After betrayal, one of the most painful and destabilizing experiences isn’t just the trauma itself — it’s the constant self-doubt.
Am I crazy? Am I overreacting? Is this just a trigger… or is something actually wrong?
If you’ve been told “you’re just triggered” so often that you’ve started questioning your own reality, this episode is for you.
In today’s conversation, we’re unpacking one of the most damaging patterns in betrayal recovery: losing trust in your own perceptions. You’ll learn how to reclaim your discernment, rebuild self-trust, and stop letting anyone — including yourself — dismiss your legitimate concerns as “just trauma.”
Yes, betrayal creates trauma. Yes, you may experience triggers. But that does NOT mean you’ve lost your ability to tell when something isn’t right.
In fact, you may be more attuned to red flags than ever before.
This episode will help you stop gaslighting yourself, understand the difference between triggers and present-moment boundary violations, and begin trusting your knowing again.
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In Episode 12 of Rooted & Rising After Betrayal, we continue the identity-to-empowerment arc by exploring what it means to reclaim your narrative after trauma. Building on the last three episodes—your values, your Bill of Rights, and your Identity Statement—this conversation teaches you how to move from “who I am” to “how I choose to live from that identity.”
Drawing from Dr. Jake Porter’s Free to Choose model, we unpack how betrayal trauma hijacks the brain, interrupts choice, and pulls you into a story you never agreed to. You’ll learn the difference between being victimized (which is real and valid) and remaining in the victim position, and how reclaiming nuance, agency, and self-direction allows you to shift from survival narratives like “I’m powerless” into identity-led stories such as “I am discovering my choices” and “This is my story now.”
This episode also guides you through a powerful “I used to believe… now I know…” journaling practice, a visioning exercise of your future empowered self, and a grounding exploration of how black-and-white thinking evolves into nuanced clarity during healing. You’ll walk away with renewed awareness, expanded choice, and the reminder that every boundary you set and every truth you claim becomes a line in your new story.
If this identity and narrative work is resonating, you’re invited to join the waitlist for Hali’s upcoming course—an intimate, step-by-step journey through values, rights, identity, boundaries, and the healing-centered narrative that will carry you forward. Your next chapter starts now—and you hold the pen.
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In this episode of Rooted & Rising After Betrayal, we complete a powerful three-part arc by bringing together your values, your personal Bill of Rights, and your emerging sense of identity.
You’ll learn why an Identity Statement is essential for healing after betrayal—because it shifts you from reacting to life to intentionally leading your life. Values clarify what matters most, your Bill of Rights affirms what you inherently deserve, and your Identity Statement weaves these pieces into a lived declaration of who you are and what you protect. This episode helps you understand that boundaries aren’t about controlling others—they’re about honoring your truth and protecting the parts of you that should never be abandoned again.
This episode naturally sets the stage for Hali’s upcoming course, where you’ll build your values, your Bill of Rights, your Identity Statement, and a boundary framework step-by-step within a safe, supportive community. If you’re ready to start living from your core identity, this course is your next step. Join the waitlist: Rooted and Rising: Reclaiming You Course
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In this powerful episode, Hali guides you through one of the most important steps in healing after betrayal: reclaiming your Personal Bill of Rights.
Betrayal trauma can leave you doubting your worth, silencing your needs, and abandoning yourself in the hope of keeping connection. Today, we rewrite that story.
Together, we explore why creating a Personal Bill of Rights is essential—not as a demand on your partner, but as a declaration of what is inherently yours as a woman with divine worth: safety, dignity, voice, honesty, and agency. You’ll learn what a Bill of Rights is (and what it is not), and how it becomes a roadmap for emotional safety, boundary work, and nervous system healing.
Hali also shares real-life examples of what it looks like to rewire your neural pathways—to pause, rehearse your rights, and choose self-honoring actions instead of instinctive self-abandonment. These small internal shifts create massive transformation: courage, clarity, grounded boundaries, and the quiet confidence to live in alignment with your truth.
If you’ve felt afraid to take up space, guilty for having needs, or unsure of what you’re “allowed” to ask for—this episode will help you rebuild the foundation of your identity, one right at a time.
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In this episode, we move from survival to self-redefinition. After betrayal, it's common to question everything—your identity, values, and purpose. These "identity quakes" aren’t endings; they’re invitations to release inherited roles and beliefs and begin to rebuild. We explore how values serve as your soul’s GPS, anchoring your decisions, boundaries, and healing. Many values were shaped by early environments or culture—not chosen. Now, you’re invited to ask: Which values feel like mine? Which ones reflect who I’m becoming? Which are rooted in safety, authenticity, and divine alignment?
You'll also be guided through a gentle Core Values Discovery process to uncover what truly matters to you. From daily choices to defining moments, your values help you reconstruct your identity from the inside out. Next episode, we’ll shape these insights into your personal Identity Statement and begin crafting your own Bill of Rights.
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In this powerful episode, Hali invites you to explore the relational survival patterns that once helped you feel safe and how they might now be keeping you from fully healing and rising.
These patterns didn’t start with betrayal. Most began long before - in childhood, in family systems where love felt conditional, emotions weren’t safe to express, or connection came with responsibility. Betrayal reactivates these old protective parts.
With compassion and clarity, Hali helps you see these patterns not as personal failings, but as brilliant survival strategies that can now be gently released. You’ll learn how to recognize where your nervous system is still trying to protect you, and how to begin shifting from protection to peace, from adaptation to agency.
