Growing older is not just about gaining wisdom, it’s about unlearning the things that were never ours to carry.
In this Season 2 finale, Pam and Uju sit down to reflect on the beliefs, habits, and cultural expectations they’ve carried for years and the intentional journey of unlearning they’ve stepped into in their 40s.
From ideas shaped by African culture, childhood, society, and religion to the subtle pressures placed on women, mothers, and Black women in particular, this episode is a vulnerable and empowering exploration of release, renewal, and re-alignment.
As mothers, Pam and Uju also discuss the mindsets and patterns they refuse to pass on to the next generation, choosing instead to embrace healing, self-awareness and growth.
💬 In this episode, we talk about:
The beliefs we inherited from culture, family, society — and why they no longer serve us
The freedom of unlearning in your 40s
Motherhood and breaking generational patterns
Releasing guilt, timelines, expectations and “superwoman” narratives
Choosing authenticity over performance
What healing actually looks like in real life
This finale is for anyone who is ready to grow, evolve, and rewrite the stories they once lived by.
🎧 Thank you for journeying with us through Season 2 of Rooted Connections.
Your presence, comments and support have shaped this community in the most beautiful ways.
See you in Season 3!
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In this deeply reflective episode of The Rooted Connections Podcast, we ask one challenging question “Whose womb is it?”
Together, we unpack the ethics of surrogacy, exploring whether it should be a matter of personal choice available to those who can afford it, or a last resort for families facing the pain of infertility.
As modern medicine continues to expand reproductive possibilities, we question where compassion ends and commercialisation begins.
💬 In this episode, we explore:
The changing attitudes toward infertility, from silence and shame to acceptance and empowerment.
Whether surrogacy represents freedom of choice or financial exploitation of vulnerable women.
How families struggling with infertility are sometimes emotionally and economically exploited by an industry built around hope.
The growing commercial surrogacy market and the ethics of paying for life and love.
How cultural and religious beliefs shape perceptions of surrogacy across Africa, the diaspora, and the West.
The emotional and moral complexities behind the question: Who really “owns” motherhood?
This honest and challenging conversation explores the intersection of faith, ethics, and human desire, asking whether surrogacy empowers or endangers the dignity of women and families.
🎧 Listen now and join the discussion on faith, fertility, and the future of family. Because when it comes to creating life — whose womb is it, really?
In this inspiring episode, we sit down with Dr. Michelle Olorunnipa — a faith-driven wife, mother, and consultant paediatrician — to explore the powerful intersection between faith, African culture, and medicine.
Michelle shares her journey to becoming a paediatrician, the challenges and triumphs of being a Black woman in NHS leadership, and how her Christian faith has shaped her career, compassion, and perspective on children’s health and wellbeing.
We dive deep into:
💬 How religion and culture influence how African and Black communities approach medical diagnosis and treatment
🙏 The role of faith in navigating suffering, especially in caring for sick children
🏥 Her experience climbing the NHS ladder as a woman of colour
🌍 Balancing faith, family, and leadership in a demanding medical career
Whether you’re interested in healthcare, faith-based leadership, diversity in medicine, or cultural perspectives on wellbeing, this conversation will move and inspire you.
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As we enter our 40s, friendship starts to look a little different. In this heartfelt episode of Rooted Connections Podcast, hosts Pam and Uju dive deep into the evolution of friendship from the carefree bonds of our 20s to the layered, intentional connections we value today.Join us as we unpack what it really means to be a friend in this season of life. From navigating distance and different life paces, to balancing marriage, parenting, and personal growth, Pam and Uju get real about how friendship shifts as we grow.We also explore the tender side friendship pain and heartbreak when someone moves on or when you realise a friendship has naturally reached its end.Whether you’re rebuilding old connections, setting new boundaries, or simply reflecting on your circle, this episode will resonate deeply with anyone redefining friendship in midlife.✨ Tune in for honest reflections, laughter, and a reminder that friendship like us evolves beautifully with time.📺 Subscribe to Rooted Connections Podcast for more real conversations about womanhood, growth, and connection:
Can a Black Woman Really Have It All? A Conversation with Cllr. Ashiedu JoelIn this episode we sit down with one of their personal mentors and inspirations — Councillor Ashiedu Joel. A woman of unshakeable faith, a consultant, culture enthusiast, local councillor, dedicated advocate, and mother Ashiedu embodies what it means to lead with purpose, integrity, and courage.We dive deep into what “having it all” really means for Black women in the UK, and whether it’s truly possible to balance personal ambition, family, community responsibility, and identity. From her childhood influences and personal faith to the challenges she’s faced and the victories she’s earned, Ashiedu shares her story with honesty, wisdom, and heart.We also explore:How she’s raising confident, conscious Black children in today’s societyThe systemic challenges facing young Black people in the UKWhat shaped her into the trailblazing woman she is todayThe importance of mentorship, representation, and legacyThis episode is a must-listen for anyone who has ever wondered if they can thrive while breaking barriers and staying rooted in purpose.🔔 Subscribe to That RC Pod for more conversations at the intersection of faith, identity, culture, and community.#podcast #culture #blackexcellence #women #mentorship #evolution #parenting
Is love still traditional or has modern dating completely changed the game? In this episode of The Rooted Connections Podcast, Pam and Uju dive into the world of modern dating, exploring everything from online dating apps to arranged marriages and traditional matchmaking.
