Toni might be missing in action this week, but in this episode Charity interviews Jared Crowley about his past dating history and the proactive steps he's currently taking to break the cycle of running to relationships for affirmation... straight up Ruby Slipper Syndrome stuff. Jared gives us hope that their are good men out there, willing to do the tough business of addressing their destructive dating habits.
Before Charity and Toni met the men of their dreams they participated in what their dad calls "divorce practice", or more commonly known as dating. They had some really interesting relationships that taught them A LOT. In this multiple episode series they discuss three specific types of dating relationships - Destructos, Good Not Greats, and the ONE(s). In covering this topic we're hoping that someone, somewhere can learn from our mistakes and find some wisdom in navigating the mental and emotional mind-field of dating. In this episode Charity and Toni recall the relationships that were good, but not God. And though these relationships may not have bee obviously wrong, these were the ones the could have sneakily destroyed God's destiny and promise for their lives.
WE'RE BACK!!!!! And we got a good one for you! Before we met the men of our dreams we participated in what our dad calls "divorce practice", or more commonly known as dating. We had some really interesting relationships that taught us A LOT. In this multiple episode series we will discuss three specific types of dating relationships - Destructos, Good Not Greats, and the ONE(s). In covering this topic we're hoping that someone, somewhere can learn from our mistakes and find some wisdom in navigating the mental and emotional mind-field of dating.
Marriage... Marriage is what brings us together today (think Princess Bride)... But, yeah that's what we're talking on this episode. This ride is a thing of beauty and struggle, especially when you're trying to do it right but, it's a ride we'll never get off. Toni & Charity talk about what they have learned in their marriages and how they've worked to grow, accept, and appreciate this blessed covenant between God and man.
Book Reference - Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas
Genesis 2:24 | 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 | Provers 21:9 | Colossians 3:14 | Ephesians 5:25 | Ephesians 5:33 | Colossians 3:18-19 | Mark 10:6-9
So excited to share one of our “lifers”with you today - Bernie! He's one of Charity & Toni's shared “lifers” so we thought he could give a lot of thought and insight into the importance of the lifer role. We've know Bern for over 20 years, and in those years we have all grown up and changed, yet we've maintained the depth of our relationship despite distance, death, marriage, and children because we were willing to allow our relationship to evolve. When you find the real thing, hang on to it!
Check us out on Instagram & Facebook for some pics of us growing up with Bern (he's single ladies)!
Charity - @charitymozafari & Toni - @toni_poston
There is a time and place for everything, and sometimes that includes friendships. Not all friendships are meant to last forever. Embracing that reality will help us better respect and love the people placed in our life for specific seasons. Despite the fact that some relationships are seasonal, their worth and value is still great. In this episode we talk through knowing when a seasonal relationship is good, bad, timely or really eternal.
Proverbs 22:24-25 | Proverbs 13:20 | Colossians 3:12-14 | John 15:12-15 | Proverbs 27:17 | Proverbs 12:26 | Ecclesiastes 3:1-8
No one can go through the Ruby Slipper Syndrome alone, and if you think you can, your kidding yourself. Relationships are a remedy! In this episode we focus on the type of ride-or-die relationships we call "Lifers" - those that withstand the test of time and that you know will always be in your corner. The people that you don't even have talk to often, but you consider them your people until the end of time. We've found that these critical relationships have some specific traits in common and that they all avoid some specific attitudes. Hats off to the Lifers, as we talk through what makes them, what breaks them, and keeps them.
Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 | Ecclesiastes | Proverbs 17:9 | Provers 18:24 | Provers 27:9 | Romans 12:10 | 1 Peter 4:8-10
With a brand new year (FINALLY) coming our way, we thought it keen to discuss how the Ruby Slipper Syndrome affects goal setting and resolutions. Charity and Toni talk through the positives and negatives of the "hyperactive planning" approach and the "let it ride" approach. And of course, come to the conclusion that balance is best when it comes to the New Year.
Books Referenced:
How People Grow by Henry Cloud & John Townsend
Your Best Year Ever by Michael Hyatt
THE BEST PLANNER EVER (if you're anything like Charity) - Full Focus Planner by Michael Hyatt
Proverbs 21:5 | Luke 14:28-33 | Proverbs 16:9 | Proverbs 3:5-6 | Habakkuk 2:2 | Matthew 6:34
This is a fun one, let's be honest. Who doesn't enjoy a shopping spree when you're feeling down? Lord knows we have engaged in this behavior a time or two... or three... or four. And if we're to be honest it's usually because we were trying to self-medicate a larger issue, generally discontentment or insecurity. Regardless of how fun it is, it can really be an incredibly destructive symptom of the Ruby Slipper Syndrome.
If you want to overcome this sucker check out: https://www.daveramsey.com/fpu
Hebrews 13:5 | Proverbs 22:7 | Proverbs 13:11 | Luke 12:15 | 1 Timothy 6:17-19
If you want to see pictures of Toni's dreaded Mustang, or Charity's $3K extensions check us out on Instagram.
Depression... does anyone really like to talk about it? NO! But we're going to, as it's one of the worst symptoms of the Ruby Slipper Syndrome. We're gonna share what started us down that slippery, dark road of depression, what kept us there, how we finally got out, and how we've managed to stay out. It's a constant battle but it can be won, day by day, through some simple practices - correct expectations, getting out of your own head, community, and thanksgiving.
If you would like help getting through yourself, here is a great resource for you... https://www.vulnerablechoicecounseling.com
Psalm 34:17-18 | Psalm 40:2 | Matthew 11:28-30 | 1 Peter 5:7 | Proverbs 3:5-6 | Proverbs 3:5-6 | Philippians 4:6-8 | John 10:10
The Ruby Slipper Syndrome? What are we talking about here? Host, Charity Mozafari, breaks down that this foe syndrome is, how we came to the conclusion that we had it, and how we're going to treat it.
Hosts, Charity Mozafari & Toni Poston, discuss their personal journeys to diagnosing and discovering this fictitious Ruby Slipper Syndrome and how it was effecting their lives.