Check out her website here: https://traumamatrix.substack.com/ & https://subscribepage.io/GtaJ5s Get the reflection sheet at retrievingsanity.com Summary In this episode, Keegan Read and Emma Lyons delve into the concept of the inner narcissist and its connection to shame and trauma. Emma shares her personal journey of discovering her role as a scapegoat in a dysfunctional family and how this shaped her understanding of the inner critic as a manifestation of narcissism. They discuss the toxic nature of shame, its role in addiction, and how societal norms perpetuate this cycle. Emma introduces her BREAK method as a practical approach to combat shame and reclaim personal power, emphasizing the importance of recognizing and rejecting the inner narcissist. In this conversation, Keegan Read and Emma Lyons delve into the complex relationship between shame and authenticity. They explore how shame is a learned behavior that inhibits true self-expression and authenticity, often perpetuated by societal norms and family dynamics. Emma emphasizes the importance of recognizing and dismantling shame to reclaim personal power and authenticity. The discussion also touches on the societal implications of shame, particularly in the context of mental health and trauma. Through engaging dialogue and practical insights, they encourage listeners to break free from the shackles of shame and embrace their true selves. Takeaways The inner critic can often be an internalized narcissist. Shame is a common tool used to control behavior. Addiction is frequently driven by underlying shame. Conventional wisdom often misguides us about the role of shame. Shame is toxic and does not lead to positive behavior change. The BREAK method can help individuals combat shame effectively. Recognizing the uselessness of shame is crucial for healing. Shame is deeply embedded in societal structures and norms. The cycle of shame can lead to self-destructive behaviors. Empowerment comes from rejecting the inner narcissist.  Shame is a learned behavior, not an innate quality. Authenticity cannot coexist with shame. Shame is a tool of control used by the ego. Breaking free from shame is essential for personal empowerment. Shame perpetuates trauma across generations. The family system plays a crucial role in shaping shame. Recognizing shame is the first step to dismantling it. Self-acceptance is key to overcoming shame. Shame is often projected by others and can be returned to sender. Healing from shame can lead to a more authentic and fulfilling life. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Inner Narcissism and Shame 02:34 Understanding the Scapegoat Role in Dysfunctional Families 05:34 The Inner Narcissist: A Toxic Voice 08:32 Shame: The Root of Addiction and Self-Destruction 11:31 The Ineffectiveness of Shame in Behavior Change 14:30 Breaking the Cycle of Shame and Addiction 18:32 The Uselessness of Shame 19:58 Breaking the Shame Trance 22:14 Anchoring in Truth 24:15 The Cycle of Shame and Control 27:22 Shame and Authenticity 30:01 The Misconception of Healthy Shame 32:12 Shame as a Control Mechanism 34:55 Taking Back Power from Shame 38:17 The Role of AI in Therapy and Shame Dynamics 39:26 Authenticity and Identity Transformation 40:25 Shame’s Impact on Self-Discovery 41:18 Shame in Family Systems 42:53 Breaking the Cycle of Shame 44:14 Posture, Shame, and Self-Expression 45:46 The Scapegoat and the Cycle of Shame 46:59 Shame and Spirituality 47:45 Reclaiming Power from Shame 48:19 Eviction Notice Game: Confronting Inner Criticism 53:53 The Power of Alignment and Authenticity 56:08 Retrieving Sanity: The Journey Beyond Shame #mentalhealthpodcast #retrievingsanity #addictionrecovery #addiction #selfcriticism #empowerment #emotionalhealth #recovery #shame #authenticity #mentalhealth #trauma #narcissism #familydynamics #societalimpact #healing #personalgrowth