Shan and "Dion" matched on a dating app built for open minds. After a few days of messaging, Shan floated the idea of recording an episode together...less than twenty-four hours later, they were on the mics. What unfolds is an unfiltered, flirtatious, and deeply curious conversation that blurs the line between connection and chemistry. In this first part of their three-part series, they unpack what drew them to each other, what sparked their very first exchange, and why Shan loves a man who can teach her a few things. Dion opens up about his passions, his “nerdy side,” and more than a decade of living a poly lifestyle, while the two explore sapiosexuality, compersion, and what makes nontraditional dating spaces so different. But here’s the catch...they still haven’t met in person, but that will change by Part 3.  So is this the beginning of something real, or just the thrill of curiosity caught on mic? Ride or Lie at its most curious and experimental a first-time connection recorded in real time and shared with YOU, our Riders! IG/FB/TikTok: @rideorliepodcast Email Us: ridewithus@rideorlie.com

In this episode, Shan and CoCo kick things off with personal life updates. Shan is officially settled into her new home, and the girls catch listeners up on whether they've really stuck to staying off the dating apps—and what’s been happening in their love lives since. Have their been any new connections for the R.O.L. Girls? From there, the conversation shifts to one of the big questions in modern dating:Do friendships make the best foundation for romantic relationships?Shan and CoCo unpack why being friends first might matter—or why it might not. They explore whether lovers who start as friends have an advantage, and how connection, comfort, and communication play into long-term happiness. With personal stories, humor, and a little friendly debate, they reflect on: Why friendship can change the way we date Whether romance needs a platonic base to thrive If friends really do make the best lovers And how their own experiences shape their views There’s laughter, honesty, and a few side tangents—as always—and much more in this episode of ROL. Be sure to continue the conversation with us on Instagram, TikTok, & Facebook @rideorliepodcast and email us a ridewithus@rideorlie.com

Ever wondered what truly makes life unforgettable? In this episode, Coco and Shan dive into a viral Reddit question that got the ChatGPT treatment: What are the best human experiences? From falling in love to traveling the world, ChatGPT listed 25 of the most meaningful moments a human can have. We didn’t add to the list, but we had thoughts. In this conversation: - What 'falling in love' really means in adulthood - The emotional stretch of parenthood and caregiving - Why true forgiveness hits harder than you'd expect - How travel can humble you in the best way - And yes... that one song that knows all your business It's vulnerability, joy, growth, and a whole lot of 'Mmm, that's real.' Tune in for laughs, honest reflections, and a reminder that being human is a wild, beautiful ride. After you listen, tell us: Which human experience hit home for you? DM or tag us @rideorliepodcast — we wanna know! ----more---- 📣 Listen now to laugh, reflect, and maybe even rethink your life & dating mindset.#RideOrLie #ChatGPT #ModernLove #PodcastLife #DatingCulture #LifeLessons #BestHumanExperiences #SelfFullfillment #SelfReflection #Reddit

In this candid and reflective episode, Shan and CoCo congratulate themselves on keeping up with the podcast despite the hurdles of staying consistent with it—and the dedication it takes to keep showing up even when life gets crazy. They share life updates, including Shan’s BIG and exciting news and her gratefulness for good friends, and Coco’s mission to work in silence. They also dote on Juju (CoCo's lovable pup), plus a glimpse into how Shan’s son Darian is growing and thriving. Then, Coco tells a surprising story about the creator of Minecraft, sparking a deep conversation about modern dating, love, and whether we’re addicted to the thrill of “newness.” Are we all chasing that dopamine high? Is real connection even possible in a world of dating apps and instant gratification? The duo doesn’t hold back—and they ask the questions we’re all thinking. 💡 In This Episode: The behind-the-scenes of building a podcast and staying the course The beauty of “working in silence” before sharing your wins The reality of parenting (and pup-parenting) while juggling passion projects A wild twist involving Minecraft’s creator Deep reflections on dating culture, dopamine, and the search for something real 🔖 Quote of the Episode:"Are we actually looking for love… or just chasing the next dopamine hit?" 📣 Listen now to laugh, reflect, and maybe even rethink your dating mindset.#RideOrLie #TheDopamineEffect #ModernLove #PodcastLife #DatingCulture #NRE

In Part Two of our Alone Together: Solitude vs Loneliness series, Shan and CoCo sit down with our friend to the show, King Kieta to take the conversation deeper. We unpack the complex emotions behind solitude and loneliness, and ask: have we gotten too comfortable being alone? King Kieta opens up about her personal struggles with anxiety and how isolation has shaped her journey. She takes us behind the scenes of Boosie’s infamous annual pool party, where the chaotic energy collided with her inner world in unexpected ways. We explore the tension between independence and intimacy — and wrestle with questions like: Are we actually avoiding connection… or protecting people from our inner chaos? When solitude is survival, how do we shift gears to share life with someone else? Can we unlearn hyper-independence in a culture that glorifies it? This episode is a raw, real, and necessary deep-dive into emotional self-awareness, healing, and what it means to love and be loved when you’ve mastered being alone. 💬 Join the Conversation:Are you too good at being alone? Have you ever felt like you're saving others from your own mess? DM us or drop a comment with your story—we may feature it on an upcoming episode!

