional load alone.
✔️ How resentment shows up in your relationship: emotional distance, communication breakdowns, lack of intimacy, and more. 😞
✔️ The warning signs you should never ignore—keeping score, constant irritation, and even fantasizing about being single. 🚩
✔️ Steps to stop resentment in its tracks: honest communication, boundary setting, self-reflection, and reconnecting with your partner. 💬💖
✔️ How to heal and rebuild trust so your relationship doesn’t just survive but thrives! 🌱

🎧 Tune in NOW and ask yourself: Are you unknowingly holding onto resentment? What’s one conversation you’ve been avoiding in your relationship? Let’s talk about it. 👊💡

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Is it really okay to leave a good man just because you’re not happy? In today’s episode, we dive into the viral trend that’s encouraging women to walk away from solid relationships in search of happiness. But here’s the truth—happiness is an inside job, not your partner’s responsibility. I break down why this mindset is dangerous, how unrealistic expectations are hurting modern relationships, and why chasing happiness outside of yourself often leads to regret.

We’ll discuss:
✅ The truth about relationship happiness vs. self-happiness
✅ Why “good men” are being overlooked and undervalued
✅ How social media is promoting toxic dating advice
✅ The real reason you might feel unfulfilled in your relationship

Before you leave a healthy relationship, ask yourself: Is the problem really him, or is it something deeper? Tune in now for a real talk on love, self-awareness, and personal growth.

Life is too short to let pride, misunderstandings, or past conflicts keep us from the people who matter most. In this episode, we dive into the wake-up calls that make us realize how fleeting time really is and why fixing relationships with family and friends should be a priority. Holding grudges comes at a cost—emotionally, mentally, and even physically—so why do we let them linger? Making the first move toward reconciliation isn’t easy, but it can be life-changing. We’ll explore how shifting your perspective, practicing empathy, and letting go of resentment can lead to true healing. Relationships are complex, but sometimes, all it takes is a conversation to mend what was broken. How do you approach someone you’ve lost touch with? What if they don’t respond the way you hope? We’ll discuss strategies for navigating difficult conversations and rebuilding trust. Forgiveness isn’t about forgetting—it’s about freeing yourself from the weight of the past. You don’t want to live with regrets, wishing you had said or done more when it’s too late. Learning to heal and move forward can strengthen not just your relationships, but your overall happiness. Whether it's a family member, an old friend, or even yourself, now is the time to make things right. Don’t wait until tomorrow—start the journey of healing today. Tune in as we break down practical steps to reconnect, repair, and rebuild the bonds that truly matter.

Fear—it’s the one thing that holds so many of us back from the life we truly want. Fear of failure, fear of judgment, fear of change. But what if you stopped letting fear make your decisions? In this episode of Release Control, we dive deep into how fear keeps you stuck in relationships, career, and personal growth—and more importantly, how to break free from it. I’ll share personal stories, mindset shifts, and actionable steps to help you push past fear and take control of your life. Tune in now and start living boldly.

Why do some relationships last a lifetime while others fall apart? In this episode of Release Control, we break down the secrets of long-lasting love and the habits that keep couples strong through every stage of life. We’ll dive into the core foundations of a successful relationship—trust, emotional safety, communication, and shared values—and reveal the biggest reasons relationships fail, including complacency, poor conflict resolution, and lack of appreciation.

You’ll learn how to build daily habits that strengthen your bond, from prioritizing each other in small ways to keeping intimacy alive and showing gratitude consistently. We’ll also discuss how to navigate challenges together, adapt to change as a couple, and make the conscious choice to love each other every single day.

Whether you’re in a new relationship or looking to reignite the spark in a long-term one, this episode will give you the tools to create a love that stands the test of time. Tune in now and start building the relationship you truly deserve!

💡 What’s one thing you’ll start doing today to strengthen your relationship? Let us know in the comments or share this episode with your partner! #Relationships #DatingAdvice #HealthyLove

Ever feel like your relationship has lost its excitement? You love your partner, but things just don’t feel as passionate as they used to. Over time, many couples slip into routine and stop putting in the effort that once kept the connection alive. But here’s the truth—passion isn’t something that just happens; it’s something you create.

In this episode, we’re diving into:
🔥 Why the spark fades over time (and the science behind it).
💔 The biggest mistakes couples make that kill passion.
❤️ How emotional and physical intimacy play a crucial role.
💡 Actionable steps to reignite your relationship—starting today!

From avoiding the “roommate phase” to bringing back adventure, deep conversations, and spontaneous romance, I’m giving you practical strategies to keep your love strong and exciting. Whether you’re dating, engaged, or married for years, this episode will help you keep the connection alive.

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Dating today isn’t what it used to be. Gone are the days of slow courtships and intentional relationships—modern dating is fast-paced, digital, and more complicated than ever. In this episode, we’re breaking down how dating has evolved, the biggest struggles people face, and what it takes to build meaningful connections in today’s world.

🚀 What We Cover:
💡 Modern Dating vs. the Past – How dating used to be intentional and personal, versus today’s swipe culture.
📲 Technology & Social Media’s Influence – Are dating apps making it easier or just more frustrating?
💔 The Biggest Challenges in Dating – Ghosting, situationships, commitment issues, and fear of vulnerability.
🗣 Communication Struggles – Why texting has replaced deep conversations and how men and women communicate differently.
🔥 Hookup Culture vs. Serious Relationships – Are people still looking for love, or is casual dating the new norm?
💪 The Role of Self-Improvement – Why working on yourself first is key to successful dating.

