“If only they would stop blaming me…” In this episode, we go deep into one of the most painful loops couples get stuck in — blame, defense, and disconnection. For years, we both thought the other person was the problem. I wanted Adam to change. He wanted me to stop overreacting. And nothing ever changed. The truth? You cannot make your partner change. But you can influence them — not through criticism or control, but through calm ownership and emotional safety. “When I stopped pointing the fi...