In this episode, Shan and CoCo unpack the nuances of being alone, exploring the differences between solitude and loneliness. Joining them is special friend of the show, King Kieta, who shares her insights on how she embraces solitude and the joy it brings her. The trio discuss their independent lives and the appreciation they've found in moments of solitude. But are we confusing loneliness for solitude? Let's get into it. They also reflect on the fine line between solitude and loneliness, with real-life examples and quotes from a video featuring Jay Shetty and Ryan Clark from The Pivot. We Want to Hear from You! Have you ever uncovered surprising truths about someone you were dating? Or perhaps you’ve realized you were presenting a ‘representative’ version of yourself? Share your stories and thoughts with us on social media: @rideorliepodcast Email Us: ridewithus@rideorlie.com Additional Resources: The Pivot Podcast Tune in for an engaging and reflective conversation that might just change your perspective on alone time!

In this episode of the Ride or Lie podcast, hosts Shan and Coco delve into the complexities of truly knowing one’s partner. They introduce the new ‘Ride or Lie’ segment, where they explore real-life scenarios that challenge perceptions of trust and understanding in relationships. Highlights from this episode include: Shan’s Story: Shan opens up about a past relationship that escalated to the point of requiring a restraining order, shedding light on the importance of recognizing red flags early on. Coco’s Personal Experience: Coco shares her journey of discovering her partner’s mental health struggles 2 months into dating, leading to profound insights about communication and support. The ‘Representative’ Phenomenon: A discussion on how individuals often present an idealized version of themselves in the early stages of dating, influenced by upbringing and societal expectations. Recognizing Authenticity: Tips and insights on identifying genuine behavior versus façades in potential partners, emphasizing the significance of self-awareness and open communication. We Want to Hear from You! Have you ever uncovered surprising truths about someone you were dating? Or perhaps you’ve realized you were presenting a ‘representative’ version of yourself? Share your stories and thoughts with us on social media: @rideorliepodcast Email Us: ridewithus@rideorlie.com Additional Resources: For a deeper understanding of self-awareness in relationships, consider exploring this resource: Harvard Business Review on Self-Awareness Tune in to this episode for an engaging conversation that challenges perceptions and encourages introspection in the realm of dating and relationships.

Is being in the friend zone really a bad thing, or is it an underrated space for genuine connection and growth?  On this episode of the Ride or Lie Podcast, we’re diving into the friend zone—what it really means, how it happens, and whether it can actually be a good thing in today’s dating landscape. What We Cover in This Episode: What is the friend zone, really? (And why our definitions might not match up!) Why do people get friend-zoned? Are "nice guys" really finishing last? Is it possible to escape the friend zone? Or is it a lifelong sentence? Can the friend zone lead to deeper connections? Or is it just a polite way of saying “not interested”? Men vs. Women: Who friendzones more, and how does it impact relationships? Are some people just pretending to be friends, waiting for their chance? Hope vs. Reality: Do mixed signals create false hope, and who’s responsible for managing it? Featuring: This week we’re joined by Jarratt DAMN of the It's About Damn Time podcast, who keeps it 100% real about his experiences in the friend zone, calling out the hard truths and dropping gems on how relationships really work. We Want to Hear from You!Have you ever been friend-zoned? Have you ever friend-zoned someone and regretted it? Did you or someone you know make it out of the friend zone and into a successful relationship? Drop your thoughts in the comments or tag us on social media (@rideorliepodcast).

In this episode of the Ride or Lie Podcast, Shan and Coco dive headfirst into the wild world of modern dating apps with a candid, laugh-out-loud conversation about "swipe life." Whether you’re a seasoned swiper or just dipping your toe into the digital dating pool, this episode has all the advice (and tea) you need to level up your game.

Welcome to Ride or Lie! In this raw and revealing episode of Ride or Lie, we dive deep into something many of us struggle with but rarely discuss openly, self-sabotage in dating and relationships. Hosts Shan and Coco get vulnerable about their own patterns of getting in their own way when it comes to love. Join us as we explore modern love and build our own community of "Riders." Connect: @RideorLiePodcast!

A New Beginning: Navigating Modern DatingWelcome to Ride or Lie! Bring in the new year with your hosts Shan, a travel entrepreneur and newly single mom, and Coco, a Ghanaian-born creative, as we share unique takes on trust, dating apps, boundaries, and balancing love and life with our personal growth. Join us as we explore modern love and build our own community of "Riders." Connect: @RideorLiePodcast!

Big things coming...Big updates....This episode gives you a glimpse into what we've been doing and what we've been working on. But we can't give it all away. So keep riding with us! -Shan & CoCo