If you’ve ever felt like modern dating is exhausting, confusing, or just not what you expected—this episode is for you. Let’s talk about how to navigate today’s dating world and actually find what you’re looking for.

🎧 Tune in now! And don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and share if this episode resonates with you!

Discover the transformative power of secure attachment in relationships and personal growth in Episode 22 of Release Control! Dive deep into the characteristics of securely attached individuals, explore its childhood roots, and learn how this attachment style creates fulfilling and emotionally safe relationships.

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This episode wraps up with reflective prompts, practical takeaways, and an invitation to embark on your journey toward secure attachment. Whether you're looking to strengthen your relationships, improve parenting, or grow personally, this episode offers invaluable insights.

In this episode of RELEASE CONTROL, we're diving deep into avoidant attachment—a common but often misunderstood attachment style. We’ll explore how avoidant tendencies develop, often stemming from childhood experiences, and how they show up in adult relationships. From a fear of vulnerability to a need for independence, we'll break down the inner world of avoidants and why they struggle with emotional intimacy.

You’ll learn to recognize the key traits of this attachment style, like avoiding deep emotional conversations, maintaining distance in relationships, and resisting vulnerability. We’ll also talk about how these behaviors can affect partners, creating challenges that can feel confusing or isolating.

But it’s not all about the struggles—this episode is about growth and healing too. We’ll discuss practical steps avoidants can take to break down their emotional walls, improve communication, and foster healthier connections. If you’re in a relationship with an avoidant partner, I’ll share tips on how to create a safe space for vulnerability while protecting your own emotional well-being.

Whether you identify with avoidant tendencies or want to better understand someone in your life, this episode will give you insights and tools to navigate this attachment style. Tune in to learn how to embrace emotional closeness without losing your sense of self.

In this episode, we dive deep into anxious attachment style—what it is, how it forms, and its profound impact on relationships. Learn how inconsistent caregiving during childhood creates a fear of abandonment and a need for reassurance that often carries into adulthood. We’ll explore the common traits of anxiously attached individuals, such as overthinking, constant worry, and difficulty trusting partners.

Discover the signs of anxious attachment in relationships, including the pursuit-withdrawal cycle that often occurs when paired with avoidant partners. Understand how this dynamic confirms fears of being unlovable yet intensifies efforts to "win" affection. We’ll also examine how these attachment patterns can lead to emotional highs and lows that are often mistaken for passion or love.

Uncover the root causes of anxious attachment, from childhood dynamics to past relationship trauma, and how unmet emotional needs contribute to these behaviors. We’ll share practical strategies for healing, including self-soothing techniques, building self-esteem, and seeking therapy like CBT or EFT.

Finally, we discuss how to support an anxiously attached partner while maintaining healthy boundaries and communication. If you’re looking to transition toward a secure attachment style, this episode outlines steps to rewire thought patterns, the role of a secure partner, and the long-term benefits of growth. Whether you're navigating this attachment style yourself or supporting someone who is, this episode is packed with actionable insights to foster healthier relationships.

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In this episode of RELEASE CONTROL, we dive into a heartfelt exploration of love, family, and personal growth. With the holiday season in full swing, we reflect on the importance of cherishing time with family and balancing life as a single parent. We discuss the impact of social media on dating and how it’s reshaping modern relationships, offering actionable insights into navigating the digital dating landscape, including tips for using dating apps effectively.

For those exploring new romantic connections, we provide guidance on the journey of finding love and emphasize the critical role of communication in building healthy relationships. Whether you're starting fresh, re-entering the dating world, or simply seeking clarity, this episode is packed with real-life stories, strategies, and inspiration.

Join us as we close out this year with gratitude, share our next steps, and look ahead to exciting future plans. From personal growth to fostering deeper connections, this conversation is a must-listen for anyone looking to improve their mindset, relationships, and overall approach to life.

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As the year comes to an end, Episode 18 takes a heartfelt look back at the highs and lows of 2024. I open up about how the year started strong but brought challenges like a tough breakup, battling depression, and navigating my retirement from the Army. Through it all, I’ve been on a journey of self-love—finding myself, working on my growth, and learning to prioritize my well-being without numbing the pain or rushing into a rebound relationship.

Looking ahead to 2025, I’m focusing on what truly matters: spending quality time with my daughters, expanding this podcast, growing on social media, helping others, and embracing civilian life. Join me as I reflect, share lessons learned, and set intentions for the year ahead. Let’s close this chapter and start the next one with purpose and hope.

In Episode 17, we take a deep dive into the conversations you have with the most important person in your life: yourself. How do you speak to yourself when no one is listening? Is your inner voice helping you grow or holding you back? We’ll explore the power of self-talk and how it shapes your mindset, relationships, and overall happiness. From silencing your inner critic to building a more positive and supportive internal dialogue, this episode offers actionable strategies to shift your perspective. Tune in to discover how mastering your self-talk can unlock your full potential and change your life.

What if you only had one year to live—what would you change, start, or do differently? In this thought-provoking episode, we dive into the urgency of living authentically and making intentional choices in relationships and personal growth. We’ll explore the world of dating apps—are people truly showing their authentic selves, or just a curated version? Plus, we tackle the question of healing: how do you know if you’re truly healed when you're single and not facing challenges that test your growth? This episode will inspire you to reflect on your mindset, approach to love, and whether you're living the life you truly want. Tune in for honest conversations and actionable insights on life, dating, and self-discovery.