We ask the big questions:
Are modern dating methods more acceptable today?
Has our attitude toward love, compatibility, and timelines changed?
Why is dating over 30 and especially over 40 so complicated and judged?
Where do you even meet people in 2025?
And what’s with the red flags we place on people over 40 who are still single?
With the usual dose of laughter, honesty, and cultural insight, we unpack the pressures of dating as you get older, the pros and cons of digital matchmaking, and how to stay grounded in your values while navigating love in a fast-paced, swipe-happy world.
🎧 Whether you’re dating, contemplating, or dodging it altogether—this one’s for you.👉 Don’t forget to like, share & subscribe: The Rooted Connections Podcast
What does it mean to be a man today and who gets to decide? In this insightful episode of The Rooted Connections Podcast, we welcome our very first male guest, Deji Eyitayo - an accomplished engineer, faith leader, husband, and father of two boys for a candid and engaging conversation on masculinity.
Together, we unpack the evolving definition of masculinity especially within African culture, the pressures men face today, and how traditional expectations are being challenged in a changing world.
From emotional vulnerability to leadership in the home, faith, and fatherhood, this episode explores what healthy masculinity looks like and how we can model it for the next generation.
We ask: Is masculinity changing? Should it? And how do we teach the next generation of men to embrace both strength and empathy?
Filled with thoughtful dialogue, humour, and real-life experiences, this episode challenges stereotypes and invites listeners to rethink what healthy masculinity can look like today.
Tune in, join the conversation, and don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe to The Rooted Connections Podcast.
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In this powerful and necessary episode of The Rooted Connections Podcast, we confront the difficult but urgent topic of sexual abuse, focusing on how it is understood, addressed, and silenced in African cultures compared to the Western world.
Using the courageous story of Gisele Pelicot as a starting point, Pam and Uju explore the deep-rooted cultural taboos, victim-blaming, and societal pressures that often prevent survivors in African communities from speaking out or seeking justice.
We contrast this with shifting attitudes in Western societies, where movements like #MeToo have sparked greater awareness and accountability—but not without challenges of their own.
This episode dives into:
Why survivors in African contexts are often silenced or shamed
The role of family, religion, and community in covering up abuse
How the global conversation around sexual abuse is evolving
What true support and justice for survivors should look like
Raw, thought-provoking, and deeply honest, this episode is a must-listen for anyone interested in gender justice, cultural accountability, and supporting survivors.
🎧 Listen now and join the conversation as we challenge harmful norms and advocate for change.
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Culture or Abuse? Where is the Line?
In this powerful episode of The Rooted Connections Podcast, Pam and Uju sit down with Georgina Ayeni, a children’s social worker and migrant, to unpack the complex realities of migration, parenting in the diaspora, and the UK social care system.
We explore how cultural differences in parenting especially around discipline and expectations can create misunderstandings between African parents abroad and UK social services. Georgina shares unique insights from her perspective as both a professional in social work and a migrant navigating life in the diaspora, highlighting how lived experience shapes her approach.
The conversation goes beyond discipline to cover the challenges migrant families face when raising children across two cultures, from navigating unfamiliar systems to dealing with stigma, myths, and fear. Together, we ask important questions:
Are migrant families disproportionately referred to social services?
