Maddy, friend and former SOP intern, joins the pod to talk about surviving a break-in, navigating trauma in your early 20s, and how EMDR therapy helped her finally feel safe again. Maddy opens up about the night a man broke into her bedroom, why healing wasn’t as simple as “moving on,” and how hypervigilance shaped her day-to-day life, dating, and friendships. We get into how how meeting someone who understood her triggers changed everything, including the moment she knew her now-boyfriend Jake was different. We talk trusting your intuition, dating after trauma, learning your needs, and why sometimes the person you’re meant to be with starts as your best friend.  ALL links here (Shopping links, submit a question, sign up for dating coaching & more)  Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod  Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Head to https://www.tryfum.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE and use promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get your free gift with purchase, and start The Good Habit today!  If you’re thinking about pregnancy or already on that journey, don’t settle for less than evidence-based support. My listeners get early access to Ritual’s Black Friday sale — 40% off your first month at Ritual.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

I’m joined by Emily Durham, recruiter, creator, and host of Clock In, to talk about the surprising overlap between careers and dating in your 20s and 30s. Emily shares how leaving corporate shifted the way she dates, why confidence at work affects confidence in relationships, and the patterns she sees in both job searches and love lives. We get into the pressure of wanting to be chosen, the fear of asking for what you want, and why so many people settle in both careers and relationships. Emily also reacts to listener stories, including dating coworkers, holiday-party hookups, and the office crush that went very wrong. ALL links here (dating coaching, profile revamp, marathon fundraiser, and more!)  Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod  Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Head to https://www.tryfum.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE and use promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get your free gift with purchase, and start The Good Habit today!  If you’re thinking about pregnancy or already on that journey, don’t settle for less than evidence-based support. My listeners get early access to Ritual’s Black Friday sale — 40% off your first month at Ritual.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jake and I catch up on life and our ongoing messiness at home before getting into a really honest conversation. I talk about seeing other podcasts share huge numbers and noticing my own growth has slowed, and how hard it has been not to compare myself. I also share what success feels like to me right now and how I am trying to build a career that still feels good even when the numbers get in my head. We also unpack a recent clip that went viral in a negative way and how it made me question what kind of content I want to make. ALL links here (dating coaching, profile revamp, marathon fundraiser, and more!)  Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod  Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Head to https://www.tryfum.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE and use promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get your free gift with purchase, and start The Good Habit today!  If you’re thinking about pregnancy or already on that journey, don’t settle for less than evidence-based support. My listeners get early access to Ritual’s Black Friday sale — 40% off your first month at Ritual.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

I’m joined by my friend Jude Cohen to talk about dating in your 30s and rebuilding your life after everything falls apart at once. Jude shares how losing her job and leaving the corporate world completely shifted the way she dates and sees herself. We get into her best and worst dating stories, from Third Date Club to a friends-with-benefits situation that actually worked to the first-date disaster she still thinks about weekly. She also talks about how running the marathon rebuilt her confidence and what finally helped her stop choosing the wrong people. Follow Jude on IG at @jco10 and TT @jco101 ALL links here (dating coaching, profile revamp, marathon fundraiser, and more!)  Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod  Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Head to https://www.tryfum.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE and use promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get your free gift with purchase, and start The Good Habit today!  If you’re thinking about pregnancy or already on that journey, don’t settle for less than evidence-based support. My listeners get early access to Ritual’s Black Friday sale — 40% off your first month at Ritual.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

I’m joined by Alyssa Tucker, teacher, creator of @livefromsnacktime, and mom of two, to share her unexpected journey through infertility. After years of loss and failed IVF transfers, Alyssa and her husband pursued surrogacy, only for her to discover she was pregnant at the same time. We talk about IVF misconceptions, how surrogacy actually works, and what it was like to welcome two babies just six weeks apart. Alyssa also opens up about how the experience shaped her relationship and what she wishes more people understood about supporting someone through infertility. ALL links here (dating coaching, profile revamp, marathon fundraiser, and more!)  Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod  Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Head to https://www.tryfum.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE and use promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get your free gift with purchase, and start The Good Habit today!  If you’re thinking about pregnancy or already on that journey, don’t settle for less than evidence-based support. My listeners get early access to Ritual’s Black Friday sale — 40% off your first month at Ritual.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

