Preemptive Lashon Hara?
You may warn others about a habitual speaker—if the victim already knows. Otherwise, you risk causing rechilus by revealing it.
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Don't Let Emotion Skew Halacha
Lashon Hara spoken out of personal rage—even for a relative—violates the rules of toeles. Closeness requires more caution, not less.
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Not Everyone Needs to Know
If the victim doesn’t yet know what happened, revealing it may be rechilus. Also, don’t speak to those who won’t care to change.
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Protecting Others Is Also Toeles
Even if you can’t undo past damage, warning others—so they avoid harm or bad influences—is valid toeles, if all other rules are kept.
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Even if you act with permission now, becoming guilty of the same aveira later reveals your motives weren’t truly l’shem Shamayim.
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No Room for Hypocrisy
You may not speak toeles if you’re guilty of the same aveira. Fix yourself first—then you can care about someone else’s growth.
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Don’t Destroy More Than You Fix
The seventh rule warns: if your words will cause greater damage than the Beis Din would, it’s not toeles—it’s harm, and it’s assur.
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Only If There’s No Other Way
If you can fix the issue another way, don’t speak Lashon Hara. The sixth rule of toeles requires minimizing harm wherever possible.
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Stick to the Facts
You may not exaggerate. The fourth and fifth rules require accuracy and sincere kavana l’toeles—not revenge, drama, or self-righteousness.
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First, Talk to Them
The third rule of toeles: try giving tochacha first. Lashon Hara isn’t permitted if direct, caring conversation can correct the problem.
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Looks Can Be Deceiving
Even eyewitness accounts can mislead. The second rule of toeles reminds us: interpret with care before assuming an aveira occurred.
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Don’t Act on Rumors
The first rule of toeles requires firsthand knowledge. Lashon Hara is only permitted if you saw it yourself or fully verified its truth.
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When Lashon Hara Helps
If speaking will help a victim recover stolen money or damages, it may be l’toeles. But halacha requires strict conditions—good intent alone isn’t enough.
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Secrets Deserve Silence
Even without the words “don’t tell,” private matters must remain private. Repeating secrets—harmless or not—is a violation of trust and halacha.
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Teach Children Early
Children copy what they see. If parents reject Lashon Hara clearly and consistently, kids absorb that as the norm—and carry it for life.
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Trapped? Don’t Be Mekabel
If you can’t speak up or leave, protect yourself: block out the Lashon Hara or focus elsewhere. But never accept it in your heart.
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Speak Up or Walk Away
If rebuke fails, distance yourself from those who harm with words. And when stuck in Lashon Hara situations, steer the conversation away—subtly but firmly.
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Avoid Lashon Hara Zones
Living near or sitting beside habitual speakers of Lashon Hara is assur. Protect your soul—your spiritual health must come first.
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Praise Can Attract Trouble
Highlighting someone’s generosity can lead to unfair pressure, jealousy, or harm. Even praise, when misunderstood, may turn into Avak Lashon Hara.
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Public Praise Needs Caution
Praising someone in front of a crowd is risky—unless he’s universally respected or unknown to the audience. Otherwise, criticism often follows.
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