How do social workers interpret cultural parenting practices?
What does support rooted in compassion and understanding look like for diaspora families?
This episode is honest, eye-opening, and deeply relatable — filled with warmth, laughter, and the real talk you’ve come to expect from The Rooted Connections Podcast.
🎧 Tune in for a deeper understanding of diaspora parenting, culture clashes, and the importance of empathy in care.
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In this episode of The Rooted Connections Podcast, Pam and Uju sit down with their dear friend of over 20 years, Yetunde Okunoren, for a candid and deeply personal conversation about life, the realities of relocation and redefining “home.”We explore Yetunde's unique journey of moving back to Nigeria—a place she deeply loves, and reflect on why, despite her strong connection to Lagos, she ultimately chose to Japa once again, this time returning to the UK with her husband and children.
Expect the usual warmth, laughter, and raw honesty you know and love from The Rooted Connections Podcast—with a few surprising gems along the way.
🎧 Tap in for a refreshing take on home, identity, and doing what’s best for you—even when the path isn’t linear.
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In this episode of The Rooted Connections Podcast, Pam and Uju dive into the wild world of societal pressures—from "When will you marry?" to "Is that what you're wearing?" and everything in between.
Rooted in African culture and heritage, the expectations start early and never seem to let up. But are the pressures the same for men and women? (Spoiler alert: absolutely not.) And even in the diaspora, these cultural norms somehow follow us like persistent aunties at a wedding.
With their signature mix of humour, wit, and real talk, Pam and Uju unpack how these pressures have shaped their lives—and how they’re learning to push back, unlearn, and live on their own terms.
If you’ve ever felt the heat of “what will people say?”—this one’s for you. Expect the usual laughs, deep conversations, and maybe a little therapy on the side.
🎧 Hit play, have a laugh, and remember: society can rest.
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Season 2 Is Here – Let’s Catch Up!
We’re back—and we’ve got plenty to say!
In the first episode of Season 2 of The Rooted Connections Podcast, Pam and Uju sit down to reflect on the beautiful journey that was Season 1—what we loved, what we learned and how we have grown.
With the usual laughs, candid conversations, and heartfelt moments you've come to expect, we also give you a sneak peek into what’s coming this season—more bold topics, deeper reflections, and even more inspiring voices.
If you’ve missed our real talk and signature banter, this one’s for you. Hit play and let’s reconnect!
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Season 2 starts right now—let’s go!
They say it takes a village—but what happens when that village isn’t there? In this season finale, we explore the power of community, what it meant for us growing up in Nigeria, and how it compares to life in the UK.
From the close-knit support of extended families and neighbors to the challenges of rebuilding that sense of belonging in a more individualistic society, we reflect on what’s been lost, what’s evolved, and how we can intentionally create meaningful connections today.
As we wrap up this season, we want to extend a special thanks to all our guests, our incredible listeners, and everyone who has supported us along the way. A huge shoutout to our amazing production team—Nana Omarukhe and Ola Surakat—for bringing this podcast to life.
Thank you for being part of our village! If you’ve enjoyed this journey with us, don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe—we’ll be back soon! ❤️
How do culture and faith shape our understanding of neurodiversity? In this episode, we sit down with Dr. Nwife Akhator-Eneka, a Consultant Child and Adolescent Psychiatrist, to explore the complex intersection of cultural beliefs, religious perspectives, and the diagnosis of neurodivergent conditions like ADHD and autism.
We discuss the stark differences between Nigeria and the UK in attitudes toward neurodiversity, access to support services, and how these perceptions are evolving over time.
Dr. Nwife sheds light on the dangers of delayed diagnosis, the impact of stigma, and why timely intervention is crucial—especially for children. We also dive into how ADHD presents in adults and the misconceptions that often surround it.
This is a thought-provoking and insightful conversation that challenges long-held beliefs, promotes awareness, and encourages more inclusive approaches to neurodivergence. Tune in for an engaging discussion filled with expert knowledge, cultural reflections, and meaningful takeaways.
If, like us, you were moved by the incredible story of Chizimuzondu and her mother, which inspired the creation of the Cerebral Palsy Centre Lagos, we invite you to learn more and support their work by visiting https://cpcenter.com.ng. Your contribution can make a meaningful difference!
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How does society react to domestic abuse, and why do so many victims stay? In this episode, we take a deep dive into the realities of abusive relationships, contrasting the Nigerian and UK experiences.