We're recording from Westchester while recovering from days of Thanksgiving meals and leftovers. We talk about having both of our families together for the first time and how grateful we are that everyone gets along so well. Jake shares an update on his injury, and we chat about supporting each other’s plans and giving each other space. We answer listener questions about mixed signals, married men who flirt,friendships changing, and the realities of navigating relationships in your 20s and 30s. ALL links here (Shopping links, submit a question, sign up for dating coaching & more)  Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod  Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Head to https://www.tryfum.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE and use promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get your free gift with purchase, and start The Good Habit today!  If you’re thinking about pregnancy or already on that journey, don’t settle for less than evidence-based support. My listeners get early access to Ritual’s Black Friday sale — 40% off your first month at Ritual.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this Unfiltered, Harry comes back to talk about what dating, healing, and growing in your mid thirties has actually looked like for him this past year. We get into how friendships shift as everyone around you moves into new phases of life, what it feels like to be the single one in the group, and how he has learned to sit with discomfort instead of running from it. He shares how hobbies and community have supported him, how he thinks about showing up in the world, and what has been the most meaningful lesson he is taking with him into his next chapter. ALL links here (dating coaching, profile revamp, marathon fundraiser, and more!)  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople  Get 25% Off @CowboyColostrum with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE at www.cowboycolostrum.com. #CowboyColostrumPod  Your mental health matters. Head to rula.com/seeingotherpeople to connect with a licensed therapist who truly cares Start your guilt-free journey with the Good Habit. Use code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get a free gift with purchase at tryfum.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE. If you’re thinking about pregnancy or already on that journey, don’t settle for less than evidence-based support. My listeners get early access to Ritual’s Black Friday sale — 40% off your first month at Ritual.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

I’m joined by Dr. Tracy Dalgleish, couples therapist, author of You, Your Husband, and Your Mother-in-Law, and host of Dear Dr. Tracy, to dive into the messy and emotional dynamics of merging families. You don’t have to be married for this to resonate; these patterns show up in every relationship, and every couple can benefit from understanding them. We break down the biggest myths about in-laws, why boundaries aren’t what people think they are, and how therapy-talk culture has shifted these dynamics. We also unpack listener scenarios around overstepping, wedding-planning chaos, ex-obsessed parents, and competitive siblings—and what needs to shift for MILs, husbands, and wives to finally get on the same team. Grab the book and learn more at drtracyd.com, and follow along at @drtracyd. ALL links here (dating coaching, profile revamp, marathon fundraiser, and more!)  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople  Get 25% Off @CowboyColostrum with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE at www.cowboycolostrum.com. #CowboyColostrumPod  Your mental health matters. Head to rula.com/seeingotherpeople to connect with a licensed therapist who truly cares Start your guilt-free journey with the Good Habit. Use code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get a free gift with purchase at tryfum.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE. If you’re thinking about pregnancy or already on that journey, don’t settle for less than evidence-based support. My listeners get early access to Ritual’s Black Friday sale — 40% off your first month at Ritual.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