In This Episode, You’ll Discover:
The childhood roots of relational survival patterns and how they show up after betrayal
Why hypervigilance, overfunctioning, and emotional suppression are protective, not pathological
The cost of staying in survival mode — and how it quietly blocks intimacy, truth, and rest
The healing shifts that help you move from survival to empowerment
How to re-parent the parts of you that still believe safety means self-abandonment
Why growth feels uncomfortable — and how that discomfort is actually a sign of freedom
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After betrayal, your body becomes exquisitely alert — scanning for signs of danger, tension, or inconsistency. But sometimes, that activation you feel isn’t just a trigger from the past… it’s a warning from your nervous system that something in the present isn’t safe.
In this episode, Hali explores the powerful question every survivor of betrayal trauma faces: “Is this my trauma being reactivated — or is my body alerting me to a real-time threat?”
You’ll learn how to interpret your body’s cues, rebuild trust in your intuition, and discern between echoes of old pain and present signs of unsafety. This conversation will help you reconnect with your body as a wise ally in your healing — not an enemy to silence or suppress.
In This Episode, You’ll Discover:
The difference between old pain (a trigger from the past) and current threat (a warning in real time).
How betrayal trauma can cause you to doubt your intuition — and how to begin trusting it again.
Why some “triggers” are actually your body’s truth signals, not overreactions.
Practical ways to ground yourself and ask your body what it’s trying to communicate.
The different types of safety — physical, emotional, psychological, spiritual, and financial — and how to identify where safety is missing.
How to tell when your partner’s behavior is soothing vs. manipulative, congruent vs. deceptive.
If you’ve ever been blindsided by a wave of emotion — your heart racing, stomach tightening, or thoughts spiraling — you’re not alone. Triggers after betrayal can feel like setbacks or proof that you’re “not healing fast enough,” but they’re actually sacred invitations to listen, tend, and heal what’s still tender inside.
In this episode of Rooted and Rising After Betrayal, Hali unpacks what it really means to be triggered — both the external reminders (like a smell, song, or look) and the internal cues (thoughts, sensations, or fears) that can suddenly flood your nervous system. You’ll learn why these moments aren’t failures, but messages from your body asking for safety, care, and grounding.
What triggers really are — and why your body reacts the way it does
Why being triggered doesn’t mean you’re back at square one
Simple tools to regulate in the moment
A gentle reframe: “You’re not failing — you’re feeling.”
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After betrayal, kindness toward ourselves can feel impossible. We question everything — including our own worth and intuition. In this episode, Hali Roderick, Certified Partner Coach (APSATS) and trauma-informed guide, explores what it means to rebuild safety within through self-compassion. You’ll learn how to move from self-criticism to self-kindness, from isolation to connection, and from self-betrayal to fierce self-loyalty.
Together, we’ll explore Kristin Neff’s three elements of self-compassion — Self-Kindness, Common Humanity, and Mindfulness — and how they apply to healing betrayal trauma. Hali also introduces the concept of Fierce Self-Compassion, the form of love that protects, sets boundaries, and reclaims your power.
You’ll walk away with practical ways to show yourself both tenderness and strength as you continue rising into wholeness.
In This Episode, You’ll Discover:
The difference between self-pity and self-compassion
Why betrayal often wounds self-worth — and how to rebuild it
How the fight/flight/freeze response can turn inward after trauma
Ways to meet your inner critic with compassion, not shame
How to access both tender and fierce self-compassion
One simple act of kindness you can offer yourself this week
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In this episode of Rooted and Rising, we move deeper into the body. If you've ever felt out of control, shut down, anxious, or unlike yourself after betrayal — this is for you. Hali unpacks how betrayal trauma impacts the nervous system, why your body reacts the way it does, and how to begin relating to your body as a messenger, not an enemy. You’ll walk away with language, compassion, and simple somatic tools to start calming your system and reclaiming your sense of safety — one breath at a time. In this Episode, you’ll learn:
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When betrayal happens, confusion and self-doubt become part of the trauma. Gaslighting, minimization, and manipulation can leave you questioning your own memory, perception, and reality. In this episode of Rooted and Rising After Betrayal, Hali explores how your brain works in the aftermath of betrayal — including why your hippocampus loops through the past trying to sort out what’s real — and offers practical tools to help you identify your truth, recognize subtle manipulation tactics, and protect your story. You’ll learn why it’s normal to feel stuck, why your nervous system is actually working to keep you safe, and how you can slowly begin to rebuild trust with yourself again.
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When betrayal trauma has shaken your sense of safety and trust, boundaries are where you begin to rebuild both. In this episode of Rooted and Rising After Betrayal, Hali explores why boundaries are not punishment or control - but sacred self-protection. You’ll learn how most boundaries begin with a violated value or personal right, and how reclaiming your Personal Bill of Rights can bring clarity and power back to your healing journey. In this episode you’ll learn:
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Episode Show Notes: Welcome to the very first episode of Rooted and Rising After Betrayal — a healing space for women walking through the aftermath of intimate betrayal. In this opening episode, Hali Roderick shares her heart for this podcast, defines what betrayal trauma really is, and normalizes the emotional, physical, and spiritual effects it can have.
If you’ve ever felt alone, confused, ashamed, or like you’re "too sensitive" for struggling to move on — this is your reminder: you are not broken. You are having a completely human response to an earth-shaking experience.
Let this be your first step back to safety, clarity, and self-trust.
What You’ll Hear in This Episode:
Why this podcast is a safe, sacred space (not a place to re-live the wound)
A powerful reframe of what betrayal trauma actually is
Why your symptoms (emotional, physical, mental) make perfect sense
Common patterns women experience post-betrayal (and why they don’t mean you’re crazy)
The deeper mission behind “Rooted and Rising” — and how healing happens here
Resources + Links:
Learn more about Hali and her healing resources at www.rootedandrisinghealing.com
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If this episode spoke to you, don’t keep it to yourself.
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