Drawing on professional insights and real-life reflections, we explore the cultural, financial, and emotional factors that make leaving so difficult, as well as the stark differences in how abuse is recognized and addressed in both societies. We also examine the unique challenges men and women face when seeking help or speaking out.
This is a sensitive yet necessary discussion that sheds light on the realities many face, challenges societal attitudes, and asks how we can do better in supporting survivors. Honest, thought-provoking, compassionate, and eye-opening—this is a conversation we all need to have.
If you have been affected by any of the topics discussed in this episode, please see below some helpful resources and charities to consider.
Women’s Aid - UK
https://www.womensaid.org.uk/information-support/
Refuge - UK
https://www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk/
Mankind Initiative - UK
https://mankind.org.uk
Project Alert - NG
https://projectalertnig.org/
Dorothy Njemanze foundation - NG
https://dnf.org.ng/
WARIF (Women At Risk International Foundation) - NG
https://warifng.org/
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Self-care—buzzword or necessity? Is it bubble baths and spa days, or something deeper? In this episode, we unpack the meaning of self-care, how it’s viewed in African culture—especially for women—and how that contrasts with Western ideals.
We’re thrilled to welcome our very first guest, Amaka Asiodu, a psychiatrist and coach specialising in intentional self-care. She shares valuable insights on faith, mental health, and practical ways to nurture yourself without guilt.
Through laughter, personal stories, and real talk, we explore why self-care often feels like a luxury rather than a necessity and how we can start prioritising it in meaningful ways.
Join us for an engaging and honest discussion that will leave you rethinking what it means to truly take care of yourself!
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Can a “baddie” ever truly leave their reputation behind? And why do men and women face such different judgments when it comes to their past?
In Once a Baddie, Always?, we dive into the complexities of redemption, reputation, and societal double standards. Through self-reflection, personal stories, and candid insights, we explore what it means to move beyond a “wild” past—both in African and Western contexts. From cultural expectations to the meaning of true forgiveness, we unpack the unspoken rules around change, second chances, and who gets to rewrite their narrative.
Is a fresh start really possible, or does the past always linger? Join us for engaging discussions, humour, and real talk on breaking free from labels and embracing growth.
Ever found yourself switching accents, mannerisms, or even personalities depending on where you are or who you're with? That’s Code Switching—the art of adapting to different social and cultural spaces.
In this episode, we dive into how code switching shaped us growing up, its impact on our identities as adults, and how we unknowingly pass it on to the next generation. Is it a survival instinct, a superpower, or a struggle to belong?
Through storytelling, laughter, and real-life observations, we unpack the complexities of navigating multiple worlds, the challenges of authenticity, and what it truly means to "fit in" while staying true to yourself. Engaging, eye-opening, and full of relatable moments—this is one episode you don’t want to miss!
Japa - a Yoruba word to describe the act of escaping, fleeing, or disappearing quickly from a situation. It is now widely used as a term meaning "to migrate".
In this episode, we dive into The Japa Dream—the desire to leave home in search of greener pastures. Join us as we explore the reasons behind migrating, the highs and lows of starting fresh in a new country, and the unexpected realities that come with it. 💬 With personal stories, candid observations, and plenty of laughter, we reflect on the benefits of chasing the dream, the challenges that test your resolve, and the lessons learned along the way. Whether you're thinking of "japa-ing" or simply curious about life abroad, this episode is packed with insights, humour, and relatable moments that’ll keep you engaged from start to finish! ❤️ If you enjoyed this conversation, don’t forget to LIKE, SHARE, and SUBSCRIBE. Let’s reshape the narrative—one conversation at a time.
Why are boys told to toughen up while girls are encouraged to play nice? Gender Stereotypes dives into the realities, challenges, and complexities of growing up within the constraints of traditional gender norms.
With a mix of personal reflections, humour, and candid discussions, we unpack how these deeply ingrained norms shape our lives, relationships, and identities. Join us as we laugh, vent, and challenge the ideas holding us back—one stereotype at a time.
💬 Whether you’re looking for laughs, insights, or a nudge to rethink what you thought you knew, join us as we tackle the stereotypes head-on, challenge mindsets, and offer our unique perspectives on breaking the mould.
We’re excited to connect with you and invite you to be part of this journey!
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