We’re on week 3 of lockdown after Jake’s surgery and shockingly, we’re thriving. This week marks five years since we both got let go, so we’re diving into what those last few months looked like, what we felt in the moment, and how getting fired ended up being the turning point we didn’t know we needed. For the first time, Ilana opens up about why she was so miserable her final months at Hinge… and the unexpected “parting gift” that changed everything. ALL links here (dating coaching, submit an anonymous Q, and more!)  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople  Get 25% Off @CowboyColostrum with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE at www.cowboycolostrum.com. #CowboyColostrumPod  Your mental health matters. Head to rula.com/seeingotherpeople to connect with a licensed therapist who truly cares Start your guilt-free journey with the Good Habit. Use code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get a free gift with purchase at tryfum.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE. If you’re thinking about pregnancy or already on that journey, don’t settle for less than evidence-based support. My listeners get early access to Ritual’s Black Friday sale — 40% off your first month at Ritual.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this Unfiltered, a returning guest shares how she finally got over her ex and why getting under someone else wasn’t the whole story. After leaving a five-year relationship, she had to rebuild her confidence, rethink her standards, and figure out who she was without him. She opens up about dating again in her 30s, friendship shifts, loneliness, and the moment she realized she no longer cared what her ex was doing. Listen to her other episode here: https://podcasts.apple.com/lu/podcast/i-finally-got-over-him-by-getting-under-someone-else/id1505618760?i=1000666227866&l=fr-FR See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Therapist Rebecca Marcus, LCSW, is back to talk about what it actually means to “do the work” in your love life. We unpack why awareness alone isn’t enough to break old patterns, how to tell the difference between real growth and just performing self-improvement, what to do if you’re doing everything “right” but still feel lonely, and whether it’s possible to over-communicate to the point it kills the spark. Rebecca also shares how she met her husband through a matchmaking platform and the advice she got back when she was looking for love. Follow Rebecca on Instagram @rm.psychotherapy and visit rmpsychotherapy.com if you're interested in working with Rebecca or joining one of her dating and breakup groups! ALL links here (dating coaching, profile revamp, marathon fundraiser, and more!)  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople  Get 25% Off @CowboyColostrum with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE at www.cowboycolostrum.com. #CowboyColostrumPod  Your mental health matters. Head to rula.com/seeingotherpeople to connect with a licensed therapist who truly cares Start your guilt-free journey with the Good Habit. Use code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get a free gift with purchase at tryfum.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE. If you’re thinking about pregnancy or already on that journey, don’t settle for less than evidence-based support. My listeners get early access to Ritual’s Black Friday sale — 40% off your first month at Ritual.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

I’m fresh off a total bucket list moment, going back to Syracuse to speak at the launch of their new Center for the Creator Economy, and I’m bringing you along for the whole thing. I also share some big news with Jake live on the podcast, and his reaction does not disappoint. Jake talks about not leaving the apartment for 11 days after his surgery, and we reflect on the kind of support you sometimes need from your partner in those seasons. We get into the new Jonas Brothers Christmas movie, which Jake declared “the best Christmas movie ever” exactly 33 minutes in. And finally, I share a crazy full-circle update about the sign that got me through the hardest part of my marathon and how the people behind it ended up finding me. ALL links here (dating coaching, submit an anonymous Q, and more!)  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople  Get 25% Off @CowboyColostrum with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE at www.cowboycolostrum.com. #CowboyColostrumPod  Your mental health matters. Head to rula.com/seeingotherpeople to connect with a licensed therapist who truly cares Start your guilt-free journey with the Good Habit. Use code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get a free gift with purchase at tryfum.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE. If you’re thinking about pregnancy or already on that journey, don’t settle for less than evidence-based support. My listeners get early access to Ritual’s Black Friday sale — 40% off your first month at Ritual.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this solo Q&A, I’m answering your dating and life questions — from moving cities for love to figuring out if you’re settling in your career. We get into what to do when your best friend disappears into a new relationship, how to tell if someone actually likes you, and the truth about not having it all figured out at 29. I also share my thoughts on wedding planning stress, dating apps, and why being single isn’t something to “fix.” It’s a mix of honesty, comfort, and real talk about what growing up in your 20s and 30s actually feels like. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Kelly Chase (@chaselifewithkelly) opens up about what really happened after Love Is Blind, the trauma, the healing, and how she learned to love herself again. From people-pleasing to personal growth, she shares how therapy, mindset coaching, and deep self-work helped her rediscover her worth. We talked about rebuilding after being misunderstood, reclaiming your story, and learning to date yourself before anyone else. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jake’s been recovering from surgery with nonstop movie marathons, while I got upsold by a facialist and found myself spiraling about Botox because everyone around me seems to be doing it. I’m also on the hunt for a new hobby now that my running era has ended (open to suggestions). This week, I’m heading up to Syracuse to speak on a college alum panel (!!). Plus, we’re diving into the viral British Vogue article asking the question: is having a boyfriend embarrassing? ALL links here (dating coaching, submit an anonymous Q, and more!)  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople  Get 25% Off @CowboyColostrum with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE at www.cowboycolostrum.com. #CowboyColostrumPod  Your mental health matters. Head to rula.com/seeingotherpeople to connect with a licensed therapist who truly cares Start your guilt-free journey with the Good Habit. Use code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get a free gift with purchase at tryfum.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE. If you’re thinking about pregnancy or already on that journey, don’t settle for less than evidence-based support. My listeners get early access to Ritual’s Black Friday sale — 40% off your first month at Ritual.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Heidi Friedman (@lovelessons104) went on 104 dates before finding the love of her life — and every single one taught her something new. A divorced mom of two (and now a bonus mom of two more), she opens up about realizing she was never truly in love with her ex-husband, rebuilding her confidence, and finally finding the kind of love she used to only hear about. We talk about what real love actually looks like, how to tell the difference between red flags and fear, and why being single might be the most powerful time of your life. Whether you’re on your first date or your 104th, this one will change how you think about love. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

I trained for months dreaming of the NYC Marathon finish line… and instead found myself sitting on the side of the course having a panic attack at mile 6. In this episode, Jake and I break down everything — from the logistics and the high of those first few miles, to the moment everything changed, why I kept going, and what I learned from one of the hardest days of my life. Jake also shares what the day was like from his side — the expectations vs. reality of being a spectator, and what it’s really like to support someone through the marathon experience. ALL links here (dating coaching, profile revamp, marathon fundraiser, and more!)  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople  Get 25% Off @CowboyColostrum with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE at www.cowboycolostrum.com. #CowboyColostrumPod  Your mental health matters. Head to rula.com/seeingotherpeople to connect with a licensed therapist who truly cares Start your guilt-free journey with the Good Habit. Use code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get a free gift with purchase at tryfum.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE. If you’re thinking about pregnancy or already on that journey, don’t settle for less than evidence-based support. My listeners get early access to Ritual’s Black Friday sale — 40% off your first month at Ritual.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Most of us never learned how to talk about sex—so we assume everyone else just figured it out. Sex therapist Vanessa Marin and her husband Xander Marin join me to talk about what really makes intimacy last, why communication in the bedroom matters more than chemistry, and how to start conversations about sex before it becomes a problem. We dive into the myths that make us feel broken, how to keep desire alive when life gets busy, and the simple daily rituals that help you reconnect with your partner in 36 seconds flat. If you’ve ever felt awkward bringing up what you want—or wondered why your sex life doesn’t “just work”—this one will change the way you think about connection, desire, and real intimacy. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Dating advice is everywhere, but most of it is useless. From ghosting after a “perfect” date to why playing hard to get always backfires, Logan Mahan—writer of Take It From a Woman at InsideHook—shares what women actually want, the mistakes men don’t realize they’re making, and the small shifts that can completely change your dating life. Follow Logan on Instagram @loganspants ALL links here (dating coaching, profile revamp, marathon fundraiser, and more!)  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople  Get 25% Off @CowboyColostrum with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE at www.cowboycolostrum.com. #CowboyColostrumPod  Your mental health matters. Head to rula.com/seeingotherpeople to connect with a licensed therapist who truly cares See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

So many of us were taught how to be chosen instead of how to choose. In this episode, writer, filmmaker, and podcast host Rory Uphold (Crimes of the Heart) joins me to talk about unlearning the dating rules that keep us stuck, why self-trust is the most underrated green flag, and how to finally stop settling for people who breadcrumb you. We dive into the fear of being single, the difference between intuition and anxiety, and the quiet confidence that changes everything about how you date. Rory shares how to rewire the beliefs that keep you chasing validation, what “fun certainty” really means, and why the right person will never make you question your worth. ALL links here (dating coaching, profile revamp, marathon fundraiser, and more!)  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople  Get 25% Off @CowboyColostrum with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE at www.cowboycolostrum.com. #CowboyColostrumPod  Your mental health matters. Head to rula.com/seeingotherpeople to connect with a licensed therapist who truly cares See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.